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Taking Escorts Out To Meals

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I want your honest opinions. If you took an escort out for a meal that you had met a few times previously for sex. Would you expect to pay for her time or not, if you are buying her a meal etc.

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I've had regulars take me out for meals and most have asked before hand what my social rates are and I've told them. There's been two who are ex regulars who thought that I would come out for meals with them just like that, and assumed they would get free sex after hence why they're ex regulars!

I have been on meals out with clients without charging but this was either because they've booked me for private time after, or it's been an overnight. In my opinion the clients who don't expect to pay a WG for her time whether it's sex or dinner in a nice restaurant are the type of clients who will try and take the p*ss constantly to see how far they can push you, of course there are some exceptions to that. X

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In some ways, it's clearer if the escort makes it clear whether she has a social rate in addition to what she charges for private time -then everyone knows where they stand. I don't think the punter should expect anything else: if unpaid social time happens that needs to be entirely at the escort's discretion and initiative.

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Hi Daisy,

The honest answer is that there is more than one answer...

Some ladies have a strict code of conduct, some are more relaxed about their time, some have reduced rates for such things and others enjoy the company, the food and the appreciation and so on and so on...

Personally, I may ask the question but its always nice when the lady is forthcoming...

Hope this helps but I have a seanky feeling I may have mudded the waters further!!!

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Thanks everyone, all responses were helpful! The situation is I was going on a dinner date, with someone that just assumed I would do it at no charge, when I mentioned I will charge. I didn't even ask for an offer, He offered me £60. Please answer me because my brain is frazzled why would a guy assume that an escort would go out to dinner with him for free unless we say other whys, this is our business. If we did that for everyone, we would have no business. I am wrong or being out of order... I am so lost!

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I want your honest opinions. If you took an escort out for a meal that you had met a few times previously for sex. Would you expect to pay for her time or not, if you are buying her a meal etc.

 

Would I want to, no. Would I expect to, yes. But it ready depends upon whether the escort has accepted the invitation in a social or professional capacity. I'm old school and would always want to foot the bill on a date with a lady anyway so the expenses is a given. 

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I would expect to pay a social rate, or if going for dinner on an overnight then the clock would still be running in the restaurant.

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Thanks everyone, all responses were helpful! The situation is I was going on a dinner date, with someone that just assumed I would do it at no charge, when I mentioned I will charge. I didn't even ask for an offer, He offered me £60. Please answer me because my brain is frazzled why would a guy assume that an escort would go out to dinner with him for free unless we say other whys, this is our business. If we did that for everyone, we would have no business. I am wrong or being out of order... I am so lost!

 

Likely he is not assuming no charge but hoping not to pay. Was he thinking you might be interested in him? That might be embarrassing  :D

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Thanks everyone, all responses were helpful! The situation is I was going on a dinner date, with someone that just assumed I would do it at no charge, when I mentioned I will charge. I didn't even ask for an offer, He offered me £60. Please answer me because my brain is frazzled why would a guy assume that an escort would go out to dinner with him for free unless we say other whys, this is our business. If we did that for everyone, we would have no business. I am wrong or being out of order... I am so lost!

You're not wrong or out of order.

You're an escort, clients pay for our time. And this client shouldn't be assuming because he wants a dinner date that you aren't going to charge him.

It really annoys me how in escorting such things are allowed, clients assuming we will do dinner dates for free, or we will give them extra time to keep them happy.

The fact he offered you £60 and didn't even ask what your social rates are already shows he's taking the mick, and is probably hoping you'll just accept anyway.

Plenty clients assume that because it's just a "dinner date" and there's no sex involved that it will be free, when in fact it's not. People like that don't get to see me again, I have done free dinner dates with regulars when they've booked overnights or something but that's at my discretion and wouldn't happen all the time. But a client who just assumes you'll do it for free then offers you a rate without asking how much you charge is out of order. X

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That expectation is hard because some clients will look as if you've slapped them in the face when you say that you can't or don't want to.

 

Truth is that if I had gone out as a free extension with everyone who asked, I'd have had to cancel other bookings, ignored enquiries (email/phone/text) lost out on developing my own social life and interests.

 

For me it all depends upon the exact arrangements.

 

I've also made the mistake of getting into the habit of going out for meals with a 1 hour booking, taking up most of the day, then the client feeling hard done to when I decline.

 

On the other hand I had someone I saw regularly for 2 hours, who would on the day if I had the time take me out for a quick lunch which would take minimum of time. I simply had to be ready half an hour earlier, and we'd finish the whole meeting not long after the actual 2 hour slot.

 

Then there's the assumption that it's a treat, it isn't if it's taking away time or there are times when eating out is more akin to torture for me. I suspect that at least a few of these offers are as much for the gentleman's benefit as mine.

 

So inconclusion it all depends on the history, and exact situation.

 

My biggest piece of advice is don't make assumptions, and that £60 might be more than enough for some dependent on arrangements.

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If a client booked you for two hours, but you had only had sex in the second, would you let him off paying for the first? Isn't this what He is asking boils down to at the last basic level? Your business depends on you charging for your time and this client seems to want it for free on the grounds he has met you previously.

Unless you also work as a restaurant critic, I think you are totally entitled to ask for a fee. Furthermore (as you could be meeting another client during this time) I would not blush from asking for full price.

[note: if he plans to book you out for the whole night post meal the perhaps you might want to give him the meal as a free gift (much as my accountant treats me to a brasserie meal each Xmas in gratitude of the money I've given to him over the previous year and to encourage me not to employ Accenture), but apologies if I have misread - that does not appear to be what this guy is proposing.]

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Thanks everyone, all responses were helpful! The situation is I was going on a dinner date, with someone that just assumed I would do it at no charge, when I mentioned I will charge. I didn't even ask for an offer, He offered me £60. Please answer me because my brain is frazzled why would a guy assume that an escort would go out to dinner with him for free unless we say other whys, this is our business. If we did that for everyone, we would have no business. I am wrong or being out of order... I am so lost!

I think you are absolutely correct in saying he has no right to assume that there would be no charge or for him to set his own charge. That clearly demonstrates he has no concept of the limits of arrngement made and if i were you i would refuse to see him again before he tries other things to subvert the arrangement.

All that said much to my initial shock I have discovered that service providers do normal things like eat (!!!), but I would only expect to eat or have a drink in a pub or indeed go bird spotting on the Severn Estuary if it was the the womans idea to do so.

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Thank you everyone, I feel like a good person again lol! I always made it clear that it is purely business, I have only ever met him once! I seemed to really upset him when I replied that was way too little. I can understand why a guy would rather it free, we all want everything free haha but to expect it free is a different matter! My normal price is £240 for two hours which is probably how long the meal would last. Because he would be footing the food bill, I said £140. His reply was he was trying to befriend me but obviously that is impossible so he was seeing it as friends and not business at all. We are not going for the meal and i will probably not see him again. Sometimes being friendly isnt a good thing. Madness! X

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Thank you everyone, I feel like a good person again lol! I always made it clear that it is purely business, I have only ever met him once! I seemed to really upset him when I replied that was way too little. I can understand why a guy would rather it free, we all want everything free haha but to expect it free is a different matter! My normal price is £240 for two hours which is probably how long the meal would last. Because he would be footing the food bill, I said £140. His reply was he was trying to befriend me but obviously that is impossible so he was seeing it as friends and not business at all. We are not going for the meal and i will probably not see him again. Sometimes being friendly isnt a good thing. Madness! X

You are a good person haha, it's the client who's trying to get free time with you.

Good on you for sticking to your guns maybe now he will realise not to assume and expect us escorts to just go for dinner with him for free because we are friendly!

I wouldn't see him again either, guys like that usually try and push the boundaries constantly.

You're right sometimes being friendly isn't a good thing, people can get the wrong idea sometimes! X

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In regards to what the plans were there was overnight booking etc, he just wanted the dinner and drink x

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Well, this is a thread that tugs the nostalgic nerves. I wonder what JRC is upto now.

CG

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You are a good person haha, it's the client who's trying to get free time with you.

Good on you for sticking to your guns maybe now he will realise not to assume and expect us escorts to just go for dinner with him for free because we are friendly!

I wouldn't see him again either, guys like that usually try and push the boundaries constantly.

You're right sometimes being friendly isn't a good thing, people can get the wrong idea sometimes! X

Thanks Hun, felt awful as he just wanted company but this is my business, got to stand strong and Yh if I allowed it then he would expect all the other girls to do the same x

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Well, this is a thread that tugs the nostalgic nerves. I wonder what JRC is upto now.

CG

Jrc? X

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Thanks Hun, felt awful as he just wanted company but this is my business, got to stand strong and Yh if I allowed it then he would expect all the other girls to do the same x

You go girl! Haha xx
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Maybe I'm being harsh but time is money, that is the essence, a tradesperson gives you a price, you either accept or you don't but if you do then asking for a reduction cos they'd spent an hour having lunch, well it wouldnt happen.

 

Having said that, depending on the duration of the appt I wouldn't knock a client for asking if there would be a reduction to the fee, we can only say yes or no and they can either choose to book or not.

 

Bag of chips will be fine :D

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Maybe I'm being harsh but time is money, that is the essence, a tradesperson gives you a price, you either accept or you don't but if you do then asking for a reduction cos they'd spent an hour having lunch, well it wouldnt happen.

 

Having said that, depending on the duration of the appt I wouldn't knock a client for asking if there would be a reduction to the fee, we can only say yes or no and they can either choose to book or not.

 

Bag of chips will be fine :D

He expected a free appointment Emily, didn't ask how much I'd want but when I said there will be a charge for my time. He said I can give you £60, didn't even wait for me to state a price. At the end he admitted he wanted to befriend me and not see me as an escort but as a friend x

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I have been out socially with few escorts for free but only as we had become friends over time, if this is a guy you have only just met then he is probably just looking for a free dinner date

I personally would never pay for a girl to just come for dinner, would rather take a group of friends and pay

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I understand everything that's been said above but surely it's just down to whatever suits the lady at the time. My punting is usually while staying away on business and I have taken my escort for dinner after the punt on countless occasions just picking up the meal tab. If I think I would enjoy her company in that context and feel pretty sure that I'm the only client for the evening I'll politely ask with no pressure and sometimes the answer is yes please! Obviously easier to do this with a regular or someone you've seen before.

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Thanks everyone, all responses were helpful! The situation is I was going on a dinner date, with someone that just assumed I would do it at no charge, when I mentioned I will charge. I didn't even ask for an offer, He offered me £60. Please answer me because my brain is frazzled why would a guy assume that an escort would go out to dinner with him for free unless we say other whys, this is our business. If we did that for everyone, we would have no business. I am wrong or being out of order... I am so lost!

Daisy surely you know by now that some guys are always expecting or asking for free stuff, free services, free time, free dinner dates. Then there are others who realise that ,regardless of how well we get on or the fact that had we met in real life we may have ended up bonking like rabbits or being the best of buddies, we didnt meet in real life and this is still our livelihood. I  dont blame guys for trying, its just how they react that sometimes bothers me.

 

How you go about conducting your work life is up to you, there is no right or wrong way. Some ladies would pop out for a spot of dinner free of charge with a regular if he is just passing through, some would charge a lower fee, some would charge their usual hourly fee, some wouldnt be seen out in public with a client at all "just in case" etc. You just have to decided what you feel comfortable with and stick to that.

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I have been out socially with few escorts for free but only as we had become friends over time, if this is a guy you have only just met then he is probably just looking for a free dinner date

I personally would never pay for a girl to just come for dinner, would rather take a group of friends and pay

Often guys are away from home on business though, their group of friends are not around and they want a bit of company "with a difference" when they are away from home for a little while rather than sit in the hotel restaurant on their own night after night.

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