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To much information is actually putting me off a booking

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It seems an odd thing to do, to seek as much information as you can about the game, and then feel like you actually would have been better going in blind.

As I have said before, this was to be my 2nd visit in years, to whoever caught my eye. However, the more I read on this forum and others, the more I have been put off

ever having a visit. I have read so many stories' about ladies' who do not care when you get there. Guys' who think well thats the chance you take, however if you spent as much

on an item you purchased you would go mad if it was poor, this sounds horrid, however in my mind, if you have parted with money you have both entered into a contract of

sorts. Please not I am not comparing any of the ladies to an item,  I am sure I could have used better examples, however I find talking easier than writing, please forgive :rolleyes:.

Maybe I was lucky with my only one, it was not out of this world, however I had a good time,

On the flipside, not on this forum, however other forums, some guys' seem to think the ladies are a piece of meat, have no respect for them and think it is ok to post

rude allegations about encounters' from their perspective, when it turns out they were in the wrong. And why would any guy want to hurt these ladies is beyond me, we all

just want to get on in life, and make some money and have fun as we go along.

 

I think I have this romantic notion of life and have often I am to soft because I believe in people.  Within, reason, I kind of see the ladies' as actors, they offer a show,

you attend, enjoy and leave, just like the theatre, you pay for a ticket, you get a show, the actors/actress thank for coming to the show, the show ends and the next audience arrive.

They are happy you left in good spirits, they have been paid and we are all happy.

 

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Yes, some men seem horrified to discover to most escorts see their clients as part of their job- indeed as with other jobs you like some colleagues or customers more than others but it's part of your job to treat everyone with respect and kindness even if you think they are a total dick, sometimes it's harder than others to pretend.

It works both ways- escorts reading some punting sites would feel terrible to read the way men talk about escorts and some men would be horrified reading what escorts think of them. If it effects you then don't do it- just go with the flow and enjoy an encounter rather than worry what she thinks. Equally, if I wondered if every client i saw just saw me as some kind of dumb fuck hole i'd probably be less happy than I am.

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I think you are overthinking things quite alot.Yes you get some wankers on both sides of the fence.That's life though.You get good,bad and something in between.

It sounds like you are focusing on negative posts on various forums rather than reading postive posts and thus gaining a balanced perspective.

I would suggest you stop reading punting or sex forums so much and get on with the actual booking of a lady and having fun.

I think there is enough genuine and postive advice on here and other places that you will have read to have helped you decide on what you would like and how to go about getting it as well as plenty of reviews to help you decide on some excellent service providers.

If you still have misgivings then maybe this sort of hobby is not for you afterall.

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Hi Lydia and Bibi,

 

thanks so much for taking the time to answer. Maybe I should just make a booking and see if it really is for me. I think like as said, I maybe over complicating things.

Maybe, and just maybe, because I tried to make a booking with a lady via AW and then via her site direct. No answer 3 times, I only asked for what she claims

she does, ie duo, otherwise very vanilla. No replies, then out of the blue, she is traveling out of London to the area I live in. Suddenly after nearly 3 months she

is interested in an out call, after ignoring my requests, and I kind of felt that she thought, oh hang on, whilst I am up there for the day I can use the guy and it

will pay for my day out.  Do not get me wrong, If I had the body, and I do not, I would do escorting, and use the money to pay for the things I may not otherwise get.

What I do not like is feeling like I am being used. (I know there are many reasons people are in the game).

Maybe the problem is all mine.  I am a very trusting person, will always look after my friends, see a fight break out as I walk past, I will not walk past, I will try to break it up,

I always want everyone to be happy, so maybe, probably more than probably, expect everyone to be nice look after each other and not use one another etc etc.

Maybe I need to toughen up and not see the world in rose tinted glasses. Sounds like need a shrink not sex advice :rolleyes:

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It seems abit harsh to give up on the idea because it didn't work out with one lady.

Pick a lady with a good reputation who has her own incall place and keep it simple.

Read her profile carefully and contact her in her preferred manner and just say something like this:

Hi there,I really like your profile and was wondering if I could book you on such and such a date for such and such a length of time between such and such time.

I'd really like such and such advertised service.

Hope to hear from you,Mr inside and outside.

Yes you may not get replies from some cest la vie their loss etc.

It's not dating or a friendship.It's a type of transaction at the end of the day albeit a fun and personal one.Decent service providers will do their best to answer you and make the booking happen.Be confident and friendly but not too ott as someone writing war and peace or going into too much detail can be off putting and try not to overthink etc.

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Cheers Bibi..............got you on war and peace :D, off to play football and have a good weekend.

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Yes, what Bibi said!

 

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  • 12 hours ago, INSIDE AND OUTSIDE said:
    • It seems an odd thing to do, to seek as much information as you can about the game, and then feel like you actually would have been better going in blind.
    • As I have said before, this was to be my 2nd visit in years, to whoever caught my eye. However, the more I read on this forum and others, the more I have been put off
    • ever having a visit. I have read so many stories' about ladies' who do not care when you get there. Guys' who think well thats the chance you take, however if you spent as much
    • on an item you purchased you would go mad if it was poor, this sounds horrid, however in my mind, if you have parted with money you have both entered into a contract of
    • sorts. Please not I am not comparing any of the ladies to an item,  I am sure I could have used better examples, however I find talking easier than writing, please forgive :rolleyes:.
    • Maybe I was lucky with my only one, it was not out of this world, however I had a good time,
    • On the flipside, not on this forum, however other forums, some guys' seem to think the ladies are a piece of meat, have no respect for them and think it is ok to post
    • rude allegations about encounters' from their perspective, when it turns out they were in the wrong. And why would any guy want to hurt these ladies is beyond me, we all
    • just want to get on in life, and make some money and have fun as we go along.
    •  
    • I think I have this romantic notion of life and have often I am to soft because I believe in people.  Within, reason, I kind of see the ladies' as actors, they offer a show,
    • you attend, enjoy and leave, just like the theatre, you pay for a ticket, you get a show, the actors/actress thank for coming to the show, the show ends and the next audience arrive.
    • They are happy you left in good spirits, they have been paid and we are all happy.
    •  

 

Bibi has it about right...

but in any case, are you someone that before making a purchase (e.g vacumn clearer) goes on to research the item, reads umpteen reviews about them, maybe even goes and physically checks a few out in a store somewhere? still you can't make your mind up or if you do and get it home only to think 'bugger, I've purchased the wrong one'  and take it back only repeat the process all over again?   If this is you you're probably someone who doesn't trust their own instincts?, On that score and in this game your time spent having fun is going to be far outweighed by your dithering, which reverses and spoils the rapidly diminishing fun?

On the threads I've read from Punters looking for girls or threads from Punters who have had a lousy experience , one thing that appears key is 'research'  if you want to lessen the possibility of a shit shag, one you've paid for to boot you really do need to read a little before making an appt to plunge yourself in the nether regions of a girl...

To use your own comment 'on the flip side'  you could just chuck caution to the wind, look up girls close to you, take a 'quick look at their websites or AW presence and go book to fuck and it's off you trot?

Snooze and you lose, dont do any more hypothesising, simply find yourself a filthy female paid or not and go have some seriously good fun before your balls run dry into the palm of your hand and a kleenex.

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Inside and Outside, I took the liberty of looking on your profile.  You are in the Midlands, there are a couple of escorts that post on PN that are in your corner of the world. Enjoy Emily is one of them, see above. You get an idea of a person when they post. Humour, intellect, warmth and professionalism. So read and choose and book. One person that I'd love to see if I was in the Midlands is Rhona in Derby. 

If you watch old movies, women would go to the hairdressers not just for the shampoo and set, but also for the experience, of being pampered, and having a chat.  Punting can be like that, you (or maybe its just me),  don't just go for a fuck. You / one / I, want to be able to enjoy the company of a wg I am with.

Of course if it is crap sex I  wont go back. In the same way as those women in the old movies wouldn't go back to their stylist if they got a bad haircut.

Good wg's are professionals at delivering a service, the good ones seem to know my body better than I do (I mean my whole body, nor just my cock). Give it another go. 

For an hour or so, time can stop, your taken somewhere else, and when it is good you leave a much happier man.

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Thanks for your words enquire. I bit the bullet and have made a booking this week. I will leave a message on here, how it goes, but thanks for everyone who

has taken the time to read and reply.

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5 minutes ago, INSIDE AND OUTSIDE said:

Thanks for your words enquire. I bit the bullet and have made a booking this week. I will leave a message on here, how it goes, but thanks for everyone who

has taken the time to read and reply.

Hope it goes well which I am sure it will do! 

Theres no going back now! ;)

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On 5/13/2016 at 3:14 PM, INSIDE AND OUTSIDE said:

Hi Lydia and Bibi,

Maybe, and just maybe, because I tried to make a booking with a lady via AW and then via her site direct. No answer 3 times, I only asked for what she claims

she does, ie duo, otherwise very vanilla. No replies, then out of the blue, she is traveling out of London to the area I live in. Suddenly after nearly 3 months she

is interested in an out call, after ignoring my requests, and I kind of felt that she thought, oh hang on, whilst I am up there for the day I can use the guy and it

will pay for my day out.  Do not get me wrong, If I had the body, and I do not, I would do escorting, and use the money to pay for the things I may not otherwise get.

What I do not like is feeling like I am being used. (I know there are many reasons people are in the game).

Maybe the problem is all mine.  I am a very trusting person, will always look after my friends, see a fight break out as I walk past, I will not walk past, I will try to break it up,

I always want everyone to be happy, so maybe, probably more than probably, expect everyone to be nice look after each other and not use one another etc etc.

Maybe I need to toughen up and not see the world in rose tinted glasses. Sounds like need a shrink not sex advice :rolleyes:

When guys have emailed me from out of state, I have at least replied to say, sorry, no longer in your neck of the woods, or no plans to be so.  Then it could be two, three years down the line and I'm going to be in that area and email to let them know.  Sometimes emails bounce, sometimes no reply, but on a few occasions, joyful responses, or regretful, sadly can't make that.  But at least I acknowledged in the first instance.  Would be a bit cheeky not to, and only write back later when it suited me.

She may have been so busy, at the time you wrote her but always had it at the back of her mind to respond.  Then memory jogged by her trip to your area.  Happens to me:  now who was that geezer in Great Yarmouth ... and I go doing a search through my email.

You are over-thinking it. It is only sex with a lady who wouldn't be in bed with you without the financial incentive.  We are using each other, although some of us have learned to do it without selling our souls in pursuit of some gain, escort and punter alike.

Toughen up mate!!!  #rapidbitchslaps

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OP you just have to remember that booking an escort is in some ways no different to booking someone for any other service, plumber, dog groomer, you name it. Some will be good, some will be bad, some will care about your business and some wont, some will know how to treat you and some wont have the foggiest. Do you over think it everytime you take your car to the garage or book someone to clean your carpets or lay on some catering for you. Yes its different in many ways but when it comes to differing standards we are no different to any other service industry. You just have to read the reviews, lay down your cash, take a chance and hope that your research will stand you in good stead.

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There are many goods and services that we pay similar money for with no guarantee of satisfaction. Paying for sex is no different.

If you tried one restaurant and had a poor meal you would not go back - you would try another, and another. Finally you will find a good restaurant if you persevere.

I dont regret any of my encounters - even though many have not been what I would have hoped for.

- though I often regret spending money at a restaurant and think it wasnt worth it.

 

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It has been 2 weeks from the date of the booking. Someone got cold feet.

No news story here. Time to move on.

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On ‎16‎/‎05‎/‎2016 at 2:53 PM, INSIDE AND OUTSIDE said:

Thanks for your words enquire. I bit the bullet and have made a booking this week. I will leave a message on here, how it goes, but thanks for everyone who

has taken the time to read and reply.

 

On ‎16‎/‎05‎/‎2016 at 2:59 PM, TightYoungEbony said:

Hope it goes well which I am sure it will do! 

Theres no going back now! ;)

He could always cancel at the last minute!

On ‎31‎/‎05‎/‎2016 at 7:50 PM, enquire said:

It has been 2 weeks from the date of the booking. Someone got cold feet.

No news story here. Time to move on.

Seems like he did cancel at the last minute!

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Hi Eric,

I did not cancel mate :P.  The lady had to cancel a second time, no problems, reasons explained etc so no worries. Went over to France to watch a few Euro games,

we lost 1st game and won second :D.

Made a booking and met a beautiful girl. And it really was a great experience, I never experienced anything like it, and would like to thank all those who have replied to me.

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Hi all.

I did a field report on AW. Very positive about the lady.

I sent a message to her and asked would she like me to post a copy of it on here. 7 days' on, and no reply, so I guess she does not want it posted

here and I will abide by that wish. A shame really as I would like to have passed on details and it was all positive, however, she may have good reasons.

 

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