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Married punters - what have you tried to revive the sex in your marriage?

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I understand a lot of punters are married men who have lost the sex in their marriage. I'm wondering about the reasons why the sex has disappeared, and what they have tried to do to revive it. So, are you a married punter? Do you visit WGs because the sex in your marriage has disappeared? What have you done (both you and your partner) to try to revive it?

Have you tried therapy?

p.s. I did a quick search for "married" and "marriage" on here but thought this was a slightly more fresh topic for discussion

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Have you tried therapy?

If visiting escorts counts as therapy, then it's a "yes" from me.

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This is a guess... but as you are asking deeply personal questions and expecting people to be open... you might get a better reaction by divulging your own relevant personal experiences.

Or... if you have none... explaining why you're asking.

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I understand a lot of punters are married men who have lost the sex in their marriage. I'm wondering about the reasons why the sex has disappeared, and what they have tried to do to revive it. So, are you a married punter? Do you visit WGs because the sex in your marriage has disappeared? What have you done (both you and your partner) to try to revive it?

Have you tried therapy?

p.s. I did a quick search for "married" and "marriage" on here but thought this was a slightly more fresh topic for discussion

reviving the sex life ? ok- sounds like a good idea. think I should start by introducing some deep- throating, tea bagging, anal, cim or facials followed quickly by a spot of watersports on the mother-in- laws bed . that should get things going. ! :D

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This is a guess... but as you are asking deeply personal questions and expecting people to be open... you might get a better reaction by divulging your own relevant personal experiences.

Or... if you have none... explaining why you're asking.

Good tip:

I'm not married, or in a long-term relationship. I'm asking because I'm interested in whether it's possible to see what girls are likely to lose interest in sex. Mainly I'm interested in whether it's a problem that can be worked out (so that you can both enjoy sex with each other).

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You could have a look at any 'problems pages' of any decent tabloid (sic). They are full of stories of marriages where the sex reduces or stops, generally leading to affairs, one night stands or more normally (sic again) bedding the mother in law!

Maybe I don't want to revive the sex in my marriage?

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reviving the sex life ? ok- sounds like a good idea. think I should start by introducing some deep- throating, tea bagging, anal, cim or facials followed quickly by a spot of watersports on the mother-in- laws bed . that should get things going. ! :D

I bet most wifes do not offer deep, anal, CIM, swllow or facials......

Thats my reason going for WGs instead.....

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I bet most wifes do not offer deep, anal, CIM, swllow or facials......

Thats my reason going for WGs instead.....

I've had quite a few flings where we've done all of the above.

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The married couple are facing some problems.

The man stops courting behaviour

He reduces foreplay

Does not make sure she has as many orgasms as he does.

He pays less attention to his wife and puts more effort into his own pleasures, sports, TV, porno, whoring, other women etc.

The woman has kids and spends most of her time with them

Her biological clock is satisfied; why bother to have more sex with the guy above?

Increased age, reduced foreplay, lost libido, less sex = out of practise pussy = painful or irritating sex.

Have a new man pay attention to her, court her, make her feel loved and hey presto you may well have a sexual dynamo on hand. My GF is a 60yr old married girl, she bounds up two flights of stairs to my flat with a big smile on her face after a sexless marriage, having driven a long way to get here. And she will put many a WG to shame with her activities. Very early on I informed her pussy that I was going to make sure that she had a good time and now just climbing the stairs pussy gets wet.

I'm afraid its very difficult to reverse all the negative input over 20-30 years of marriage. Only a new man will do.

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I am married and my reasons are simple, (some may not agree)

I have a great wife who i love lots and we do have a good sex life, but i am over the mind that while sex with her is great i have this urge to have sex with other women, different experiences new things etc.

I have found that when i explained this to her she fully supported this and we started to try swinging, unfortunatly kids, questions baby sitters etc normally become a problem, which is where she suggested WG.

This way she felt firstly i was not going to run off and have an affair and secondly she knew where i was and what i was doing was going to be in a safe enviroment ie condoms etc.

I am allowed one lady a month and nine times out of ten she chooses for me. She finds it quite a turn on

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What a honey, I do hope you take the time to pleasure her too, I'm sure you do!

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I bet most wifes do not offer deep, anal, CIM, swllow or facials......

Thats my reason going for WGs instead.....

I bet most escort don't offer those services

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Weekends away seem to work best for me.

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her indoors is no longer physically capable due to illness.

next question.

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Weekends away seem to work best for me.

I've found those can be a bitter disappointment; there's all the pressure that you should be having a great time, and you end up just missing the kids :)

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her indoors is no longer physically capable due to illness.

next question.

Same story here Pierrot. Over the last few years the only intimacy I have had has been booked and paid for. I got quite down about it before I started punting but the occasional encounter gives me something to look forward to.

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I've found those can be a bitter disappointment; there's all the pressure that you should be having a great time, and you end up just missing the kids :)

sounds like you might have more problems than your sex life mate-- shouldnt really be like that. :)

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I've found those can be a bitter disappointment; there's all the pressure that you should be having a great time, and you end up just missing the kids :)

I think the trick is to not make it just a weekend set aside for bonking which would inevitably create a pressure, but something like a city-break where you have a mini-holiday together, a bit of sightseeing, a couple of good meals, a nice hotel, and the opportunity for a bit of passion with no distractions.

It's precisely getting away from those distractions, the kids, work, housework and all the daily hassles that grind you down, and rekindling those good old carefree pre-kids days. Remembering why you got together in the first place.

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But if the OH is only interested in a mish quicky? Happy to oblige now & again, but having a very high drive leaves me wanting the "works".

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All sorts to be honest...

Lingerie, clothes, Massage books!

When we have sex, it ranges from average to good, though I wish she would become more liberal (ie kinky in her outlook)

But she changed profession which seems to require more hours which doesn't help.

Also, my problems with erections as a result of chicken pox a few years ago. Several times, she sees my flaccid penis she loses interest...

But seeing the odd quality escort has helped to pleasure her (and reading erotica) as I have gained ideas in both how to kiss, how to lick etc.

Bootlover

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It's precisely getting away from those distractions, the kids, work, housework and all the daily hassles that grind you down, and rekindling those good old carefree pre-kids days. Remembering why you got together in the first place.

The sad thing is, the pre-kids days weren't always that great either :)

I know perfectly well that domestic drudgery, especially when kids are involved, are an absolute passion-killer. I try and do my bit around the house and with looking after the children - if you don't, then you really have only yourself to blame if your mrs is too tired or not in the mood for sex.

However, when you go away on holiday to a nice location, no routines, all relaxed, eating out so little washing-up, no laundry etc.etc. and still you are going night after night with no intimate contact, then really you just have to conclude that she's just not bothered any more.

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The sad thing is, the pre-kids days weren't always that great either :)

I know perfectly well that domestic drudgery, especially when kids are involved, are an absolute passion-killer. I try and do my bit around the house and with looking after the children - if you don't, then you really have only yourself to blame if your mrs is too tired or not in the mood for sex.

However, when you go away on holiday to a nice location, no routines, all relaxed, eating out so little washing-up, no laundry etc.etc. and still you are going night after night with no intimate contact, then really you just have to conclude that she's just not bothered any more.

Been there done that. In the early days a small present, some flowers, a box of chocs would be enough to bring a smile or show your appreciation. As things move on the stakes become bigger and like you say when you find that even expensive holidays and the like don't cut it and whatever you do isn't going to change her then it's maybe time to move on.

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think I should start by introducing some deep- throating, tea bagging, anal

excuse my ignorance but what is tea bagging ?

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excuse my ignorance but what is tea bagging ?

Dunking your scrotum in the lady's mouth.

Like this, however I don't quite know why he is wearing a condom.

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