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I should probably start by saying I'm 20 years old, have never been in a relationship with anyone and a virgin. I've been looking at hiring an escort for a while now, and have become more serious about it the past few days. I've mainly been looking at Vivastreet independent girls.

I guess I want to know if it's a good idea to even consider doing this seeing as I've never actually had a girlfriend. Also, how would I find out if an independent girl is real, safe and not a scam artist? I know there's reverse image searches... But if they don't show up on those?

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Where are you and do you have any preferences about the type of lady?

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First of all, my first sexual partner was an escort and it didn't do me any harm but I think each individual has to decide for himself.

I am interested you already use the term independent, showing you are learning about the distinction between escorts who work on their own and those who work in parlours or houses/flats with a group of escorts in them.

Personally I would think about going to a local parlour if there is one and see a lady with good reviews on here or other review sites (Adultwork feedback is thought to contain a lot of unreliable responses from pimps etc).

But an independent with several positive reviews, that you are attracted to by the pics and text, that is within your budget can be an excellent first punt too.

But I repeat, I do not believe someone else can usefully tell you what your first sexual encounter should be.

Best wishes

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I'm based in SE London. Not really any preferences, a part from the obvious needed attraction.

 

That's interesting. I've found the topic of escorting to be taboo of sorts.. I'd never thought I would consider it. Why does it interest you that I know the difference? I like to research things before I make any kind of decision. Usually. How would I go about finding a 'local' parlour? I don't want to spend upwards of £100 for 30 minutes to be honest. I'm still not sure about the whole thing, but I'll come to a decision eventually. Thank you.

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It is just helpful for responders to be aware how unversed or how clued up you are on the scene,

If a parlour seems a good idea - or to find out about them initially - look at Punternet reviews on this site - you can search for your area although I am not sure how you would do that for south east London. But while just London would give you a lot of results, some not local, it would also let you see what appears to go on in different sorts of bookings (different because different escorts, different punters, different services supplied by those escorts with extra costs or not etc.

£100 for 30 minutes seems quite high to me and in my experience at least you should be able to find a good escort in a parlour for about £60. The reviews give the cost to match up with the activities the punter describes.

It's fair enough Dave451 asks about type but to me it would not really matter too much other than avoiding features you would find off putting. My first was a large, 40s-something black lady, in all respects a type I had never encountered in my life (this was many decades ago). There was nothing to dislike about her so it enriched the experience.

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Oh, no that's perfectly reasonable. A parlour would probably be safer too, right?

If I have this correct, I need to search via the reviews section of the main site. Doing so now. I think I'd prefer to not have to travel an hour or more honestly. Would going independent be a bad idea for now? I seem to be able to find many more independent people who are a lot closer to me than many parlours are. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places? I've found a couple I'm interested in but apart from using 'tineye' or using google image search... How would you go about finding reviews etc.? Also, is it recommended to either ring or text them with the phone number provided (I'm somewhat conflicted about my personal phone number being essentially given away) or simply reply to the ad, which is basically an e-mail?

I wasn't clear, the 30min/£100 isn't a common thing that I've found.Around 60 is dead on as you just mentioned.

I see my topic was moved. Thank you, I think.

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You can use the review system on this site, and many ladies will also link to reviews on their websites. Do some searches on here and you'll like find recommendations about ladies who are friendly, and hopefully some of them may be physically your cup of tea too.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'safer' so can't say whether a parlour is safer or not ... Having worked in parlours and independently the only thing I can think of is that parlours don't often have a lot of information about the ladies' personalities so it can be a little bit harder to figure out who you're going to gel with. On the other hand, independents often have a whole website for you to get a sense of their personality. But if a parlour lady has reviews, you can usually find out what you need to know about her by reading those closely.

I do think that 30 minutes is a quite a quick session if you're planning to have sex for the first time. The time pressure could get in the way a bit, but it's totally up to you. If you don't think you'll be nervous then go for it! Good luck.

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Probably JKay, the moderator, moved it when he saw your area was London.

I would say a parlour is safer but a well reviewed (in number and positivity) indie should be as well. Impossible to be definitive about it; just make sure you can find convincing reviews that all seems well in terms of lady's qualities and location features.

You shouldn't have to travel anything like an hour given the area you are in but you also may not want to visiting just round the corner from home, work or rugby club.

Google image search is considered better than Tineye but no harm in using both - again, you have picked up one of the tricks of the trade!

Reviews are to be found on here and you say you are looking at them but then you ask how you find reviews? Another place is UK Punting (allowed to mention, JKay??) which is highly anti-escort in most parts of the forum but fairer in its review section.

Phonewise, how about spending a pound on a different punting sim card? Try to make contact the way the escort says she wants you to. They all have their own preferences. One (not a dozen) preliminary text or email to clarify something not in her profile is fine usually.

Difficult (impossible) to say the right way to go as dealing with people there can never be one size fits all.

 

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3 minutes ago, Curious Rose said:

You can use the review system on this site, and many ladies will also link to reviews on their websites. Do some searches on here and you'll like find recommendations about ladies who are friendly, and hopefully some of them may be physically your cup of tea too.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'safer' so can't say whether a parlour is safer or not ... Having worked in parlours and independently the only thing I can think of is that parlours don't often have a lot of information about the ladies' personalities so it can be a little bit harder to figure out who you're going to gel with. On the other hand, independents often have a whole website for you to get a sense of their personality. But if a parlour lady has reviews, you can usually find out what you need to know about her by reading those closely.

I do think that 30 minutes is a quite a quick session if you're planning to have sex for the first time. The time pressure could get in the way a bit, but it's totally up to you. If you don't think you'll be nervous then go for it! Good luck.

Up to you, Random, but sometimes things drop into your lap. Even if you don't end up seeing her, look at the signs:

Curious Rose has bothered to reply with good sense not bigging up her own qualities. She has excellent English (a lady with poor English may not be the best start for a naturally nervous punter). Refers to recommendations (or reviews), refers to your cup of tea physically, refers to friendliness.

She offers a different interpretation of 'safer' I hadn't thought of. i went for physically safe from attack by pimp (tho I have never met one) while she went for more likelihood of getting the experience you are hoping for.

She mentions time. i didn't because I think the 30 mins you referred to reduces the cost of a mistake (and I am a devoted 30 minute man allowing more punts for the same money) but it is entirely up to you. (You might think you might cum very quickly on the first occasion and not all escorts will allow a second cum in a 30 min punt.)

But i suggest just checking out Curious Rose (nice name) because she comes across to me as very interesting and seemingly an ideal lady to take a newcomer in hand with understanding and a thunderous climax.

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Thank you, Rose. I meant safer, as in, not likely to be 'mugged' or the like. I'm extremely new to this, sorry if it sounds incredibly stupid. Can I ask your opinion on someone who has never had a relationship doing this for their first time?

vivluvsme, I guess it's about finding the right parlour/independent lady and research as much as you can. Sometimes to travel into central London or the like, it can take up to an hour. It's not too big an issue though, probably choosing a time which doesn't coincide with rush hour helps, no?

I really sounded quite silly there. I wanted to clarify I am using the correct section of the site, as I couldn't immediately see a section to search for parlours specifically. Good call about the phone thing. I think I'll do that.

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Just looked at Curious Rose's website (click on her name where she posted above) ... ... and I am tying up my belongings in a red spotted hanky and hitching down to central London at dawn tomorrow...

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Hi Random. There is plenty of choice in London. I agree a parlor would be better for your first time. Check out www.acemassage.net. Phone several places and go by your feeling about the places. Tell them you are a virgin, looking for your first experience, when you call - most girls will be very sympatheic. If they are not then avoid.

The usual procedure with parlors is that they give you the post code when you call and you call them again, when you get there, to get the actual address. Once inside you may be met by a 'maid'. Ask to see the girl and chat to het for a few minutes and tell her that you are looking to lose your virginity. If she is attractive and friendly then go ahead. If not then apologise and leave. You will be asked to pay up front, this is OK. The girl will usually take the money out of the room - don't worry, this is normal - and then come back to you. I like to have a cuddle with the girl before we undress, slowly. Then it's on the bed for a sexy massage before putting on a condom for the main event. After, she may offer you a massage or you may prefer to chat to her. 

As it's your first time, I would spend at least an hour to give time for your nerves to settle and so you are not worrying about clock watching. Treat the lady with respect - you won't get a 'Girl Friend Experience' unless you treat her like one. If you book an hour, and you are still young, then you may have time for two sessions.

Don't forget to come back on here and let us know how you get on.

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I think it's pushing it to expect a virgin punter to have the balls to walk out of his first ever punt.

Or perhaps it's just that I am feeble excuse for a man :)

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I was in the same position a few years ago. DollyMop was my first. RealLoverExperience (she was in London Bridge at the time).

 

I would agree with the points above, take an hour. Parlour or Independant, that is a personal decision. definitely look for someone with a good grasp of English, as if you're still in two minds about the decision you may want to start by emailing and gauging your interest, and whether you're attracted to the lady.

 

Be clean and polite. its going to be natural to be nervous and not know what you're doing, but the lady will know and help you to relax in her own way.

 

On the "Service Provider Directory" you can search the distance from the first half of your postcode. If you're able to travel to Croydon then the choice widens up somewhat. London Bridge / Southwark area also has quite a few people that would be a brilliant choice for your first.

I preferred an Independant for my first as i was really nervous and i just wanted to sort of be quiet about proceedings. safe to say that i left there a changed person and a lot more confident.

I hope that helps!

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On 4/25/2016 at 4:44 PM, randomlygenerated said:

Thank you, Rose. I meant safer, as in, not likely to be 'mugged' or the like. I'm extremely new to this, sorry if it sounds incredibly stupid. Can I ask your opinion on someone who has never had a relationship doing this for their first time?

vivluvsme, I guess it's about finding the right parlour/independent lady and research as much as you can. Sometimes to travel into central London or the like, it can take up to an hour. It's not too big an issue though, probably choosing a time which doesn't coincide with rush hour helps, no?

I really sounded quite silly there. I wanted to clarify I am using the correct section of the site, as I couldn't immediately see a section to search for parlours specifically. Good call about the phone thing. I think I'll do that.

I don't think there's anything wrong with seeing an escort if you haven't had a relationship. I've met quite a few people who have done exactly what you're planning, and I know for many of them it was useful and fun and built up their confidence. One guy visited me a few times, lost his virginity, and then stopped contacting me (usual enough, folks move on and take breaks from punting or stop altogether for lots of reasons.) Imagine my delight when he emailed me six months later saying he'd met a lovely girl and told her about me (!!!) and they were wondering if I was up for a threesome? In the end up it didn't happen but I did have coffee with his girlfriend and it was lovely. (Sorry for digressing, but it's one of my favourite things that's ever happened during my career as an escort!)

I think there are some good suggestions above, although I'd encourage you to do your research beforehand. Dave's suggestion above that you leave after you've booked and met a lady in a parlour isn't polite in my estimation. If you've been tricked in some way by her advertising (it does happen sometimes that people use pictures that aren't their own) I think it's within your rights to leave, but otherwise, consider that the lady could have seen another client during that time, and if you leave without paying, she's potentially out of pocket. On a quiet day in a parlour it might be a significant chunk of her earnings. Just something to think about. 

Good luck with the search. There are lots of fabulous ladies out there, it's just a matter of doing your research and going for it.

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On 25.04.2016 at 0:53 PM, randomlygenerated said:

I guess I want to know if it's a good idea to even consider doing this seeing as I've never actually had a girlfriend. Also, how would I find out if an independent girl is real, safe and not a scam artist? I know there's reverse image searches... But if they don't show up on those?

 

I think you should decide to Parlour. You will have confidence in you choose. Stay clean, tidy, have good manners.

Try not to come in stressed and everything will be fine. Do not worry, there is nothing to get excited. Many young people choose escorts.

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3 hours ago, Curious Rose said:

I don't think there's anything wrong with seeing an escort if you haven't had a relationship. I've met quite a few people who have done exactly what you're planning, and I know for many of them it was useful and fun and built up their confidence. One guy visited me a few times, lost his virginity, and then stopped contacting me (usual enough, folks move on and take breaks from punting or stop altogether for lots of reasons.) Imagine my delight when he emailed me six months later saying he'd met a lovely girl and told her about me (!!!) and they were wondering if I was up for a threesome? In the end up it didn't happen but I did have coffee with his girlfriend and it was lovely. (Sorry for digressing, but it's one of my favourite things that's ever happened during my career as an escort!)

I think there are some good suggestions above, although I'd encourage you to do your research beforehand. Dave's suggestion above that you leave after you've booked and met a lady in a parlour isn't polite in my estimation. If you've been tricked in some way by her advertising (it does happen sometimes that people use pictures that aren't their own) I think it's within your rights to leave, but otherwise, consider that the lady could have seen another client during that time, and if you leave without paying, she's potentially out of pocket. On a quiet day in a parlour it might be a significant chunk of her earnings. Just something to think about. 

Good luck with the search. There are lots of fabulous ladies out there, it's just a matter of doing your research and going for it.

That's completely fair and exactly the sort of explanation I was looking for. I'm glad you digressed, it helps to read that things like this have happened honestly. It's pretty awesome that you helped someone out so much!

I'll definitely research a bunch if I do decide on anything. Thank you all for your time and guidance.

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No worries, punters all had their first time! Stay clean, and use protection. Keep your manners and everything will be great!

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there's sofia of london, She's seen virgins before. Wish I saw her first :P  I was a virgin until I saw an escort too. I'm 25 now. Don't regret anything, just make sure it's what you want and don't rush into it. Think about it, take your time, research the girls and go for it.

You might think it's a big step but there's so much to life than just losing your virginity.

If you're looking to see a girl, see if she has reviews on this site or ask us about feedback for anyone, check the forum to see which sites use bait and switch, which ones can be trusted etc.

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On 25/04/2016 at 5:44 PM, Dave451 said:

Don't forget to come back on here and let us know how you get on.

So, I decided upon whom I would like to meet.

I met with the lovely Faye Summers today! I had a great time with her. I posted a review which is currently awaiting approval, too. ^_^

Again, thank you all for your help. :)

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15 hours ago, randomlygenerated said:

So, I decided upon whom I would like to meet.

I met with the lovely Faye Summers today! I had a great time with her. I posted a review which is currently awaiting approval, too. ^_^

Again, thank you all for your help. :)

 So many "first timers" come on PN, seek advice, which members happily offer, and then the "first timer" is never heard from again. 

So, great to hear your news, look forward to the review, and good luck in your future sexual endeavours.

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On 01/05/2016 at 4:03 PM, randomlygenerated said:

So, I decided upon whom I would like to meet.

I met with the lovely Faye Summers today! I had a great time with her. I posted a review which is currently awaiting approval, too. ^_^

Again, thank you all for your help. :)

 

10 hours ago, enquire said:

 So many "first timers" come on PN, seek advice, which members happily offer, and then the "first timer" is never heard from again. 

So, great to hear your news, look forward to the review, and good luck in your future sexual endeavours.

Agreed. Glad to hear you took the plunge and had a great time.

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It'd be rude not to come back in my mind! I definitely learned a bunch that's for sure. I'm glad I decided to do this, as it was an experience I feel I needed. Faye is a wonderful person.

The review number is 122436 if anyone is interested in reading it. I'm a pretty terrible writer, and made a few silly spelling errors - but I think I'd attribute that to writing it a few hours after meeting with Faye! :P

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22 hours ago, randomlygenerated said:

It'd be rude not to come back in my mind! I definitely learned a bunch that's for sure. I'm glad I decided to do this, as it was an experience I feel I needed. Faye is a wonderful person.

The review number is 122436 if anyone is interested in reading it. I'm a pretty terrible writer, and made a few silly spelling errors - but I think I'd attribute that to writing it a few hours after meeting with Faye! :P

Lol yeah I read it, don't worry, I've been nervous too at times :P It'll get better with time. Just remember to learn from each experience. 

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On 3 May 2016 at 10:43 AM, randomlygenerated said:

It'd be rude not to come back in my mind! I definitely learned a bunch that's for sure. I'm glad I decided to do this, as it was an experience I feel I needed. Faye is a wonderful person.

The review number is 122436 if anyone is interested in reading it. I'm a pretty terrible writer, and made a few silly spelling errors - but I think I'd attribute that to writing it a few hours after meeting with Faye! :P

It sounds like you made the perfect choice and had an excellent encounter. Happy cherry popping! I think it takes guts. God, I remember my first time with a client and I was soon nervous! Congrats! 

Sofia xx

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