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Do the Ladies on this Forum mind us old guys?

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As my name implies I am an old guy who took up punting when my wife said, when I was 51 that sex was "no longer on the agenda".

I went around frustrated for a time before I decided that I would "try my hand" at punting. Before arranging a meeting I ALWAYS send a message to the escort stating that I am an old guy. If I get no reply then I assume that the escort is not happy with us old guys which I consider is fair enough. In the majority of cases however I get a positive reaction although I must admit, I nearly always choose escorts aged 35 plus. I consider it only fair to inform the escort that I am not exactly a "young Adonis". Fortunately I am slim & do not have a "beer belly" although, of course, the escorts do not know this until I arrive. With one or two exceptions I have been delighted with the escorts I have met although, sadly, one or two have retired or moved away from my area. I would like to know what you Ladies on this Forum think about us old guys & also what other old guys like me have experienced.

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I'm only 28 but I've seen a number of older gentlemen and some have been my all time favourite clients. :) So many are so sweet and kind and complimentary! I love having a good laugh with them as well; things often seem more relaxed. No problems here! x

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I rather like the more mature fella.I often find they are more gentlemanly.When a bloke asks me via email if I am happy to see them as they are older it does make me wonder if they have read my profile though as I state I am happy to see clients of 21 and older.If a lady has a problem with age she will usually stare something on her adverts so perhaps its a needless question for some?

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I don't mind older guys and I'm 21. As long as he is clean, respectful and genuine then that is all that matters. Young or old. 

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I'm considerably older than 50 and have a good punting life. All the girls I have seen quite like the older guy. From my point of view, I'm uneasy with a girl under 30.

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I would have thought that most of the guys here are very mature guys: personally I prefer guys like this as they are more thoughtful with their 'word arrangement' and know how to behave around women - even the banter is better.

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Totally agree with the ladies above. Age or skin colour are not criteria for me. Manners, punctuality and good personal grooming are what counts for me.

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Because us older (I'm 40) guys weren't brought up on porn. We know how to treat a woman. I grew up watching soppy rom-coms so that's how I perceived it to be. I'm not surprised some WG won't see young men. Not wanting to speak for everyone but its a mature man's game. Just my opinion.

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17 hours ago, oldjack said:

As my name implies I am an old guy who took up punting when my wife said, when I was 51 that sex was "no longer on the agenda".

I went around frustrated for a time before I decided that I would "try my hand" at punting. Before arranging a meeting I ALWAYS send a message to the escort stating that I am an old guy. If I get no reply then I assume that the escort is not happy with us old guys which I consider is fair enough. In the majority of cases however I get a positive reaction although I must admit, I nearly always choose escorts aged 35 plus. I consider it only fair to inform the escort that I am not exactly a "young Adonis". Fortunately I am slim & do not have a "beer belly" although, of course, the escorts do not know this until I arrive. With one or two exceptions I have been delighted with the escorts I have met although, sadly, one or two have retired or moved away from my area. I would like to know what you Ladies on this Forum think about us old guys & also what other old guys like me have experienced.

I have many clients who are 60+ and a few 70+. I'd also estimate that 60% of my clients are at least 45 years old. 

As a woman who is comfortable in relationships with men of any age, including some 20+ years older than myself, I don't think age bothers me. It's attitude which is the deciding factor, and this I find has nothing to do with how old a person is. 

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37 minutes ago, audioguy said:

Because us older (I'm 40) guys weren't brought up on porn. We know how to treat a woman. I grew up watching soppy rom-coms so that's how I perceived it to be. I'm not surprised some WG won't see young men. Not wanting to speak for everyone but its a mature man's game. Just my opinion.

I have to disagree a little bit. I've actually had more issues with older than I have younger, with the issues being boundary pushing and trying to force services I don't offer or getting nasty if I'm not available.

But maybe that's because I'm young myself? I don't know. 

I don't think age has anything to do with maturity and believe there are immature and disrespectful clients of all ages. 

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18 hours ago, oldjack said:

As my name implies I am an old guy who took up punting when my wife said, when I was 51 that sex was "no longer on the agenda".

I went around frustrated for a time before I decided that I would "try my hand" at punting. Before arranging a meeting I ALWAYS send a message to the escort stating that I am an old guy. If I get no reply then I assume that the escort is not happy with us old guys which I consider is fair enough. In the majority of cases however I get a positive reaction although I must admit, I nearly always choose escorts aged 35 plus. I consider it only fair to inform the escort that I am not exactly a "young Adonis". Fortunately I am slim & do not have a "beer belly" although, of course, the escorts do not know this until I arrive. With one or two exceptions I have been delighted with the escorts I have met although, sadly, one or two have retired or moved away from my area. I would like to know what you Ladies on this Forum think about us old guys & also what other old guys like me have experienced.

This post just warms my heart, so sweet to hear and humble.

In my experience, good manners, hygiene and good company have always been far more important than age. 

I have often spoken to agencies in the past and told them my preferences of older men to younger.

Men sometimes, just as us women put a lot of emphasis on their appearance and seem to think this is vital.

Someone which can be mindful, respectful and the above characteristic always wins in my books.

Younger men have sometimes not acquired the qualities yet. 

Hope this helps :)

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39 minutes ago, Lulu69 said:

This post just warms my heart, so sweet to hear and humble.

In my experience, good manners, hygiene and good company have always been far more important than age. 

I have often spoken to agencies in the past and told them my preferences of older men to younger.

Men sometimes, just as us women put a lot of emphasis on their appearance and seem to think this is vital.

Someone which can be mindful, respectful and the above characteristic always wins in my books.

Younger men have sometimes not acquired the qualities yet. 

Hope this helps :)

It's interesting that we have a specific word for a kind of emotional immaturity and shallowness in men ("callow") that really has no equivalent for women, and can only be used of young men.

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I am surprised so many escorts on this thread have said how wonderful an older punter is - I am sure I haven't seen ALL of them but then at my age i don't always remember who I have just seen by the time I get down the stairs.

 

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8 minutes ago, Colonel Bonkers said:

It's interesting that we have a specific word for a kind of emotional immaturity and shallowness in men ("callow") that really has no equivalent for women, and can only be used of young men.

Where do you get the idea that callow is for males? The definitions I have seen refer only to a youth (usually but not necessarily female) or young person (but it's probably still fair to say there are more male characters than female in literature).

And that's even though its root is in the germanic word for bald.

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I don't think that age is a major concern for an escort. We all have clients ranging from 20's - beyond! Some ladies actually specify that they only want a more mature gent. For me it is about the person, not the age. I say go for it and don't give your age a second thought. As long as you are clean, respectful and genuine you won't have a problem. Some of the nicest and most enjoyable clients I have ever met were over 50 years old. 

You're only as old as the woman you feel! 

Sofia x

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The OP did also ask what other older guys had experienced. As an older guy in my 80s (I think I qualify :P). I took up punting in my 70s when my wife died having had an excellent sex life until a short while before she died. I missed the cuddles, caresses and kisses (and nookie!) Over the years I visited very many ladies and I cannot recall anyone who did not welcome me even though I had not thought it necessary to mention my age. This experience seems to be borne out by the ladies' comments on here.           

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I bet I'm older than you Jack and I've yet to have a problem even though I don't always mention my age.. Mind you I do mainly go for 35+ ladies, but that is because I feel more comfortable.

One lady I see has an upper age limit of 65 but I've assured her that as she is in her 40's it's not a problem as before I reach that milestone in a few years she will be to old for me.

Luckily she has a sense of humour.

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2 hours ago, TightYoungEbony said:

I have to disagree a little bit. I've actually had more issues with older than I have younger, with the issues being boundary pushing and trying to force services I don't offer or getting nasty if I'm not available.

But maybe that's because I'm young myself? I don't know. 

I don't think age has anything to do with maturity and believe there are immature and disrespectful clients of all ages. 

Like you the problem clients I've had have come from a range of ages, including over 60s (and over 70s), as well as younger men.
 

I'm not terribly young, so I doubt it's your age.

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3 hours ago, audioguy said:

Because us older (I'm 40) guys weren't brought up on porn. We know how to treat a woman. I grew up watching soppy rom-coms so that's how I perceived it to be. I'm not surprised some WG won't see young men. Not wanting to speak for everyone but its a mature man's game. Just my opinion.

Nope this isn't my experience, I find a huge variety in attitudes across all age ranges. People are individuals, and age rarely comes into sexual behaviour.

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12 minutes ago, Strawberry said:

Nope this isn't my experience, I find a huge variety in attitudes across all age ranges. People are individuals, and age rarely comes into sexual behaviour.

surely experienced men who know how to pleasure a lady are that bit older?

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3 minutes ago, Coventrypunter said:

surely experienced men who know how to pleasure a lady are that bit older?

That depends, older men as as likely to be inexperienced, as someone older - and define experience? I've known men who've been married for 50 years, never slept with anyone else, no experience of other women. Experience with one woman, 2 or 3 doesn't mean experience with another. Women can be quite different. At least one long-term married man told me that he wasn't even sure how his children were conceived, he never saw his wife naked and she shunned him after conception.

On the other hand some very young men, with little or no experience have performed as if they've been doing it for years - just complete naturals.

It also depends on whether the women have given feedback, and also whether you happen to like what they like. I've had a lot of 'well my ex liked this, it drove her crazy', whilst someone is rummaging around with fingers in a particular way.

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27 minutes ago, Strawberry said:

That depends, older men as as likely to be inexperienced, as someone older - and define experience? I've known men who've been married for 50 years, never slept with anyone else, no experience of other women. Experience with one woman, 2 or 3 doesn't mean experience with another. Women can be quite different. At least one long-term married man told me that he wasn't even sure how his children were conceived, he never saw his wife naked and she shunned him after conception.

On the other hand some very young men, with little or no experience have performed as if they've been doing it for years - just complete naturals.

It also depends on whether the women have given feedback, and also whether you happen to like what they like. I've had a lot of 'well my ex liked this, it drove her crazy', whilst someone is rummaging around with fingers in a particular way.

i am sure i have got better since i started punting.  i had been monogamous for 30 years.  but punting has taught be there isnt a '1 size fits all' to pleasing ladies.  but you have to observe and see what she reacts best to.

some are vagina girls, some are clit girls. some like a gentle almost tickling, others like it rough.  all different. some cum and cant bear to be touched for half an hour, others just want more NOW!

bloody good fun finding out what sort the one you are seeing for the first time is!

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1 hour ago, robert49 said:

I bet I'm older than you Jack and I've yet to have a problem even though I don't always mention my age.. Mind you I do mainly go for 35+ ladies, but that is because I feel more comfortable.

One lady I see has an upper age limit of 65 but I've assured her that as she is in her 40's it's not a problem as before I reach that milestone in a few years she will be to old for me.

Luckily she has a sense of humour.

Sorry Robert. You are wrong I am definitely older than you (wish I wasn't though). So far as this Forum is concerned I consider myself to be "the oldest swinger in town". I'm glad to say that I have a good sense of humour; mind you at my great age I have to have a good sense of humour otherwise I'd be dead by now. You can't keep an old dog like me down.:D:D

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2 hours ago, Coventrypunter said:

surely experienced men who know how to pleasure a lady are that bit older?

Not nessecarily. I've had men over 40 who haven't had a clue some who've mentioned they have only ever been with their wives and I've had some amazing sex with guys my age, and vice versa. Age has nothing to with sexual experience or maturity. 

A few months back I had a 67 year old client who had no clue on how to do oral bless him and loved "vigorous" fingering and "hitting the g spot" but ended up making me bleed and never did get to the G spot. He was harmless but completely inexperienced and he apologised so many times for what he had done and said to me he had only ever been with his wife and two other escorts and they didn't guide him. Age has nothing to do with pleasuring a lady at all, just as a man in his 40s can easily be immature and a man in his 20s can be incredibly mature.

It all depends on the person. :)

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13 hours ago, vivluvsme said:

Where do you get the idea that callow is for males? The definitions I have seen refer only to a youth (usually but not necessarily female) or young person (but it's probably still fair to say there are more male characters than female in literature).

And that's even though its root is in the germanic word for bald.

You'd never use it of a girl.

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