Herbiehancock

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So, was about to go to my first visit, v nervous and excited...when my phone rang and I was called away unavoidably. Of course I called the agency and apologised profusely, but I feel bad as the girl missed out on a pay check (not to mention personal frustration in the EXTREME!). 

So what do I do? Should I email and offer to pay more next time? I don't want to get blackballed by the agency, and I really want to see that girl, but fear she'll be pissed off...

advice please!

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I don't use agencies, but I'd try and book again and be as sure as possible that your chosen time slot is bombproof from interventions.  If you intend to book to see the same girl that you had to cancel on, then I'd stick with the standard rate, but give her a tip when you meet if she matches your expectations.

 

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Bless you, I think you should contact the agency and let them know about before and see what they say. I doubt they will blacklist you because of one time, don't worry. 

And the girl you want to see, just apologise to her about what happened before and assure her it was a genuine reason and you're not there to mess her about. No need to offer more money than her hourly rate, I am sure she will appreciate the fact you've booked her again and apologised for the mix up last time. As long as it's not something that happens regularly you will be fine! :) x

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You did what they wanted you to do - let them know you couldn't make it.

Obviously we don't know how much notice you were able to give them but as long as it was an hour or more they will have no worries about you and the escort has probably forgotten about it among all the other such occasions.

Personally, I wouldn't fuss the agency any more about it - the other 20 the same week won't. If they mention it, just be creepy.

If you book again with the same lady, I wouldn't mention it until afterwards, assuming things went along smoothly - if any hiccups during the appointment, may as well not mention it at all. But the tight one's response is worth considering too although I don't think a tip is necessary but that's up to you..

As nice teachers say: I won't give you lines this time, Hancock, but if it happens again you can expect me to be rather more unforgiving...

 

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You called the agency and apolgised.

Immediately you have shown more consideration than many no shows.

Book again, You won't be blacklisted

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Thanks everyone. Not gonna get the opportunity to book again for a few weeks but will take your advice on board. 

Nice friendly forum-like it. 

Many other tips for my soon to be first time?

im slightly nervous as I have a condition where I can't move my neck and my movements are generally restricted. I'm not disabled but I don't want them to freak out when they see me as I can't lift my head up fully. Will they not be bothered or should I mention when I book? 

Nb  the agency don't let you chat to the girl in advance. 

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6 minutes ago, Herbiehancock said:

Thanks everyone. Not gonna get the opportunity to book again for a few weeks but will take your advice on board. 

Nice friendly forum-like it. 

Many other tips for my soon to be first time?

im slightly nervous as I have a condition where I can't move my neck and my movements are generally restricted. I'm not disabled but I don't want them to freak out when they see me as I can't lift my head up fully. Will they not be bothered or should I mention when I book? 

Nb  the agency don't let you chat to the girl in advance. 

If it were me I would prefer that the client mention it before he books so I am aware and don't hurt him or get in any awkward positions that could make him uncomfortable.

There is no harm in mentioning it, and I am sure that they will appreciate you mentioning before hand, I once had a client who had half of his arm amputated and he had not mentioned it. I have never seen anyone with an amputated arm before so it did take me by surprise and I would've preferred he mentioned it before so i was aware. I know in your case it is nothing extreme like that but I think its best to mention! Good luck with your first booking I am sure it will be fun :D

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4 hours ago, TightYoungEbony said:

If it were me I would prefer that the client mention it before he books so I am aware and don't hurt him or get in any awkward positions that could make him uncomfortable.

There is no harm in mentioning it, and I am sure that they will appreciate you mentioning before hand, I once had a client who had half of his arm amputated and he had not mentioned it. I have never seen anyone with an amputated arm before so it did take me by surprise and I would've preferred he mentioned it before so i was aware. I know in your case it is nothing extreme like that but I think its best to mention! Good luck with your first booking I am sure it will be fun :D

Seconding TYE! Mentioning these things is always the way to go, even if you aren't looking for any special attention. It's always best to just let the girl know so she can be aware if something is different. :)

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7 hours ago, Herbiehancock said:

Thanks everyone. Not gonna get the opportunity to book again for a few weeks but will take your advice on board. 

Nice friendly forum-like it. 

Many other tips for my soon to be first time?

im slightly nervous as I have a condition where I can't move my neck and my movements are generally restricted. I'm not disabled but I don't want them to freak out when they see me as I can't lift my head up fully. Will they not be bothered or should I mention when I book? 

Nb  the agency don't let you chat to the girl in advance. 

I completely agree with tye. Also don't feel bad, you let them know, if they do blacklist you then they are idiots because you have done ten times over what most people do. Most just don't show up, I wouldn't worry yourself about it, things happen. The escort and agency if reputable won't expect it but that would be such a lovely gesture if you were to give her a little tip to say sorry not that you need to say sorry, things happen, life gets in the way, you let them know X

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14 hours ago, Herbiehancock said:

Thanks everyone. Not gonna get the opportunity to book again for a few weeks but will take your advice on board. 

Nice friendly forum-like it. 

Many other tips for my soon to be first time?

im slightly nervous as I have a condition where I can't move my neck and my movements are generally restricted. I'm not disabled but I don't want them to freak out when they see me as I can't lift my head up fully. Will they not be bothered or should I mention when I book? 

Nb  the agency don't let you chat to the girl in advance. 

I think you started pretty well: treat everyone the way you would like to be treated and you will have no surprises.  You sound like a decent guy who maybe worries too much.  Inform them of your condition: some care some do not.  Maybe in the future you will become like all the regular punters and not even bother with this but concentrate on asking the girls what to wear.  Read the information around on all forums and realise there are lots of guys like you.  Good luck.

 

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Thanks all. Very helpful

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I agree with the responses above but I would add one thing.

For your first time and since you are using an agency, it might be worth asking the receptionist on the phone who might be the best choice for a first timer with a few nerves and just appreciating a little understanding about the neck.

I know that means you may not therefore see your no. 1 choice, but having a good first experience might be better than trying for the ultimate favourite girl for your first time and risk a less understanding attitude which would spoil it for you.

Escorts become very used to the individual features of so many of their clients it becomes a normal part of their routine.

I get the impression I am just about the only Adonis with the perfect body, equipment and technique out there...

 

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My advice to anyone who thinks they might bottle it on their first time would be to rationalise it like I did. If you don't bang her, then someone else is going to, so it might as well be you. Research goes a very very long way too. I read all I could about the sex trade from both sides before I took the plunge. On my second ever punt the lady was surprised it was only my second time, when I asked why she said it was because I was clear in my texts. Researching helped me avoid the many pitfalls newbies fall into. 

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On 28/01/2016 at 7:10 PM, enquire said:

You called the agency and apolgised.

Immediately you have shown more consideration than many no shows.

Book again, You won't be blacklisted

no but if he does it again he might be

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I did know a guy who was disabled. With normal girls, they had lost interest by the time he had taken off all his gear. He found it was fine with WGs, who were sympathetic to his problem.

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that can happen to anyone and a polite call to say you can not make it is more than enough, if something came up on the girls side i am sure they would have done the same thing

its all part of the business and girls do not take personally, its always nice when punter calls or txts to cancel rather than not turn up and switch his phone off :)

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to make you feel better i have arranged a duo today where one girl had to travel to another girls place (she even kindly agreed to do it at an incall rate) 

the customer emailed around 30min before the booking to cancel however i do not check email as often as txt of course so by the time i called the lady she was already at her gf place

i also apologised and of course will cover her taxi, at the end of the day nobody holds any bad feelings, of course girls lost out on time and agency of taxi fare but things happen and i doubt the punter done it deliberately 

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3 hours ago, stevenxxx said:

I did know a guy who was disabled. With normal girls, they had lost interest by the time he had taken off all his gear. He found it was fine with WGs, who were sympathetic to his problem.

am surprised he managed to get them into the bedroom if he was disabled

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If you mean the working girls, a significant number advertise that they are happy to see disabled clients and there's a good 'group site' about it, so I guess that it wouldn't be a surprise. If you mean 'normal girls' then it's just a pretty crass comment.

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Herbie, I don't know enough about your condition to give any specific advice.

However, I can make some general comments. Firstly, some WG's are also skillful in massage, and they can be very accomodating in massaging areas of sensory loss, as well as providing sexual release. A beautiful girl massaging your body, including areas affected by disability and then providing full personal service is very liberating.

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On 1/28/2016 at 7:40 PM, Herbiehancock said:

Thanks everyone. Not gonna get the opportunity to book again for a few weeks but will take your advice on board. 

Nice friendly forum-like it. 

Many other tips for my soon to be first time?

im slightly nervous as I have a condition where I can't move my neck and my movements are generally restricted. I'm not disabled but I don't want them to freak out when they see me as I can't lift my head up fully. Will they not be bothered or should I mention when I book? 

Nb  the agency don't let you chat to the girl in advance. 

There is a site which deals in some detail with escorts who entertain disabled clients. I cannot recall the name but I am sure one of the more knowledgeable folk who inhabit the board willbe able to tell you

 

Good luck

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11 hours ago, enquire said:

Herbie, I don't know enough about your condition to give any specific advice.

However, I can make some general comments. Firstly, some WG's are also skillful in massage, and they can be very accomodating in massaging areas of sensory loss, as well as providing sexual release. A beautiful girl massaging your body, including areas affected by disability and then providing full personal service is very liberating.

Yes, and sometimes one doesn't even want to be particularly active even when one's 100% fit (at least when you're elderly).

I once saw a wg a few weeks after major surgery which had left me with a prominent diagonal scar right across my chest, which oblioged me to be rather cautious in my movements. I'd warned the agency in advance and there were no problems at all. When I told the girl I hadn't had a woman for a month, her smile was radiant.

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16 hours ago, pabulum said:

If you mean the working girls, a significant number advertise that they are happy to see disabled clients and there's a good 'group site' about it, so I guess that it wouldn't be a surprise. If you mean 'normal girls' then it's just a pretty crass comment.

it also seems pretty weird and unlikely that this disabled guy can get girlfriends into the bedroom - but  not one cares enough about him to have sex with him taking into consideration his situation with disability. unless he has some penile disfunction and has to pump it up - that I could understand

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3 hours ago, erictheidol said:

There is a site which deals in some detail with escorts who entertain disabled clients. I cannot recall the name but I am sure one of the more knowledgeable folk who inhabit the board willbe able to tell you

 

Good luck

Thank you. I would be interested to take a look if anyone can paste a link?

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3 hours ago, Herbiehancock said:

Thank you. I would be interested to take a look if anyone can paste a link?

It might be this one:

http://www.tlc-trust.org.uk/

Dame Helen Mirren as testimonial - what more could you want?

 

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