Iron Duke

Very bad form

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Out of the blue yesterday I get a text to say "Hi, I am back in town for a couple of days xx" and from a number I didn't recognize. I deleted the message and quickly put two and two together, checked out the details of a WG seen recently and there she is, back in town on what seems to be a never ending tour of the country. I would not see her again after a poor show the last time but that isn't really the point!

I have many years punting under my belt but this has never happened to me before. I don't have a punter phone but I am discrete with how I use mine and don't store numbers on it just in case.

I'm not sure of the etiquette on the forum regarding name and shame but if this is a concern to any of you and you would like to know who this character is I'd be happy to help if this is something the moderators will allow.

 

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Just one of the problems of not having a punting phone.

Just drop her a note to ask to be taken off her phone/mailing list, job done.

Cold calling is bad form but if you have visited a WG then she could be thinking that she was ok to contact you again when she was again in your area, I get texts, calls and email tour update from ladies that have seen me which for me is great because it saves me following the profiles, if I don't need tour updates I just text them politely, but I have a punting phone so its not a issue. If you are using a personal number for punting she is not going to know that, and because you were happy for her to have your number she assumed you would appreciate a tour update, its not cold calling just business promotion, so just text her to be removed from her update list job done.

Have you Submitted A Punternet Review yet?

 

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Thanks for the reply. I have submitted a link so if anyone checks out my entries it shouldn't be too hard to work out who I am on about.

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2 hours ago, Iron Duke said:

Thanks for the reply. I have submitted a link so if anyone checks out my entries it shouldn't be too hard to work out who I am on about.

A link to your Punternet review? I don't see one.

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Unacceptable unless previously agreed. 

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Doesn't bother me personally, with the iPhone numbers can be easily blocked from contacting you.

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I think nowadays some assume that all guys have a punting phone. Just putting their number through whatsapp dispels this myth very quickly. The number of pictures i see of guys with their kids or wives or kids and wives in their whatsapp picture is scarey

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1 hour ago, Chloe Kisses said:

I think nowadays some assume that all guys have a punting phone. Just putting their number through whatsapp dispels this myth very quickly. The number of pictures i see of guys with their kids or wives or kids and wives in their whatsapp picture is scarey

If you dont have a punting fone you need to be careful you fone does not interface to websites. For that reason I am very wary of all social meeja.

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That is very bad form in my opinion, I wouldn't even answer my phone unless I know who it is and I am expecting a call (let alone send unsolicited texts messages!).  I don't always save numbers as I prefer to be discrete. A curious partner can call and call my number but they'd never be able to find it on google, listen to an answering machine message (as I don't have one) or hear my voice; because my naughty phone will just ring out no matter how many times they call,

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On 6/9/2016 at 11:55 AM, Strawberry said:

Unacceptable unless previously agreed. 

My view exactly.  I may email a client with updates if I'm going to be in his part of the world.  But never send anything by phone (unless previously agreed).

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I got used to receive emails or even messages from guys I have not heard in a long time: some disappear after a short exchange of words and they re-appear some months later.  It always leaves me wondering: 'what was that?'

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I don't mind tbh, it's good to talk after all and the texts/calls I get are always civil so no problem on that front...

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Yes it is very bad form. If you don't have a punting phone it might be worth saving an escorts you see as a male name in case she does text and someone sees it. 

I'm totally against texting clients out of the blue for no reason, but on odd occasions have had to to change a booking or get a confirmation which I feel terrible about in case someone sees so try and send an innocuous message such as 'Can you give me a quick call?' 

I am in one of my clients phones as Hounslow Tiles and as Ronald in another's! 

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On 22/7/2016 at 11:09 AM, MinxyLydia said:

Yes it is very bad form. If you don't have a punting phone it might be worth saving an escorts you see as a male name in case she does text and someone sees it. 

I'm totally against texting clients out of the blue for no reason, but on odd occasions have had to to change a booking or get a confirmation which I feel terrible about in case someone sees so try and send an innocuous message such as 'Can you give me a quick call?' 

I am in one of my clients phones as Hounslow Tiles and as Ronald in another's! 

I often do that, or turn the name into something that sounds like the name of a company. Sometimes, though, this means I forget the reasoning behind the changes and I've no idea to whom the number refers.

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Bad form, mind you any form of cold calling for me is unacceptable.

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I also agree that it's very bad form.  Even if the guy was single when a WG saw him last, he might have a girlfriend/wife now that he doesn't want to know about his punting ventures, past and/or present.  There are so many reasons why you should never just randomly text a former client - same reasons you don't say hi to him when you see him in the street.  You just don't know what problems that will cause.

If a girl wants to let you know when she's next available, she should ask you what's the best way to let you know.  Usually by contacting you on an agreed website of which you're both members, or via an email address you use only for punting/uber-private stuff that you say is safe.  But in my opinion, mobiles are never to be used for reasons other than those originally agreed upon - which is usually just an initial quick chat, or for you to let her know you're running late.  If you're happy to grant her permission to use your mobile number freely, that's fine - but she should never assume that permission is given.

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