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Why do escorts wait till you are nearly there before giving you the address or flat number?

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Why do escorts wait till you are nearly there before giving you the address or flat number?

I know sometimes it's because they might want you to be standing at a particular location when you call, so that they can take a look at you.. 

But sometimes i've just been on the way.. driving on a main road and i've called said i'm 5min away or i've been a few roads away, and they have sent the address.

And one girl I know said I should call her for her flat number, she perhaps didn't even want to text me it, only to tell me it by voice when I arrived on the road.

 

 

 

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cos they want to be reasonably sure you are genuine.  giving out numbers to any old caller adds risk of people turning up without a booking or other trouble.

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Various reasons, the calling to tell you the flat number I totally get, you don't want evidence in a text, same with hotels, when I have hotel incalls I ask clients to call for the room number, having it in a text is risky they could take it to reception, I also don't give the hotel location until a booking is confirmed to reduce time wasters and people wanting collect information .

Girls may not want clients to know the full address in case of him being a time waster so will wait until you're on a certain road to give it to you, perfectly good reason. If you are genuine you shouldn't mind being giveb the address just before.

 

 

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17 minutes ago, Coventrypunter said:

cos they want to be reasonably sure you are genuine.  giving out numbers to any old caller adds risk of people turning up without a booking or other trouble.

This exactly - to make sure it is a genuine booking and that somebody arrives and it is only one person arriving.  In my case also, because there are three of the same numbers on the road which makes it mighty tricky. 

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26 minutes ago, Pia said:

  In my case also, because there are three of the same numbers on the road which makes it mighty tricky. 

I would have no chance getting to the right door in that situation - but might meet some nice new people and I can promise you i wouid not tell tales about you...

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I dont text my address either,

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Yep, I'm not giving out my address until I'm sure he is genuine. It's not foolproof but telling a man to confirm at X time for the address is one way of wheedling out timewasters and ensure the man is actually listening and can follow instructions.

I don't give my flat number out until I can see they are in front of the right building because you wouldn't believe the number of men who would ring at the wrong building in my early days before I realised men are lousy at reading an address and getting to it!

Also I can check only one of him and not someone I have banned! 

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Too many supposed clients not coming to the door, and not letting me know they weren't attending. Sometimes saying they were 5 minutes away, and still not following through. 

Other times I had clients run reccies up to the door well before their booking, or deciding to ignore directions and end up in a different place, ringing neighbours door bells after forgetting the number. 

I found that the way to eliminate all of this was to give directions and postcode for parking, directions to landmark from which to phone so I could then point out the exact front door. Totally foolproof apart from the man who agreed a text would be fine for directions to landmark, then when he got lost told me he didn't read text messages. 

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25 minutes ago, Strawberry said:

Too many supposed clients not coming to the door, and not letting me know they weren't attending. Sometimes saying they were 5 minutes away, and still not following through. 

Other times I had clients run reccies up to the door well before their booking, or deciding to ignore directions and end up in a different place, ringing neighbours door bells after forgetting the number. 

I found that the way to eliminate all of this was to give directions and postcode for parking, directions to landmark from which to phone so I could then point out the exact front door. Totally foolproof apart from the man who agreed a text would be fine for directions to landmark, then when he got lost told me he didn't read text messages. 

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I arranged a few years ago to see a girl in Welwyn Garden City which is quite a distance from where I live. She asked me to phone her from a car park which I did, only to be told to go to some other point for further directions. I did this & was told once more to go to some other place for yet more directions. By that time I was absolutely fed up & never did make it to her place. She then sent me a text stating that she had to take her dog to a vets so that she wouldn't be able to see me that day. I therefore wasted almost half a day and goodness knows how much petrol all for nothing:ph34r:. I didn't bother to make another appointment.

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9 minutes ago, oldjack said:

I arranged a few years ago to see a girl in Welwyn Garden City which is quite a distance from where I live. She asked me to phone her from a car park which I did, only to be told to go to some other point for further directions. I did this & was told once more to go to some other place for yet more directions. By that time I was absolutely fed up & never did make it to her place. She then sent me a text stating that she had to take her dog to a vets so that she wouldn't be able to see me that day. I therefore wasted almost half a day and goodness knows how much petrol all for nothing:ph34r:. I didn't bother to make another appointment.

You can never be sure, though. The most elaborate "first-time" precautions I was ever put through involved at least three phone calls at various points of the journey. I was pretty well giving it up as a bad job. She turned out to be one of my all-time greats.

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I understand not wanting to give evidence in text, because the legality might be questionable..

But to say it's done to help ward off timewasters, or to make sure people get there.. I don't see this done in any other business. If I want to see an Alexander technique practitioner, I call them up they give me their address before I leave, I look it up.. I try to get there and if there are any issues I call them and they give directions.

A service provider can always give directions but also, give the address before the customer leaves.  It's not like you can't give directions if you give the address beforehand.

Somebody mentions the risk of somebody turning up without a booking.. Why don't other service providers have this problem, only escorts.. And if they do have this problem, why is it only escorts wait till the client is nearly there before giving the full address.

As for people collecting information.. is that 'cos the legality is in question again? 'cos other service providers don't worry about that or if they do they don't go to such lengths to hide their address, or to only give their address when the customer is 5min away.

As for making sure it's genuine and only one person arriving.   Again, alexander technique teachers  don't have that worry or that solution (of giving the address late). 

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10 minutes ago, garifto said:

I understand not wanting to give evidence in text, because the legality might be questionable..

But to say it's done to help ward off timewasters, or to make sure people get there.. I don't see this done in any other business. If I want to see an Alexander technique practitioner, I call them up they give me their address before I leave, I look it up.. I try to get there and if there are any issues I call them and they give directions.

A service provider can always give directions but also, give the address before the customer leaves.  It's not like you can't give directions if you give the address beforehand.

Somebody mentions the risk of somebody turning up without a booking.. Why don't other service providers have this problem, only escorts.. And if they do have this problem, why is it only escorts wait till the client is nearly there before giving the full address.

As for people collecting information.. is that 'cos the legality is in question again? 'cos other service providers don't worry about that or if they do they don't go to such lengths to hide their address, or to only give their address when the customer is 5min away.

As for making sure it's genuine and only one person arriving.   Again, alexander technique teachers  don't have that worry or that solution (of giving the address late). 

Escorting is very different to your standard jobs. You don't hear of Sarah in an office being beaten up by an angry client, or Amy who works in an office being held hostage because she hasn't provided her service to her customers standards. Of course bad things happen but escorting is a risky business.

We are having sex with strangers who could be mass murderers, rapist etc, just like we escorts screen all clients before booking them we also have things in places for those who book us on an incall. As I said if you are a genuine punter you should not have an issue with an escort taking her safety seriously and ensuring you are who you say you are and are turning up on your own.

I have heard some awful stories, from girls being burgled when they've given the address over text to another girl I know being held hostage by two guys who she gave her address to again by text and he turned up with a friend and tried to burgle the place and sexually assault her, it's not completely fool proof and of course some weirdos will still slip through but it reduces the amount of danger and time wasting we get. It works for us so why change it?

I'm pretty sure a postcode and a road nearby to where the escorts place is, is enough for you to travel there on time and wait for her call in order to be directed to her home, it's really not a big issue unless you have other agendas or are shit at taking directions. 

When I've done incalls from apartments I have given the nearby street so I can see the client and make sure he is on his own then direct him and tell him what number to call, genuine guys don't have an issue. Escorts have done it like this for a long time, it's not about to change.

If it's a big issue for you maybe try outcalls and have an outcall to your hotel or home instead. Saves you waiting for instructions! :)

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30 minutes ago, garifto said:

I understand not wanting to give evidence in text, because the legality might be questionable..

But to say it's done to help ward off timewasters, or to make sure people get there.. I don't see this done in any other business. If I want to see an Alexander technique practitioner, I call them up they give me their address before I leave, I look it up.. I try to get there and if there are any issues I call them and they give directions.

A service provider can always give directions but also, give the address before the customer leaves.  It's not like you can't give directions if you give the address beforehand.

Somebody mentions the risk of somebody turning up without a booking.. Why don't other service providers have this problem, only escorts.. And if they do have this problem, why is it only escorts wait till the client is nearly there before giving the full address.

As for people collecting information.. is that 'cos the legality is in question again? 'cos other service providers don't worry about that or if they do they don't go to such lengths to hide their address, or to only give their address when the customer is 5min away.

As for making sure it's genuine and only one person arriving.   Again, alexander technique teachers  don't have that worry or that solution (of giving the address late). 

Five escorts and some men have given you the reasons. Not sure why you're still trying to tell us we shouldn't do this!

Chances are a Alexander technique teacher or any other self employed working from home person doesn't keep their profession a secret in the same way  many escorts do. How would you feel if you were at home and a prostitute turned up and asked your partner or kids where the man who paid for sex was that day?!

Incidentally, most of us here are working within the law- it's not about legality it's about safety and avoiding giving out the weirdos and timewasters our addresses!  

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Sometimes, I wonder, why some punters get so worked up by such little things.

On the one hand, you have genuine concerns of women in an occupation which can attract unwanted attention, which could have terrible consequences.

On the other, a punter is annoyed because of what? A mild inconvenience?

Slightly unrelated, but if you're my generation, the thrill of the underground rave in the 90s, buzz of excitement, before finding out where it was being held.

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Legality is not an issue in the slightest.Prostitution is legal and even if I did text the number it wouldn't exactly say 'Door 101 for your punt'.

I personally don't like texting my full address for discretion reasons.Blokes can and have left their phones lying about or haven't deleted texts after and I have had a suspicious wife find my text on a clients phone before today.

Other services industries do not need to be discrete.There is not the same stigma and possible hassle to be obtained from neighbours or other people.

I certainly do not want to give out my door number to someone I have not seen who then might not turn up then but turn up announced when I am with another client or turn up and because I am not there to buzz them in then start buzzing other doors and causing rucks with the neighbours.

Lastly one of the reasons I will not give out my door number or name of my apartment is because there are 4 similar apartment blocks in the courtyard and my apartment entrance is not immediately obvious.Much easier that they ring to say they are in the courtyard and I can verbally walk them in on the phone.If I were to say it's 101 apartment whatever then I would have a confused bloke going to the wrong building and ringing me to say he is pressing 101 why aren't I answering.

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I have had another business request I phone from a landmark - they too worked from a residential address, and has trouble with folk getting lost. 

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Prostitutes are perceived to be vulnerable, making them targets for mischief and worse. Also I would guess that someone booking an Alexander technique practitioner will more than likely use their real name,  and usual phone. They also may not have the same guilt, or perception of illegality. 

All this adds up to lower incidents of messing around and also fewer discretion issues for non-sex use workers.

That aside I found giving my exact door out once in sight eliminated getting lost, and those who blocked my diary without attending. This was win win for genuine punters who wanted to see me, as well as myself. If any other trades people experience similar issues, perhaps they might think about using a similar technique? 

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On ‎21‎/‎02‎/‎2016 at 2:12 PM, garifto said:

Why do escorts wait till you are nearly there before giving you the address or flat number?

I know sometimes it's because they might want you to be standing at a particular location when you call, so that they can take a look at you.. 

But sometimes i've just been on the way.. driving on a main road and i've called said i'm 5min away or i've been a few roads away, and they have sent the address.

And one girl I know said I should call her for her flat number, she perhaps didn't even want to text me it, only to tell me it by voice when I arrived on the road

Moaning aside, it DOES make you wonder how people managed before the era of mobile phones, pagers etc. especially as they've only really been prevalent in the past 20-30 years... and this is supposedly the 2nd oldest trade in existence (only farming is older lol)

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It's mostly been addressed by the girls above? I ask that they phone when at the post code for verbal directions to the door, firstly to ascertain they are there by giving the land mark they are by, the directions to my door although not complicated are long winded and would take ages to text. 

 

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10 hours ago, DirtyGit said:

Moaning aside, it DOES make you wonder how people managed before the era of mobile phones, pagers etc. especially as they've only really been prevalent in the past 20-30 years... and this is supposedly the 2nd oldest trade in existence (only farming is older lol)

I'm sure that it was a pain in the neck back then, folk using payphones etc. I do agree there is over reliance, however I'm going to use all the tools available to assist me in running my business, and my life in general.

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Already well explained but in my very humble opinion and experience it's well more easier if the escort or the agency adapt to the location of the meeting.

A street name and postcode are enough but when you have a half mile long road it's nice to know also the closest intersection but also maybe which side of the road to be on... ;) 

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5 hours ago, Tekonderoga said:

Already well explained but in my very humble opinion and experience it's well more easier if the escort or the agency adapt to the location of the meeting.

A street name and postcode are enough but when you have a half mile long road it's nice to know also the closest intersection but also maybe which side of the road to be on... ;) 

I give the intersection or tell them the best place to park. 

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40 minutes ago, CC57 said:

I give the intersection or tell them the best place to park. 

By experience not all Escorts or Agencies are like you... ;)

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19 minutes ago, Tekonderoga said:

By experience not all Escorts or Agencies are like you... ;)

I used to give a postcode and description of the best place to park, which was anonymous and not linked to the incall place at all, plus step by step to a landmark within sight. The client could of course park elsewhere (but as I say the place suggested wasn't linked or visible), and walk back to link into these directions.

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