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Informed Consent

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About once a month I get an email from a husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend asking me whether I'll help them to "surprise" their partner with the threesome that they've always dreamed about.
I always say no to such requests because I don't believe that it is right for only one partner to give informed consent when there are two people in the relationship ... although I'm very happy to meet couples if I have spoken to both of them. :)


In my mind some fantasies are just that and one should never assume that they ever are anything else. I must admit though - I do absolutely hate surprises of any kind, so maybe I'm just biased!?!
What do you think, have you ever helped 'surprise' some one in this way and if so how was it? Or have you ever been surprised by a partner in this way and if so did you like it?

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I'm with you on this one! I think some things simply should not be sprung on someone unexpectedly, with the possible exception being if they had said at some point that they wanted to be surprised with it! But that's rarely the case, I think.

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I would respectfully suggest that some of these will be purely email based fantasies with no ultimate aim of a booking.

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11 minutes ago, heelboy said:

I would respectfully suggest that some of these will be purely email based fantasies with no ultimate aim of a booking.

Some certainly but not all I don't think.

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I am pleased with your point of view.

It may have been because he was with his wife but it sticks in my mind seeing a man 10 or more years ago apparently shocked when a clip joint greeter invited him in on Windmill Street (if I have the road name right).

I agree many such requests will be real given the prevalence of things such as flash mobs leading to marriage proposals on YouTube (which I love watching).

 

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I've done a surprise threesome booking where the identity of our guest was kept a secret from my regular until she arrived, but that was someone she'd worked with before, and I sent her my shortlist of 10 girls the day before just to be safe. It did make for a very enjoyable evening, both girls were really excited from the off :)

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Your arrangement seems to successfully avoid the potential pitfalls.

But also your arrangement was with escorts and the OP is referring to a civvie being the surprised one.

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Yes, but even so, I wouldn't arrange that sort of surprise for an escort without clearing it with her first that she would be open to that idea. That would provide another nice little element that she could be thinking each time I book her next that she could be in for a surprise, which may turn out to be a continual disappointment :D

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Like the other escorts I wouldn't see anyone on a 'surprise' basis- if it's a couple I need to speak to both parties before I agree to a booking. Firstly because of the high number of saddo's who want to tell you about their fantasy involving me and their wife under the guise of making a booking and when I ask to speak to her she just happens to be out, secondly. I don't want to see someone who might be horrified or upset or manipulated into a threesome situation. 

The other one is helpful friends who want you to meet and seduce their mate- they'll pay me but I mustn't let on I am paid for. Nooo! A whole world of potential pitfalls there! 

Though recently I did surprise a  very long term and regular client by inviting another chap along- but they had met before and he had said it was OK if I could arrange it again, so I knew he'd totally love it and he did. 

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No way, I would need to speak to both parties first and be happy that they were both equally eager for the experience.

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Interesting, and I can see the force of the arguments, and yet...

If the surprise was unwelcome (I'm thinking of the man being surprised) and it falls through, then it all happened in a private context with your significant other, so no harm done. Presumably this is not a problem that strippagram girls etc  consider, yet their arrival will often be in the semi-public context of a party, and I for one would feel rather uncomfortable about it.

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I can imagine a wife doing this for her partner - but not a man getting an escort to join in with him and his straight laced wife - unless he wants to lose his wife and goolies

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I'd be appalled if my o/h pulled a surprise like this on me! I'd not want to be involved in a three/more some with her and I very much doubt that her taste in selecting a prospective other to join us would reflect mine.....

Much better from my perspective to leave multiple situations entirely within my punting existence.

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It's the same for 'booking you as a surprise for a mate', I'm not interested.

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I would probably hate it if my wife arranged a surprise 3some.  Partly because i would want to have some say in who the 3rd party would be and i dont think i could trust her judgement alone.

also because i dislike surprises in general - maybe a control thing.

all this is hypothetical though, hell would freeze over before my wife agrees to a threesome!!!

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No chance.I like my bookings to be as drama free as possible.I can't think of anything worse than being a 'surprise' and finding yourself in the middle of a big row or worse the wife actually going for me.

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I can understand the reservations some would have doing this potentially a very awkward scenario.

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Besides alot of the time when you get enquiries of this nature,it's a fantacist looking for wank fodder.

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I can see the problem and I certainly wouldn't dream of trying it. Some fantasies need to remain just that; fantasies.

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