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a Regular....... is it a good idea ?

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I have done some serious punting this year and for many reasons but particularly the sheer time and distraction involved, I know that if I am going to continue at all, I will have to come up with another formula. unfortunately, when I get into something, I really get into it hook, line and sinker and this 'hobby' can really suck up a lot of time and head space that should be directed elsewhere.

So in order to cut down on time spent checking threads, the latest ladies on the scene, research etc, I thought I might consider the advisability of seeing one or two Regulars. It sounds great and sensible in theory but can this really work ? the whole excitement for me in this hobby has been the research, the ' sweet shop' choice and the meetings with different ladies. Anytime I have seen a lady more than twice, the experience has suffered somewhat and become diluted.

I fear that I would really only want to see a lady on multiple occasions if I really really liked her. Surely,if you have successful punts on a regular basis, some bonding or feelings must come into play, particularly on the man's side as whilst the lady will continue to see multiple punters , he will only see her [or maybe one other] .Is this a receipe for disaster ? It must be very difficult for a guy, who is seeing a Regular to stay sufficiently detached from his lady in order for such an arrangement to work ?

I accept the ' each to their own ' and ' everyone is different ' points but I would like to hear from people who have definite opinions on this question.

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That's a difficult one to answer. As you rightly say, half the fun is in choosing the girl, the emails/phone calls, arranging the times and dates, preparing for the meeting, etc. I've seen probably 40 different girls, most 2 or 3 times each, and recently have a girl I see as a regular. I've seen her 6 times now and my next visit will be on 14th Jan for a birthday treat. She is the only one I see now. I do miss the thrill and fun of the whole choice and arranging process, but in contrast, I do know exactly what I'm going to get when I visit her.

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I've enjoyed the wide variety of choice, being able to go to whoever I fancy at the time. Sometimes, I've had a really good experience and gone back again to the same WG; sometimes, it's been good again, sometimes a let-down. I don't have a long-term regular - I enjoy the variety.

Recently, I've had fairly frequent visits to a local WG because we got on well and she provided the services I wanted at a reasonable price. However, I'm now beginning to feel it's getting a bit predictable and so I'm looking around again. That's one of the advantages of punting - the absence of lock-in to only one sexual partner. :rolleyes:

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I've not been punting very long now, only a few months, and I have seen maybe about 5 girls. Out of them I have seen 2 of them twice who were very friendly and gave great GFE. I plan on seeing 1 of those again soon, as she has asked me to come back again. But then again its nice to have some variety.

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Opinions will vary on this subject but after a lifetime of punting I believe that having a few regular girls is not a bad idea ------- you know what you are getting, as my taxi mechanic tells me "If it aint broke don't fix it".

That explains why I have only filed three FR's this year, many of my punts were with the same girls. :rolleyes:;)

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This is a good question, one I've given a great deal of thought.

Although I don't have a 'regular' as such, like others I tend to re-visit women that I have had great experiences with. Furthermore, personally, I've found that I've had the best sex with a (very) small number of women that I have seen a number of times and have an affinity with personality-wise, shared interests etc. and we've both (I think) become more relaxed with each other. However, this leads to a 'problem' which is a paradox of punting - at least for someone like me: I tend to have better sex with someone I'm physically attracted to as well as like personality-wise which means that I find myself relating to them on a non-sexual level as well. Before anyone starts, I'm not under any romantic illusions and I don't for one second imagine that they think about me as anything other than a client - albeit one that happens to be good company perhaps! That's why it's a paradox; a fantasy arrangement that has the veneer of intimacy as well as sincere physical attraction, intellectual stimulation and regard.

This situation is extremely rare for me but it's important to be able to recognise the signs. (Funnily enough, I saw someone for the first time recently whom I have a feeling I will get on with very well). In general, my solution has been to keep things in perspective and under control and to see her infrequently - sort of regular-ish! It's just as well that I draw the line at paying to talk - an aversion I extend to therapy btw - so I don't do dinner dates, and overnights would be logistically difficult for me. However, I have taken a couple of faves out to dinner, 'off the clock' so to speak, and would happily do so again. Ultimately though, I'd agree with JRC and wouldn't suggest having one regular, but for slightly different reasons perhaps including that it might be inviting a dangerous attachment.

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Good thread, I was going to start one with this theme myself but hey ho.

It is always a good idea to have a regular (or three) tucked away, for several reasons IMO. Firstly, you don’t always have the time to scout around for a girl (even though this a big part of the thrill) and at times you just can’t seem to find a suitable prospect for love nor money. Secondly, with a regular you don’t have all the concerns of breaking down social barriers and getting to know her since you will both be familiar with each other and what to expect in terms of routine and set pieces in the bedroom. Plus you should feel comfortable about trying out new things. It takes about two meets for me to feel completely at ease with a new girl, sometimes more.

However, I am always on the look-out for the ultimate girl and the only way I will find her is to repeatedly try out different girls. The idea of the ultimate girl or punt may be nothing more than a phantom but the enthusiasm derived from it is definitely worth it. In addition to that, personal taste can change over time.

In terms of emotional bonds forming with regulars, yes I agree this can happen but once bitten twice shy. It also depends on the girl. Some are just prone to sending out the wrong signals without even realizing it so you need to be on your guard with that one. Happened to me once, never again.

But on the whole yes, a regular is definitely a good idea given the above context.

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Variety is always good.

However if you do find that "special" one then you should always be prepared to go back :rolleyes:

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I always have several regulars that I return to, and I see new girls as well.

Obviously the regulars are the best of the girls I've seen (at least, in my opinion!) so you get a dependably enjoyable session which often improves as you get to know each other better. Seeing new girls keeps the variety and thrill of the unknown. Personally I can't see any point in seeing exclusively regulars, or going for a new girl every time - why not mix it up and have the best of both worlds ?

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I always have several regulars that I return to, and I see new girls as well.

Obviously the regulars are the best of the girls I've seen (at least, in my opinion!) so you get a dependably enjoyable session which often improves as you get to know each other better. Seeing new girls keeps the variety and thrill of the unknown. Personally I can't see any point in seeing exclusively regulars, or going for a new girl every time - why not mix it up and have the best of both worlds ?

Yes, variety is the spice of life - enjoy to the fullest!

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I had two make that three regulars which worked for me but two have retired and ones uncontactable

so new years resolution is a regular once a fortnight and a newbie once a month if the pennies hold out

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I have settled to one regular girl. I see her every other week at the same time and we have a thoroughly great time. Yes i do have a little pang of feelings for her because we get on so well - it's only natural but I would never ever do anything to embarass her or myself.

I'm absolutely positive she enjoys my company just as much, but it's strictly business.

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I had two make that three regulars which worked for me but two have retired and ones uncontactable

so new years resolution is a regular once a fortnight and a newbie once a month if the pennies hold out

That's pretty much how I used do it too. I had a long-term regular but found others once I decided to try seeing more working girls, for some reason before I'd decided to stick at a fairly small number!

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Having a regular (or two) is fantastic, but I always go back to the research etc, and find someone new occasionally as a treat. Amn't I good to myself ! :rolleyes:

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I reckon a suitable compromise is a regular and a random. The shagging is usually better with a regular, but you learn a bit hopping around.

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Lots of posts that echo my thoughts.

I mix regulars and newbies and the only time I really regret my choices is when a regular disappears and I feel I haven't seen her as often as I now wished I had.

Sometimes a had lesson to learn however as the next sweetie in the shop always looks so tempting...

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Lots of posts that echo my thoughts.

I mix regulars and newbies and the only time I really regret my choices is when a regular disappears and I feel I haven't seen her as often as I now wished I had.

Sometimes a had lesson to learn however as the next sweetie in the shop always looks so tempting...

Same here. I often ring a regular if a newbie to me turns into a walk out or similar. For me the balance of newbies and regulars is the best mix in my experience. I like variety so am happy to take some risks to find a gem but often the gem disappears all too soon.:rolleyes:

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"Same here. I often ring a regular if a newbie to me turns into a walk out or similar. For me the balance of newbies and regulars is the best mix in my experience. I like variety so am happy to take some risks to find a gem but often the gem disappears all too soon."

Generally agree with 'smiths' :-)

I think 2010 will unearth a few more gems worth sharing though :-)

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cumandgo [great nickname btw!] to respond to your original post: if 2010 is going to be a year of supply >> demand then I am inclined to sample more so than normal as the existing London scene looks v ripe & lucious already :-)

Finding & enjoying experiences with say, 5 - 10 absolute gems would make my whole year :-)

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its not a big issue if you have loads of cash, cos if you have a bad experience you can be more philosophical about it and just move on and book another lady. however, when you have to part with hard earned cash in the current climate, the certainty of an enjoyable punt with a Regular becomes particularly enticing.

Perhaps one way of avoiding emotional ' bonding ' is to ensure that the age gap between yourself and the lady is so big that even the thought of it is ridiculous. Happily, most of my punting is with ladies/girls half my age which should make seeing a couple of them as Regs much easier. simple but effective !! :)

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Sweetie Shop is the fun part for sure! Variety is the spice of life etc. That includes the real GF world.

Being toooo regular can bring problems, emotional, for one.

I'd say my regs have 2-3-6 month gaps and even though I wouldn't encourage anyone to be just using this as a way to meet women, I do point boys in the right direction, ie: other ladies with good rep, as I'd like them to have safe fun with trusted ladies if they choose to do this.

Being reg is sooo easy, she knows she's safe with you, you know you have a good time cos you've already been, so it's very comfy.

If you want to have less hassle, just don't be tooo reg. Keep it fresh!

Keep in mind...there are possible real GF's in the non escort world too, so always keep options open.

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My regs seem to appear every 2 to 3 months too.

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Two things I can't understand about some punters are those who chance overnighters with someone they have never met before and those who say they will never see the same girl twice.

I used to think that it was all about variety and certainly got more of a thrill out of seeing someone for the first time than someone who I had seen before. I guess I still do.

However I have always returned to regulars even in my early days of punting. I saw a couple of Sheffield parlour girls 7/8 times each, and on reflection they were probably nothing special, but they did it for me back then. You find someone who floats your boat and surely it's natural you return to them?

There's nothing worse than forgoing someone who is good and you know is available for one who turns out to be a bad un.

I remember when I was seeing Carla of Shefield she was all I wanted in a wg, apart from her reliability which was poor. And it was on these occasions when she wasn't available that I actually had some of my worst ever punts with other girls. As I say this was doubly awful as Carla was still working and if I'd have contained myself a few weeks would have been able to see her instead rather than wasting my money on rubbish. Remember one in Doncaster at the time with absolute horror :)

I then found Jessica of ABC Nottingham who continued to 'float my boat' for the next couple of years, and became my regular, athough I continued to see others during that time. I was just starting to go off her slightly when she coincidently packed it in.

Similarly at present Nicoletta provides nearly all I want, although as she is in London and returns to Latvia regularly I couldn't see her as much as I'd like. Furthermore I also know she won't be around for ever so continue to look for others. There's nothing worse than becoming so obsessed with one girl you are left high and dry and disappointed when she eventually disappears as, believe me, they all do.

One who hasn't disappeared thus far is Amy in London, who I've seen more often than any other girl. She reckons she will still be working long after I'm dead and gone, and it's five years since I first saw her and she was around long before that so maybe she's right. Again she does much that I like, but she is obviously no longer in the first flush of youth and I didn't want to get too dependent on her so have actually only seen her twice this year, compared with the 8/9 times a year I've been seeing her in the past four years. This has also coincided with the greater reliability of Nicoletta this year, although it's over two years now since I first saw her.

You can also have regulars who perhaps don't do it for you any more. For example I'd seen Sarah and Ingrid of Anna's Angels four and three times individually and once together previously. When I saw them together again this year it was even worse than the first time. Very clear they were paid escorts and all rather rushed and frantic, plus they did sod all with each other again, despite promising to. Now they were better individually, but because of that expensive and rather disappointing encounter I doubt I would see them again.

I actually long for a couple of young, reliable local regulars, but that is I'm afraid a pipe dream.

Ultimately my advice would be if you find someone you like return to her as often as you can before she inevitably disappears, but whatever you do don't fall in love or even get too dependent on her as you will be left high and dry and disappointed. Continue to see new ones as well, and you might build up a few good regulars. If they are disappointing try to put them out of your mind and see your regular(s) again as soon as possible. One reason I haven't see anyone for a while is that I don't want to sully the memory of my last brilliant punt with Nicoletta, knowing I might not get to see her again. :D

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I've been lucky in that I've met a few ladies who have become regulars. One retired a year or so ago and very best of luck to her. This year I wanted to go and "meet new friends" :D and have had the good fortune to meet two that I've really clicked with and see on a reasonably regular basis. One of these very special girls let me experience something I've never done before and that was awesome, thankfully she's back in my area again so I'll get to catch up in the new year. Probably reading this and "thinking, oh jeez not him again" lol :):D

From time to time ladies retire and move on and it's always nice to think they're enjoying themselves. I do build up a rapport and become reasonably close but if contact ceases then I'm happy in the knowledge that they've moved on to new and happy things. Fluffy, perhaps, but hey I like to know that girls I've met and have given me a wonderful time are have an enjoyable life themselves. :)

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