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Do Mistresses offer standard services

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just had a general query about mistresses and if many of them offer standard or what they may consider vanilla services? 

I presume they may find these services mundane or boaring? 

 

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Vanilla type services are rarely offered by Mistresses. Some may allow the sub to relieve himself whilst others may offer hand or mechanical relief.

See agencies offer what they describe as mistresses, these are usually offering fetish type services, where full vanilla is on the agenda. They would not be regarded as mistresses by the majority of the BDSM community.

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It really depends. I think a large majority of 'mistresses' or heavy Pro-Domme types do not offer vanilla or sexual services, but not all are like there. There are some, like myself and the lovely Kinky Alex who thoroughly enjoy and are experienced in offering domination but also enjoy introducing more intimate acts into it! There are definitely others like us as well, you just have to look around a bit! :)

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Some do, some dont, some advertise they dont but do, some advertise they do but its limited, some do mix up sessions. Some do gfe sessions separately from the domination. Basically, everyone is different. I offer domination, a mix of domination and sexual services, gfe with a bit of domme thrown in or GFE, kink, roleplay, fetish, anything thats fun, it all depends how far you want to go with it all and what you like. There are plenty of us around if you just look. If you mean the hardcore dominatrix set ups then you would have to ask them as they often advertise that they dont but you  may get a different answer if you call and ask

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3 hours ago, tugg said:

Vanilla type services are rarely offered by Mistresses. Some may allow the sub to relieve himself whilst others may offer hand or mechanical relief.

See agencies offer what they describe as mistresses, these are usually offering fetish type services, where full vanilla is on the agenda. They would not be regarded as mistresses by the majority of the BDSM community.

What the BDSM community regards as a mistress though is irrelevent, they do their thing, we do ours. Its virtually unheard of for a dominant Master NOT to have some sort of sexual interactions with their subs, I dont see what the difference is for women other than self imposed rules. Rules are for breaking, nothing wrong with a mistress using a sub for her own sexual gratification and dont think for a minute it doesnt go on left right and all over the place, forced pussy worship is a sexual service for eg. What people say goes on and what really goes on are often different behind closed doors B)

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6 hours ago, Burnside said:

Hi 

just had a general query about mistresses and if many of them offer standard or what they may consider vanilla services? 

I presume they may find these services mundane or boaring? 

 

Not sure why it matters one way or the other, a Mistress is being paid for a service you may want, she can say yes or no. However if you want what you consider a vanilla service why not just book and fuck a vanilla sex worker or for whatever you want and is agreed between the 2 of you. Not really clear why you want a vanilla session with a Mistress who is advertising BDSM. Even though to me at times the sex worker is not really a BDSM Mistress, just a more money per hour sex worker for dominating you and others, without sexual service but in the paid for sex arena most likely most would for the right price. Communicate with them and find out is all the advice I could give you. But a vanilla time you want go and see a vanilla sex worker would be less complicated!

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I would say it's mixed a few do offer it and some don't, a lot of mistresses cater for the more niche service and some cater for all. The only way you're going to find out is by asking one really! 

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The reason I asked was if work takes me to an area and I'm interested in arranging an appointment with a lady, I usually do searches etc and work out who might be available in that vicinity. 

However, I often find mistresses who fit the bill for the type of lady I'm attracted to but as I'm looking for more of a GFE I rule them out and it struck me that perhaps some may offer both types of service. 

Thanks for clearing this up. 

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14 hours ago, Chloe Kisses said:

What the BDSM community regards as a mistress though is irrelevent, they do their thing, we do ours. Its virtually unheard of for a dominant Master NOT to have some sort of sexual interactions with their subs, I dont see what the difference is for women other than self imposed rules. Rules are for breaking, nothing wrong with a mistress using a sub for her own sexual gratification and dont think for a minute it doesnt go on left right and all over the place, forced pussy worship is a sexual service for eg. What people say goes on and what really goes on are often different behind closed doors B)

I totally agree with Chloe. There's a huge spectrum in the BDSM community, and we're part of it if we offer fetish services, role play like 'lady boss/male employee', school mistress fantasies, corporal punishment etc. The extreme domme end of the scale insists it's somehow demeaning for a woman to allow herself to get f****d, but I don't see it that way. If I have a willing sex toy tied to the bed post, spread eagled and with a servicable erection, I feel perfectly justified to have my fun with it without feeling I've devalued my dominance.

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19 hours ago, Chloe Kisses said:

What the BDSM community regards as a mistress though is irrelevent, they do their thing, we do ours. Its virtually unheard of for a dominant Master NOT to have some sort of sexual interactions with their subs, I dont see what the difference is for women other than self imposed rules. Rules are for breaking, nothing wrong with a mistress using a sub for her own sexual gratification and dont think for a minute it doesnt go on left right and all over the place, forced pussy worship is a sexual service for eg. What people say goes on and what really goes on are often different behind closed doors B)

Chloe  Totally agree with you. I was simply trying to outline the various answers to his question

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And here's naive old me thinking that Mistresses didn't offer services, but issued instructions.

However, I may be confusing Mistresses with Wives.

 

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If a Domme lady doesn't pleasure her client, how does the session usually end? With an orgasm, there is a natural finish, but without that, what happens?

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1 hour ago, greensd said:

If a Domme lady doesn't pleasure her client, how does the session usually end? With an orgasm, there is a natural finish, but without that, what happens?

 

I'm guessing she uses a safe-word or a signal to bring things to a close.......then offers to put the kettle on

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23 hours ago, Gaz up North said:
On 2 March 2016 at 4:05 PM, greensd said:

If a Domme lady doesn't pleasure her client, how does the session usually end? With an orgasm, there is a natural finish, but without that, what happens?

 

Quite often by ordering the sub to kneel before her and thank her for the session

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On 25/02/2016 at 10:43 PM, Sylver said:

Not sure why it matters one way or the other, a Mistress is being paid for a service you may want, she can say yes or no. However if you want what you consider a vanilla service why not just book and fuck a vanilla sex worker or for whatever you want and is agreed between the 2 of you. Not really clear why you want a vanilla session with a Mistress who is advertising BDSM. Even though to me at times the sex worker is not really a BDSM Mistress, just a more money per hour sex worker for dominating you and others, without sexual service but in the paid for sex arena most likely most would for the right price. Communicate with them and find out is all the advice I could give you. But a vanilla time you want go and see a vanilla sex worker would be less complicated!

Well any mistress that charges then must be no more to you than a money per hour mistress. No difference, its all paid for and its all for sexual gratification one way or the other, wether someone likes getting off there and then or later thinking about it or if their sexual orientation lies in being denied sexual pleasure. It will be a rare sub who visits a mistress who doesnt have a hard on throughout most of the booking regardless of wether that mistress touches the hard on or not, what she is doing to the sub is still causing sexual pleasure for them, sure, they dont get the release with some mistresses but the pleasure itself is still gained. If you only regard a mistress as someone who doesnt charge then its not relevent to this discussion as its about paid for services on here remember

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On 02/03/2016 at 4:05 PM, greensd said:

If a Domme lady doesn't pleasure her client, how does the session usually end? With an orgasm, there is a natural finish, but without that, what happens?

Some sessions end with the sub being allowed to pleasure himself, some end within him being sent home with a hard on. Of course you have to remember that anyone who offers forced cum eating sessions must by default be allowing her sub to cum during the session unless she is saving other guys spunk up, in which case they must be, she must be getting it from somewhere. Not all offer this but a lot do

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On 26/02/2016 at 6:41 PM, pabulum said:

And here's naive old me thinking that Mistresses didn't offer services, but issued instructions.

However, I may be confusing Mistresses with Wives.

 

lol

 

The spectrum is so huge and the fantasies of the men visiting so infinite. You cant really  pin down exact parameters. For example, a pro domme to some is someone who does this professionaly, ie charges for it, to others a pro domme is someone who would NEVER charge for it as its a lifestyle choice. So, who is to decide who is right and wrong, I would say no one, each to their own, different communities mean different rules

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I regularly visit a mistress. She clearly states on her profile that she doesn't offer any sexual services but sometimes rides me at the end of the session. I am there after all to serve her and if she feels like being fucked she will use me in that way. On the flipside though she sometimes sends me away with a raging hard on and I have to finish the job when I get home

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On 5/3/2016 at 2:25 PM, Chloe Kisses said:

Some sessions end with the sub being allowed to pleasure himself, some end within him being sent home with a hard on. Of course you have to remember that anyone who offers forced cum eating sessions must by default be allowing her sub to cum during the session unless she is saving other guys spunk up, in which case they must be, she must be getting it from somewhere. Not all offer this but a lot do

Well, everyone else has taken this post in their stride, so it must be just me who read it and thought "Blimey!"

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Join me in temporary voluntary blindness ;)

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On 3/2/2016 at 4:05 PM, greensd said:

If a Domme lady doesn't pleasure her client, how does the session usually end? With an orgasm, there is a natural finish, but without that, what happens?

Some clients don't want a finish, their pleasure is being controlled and dominated by the mistress who will decide what direction the session will follow subject to the initial consultation on their needs. A client may have a fantasy of recieving a sexual service from a Mistress, I may even as the session progresses give the impression that I will but after an hour the client will be doing excactly what I say with out any release from me, Slaves begging me to release them is a turn on for me, its a huge thrill, but sometimes the ultimate thrill is getting the client so work up and then commanding him to pleasure himself just before he gets told to leave.

It takes years to learn the dark arts, but what a buzz!

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The first Mistress I saw offered 'ordinary' sexual services, I actually went to see her and ended up taking turns with her with another guy, the second time I went I fucked her whilst being watched by a couple of her clients (I was younger and prettier then!).  Having been drawn into her well equipped premises the next thing was experimentation and I still enjoy the occasion trip to a mistress although most commonly you only get to cum after 'special' permission and if you jerk yourself off.  Still variety is the spice...

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I consider myself a professional Domme (not a fetish escort) and I host in a professional dungeon but allow either Hand Job, cbj, or sex at the end. It's not the majority of the service (the BDSM is but for me the hj, bj, or sex is the ending). So 45-50 minutes pure BDSM, no escorting of any kind, that's a rule (and most guys are more there for the BDSM anyway) then the last 10 mins or so, their choice of ending. Does that makes sense? Although most people who consider themselves Pro-Dommes wouldn't allow sex, and would probably think less of me for doing so. Not my problem, I like how I do business. But no pushing my rules on only the sex acts at the end. I'm not a Kinky GFE or a fetish escort.  :)

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On 26 February 2016 at 6:41 PM, pabulum said:

And here's naive old me thinking that Mistresses didn't offer services, but issued instructions.

However, I may be confusing Mistresses with Wives.

 

If someone calls a mistress and says all he wants is a good sound thrashing and he pays her then that's a service is it not

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