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What do you Ladies do when you get bored with a regular client?

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There must be times when an escort gets bored with a regular client she has been seeing for some time. Perhaps he goes through the same old routine when she would like to do something say more adventurous. Does she tell him to "hit the road Jack & don't come back no more" or does she simply say something like "don't you think it is time for us both to move on"? Or does she simply grin and bear it?. I would be pleased to hear what you Ladies do under these circumstances. I expect that most of you have been faced with this problem at one time or the other even if it involves losing a fairly regular income.

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Sometimes when someone's been to see me a few times I get ideas for future sessions with them, but it's more that I start to get to know them and it makes me think they'd like this or that. I can only really imagine getting truly bored if there was no rapport at all and the person wanted to do literally the same thing every time ... which hasn't ever happened for me. I did once have someone who wanted to do exactly the same role play every time, but he only visited once every few months (and it was a hot role play, in all honesty, I don't think I'd have gotten tired of it very quickly.)

 

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I don't necessarily "get bored" of a regular. It's my job to service my clients and if they want the same thing each and every time they see me that is their choice since they are paying.

They aren't my fuck buddy or my boyfriend so I don't need to worry about if they want the same thing every time they book me, of course the same booking will get tedious, but it doesn't bother me much, I'm paid to fulfill their fantasy and if that's the same sex in the same position every week then so be it. 

However I have stopped seeing several clients for various other reasons from boundary pushing to  the client getting more difficult over time, hard to talk to, or the booking just being plain awkward. If they try to book me again I simply say "I'm sorry but I don't think I'm the suitable escort for you anymore, but I wish you great fun in whoever you choose to book next!" a few times they have got abusive and think because I'm an escort that I don't have the right to refuse anybody a booking, ones like that get blocked.

I stopped seeing a regular who saw me every week for two years because he kept initiating bareback, our last few bookings he would ask or hint at it constantly. He saw me once a week for two hours (£200), no amount of money will make me put up with an awkward or difficult clients! :)

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You're absolutely right TWE to do as you have done. If for a moment you don't feel totally happy with a client then say NO.

You potentially save them a prison sentence.

They should be grateful

Uncle Pokey

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I don't get bored with regulars, and have seen some for 5 years and many more!

There may be things which become a problem, in which case I'd raise it with them and we work it out one way or the other.

Regards income there's always a new enquiry, and person(s) who may be just as pleasant. Chosing to stopping seeing someone hasn't ever for me meant a reduction in income.

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Very interesting posts by TYE & Strawberry. Slightly off topic I know but do you find from time to time that a regular you see on numerous occasions starts to get obsessed with you? If you do how do you cope with that sort of situation? I like to be on good terms with escorts I see on a regular basis because I find it makes my visits to them so very much more enjoyable. Do you Ladies feel the same? Unfortunately some escorts seem to  confuse friendliness with obsession which is I think, a great pity.

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Old Jack 

 

No most clients are able to be friendly without over stepping boundaries, or making me feel uncomfortable. It's rare a regular client would become overbearing. I think it's happened twice to me, both times the client was pushing me over a long period of time to provide more and more. A friend doesn't push or demand. 

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4 hours ago, Uncle Pokey said:

You're absolutely right TWE to do as you have done. If for a moment you don't feel totally happy with a client then say NO.

You potentially save them a prison sentence.

They should be grateful

Uncle Pokey

Explain please?

But back to the OP - I often get bored at work, but it's my job and so I either get on with it or look elsewhere.

If I was earning +/- 150/hour, I think that I would get on with it! 

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43 minutes ago, Siamese Tomcat said:

Explain please? 

I think the point Uncle Pokey was trying to make is that making someone do anything sexual they don't want to do (whether you're paying them or otherwise)  is technically sexual assault (possibly rape depending on what it is). Please remember that anyone has the right to withdraw consent at any point and if they continue after that then it is rape / sexual assault (The Sexual Offences Act (2003)).

43 minutes ago, Siamese Tomcat said:

But back to the OP - I often get bored at work, but it's my job and so I either get on with it or look elsewhere.

If I was earning +/- 150/hour, I think that I would get on with it! 

Although you make a fair point, I don't think you can really compare escorting with any other job. TYE has pointed out earlier on that some clients will overstep the mark and you can't put a price on your health.

Also, you'd have to consider the reasons why the girl got into escorting in the first place.... there's a huge difference to the young girl who wants to live out her sexual fantasies with the rich and famous and the single mum who feels this is the only way she can provide for her kids.

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I really like seeing regular clients as you can start where you left off and both know what the other likes and dislikes. That is also the best time to see if either of us want to do new things or try something perhaps not brave enough to on an initial first meet.

I have had clients who were hard work but continued to book me, mainly hard work because they just couldn't get the hygiene thing and I kept having to ask. I won't compromise on that and sometimes it gets very tedious having to say "yes, the full body has to be showered regardless of the fact you showered last hours ago" in fairness this is very rare.

I did have one client who used to answer everything I asked with "what do you think?" which got highly tedious but apart from that I liked him. None of us are perfect.

I recently had to ask a couple of clients not to contact me again. One started trying to get more and more from me but always complained he couldn't afford it and the other was a fall out when I decided to tackle the body odour thing for once and for all and he took a massive huff and almost suggested he was paying me so should get laid regardless. Needless to say we parted company.

I like the familiarity that some regular clients bring. Life is so uncertain at the best of times. It's nice to know there's some constant. It's also great when someone you know really well throws you a curveball and suddenly tells you something he's been up to or wants to do with you. You just truly never know someone! 

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55 minutes ago, DirtyGit said:

I think the point Uncle Pokey was trying to make is that making someone do anything sexual they don't want to do (whether you're paying them or otherwise)  is technically sexual assault (possibly rape depending on what it is). Please remember that anyone has the right to withdraw consent at any point and if they continue after that then it is rape / sexual assault (The Sexual Offences Act (2003)).

Although you make a fair point, I don't think you can really compare escorting with any other job. TYE has pointed out earlier on that some clients will overstep the mark and you can't put a price on your health.

Also, you'd have to consider the reasons why the girl got into escorting in the first place.... there's a huge difference to the young girl who wants to live out her sexual fantasies with the rich and famous and the single mum who feels this is the only way she can provide for her kids.

Absolutely. 

"Putting up with it" is fine when the client is harmless but maybe a tad annoying or awkward. What I won't put up with for any amount of money is abusive clients, whether that be ones who call you names, physically assault you or try to force bareback on you when you've categorically said no. 

I dont "put up" with anything, to be honest. I do what I enjoy, and am happy to do. My body my choice. I provide all services I advertise and make sure my clients are happy.

"Boring clients" who want the same thing each booking are totally fine I don't see anything wrong with a client wanting the same thing every booking, it's our job to give them the services they want (within our likes list) so as I said, if he wants the same position every single booking, he will have it! :)

In regards to your obsessed comment Jack, most clients are lovely respectable men who understand it's a business transaction and I'm there to give him the fantasy whether that is GFE/PSE or anything else. However, there have been a handful of clients who have become "obsessed" one I've spoken about many times who stalked me for over a year, another who "fell in love" and begged me to move in! I can tell the difference between friendliness and obsession. There's also some clients, especially a few of my older ones who are slightly over friendly but in a very harmless way. 

I have a client in his late 60s who's a little over friendly but it's not annoying or scary, it just makes me feel for him as he mentioned he's lonely and he doesn't have much family and his "fun" is seeing us escorts. That to me is harmless but if he did ever over step the mark, his number would be blocked, and he would be blocked on AW and never seen again. X

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Jack 

 

You've alluded to some of this in past threads. Are you having some difficulties with someone you are seeing? 

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As many have said - clients are not friends or lovers - hookers get paid money to spend time with guys who want a service.

 

 

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9 hours ago, oldjack said:

Very interesting posts by TYE & Strawberry. Slightly off topic I know but do you find from time to time that a regular you see on numerous occasions starts to get obsessed with you? If you do how do you cope with that sort of situation? I like to be on good terms with escorts I see on a regular basis because I find it makes my visits to them so very much more enjoyable. Do you Ladies feel the same? Unfortunately some escorts seem to  confuse friendliness with obsession which is I think, a great pity.

Could you please describe not being on good terms? 

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I think others have answered perfectly as to the point I was trying to make. (Sometimes my subtlety is opaque)

I have a trio of ladies I call my regulars but if you ask them they would probably say that I'm more of a 'returner' since I don't visit any of them more that three times a year and prefer to allow myself opportunities to visit others - variety being the spice ... and all that. Plus I only get to punt once a month creeping under Auntie's radar.

Uncle Pokey

 

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7 hours ago, Strawberry said:

Jack 

 

You've alluded to some of this in past threads. Are you having some difficulties with someone you are seeing? 

Not at all.I am currently seeing  a lovely mature Lady. We both recognise that, whilst we are good friends, it obviously won't go further than that. She has a working flat where I saw her for the first time and, if she feels happy with a client, she invites them to see her at her private home. She is very choosey as to who she sees and I have now seen her several times at her private home. She is a delightful Lady & really good company. As you can guess from my name I am an old guy & feel very relaxed in her company. You may recall from one of my earlier threads that I did have an issue with another escort who "dumped" me for no good reason & left a disgraceful blog on her profile stating all sorts of awful lies about me but naming me by implication only. After much effort on my part I persuaded A.W. that I was the person to whom she referred & they have now deleted her blog from her profile. I would mention here that I am a retired Lawyer & was able to quote the law of Defamation which helped my case; others without my legal knowledge would probably find it more difficult. Before A.W. did so I informed my current escort of this & indeed invited her to read the offending blog. I did so because I wanted to be completely honest with her. I didn't want her to learn of this by reading the profile of the escort who had done the blog. When the blog was deleted by A.W. I informed her (as well as numerous other escorts who had supported me). She was highly delighted & we had a mini celebration at her home shortly afterwards.

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AW have a rule that blogs and feedback aren't to be used as a way to send messages, or slag members off. 

 

I was surprised at the support provided, because the lady who blogged about you, and who you then referred to in a field report for another SP is a bareback provider, but that shows my misunderstanding of those Escorts views. 

 

 

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5 hours ago, Strawberry said:

Could you please describe not being on good terms? 

Difficult question to answer Strawberry. I find it easier to state what I consider to be on good terms. I like an escort who is cheerful, welcoming &, above all, honest. Looks aren't all that important to me (nice of course if she is attractive). Someone that I can always give a gift without thinking that I want extra favours. With my present lovely escort I am happy to send her flowers as a "thank you". For example, when I saw her recently she made ma a cup of tea and gave me two of her home made cup cakes after our meeting even though it was after my allotted time. We are completely open & honest with each other to the point that, although I always give her the fee in an envelope immediately I arrive, I often notice that she has not bothered to check the contents of the envelope when I leave. (she says it is not necessary) I have to tell her, in a joking way of course, that I am not leaving until she checks what is in the envelope. All this makes for a very pleasant encounter for the two of us.

 

 

 

 

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23 minutes ago, Strawberry said:

AW have a rule that blogs and feedback aren't to be used as a way to send messages, or slag members off. 

 

I was surprised at the support provided, because the lady who blogged about you, and who you then referred to in a field report for another SP is a bareback provider, but that shows my misunderstanding of those Escorts views. 

Just because she provides bare back services as an extra (£80) it doesn't mean that every punter avails himself of this. When the escort you refer to decided to "give me the elbow" I attended my nearest gum clinic for a test B E F O R E I saw another escort just in case. The test proved negative.

 

 

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Sounds pretty normal to me, however regulars don't have a problem or feel I'm less friendly on the occasions I do check the envelope. They say they'd rather I checked than make a mistake that they'd then feel bad about - and that has happened to a few. 

Also I have clients who do not wish to stay for a drink outside of time, or who i don't wish to overstay and that has nothing to do with being on good or bad terms and they don't read anything into it either. 

To me actually leaving on time, without needing anything extra can be a sign someone does care, much more so than someone who looks for things that prove they are somehow special. 

Some of the very best clients in terms of trust and feeling comfy with never stayed outside their time, always paid for the time booked didn't bring presents. I don't need presents to know I'm on good terms. I just feel it. 

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2 minutes ago, oldjack said:

 

That would be my view too, however quite a few ladies post on forums saying they'd not see anyone who had seen such a provider, and would go get tested on the basis of contact with that man. 

Interesting to see different views, like I said it showed what I'd seen was only the approach of a few SPs. 

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11 minutes ago, Strawberry said:

That would be my view too, however quite a few ladies post on forums saying they'd not see anyone who had seen such a provider, and would go get tested on the basis of contact with that man. 

Interesting to see different views, like I said it showed what I'd seen was only the approach of a few SPs. 

I certainly wouldn't see someone who openly saw an escort who does bareback. I know most people bareback someone in their life, but I wouldn't risk it if it was right there in the feedback/profile.

I provide OWO as well so it would be never in a lifetime would I knowingly book a client who sees escorts who do that. 

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16 hours ago, oldjack said:

Very interesting posts by TYE & Strawberry. Slightly off topic I know but do you find from time to time that a regular you see on numerous occasions starts to get obsessed with you? If you do how do you cope with that sort of situation? I like to be on good terms with escorts I see on a regular basis because I find it makes my visits to them so very much more enjoyable. Do you Ladies feel the same? Unfortunately some escorts seem to  confuse friendliness with obsession which is I think, a great pity.

There is a difference. Being on good terms looks like sharing information about your lives and interests in a way that's respectful and doesn't put anybody on the spot or make them uncomfortable. It's hard to explain precisely, but I think it's an attitude. Say you're travelling to meet a client - it's the difference between someone who would send you money to book your own ticket because they anticipate that you'll want to keep your passport details to yourself, and someone who says "Well, I suppose you'll have to send me your real name now!" The first client's friendliness will never worry me, and I'll feel much more like I can let down my guard and enjoy myself, because the thoughtfulness and respect is there. 

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1 hour ago, Strawberry said:

Sounds pretty normal to me, however regulars don't have a problem or feel I'm less friendly on the occasions I do check the envelope. They say they'd rather I checked than make a mistake that they'd then feel bad about - and that has happened to a few. 

Also I have clients who do not wish to stay for a drink outside of time, or who i don't wish to overstay and that has nothing to do with being on good or bad terms and they don't read anything into it either. 

To me actually leaving on time, without needing anything extra can be a sign someone does care, much more so than someone who looks for things that prove they are somehow special. 

Some of the very best clients in terms of trust and feeling comfy with never stayed outside their time, always paid for the time booked didn't bring presents. I don't need presents to know I'm on good terms. I just feel it. 

I think you might have missed my point Strawberry.I don't mind in the least if my escort wants to check the envelope to see that the cash is correct. I am quite happy if my escort wants me to leave on time & I don't mind if I am not invited to stay for a drink. However, my current lovely Lady insists that I stay & likes me to join her for a drink and chat before I go(we never run out of things to talkabout although I always respect her privacy) and NEVER, after our first meeting, wants to check the envelope. She tells me that she has developed a "gut feeling" about the clients she meets. In my opinion it is all down to an escort's ATTITUDE & hers is simply great. By the time I get back home I always get a text thanking me & looking forward to our next meeting and obviously I text her back thanking her. All of this leads to a very enjoyable encounter, hopefully for both of us. I try to get to see her twice a month if I possibly can. If I can't I sometimes arrange for flowers to be delivered to her home; something I know she adores. We agree that, hopefully, we will always be good friends but nothing more. Yes, I am very fortunate & I know it.

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5 minutes ago, oldjack said:

I think you might have missed my point Strawberry.I don't mind in the least if my escort wants to check the envelope to see that the cash is correct. I am quite happy if my escort wants me to leave on time & I don't mind if I am not invited to stay for a drink. However, my current lovely Lady insists that I stay & likes me to join her for a drink and chat before I go(we never run out of things to talkabout although I always respect her privacy) and NEVER, after our first meeting, wants to check the envelope. She tells me that she has developed a "gut feeling" about the clients she meets. In my opinion it is all down to an escort's ATTITUDE & hers is simply great. By the time I get back home I always get a text thanking me & looking forward to our next meeting and obviously I text her back thanking her. All of this leads to a very enjoyable encounter, hopefully for both of us. I try to get to see her twice a month if I possibly can. If I can't I sometimes arrange for flowers to be delivered to her home; something I know she adores. We agree that, hopefully, we will always be good friends but nothing more. Yes, I am very fortunate & I know it.

Is this going to be another thread where you tell us about all the free extra time and off the clock meets you get?

Many clients get the same treatment it's no big deal and there really is no need to constantly disclose how "your" escort insists you stay. 

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