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I have been quiet on this forum for a while but some may recall I posted about my experiences in diagnosis treatment and recovery from prostate cancer. On a punt today the lady suggested it was time for an update, I agreed, so here I am. The medical section here is a bit of a backwater and there is a lot of interest in this subject but accounts like mine are very infrequent.

I am one of the lucky ones. I was diagnosed early and after surgery, have been signed off from the hospital as a patient with a continuing PSA test value of zero. Annual check-ups and six monthly blood tests forever I should think. And no prostate, and no erections since, because the nerves were taken away. Disaster? It takes some getting used to the idea, but then there is the penis pump. Six months after surgery this didnt seem a good idea, but I bought one, sent it to the house of a lady friend, and went on a bit of a learning experience. The kind that I bought privately looks less like a pump and more like a sex toy. It takes some getting used to that not only do you have to pump your best friend through a relatively small hole that looks eye-watering, you then discover that the erection you got inside the pump goes down in 2 minutes when the pump is removed, and you have to use a smaller hole (actually a plastic ring with a shaped orifice) the next time.

So the first part of the learning process was to find the right ring that will hold an erection for long enough (30 minutes start to finish is the maximum recommended time but that includes the 10 minutes that will be needed to deflate the best friend and get the ring off.) but not so tight that you can't get it off without a major panic.

The next thing is that the erection inevitable softens slightly out of the pump, and once you have a condom on it, there is lube around, replacing the cock back in the pump to get it completely hard again is even more of a mission; I have discreetly removed a lot of hair (it regrew double after the op, lol) that got in the way.

Anyway, pumped up, condom on, so what position? I have found that unfortunately the girl on top doesn't work at all, missionary is difficult, but any version of doggy or spoons works just fine. Its something to do with the fact that at the base of the penis where the ring is, the thing will bend. Doggy actually is pretty good.

Then came the biggest surprises. I have had some of the strongest orgasms of my life, and I have no idea why. The lady who has supported me most of all through the process and with whom I had a number of sessions before the op, and therefore knew what I could do and what to expect from me, finds it funny  that I quite often swear when I come, which I never did before, as a result of prolonged pleasure. My surgeon was also surprised to hear about it, but unfortunately has no plans to ask any of the nursing staff to investigate further :D. Also the condom is generally not dry either. Obviously there is no semen as such, and no sperma either, but I know there are other glands on the normal pathway and there is a decent amount in there, and some more is usually released when I get the ring off. No-one has plucked up the courage to taste it yet, not even me, and I was quite happy to indulge in a bit of snowballing when the circumstances arose..

The next surprise was a test of the 30 minute and 1-hour rules. You have to wait an hour after removing the ring before you can put it on again. and then you can repeat the process and have a second climax. Now i used to do that before, sometimes got a third in two hours, now the trouble is that with an hour recovery you are looking at two and a half hours for a cum-twice punt, but the lady who had helepd me has been very understanding about this as well, so our sessions include a long chat and an extended tea break. And why not.

Overall, I dont punt nearly as often as I used to, when opportunity was the prime consideration. I had a high sex drive and my prostate must have been primarily responsible for that, (it was apparently one of the larger ones the surgeon had seen, cant remember the weight but it was 95th centile territory, :P but as I enjoy the company of women generally and all the stuff that goes with it - my tongue hasnt lost its sex drive any way, I am still going about monthly. I have avoided punting overseas except with one girl I had seen a  few times.

Not all of the girls have been comfortable with the pump. Most I have seen already had clients with pumps and should have been more understanding, but having to break off to pump and fiddle round sometimes upset their routines I suppose. I also found quite a few that were in ignorance of pumps and when it became obvious that it was a problem in some respect, I decided not to ask for an appointment. I would say that of the ten or so girls I have seen since the op, apart from the regular one, only two were really comfortable with the situation, the rest just coped with it. Such is life. 

So overall Im a pretty happy boy. A restricted sex life but cured of a life threatenting disease, you have to have your priorities straight. I have a reduced sex life, and a normal life expectancy. As far as my punting life before the cancer was, I had some quite raunchy encounters with certain ladies and I found the prospect of revisiting them with reduced capability to be a barrier - I can't manage anal penetration for example as the erections are never quite solid enough. I would prefer in some cases just to able to remember the general passion and naughtiness rather than go to see someone that I had properly ravaged in the past but was now unable to, it would just be too frustrating for both parties.

So that's my update; I am open to correspondence on the subject but as I lead a busy life, prompt replies may not be forthcoming.

O-e-p

 

 

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Awesome. Im sorry it was so serious but glad you can still get your happy end away. Hopefully some guys starting out on the prostate issues journey will read this and realise that there is light at the end of the tunnel and not to get too disheartened xxxx

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That was lovely to read, I'm glad you're keeping well and that you had a really great escort to experiment with. 

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That is a great positive post. Thanks very much!

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Good to see you back posting and hear your story of life since the op, OEP. It’s particularly comforting to know that you’re still experiencing pleasurable (I assume!) orgasms, albeit without the erection.

Have you lost all nerves associated with your erection? I have a friend who’s had a partial prostatectomy, and to combat his erectile problems he has been prescribed tadalafil (Cialis) and that seems to have helped him (insofar as he discusses it with me!)

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7 hours ago, Calynx said:

Good to see you back posting and hear your story of life since the op, OEP. It’s particularly comforting to know that you’re still experiencing pleasurable (I assume!) orgasms, albeit without the erection.

Have you lost all nerves associated with your erection? I have a friend who’s had a partial prostatectomy, and to combat his erectile problems he has been prescribed tadalafil (Cialis) and that seems to have helped him (insofar as he discusses it with me!)

The surgeon had to remove all the nerve material that transmits instructions to the penis. So I couldnt get any erection sensation at all at the beginning. Now its not quite zero, so some regeneration has taken place, but not enough to be usable. Its normal to prescribe Cialis or Viagra after a prostatectomy, assuming there is no other reason why the man can't have sex, as the idea is to get the equipment into use again if possible as soon as possible ' Use it or lose it'

Yes the climaxes are very pleasurable! The pathways associated with orgasm are seperate from the erection ones so its possible to have an orgasm without an erection - my lady friend manipulates at least one dysfunctional client to a climax like that.

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Thank you so much for sharing this! This is incredibly good to know to potentially help any future gents in your positions as well. :) I hope things continue to go well!

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I doff my hat to OEP who has endured considerable inconvenience in his sex life yet still appears to benefit from the joy of orgasm. Good on you Sir!

I recall an old field report on your visit to Shanelle of St Albans when at the height of your arousal you came mightily and filled her makeup box with ropes of ejaculate. I myself visited the said lady a couple of months later and she confirmed that she indeed had had to throw out a number of lippies etc. which had been smothered in your cum. You may be interested that Tiny and I had lunch with Shanelle very recently and she is fit and well but 'resting' as they say in the acting profession.

I send you greeting and best wishes. Your post is seriously encouraging. Thank you

 

Uncle Pokey

 

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On 13/12/2015, 18:33:24, Uncle Pokey said:

I doff my hat to OEP who has endured considerable inconvenience in his sex life yet still appears to benefit from the joy of orgasm. Good on you Sir!

I recall an old field report on your visit to Shanelle of St Albans when at the height of your arousal you came mightily and filled her makeup box with ropes of ejaculate. I myself visited the said lady a couple of months later and she confirmed that she indeed had had to throw out a number of lippies etc. which had been smothered in your cum. You may be interested that Tiny and I had lunch with Shanelle very recently and she is fit and well but 'resting' as they say in the acting profession.

I send you greeting and best wishes. Your post is seriously encouraging. Thank you

 

Uncle Pokey

 

Thany you very much uncle P. Pleased to hear Shanelle is just taking a break, one of the stars of profession. Ddint visit her as much as I would have liked but thats the problem with the popular girls, you can't just turn up on spec.

It was a funny moment with the make-up box and there have been of course many other such moments, Thats what i mean that sometimes you just have to leave the memories intact. One girl that I have to stay inspired me to some of my naughtiest moments, I can't face visiting because I cant do a quarter of what I used to and shes a girl that can take everything even quite a profilic guy like me could give. Would be wasting her time really. Weve met for a coffee and a chat though.

 

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I do come on here to read a few stories and learn a few things as well.... But this was a nice read and a great insight. Of late many people have been diagnosed with the big C and is sad that sensitization is not so readily available or we just ignore the fact that we need to do regular checks. In the past 10 months I have come to lose 2 close members of family to this Menace. The sad bit about it is that it was treatable and we just took to long to find it and by the time we did, it was far to gone. Its articles like this and stories like this that are meant to be shared and read to highlight the problem.

Thank you for sharing.

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I have a lovely reg who had prostate cancer, he uses some kind of gel that makes everything work :) I'm not sure what it is but it takes about ten minutes to work. I'll ask him what it is next time I see him.

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great info - thanks for taking the time to share!

Small thing - i work in the travel industry and I had a client who needed to cancel their trip due to lung cancer - they had to forfeit what they had paid (normal practice).

However, when they put a claim in on their travel insurance, they (the insurance company) found out that they had had prostate cancer 14 years previous (he had been officially clear for 12 years) - and as he had not declared it as a "pre existing illness" refused to pay out - the client lost around 10K.

he is still arguing that the two were unrelated and he was clear - but the stress of having to do this combined with dealing with a new cancer is taking its toll.

just something for all to be aware of if you have prostate (or any other) cancer and you are/have been cleared, even if a long time ago - always declare it to your travel insurance co.

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9 hours ago, MySecretLife said:

I have a lovely reg who had prostate cancer, he uses some kind of gel that makes everything work :) I'm not sure what it is but it takes about ten minutes to work. I'll ask him what it is next time I see him.

Its possible to get an erection by having a suppository type thing inserted down the urethra, Im not clear about the details. Obviously viagra exists in gel form, and taken orally its very quick acting. Nothing of that kind will work for me as they still require the anatomy to work, and in my case the nerve tissue was all removed to get the prostate out.

I am publicising my case a bit because I know there are guys in the same situation who have given up hope of a sex life who didnt need to.

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11 hours ago, HungDong said:

great info - thanks for taking the time to share!

Small thing - i work in the travel industry and I had a client who needed to cancel their trip due to lung cancer - they had to forfeit what they had paid (normal practice).

However, when they put a claim in on their travel insurance, they (the insurance company) found out that they had had prostate cancer 14 years previous (he had been officially clear for 12 years) - and as he had not declared it as a "pre existing illness" refused to pay out - the client lost around 10K.

he is still arguing that the two were unrelated and he was clear - but the stress of having to do this combined with dealing with a new cancer is taking its toll.

just something for all to be aware of if you have prostate (or any other) cancer and you are/have been cleared, even if a long time ago - always declare it to your travel insurance co.

That is very sound advice, HungDong. Too many people think they can get away with only telling the insurance companies part of the truth. My view is that a big insurer will jump through hoops to avoid having to pay out.

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