dick78

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I haven't punted for a year and have only had sex twice in the same period.   I just can't be bothered with it any more.   I'm nearly 64.  Am I dead?

 

 

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No not dead - yet.

You might as well be dead when you stop enquiring and learning and developing.

Sex can arouse all of our 5 senses. 

But the key word is "can"...Maybe it just doesnt any more for you. Try something else. Exercise is always good. Make a bucket list. Skydiving is great, as is scuba.  Or try rallying. That wil get you going.

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2 hours ago, dick78 said:

I haven't punted for a year and have only had sex twice in the same period.   I just can't be bothered with it any more.   I'm nearly 64.  Am I dead?

 

 

 

 I'm sure Sir Paul McCartney will have advice for you on this   , 

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1 hour ago, enquire said:

No not dead - yet.

You might as well be dead when you stop enquiring and learning and developing.

Sex can arouse all of our 5 senses. 

But the key word is "can"...Maybe it just doesnt any more for you. Try something else. Exercise is always good. Make a bucket list. Skydiving is great, as is scuba.  Or try rallying. That wil get you going.

I started playing guitar again and have acquired 12 and disposed of 5 over the last eighteen months - so 7 left.  It certainly distracts me from punting.

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I know that over the years I have gathered some truly exceptional experiences punting but that has made me less tolerant of the more average encounters which are always going to form the majority (unless ones find a really good regular, I guess) so, over time, it can start to seem that punting isn't worth the candle.  Not clear from your comments if that is where your problem is coming from, though.

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58 minutes ago, DanLeno said:

I know that over the years I have gathered some truly exceptional experiences punting but that has made me less tolerant of the more average encounters which are always going to form the majority (unless ones find a really good regular, I guess) so, over time, it can start to seem that punting isn't worth the candle.  Not clear from your comments if that is where your problem is coming from, though.

I'm just under a year behind the OP and I agree that, at times it does all get a bit "meh".... a very expensive "meh"!

At the beginning of this year I had no-one on my list of regulars, and was having some really disastrous punts after two and a half years of agency Thai girls - at least you could pretty-much guarantee that they would be ready and waiting in nice lingerie at the appointed time!

However, a couple of months ago I found a couple of rare gems on AW (Polish and English) and I was revitalised.

However, the last two weeks (Hungarian and Colombian) have been disastrous, and now I notice that my English favourite seems to be working very erratically at the moment.

Quite honestly, good quality internet porn is so freely available and enjoyable these days that any escort who gives me poor service is just another nail in the coffin of this hobby.

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I'm nearly up with you Dick.  Five years ago when Mrs. R lost interest so did I.  18 months I started punting and found a new lease of sex life.  Now it's all beginning to pall.  Maybe that's too strong a definition,  I might be looking for an experience I remember from younger days that I will never experience again.

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3 hours ago, DanLeno said:

  Not clear from your comments if that is where your problem is coming from, though.

It doesn't have to be a problem though,  just maybe it's not such an important part of their life anymore.

 

There is always knitting/origami/suduko....

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No, you are not dead. Something similar happened to me a few years ago. I was visiting the same places regularly and I think it had become a bit of a routine and the rest of my life was also in a rut at the same time. I did what Enquire suggested and wrote myself a bucket list of things to get me out of my comfort zone. Some of these included sex, some didn't. I crossed out some of the wilder ideas that I really did not want to try (sky-diving, MMF for example) but went on to do the rest. Some of them I really enjoyed (visit to an FKK club in Germany, was a highlight), some I didn't. I now have a much better idea about what I enjoy and I am back punting again. However, I am now trying very hard not to lapse back into a routine.

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My advice is to ignore sex, paid for and civvie for a bit. Later some civvie sex may take you by surprise. Or you will come back to punting eager for it after a break.

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I feel the same way as the OP . Nearly a year since my last punt, having had hundreds over the last 6/7 years. Started to find them a bit empty -- well its business after all !

Cant believe I did so many really. When you get into that zone it becomes sorta ' normal'. Id nearly be too embarrassed now to make that call !

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Getting on for two years punt-free for me now, barring a one-off quickie in a German RLD. It's funny that what used to be a regular pastime would now be quite an alien experience.

I still have a look on AW every now and then but am nowhere near tempted enough.

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Dick you're not dead at all but as others suggest it's time to find something that makes you feel alive again and it might not be sex. Personally I love sex and it's one of my favourite pass times... however I also love visiting old fashioned sea side towns, dinners out with good friends and walks alone in Hyde Park or on the South Bank, a good book lying in bed on a rainy day.... whatever makes you happy just do it and enjoy it and don't even spare a second wondering what other people think - life is way too short!

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20 hours ago, MySecretLife said:

Personally I love sex and it's one of my favourite pass times....... good book lying in bed on a rainy day.

You have just joined my wish list

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On 12 June 2016 at 2:46 PM, dick78 said:

I haven't punted for a year and have only had sex twice in the same period.   I just can't be bothered with it any more.   I'm nearly 64.  Am I dead?

 

 

Not dead at all, our tastes change with age, it may come back, it may not but either way does it really matter if you aren't missing it? X

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On 16/06/2016 at 2:54 PM, Daisy flowers said:

Not dead at all, our tastes change with age, it may come back, it may not but either way does it really matter if you aren't missing it? X

But I don't know if I'm missing it or not.  I sort of fancy it - have made a couple of bookings  - but have then gone off the idea - and cancelled in good time.

I've seen some great ladies over the years but the whole thing seems to be getting so cynical - and clinical - and trying to find someone I really like seems a lot of effort.

We'll see,

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Urges ebb and urges flow.  Just because your urge is currently ebbing, doesn't mean it won't flow again.

Like others have said earlier, enjoy your life in whichever way pleases you at the moment.  But the thing about life is that is never ceases to surprise, so don't rule anything out.

And no, 64 isn't dead.  I've had amazing sex sessions with men older than you - some of them just needed a bit of a time out for a bit.  Keep your chin up.  xx

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As you get older priorities change. I am now on a fixed income and over 60. Whereas in the past £150 for a punt was total value for money. Now I think of what else such a sum could get and it puts a damper on the idea.

But still the desire and attractions remain

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I can understand some of the problems described above. In my younger and perhaps non-punting years I always accepted the offer of sex when it was offered to me and would actively seek such offers. I punted a lot when I first started but once I got used to the idea that punting sex was always available it perhaps looses it's importance. It is, however  very satisfying to know it t always there if I want it without having to maintain any kind of relationship just in case I do.

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What about rethinking what you do during a punt? It could be you're going through the same rigmarole, but what would really suit you better would be a different rigmarole. You might not even be particularly interested in penetration any longer. But what about just exploring their bodies, licking those nipples into arousal, and the whole wonderful rituals of pussy worship? No onus to perform, none of the old in-out, in-out, but oh what fun there can be in all those things!

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Posted (edited)

Wow, good on you guys who are 60+ and still having sexy fun! I really admire it, naughty lot! :P:D

Edited by TightYoungEbony

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25 minutes ago, TightYoungEbony said:

Wow, good on you guys who are 60+ and still having sexy fun! I really admire it, naughty lot! :P:D

Actually, in some respects, for all the physical failings, it's more fun than ever.

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19 minutes ago, Colonel Bonkers said:

Actually, in some respects, for all the physical failings, it's more fun than ever.

Well good on ya! :P

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This has stuck a cord with me after a strange experience a few weeks ago (I'm almost 52) ....

I've been punting every week at my fav parlour for a few years now - hardly missed a week.

It must have been getting boring without me realising - I'd been seeing this cute 20-something brunette for a few weeks and we got on quite well; the service was a bit vanilla but the excitement of the new made for some good punts. Then she had a hair-colouring-gone-wrong incident and was really sensitive about it - TBH I hardly noticed. I couldn't perform ..... the next week booked her again another "failure" although she tried really hard and I tried to convince her it wasn't her fault and that it was nice to see her anyway, She was really upset/annoyed and told me I was stressing her out and that I should see another girl next time and if it was OK with the other girl then she'd know it was her fault.

I didn't mention anything to the receptionist (who I know really well) but I'm sure that she could see that something was wrong with the look on my face; I was really upset TBH and haven't been back since. Must be getting soft in my old age (in more ways than one)

 

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Wow, good on you guys who are 60+ and still having sexy fun! I really admire it, naughty lot! :P:D

thankyou ma'am.

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