YoungHert85

Issues Of Etiquette

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Hi.  Apologies if these questions have already been covered somewhere but I haven't come across them in recent posts and would appreciate a wide range of experiences and opinions, both from guys and gals.

 

Firstly, is common practice for a gentleman to provide contraception for a meeting or is the preference for a lady to do this (as with toys and other items) to ensure that she is comfortable with the effectiveness/suitability of what's being used?  Talking of personal or sexually-related items ladies (toys, clothing, etc), I'm sure many clients have tried to offer these as gifts ... sweet (if done with thought by looking at your profile or based on previous meetings with you) or simply rude and objectifying?

 

Secondly, if participating in a longer activity such as a meal out or a ticketed event, my assumption is that the gentleman would expect to pay for the lady's food/ticket/drink/etc.  After all, it's all being done as part of a job and these are work expenses, so presumably the client requesting that these things take place is responsible for covering the cost.  However, I'm sure there's another side of the story that ladies already receive good money and are (hopefully) being entertained so paying for something like dinner might be more down to personal discretion.  I mean, in a regular relationship, some ladies are insulted if asked to pay while others are insulted if men insist on paying because it's seen as male arrogance.  Personally I like to treat my companion so I wouldn't have any issues with covering costs but it'd be interesting and helpful to know what actually is expected or what takes place.

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I think you can assume you'll be paying for the meal.

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Being fairly new to this myself I did a little research before my first booking and my thoughts are

Don't suggest providing your own condoms, it might be looked upon as suspicious behaviour

Personally I wouldn't suggest providing toys either, at least not until I'd seen the lady before and she was comfortable with me..

Assume that I'll be paying for anything and everything during a booking including meals, tickets or other expenses

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Presents are not required, they don't however make me feel objectified. If on a dinner date the client pays for the meal, sometimes other arrangements may be agreed, some ladies have been known to pay for part of the meal or outing, but generally it's paid in addition to the dinner date fees. You are also the one doing the asking!

 

Many dinnerdate rates are lower than purely time in the bedroom, so it doesn't make sense that the lady would then also pay for the meal, and or theatre tickets which would then start to eat fairly rapidly through her own fee. Unless of course she particularly wants to eat out or attend an event, and then she'd probably be able to go on her own or with friends!

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I think you can assume you'll be paying for the meal.

 

Ha ha, that is why I come to this site....

 

Yet, some guys, mainly first timers bring their own.

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Being fairly new to this myself I did a little research before my first booking and my thoughts are

Don't suggest providing your own condoms, it might be looked upon as suspicious behaviour

Personally I wouldn't suggest providing toys either, at least not until I'd seen the lady before and she was comfortable with me..

Assume that I'll be paying for anything and everything during a booking including meals, tickets or other expenses

This!

 

You have learned well NickNack! 

 

Re gifts, I would find it a bit odd for an unknown client to bring toys unless discussed in advance- so say he wants to try something I don't own and wants to bring me one that's fine. I have quite enough own vibes and dildos so it shouldn't be necessary to provide one unless he has a desire to see me use something very specific. 

 

Other non sexy presents, like flowers, chocolates etc are a nice thought but not at all expected

 

As for clothes- I hate being bought clothes by other people full stop. Not ungrateful, but it's terribly awkward if it doesn't fit or looks terrible on. 

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Presents aren't essential, especially on a first meet. I think if it's your first booking you should just go with the correct money, be clean and respectful. That's it.

You will be paying for the meal if it is an escort you're seeing and it's your first meet/first few meets. I'm sure if you encounter a regular things may be different.

I have had many regular clients buy me gifts but they've usually asked me before hand for what I like in perfume, toys, shoes etc. It's always best to ask first to ensure you get something she likes and not something that will end up catching dust on the mantelpiece lol!

Hope that helps a little! :)

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Just turn up on time, clean with a good attitude, be polite and hand the money over within a few minutes.

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