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A young lady that I met a couple of years ago on a few occasions , who then disappeared, has now popped up on the radar again.My last meeting with her was sublime. ( I dont know why she went off the radar for so long ).  She has a career outside sex work but I suspect has re-appeared to generate some extra spending money.

 

I'd like to spice things up a bit more, experiment with her but not sure how she would re-act . Obviously she knows what she is doing , in that she has made the decision to re-enter the paid sex world but I would feel awkward requesting her to wear certain things or bring a long some toys ( even if she has some ! ).  Am I being overly sensitive about this ?  Maybe she should  welcome/enjoy such an approach ?  I do not want to scare her off under any circumstances.  Any thoughts ?

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Thoughts:   You can only ask, she can answer yes or no and you'll get your answer.

 

I seriously she will ignore/be put off (depending on how extreme your requests may be) by your

wanting to spice things up a little.

 

Sometimes you just have to grasp the nettle and be done with it, this is probably one of those occasions.

 

Lets hope it works out for you.

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If asking an escort if its possible to bring a few toys is enough to scare her off its like asking a waiter to bring you some food and it scaring him off...if Im honest

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I agree with Chloe. If she is advertising as an escort and wants your money then you are within your right to ask which services she is happy to provide and frankly something as basic as what you'd like her to wear or bringing some toys along is part of the transaction! 

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I think you're over-thinking it to be honest. Experimenting is what punting is all about - as others have said she can only say yes or no, and as you've got history I would think you would be comfortable enough with each other to be able to ask.

 

I've had the range of responses to requests - "of course we can", "no I don't like that" and also "well it's not really in my comfort zone but we can give it a try"

 

If you don't ask, the answer will always be no.

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C&G, it surprises me that a chap of your obvious experience (3000+ posts) would ask this question.

 

i am not judging, just stating that I am surprised.

 

i guess for your answer you only need look at the replies above - though i suspect it may depend on exactly what it is you want her to wear, and just how demonic the "toys" are....

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Ask. Without sounding sleazy or salacious lol. I find it a bit of a guessing game when a client umms and ahhs and doesn't say what they want. I know this is down to concern about feeling embarrassed in case their request is met with squeals of disgust and horror, but honestly, if you've thought of it I've probably been asked for it! And frankly, once you've spent 2 hours mothering an adult baby, not a lot comes as a shock!

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Thoughts:   You can only ask, she can answer yes or no and you'll get your answer.

 

I seriously she will ignore/be put off (depending on how extreme your requests may be) by your

wanting to spice things up a little.

 

Sometimes you just have to grasp the nettle and be done with it, this is probably one of those occasions.

 

Lets hope it works out for you.

 

 

If asking an escort if its possible to bring a few toys is enough to scare her off its like asking a waiter to bring you some food and it scaring him off...if Im honest

 

 

I agree with Chloe. If she is advertising as an escort and wants your money then you are within your right to ask which services she is happy to provide and frankly something as basic as what you'd like her to wear or bringing some toys along is part of the transaction! 

 

 

She never had an escort profile as such, she merely made it known as a contributor on a forum , that she was prepared to offer paid sex and she only did that for a very short time. Indeed she hasn't even posted for a number of years now.

 

 

She has disappeared into the ether again !  She is not very dependable.  She does not engage well, just flits in and out.The ball is in her court now, I will not chase her in any way.    

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C&G, it surprises me that a chap of your obvious experience (3000+ posts) would ask this question.

 

i am not judging, just stating that I am surprised.

 

i guess for your answer you only need look at the replies above - though i suspect it may depend on exactly what it is you want her to wear, and just how demonic the "toys" are....

 

 

Funny, I don't count myself as experienced. I'm pretty vanilla . I'm not pushy , so I have not really tested boundaries.Also, each lady is different, so one approach may not suit another. Easier to try new things with a regular and I've never  had one.

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Ahh a hobby hooker!

Well then who knows how she will react. 

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Ahh a hobby hooker!

Well then who knows how she will react. 

 

 

And a hobby that she hasn't  done for 3/4 years as well !     She knows how to reach me if she wants, so we shall see. I suspect that she has a type of split personality about this. On the one hand she finds it awkward and perhaps 'beneath' her but on the other hand she enjoys the thrill and intrigue of very occasional  illicit sex as a prostitute with a stranger and of course he needs/ likes the money. Her encounters with me in the past have always been in top notch hotels and in a seductive conducive atmosphere.

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And a hobby that she hasn't  done for 3/4 years as well !     She knows how to reach me if she wants, so we shall see. I suspect that she has a type of split personality about this. On the one hand she finds it awkward and perhaps 'beneath' her but on the other hand she enjoys the thrill and intrigue of very occasional  illicit sex as a prostitute with a stranger and of course he needs/ likes the money. Her encounters with me in the past have always been in top notch hotels and in a seductive conducive atmosphere.

 

You can only ask her: she can say yes, or no....... if you take it too far.  I completely understand your situation and.......... hers.

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You can only ask her: she can say yes, or no....... if you take it too far.  I completely understand your situation and.......... hers.

 

 

No getting the chance at the moment -- she's vanished again into thin air. :angry:

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It all sounds a bit twisted, doesn't it?  Too many changes.....

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She may of course have hooked up ( pardon the pun) with a punter or someone she met outside of the business for a while but is now back on the scene. Once a working girl always a working girl I think. Not in a rude or derogatory way but  if she got business from the services she provided 4/5 years ago why change now ?  

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It all sounds a bit twisted, doesn't it?  Too many changes.....

 

Yep, getting a bit tired of it TBH.

 

She may of course have hooked up ( pardon the pun) with a punter or someone she met outside of the business for a while but is now back on the scene. Once a working girl always a working girl I think. Not in a rude or derogatory way but  if she got business from the services she provided 4/5 years ago why change now ?  

 

 

I think she only saw guys for paid sex for a very short period of time when she was in real need of cash. Maybe things have picked up and there isn't the same pressure now.

 

Its an odd feeling for me in that she has in me 200 quid sitting there for the taking but she has gone quiet. Makes me think that maybe it is a bigger hurdle for her than I originally thought and that in her eyes it's not easy pickings. :(

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Cumandgo,

 

I am not saying this with any malice or bad feeling. But, could there be another possible, but less acceptable to you, explanation? You say that you got on very well with her, Perhaps she did not share that view and blanked you before, and has done so again. Possible?  I hope  not, because, clearly, you are very keen on seeing her again. Perhaps she got the feeling you were getting smitten. We frequently hear from the ladies that they would not see anyone they felt was getting too enthusiastic. Perhaps that might have been her way of doing it.

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Cumandgo,

 

I am not saying this with any malice or bad feeling. But, could there be another possible, but less acceptable to you, explanation? You say that you got on very well with her, Perhaps she did not share that view and blanked you before, and has done so again. Possible?  I hope  not, because, clearly, you are very keen on seeing her again. Perhaps she got the feeling you were getting smitten. We frequently hear from the ladies that they would not see anyone they felt was getting too enthusiastic. Perhaps that might have been her way of doing it.

....I get ladies concern about gents getting to emotionally attached, clingy, declaring their love and all that old malarkey - but enthusiasm in and of itself isn't to bad is it? I have seen a few ladies for several years and I am as enthusiastic about seeing them now as I was then - but that is because they give me such a cracking time - if they left the industry tomorrow I'd just find another equally fantastic escort to satisfy my undoubted enthusiasm for escorts who give a fantastic experience.

 

I don't know if Cumandgo has EAS - but I wouldn't hesitate in asking a lady for something I'd like to do - she can only say no - and actually I find the ladies enjoy the honesty and straightforwardness of requests - if they said no that's fine by me I don't get in a huff or anything daft like nor do I just move on - I seek out a lady who does - its punting ffs not a life commitment! :)

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....I get ladies concern about gents getting to emotionally attached, clingy, declaring their love and all that old malarkey - but enthusiasm in and of itself isn't to bad is it? I have seen a few ladies for several years and I am as enthusiastic about seeing them now as I was then - but that is because they give me such a cracking time - if they left the industry tomorrow I'd just find another equally fantastic escort to satisfy my undoubted enthusiasm for escorts who give a fantastic experience.

I don't know if Cumandgo has EAS - but I wouldn't hesitate in asking a lady for something I'd like to do - she can only say no - and actually I find the ladies enjoy the honesty and straightforwardness of requests - if they said no that's fine by me I don't get in a huff or anything daft like nor do I just move on - I seek out a lady who does - its punting ffs not a life commitment! :)

I myself have stopped seeing clients for all reasons, from them declaring their love for me to being obsessed. But I've also stopped seeing clients because of their over enthusiasm not because of in the bedroom but more so the constant texts of "I can't wait to see you" everyday, calling unsolicited and sending countless emails. Could be classed as obsessive but they were harmless just over enthusiastic and a little needy.

From C&G posts I don't get that he has been over enthusiastic maybe just over thinking things but nothing wrong with that. If you don't ask you don't get in my opinion.

There are many reasons an escort may stop seeing a client though. X

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Cumandgo,

 

I am not saying this with any malice or bad feeling. But, could there be another possible, but less acceptable to you, explanation? You say that you got on very well with her, Perhaps she did not share that view and blanked you before, and has done so again. Possible?  I hope  not, because, clearly, you are very keen on seeing her again. Perhaps she got the feeling you were getting smitten. We frequently hear from the ladies that they would not see anyone they felt was getting too enthusiastic. Perhaps that might have been her way of doing it.

 

 

Smitten, no I don't think so and in fact I'm not smitten with her as such. I maybe sent her one email over the last 2/3 years. I happened to notice her logged onto my local forum , it was pure coincidence and asked her would she like to meet up again and she replied " of course " and suggested times and venues. She then cancelled but said she would meet another time. I have left it in her court to let me know .No pressure at all. 

 

The only thing that concerns me is that she knows that I know who she is in civvy street and therefore is in some way   scared to snub me and yet really doesn't want to meet up. I simply don't know. Anyway, the ball is fully in her Court.

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....I get ladies concern about gents getting to emotionally attached, clingy, declaring their love and all that old malarkey - but enthusiasm in and of itself isn't to bad is it? I have seen a few ladies for several years and I am as enthusiastic about seeing them now as I was then - but that is because they give me such a cracking time - if they left the industry tomorrow I'd just find another equally fantastic escort to satisfy my undoubted enthusiasm for escorts who give a fantastic experience.

 

I don't know if Cumandgo has EAS - but I wouldn't hesitate in asking a lady for something I'd like to do - she can only say no - and actually I find the ladies enjoy the honesty and straightforwardness of requests - if they said no that's fine by me I don't get in a huff or anything daft like nor do I just move on - I seek out a lady who does - its punting ffs not a life commitment! :)

 

 

No , there is no question of EAS !

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I myself have stopped seeing clients for all reasons, from them declaring their love for me to being obsessed. But I've also stopped seeing clients because of their over enthusiasm not because of in the bedroom but more so the constant texts of "I can't wait to see you" everyday, calling unsolicited and sending countless emails. Could be classed as obsessive but they were harmless just over enthusiastic and a little needy.

From C&G posts I don't get that he has been over enthusiastic maybe just over thinking things but nothing wrong with that. If you don't ask you don't get in my opinion.

There are many reasons an escort may stop seeing a client though. X

...I would consider constant texts, 'I want to see you everyday' constant emails as vexatious and intrusive and border line if not actual harassment - whereas I think there is an enjoyment of punting and meeting regular ladies which if I lost my enthusiasm for - I would hang up my punting boots - I think one can be enthusiastic and enjoy putting within the boundaries set and established - and still retain one's enthusiasm.  

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C&G,

 

Thanks for clarifying. I was just bothered that she may have been appearing to be unavailable generally as a means of blanking you personally, as it appears that she does not advertise publicly and might have been still available to others. If she said she would be delighted to see you again and then disappeared, that's clearly not the case. I hope she reappears at some point and that you get the desired result.

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