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have i just been ripped off?

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right im new to seeing escorts and this may be why this happened but i arranged to meet an escort tonight at her hotel. i was feeling very nervous and so i asked her to meet me outside before we went in to ease my nervous. see said she would and that was fine. she then asked for a deposit before we met which i though was i bit odd but id spoken to her she sounded genuine so i obliged and sent her the deposit. all was fine. an hour before she text me saying she had no other bookings so she would give me a special offer been 2 hours in anal so i though great lets do it. i go into town park up text her to come down and then she says i need to pay a higher deposit because i was spending more time with her. she did say she wanted a 50% deposit before we meet but i felt uneasy about giving £100 over without even seeing her. i told her this but but she was adamant she wouldn't see me until i paid a higher deposit. this went on for around half an hour so i decided enough was enough and left telling her that i was and why. so shes now saying shes going to sue me for wasting her time and ill hear from her aturny. so really im after a bit of advise is this how some escorts work or have i been conned and shes talking bullshit with suing me??? any and all advise welcome please 

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Tom,

Well, I really dont think you are about to hear from her attorney. She almost certainly does not have an attorney, has never had an attorney and has never sued anyone.

Really, it was only a few quid, anyway. Not worth getting upset over.

Why not just just put this episode down to experience, and forget all about it?

P.

 

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1 hour ago, tom0200 said:

right im new to seeing escorts and this may be why this happened but i arranged to meet an escort tonight at her hotel. i was feeling very nervous and so i asked her to meet me outside before we went in to ease my nervous. see said she would and that was fine. she then asked for a deposit before we met which i though was i bit odd but id spoken to her she sounded genuine so i obliged and sent her the deposit. all was fine. an hour before she text me saying she had no other bookings so she would give me a special offer been 2 hours in anal so i though great lets do it. i go into town park up text her to come down and then she says i need to pay a higher deposit because i was spending more time with her. she did say she wanted a 50% deposit before we meet but i felt uneasy about giving £100 over without even seeing her. i told her this but but she was adamant she wouldn't see me until i paid a higher deposit. this went on for around half an hour so i decided enough was enough and left telling her that i was and why. so shes now saying shes going to sue me for wasting her time and ill hear from her aturny. so really im after a bit of advise is this how some escorts work or have i been conned and shes talking bullshit with suing me??? any and all advise welcome please 

Yes, you have been ripped off!

So, this is your first attempt at punting and you clearly have done no research whatsoever.

Someone's got to say it - you are completely clueless to pay a deposit and then worry about getting sued for the remainder.

I would suggest that you do some reading on this site and forget about booking a girl for at least three months.....

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Thank god you didn't meet her and trusted your instincts. It sounds like there's a very good reason that her other clients cancelled and as Pickle says put it down to bad experience. We're not all like that I promise. Really sorry to hear that you lost your deposit and I hope it wasn't that much. Name and shame please - good SP's don't behave this way. X

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12 minutes ago, MySecretLife said:

Thank god you didn't meet her and trusted your instincts. It sounds like there's a very good reason that her other clients cancelled and as Pickle says put it down to bad experience. We're not all like that I promise. Really sorry to hear that you lost your deposit and I hope it wasn't that much. Name and shame please - good SP's don't behave this way. X

No they don't, but how do you separate the wheat from the chaff?

I would consider myself an experienced, careful and savvy punter, but the last two Saturdays have been complete and utter disasters due to bait and switch and bullshit profiles - with good feedback!

Name & shame? Search the Field Reports by date on AW and you will see that only about one in fifty would not be revisited. Really? Are the girls on there really so great? No wonder the OP screwed up.

Most punters are scared stiff of "publicly" criticising escorts - why?

 

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Posted (edited)

Ok ST you have a point and I'm really sorry to hear that your last 2 punts have been awful :(

I have only ever found one fellow SP who I would trust to do duos with in the last 8 years. The others I've met, not so much but I always test them out first; by myself because I value my clients.

I've never experienced bait and switch personally .... but 10 years older than advertised or not at all interested in sex most definately.

On AW of course they won't name and shame but we all know another site that will and as much as that site is harsh on SP's it's always worth investigating both sides of the game (so to speak!).

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1 hour ago, MySecretLife said:

Thank god you didn't meet her and trusted your instincts. It sounds like there's a very good reason that her other clients cancelled and as Pickle says put it down to bad experience. We're not all like that I promise. Really sorry to hear that you lost your deposit and I hope it wasn't that much. Name and shame please - good SP's don't behave this way. X

I agree. She won't be suing you or anything of that matter. She is the scammer here not you, I suggest you do name and shame or write a review on here. 

Also don't pay a deposit, it's better to be safe than sorry! 

This is NOT how escorts work at all, so don't let your bad experience cloud your view. There are plenty fantastic service providers out there who will give you a fantastic time, so focus on them. 

Do your research, try to see girls with a fair few bit of feedback/field reports, although this can never be fully reliable. And go with your gut! 

Always confirm services you want on the phone and before handing over cash. 

I hope your next punt is filled with lots of fun. X

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 Tom , what was the deposit for  ?   From your post I cannot see how anyone in their right mind would pay a deposit . So after you paid something and she had you down as a mug she then thought why not try for an additional deposit .

   I know you say this is your first visit and you lack experience  . My advice would be never ever pay upfront for anything , even when you meet the escort face to face don't offer to pay and when she asks for the money before the action suggest that you will pay on completion . A lot of people will disagree on this but at least she will then know she hasn't got a mug standing in front of her . 

   In this punting business it has always surprised me how generous guys are about handing out money to strangers  ,  

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16 minutes ago, worldpunter said:

 Tom , what was the deposit for  ?   From your post I cannot see how anyone in their right mind would pay a deposit . So after you paid something and she had you down as a mug she then thought why not try for an additional deposit .

   I know you say this is your first visit and you lack experience  . My advice would be never ever pay upfront for anything , even when you meet the escort face to face don't offer to pay and when she asks for the money before the action suggest that you will pay on completion . A lot of people will disagree on this but at least she will then know she hasn't got a mug standing in front of her .

   In this punting business it has always surprised me how generous guys are about handing out money to strangers  ,  

I think most escorts would disagree with this and would refuse a booking from anyone who demands to pay after. There are "clients" out there who would demand this and take the money after or short change us or not pay at all and get nasty, it's happened countless times. So no, pay upfront and put it on the side if you really need to. 

Most escorts will ask for money upfront especially if you're a new client, and if you refuse and demand to pay at the end it's pretty guaranteed you won't get a booking at all. 

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2 hours ago, TightYoungEbony said:

I think most escorts would disagree with this and would refuse a booking from anyone who demands to pay after. There are "clients" out there who would demand this and take the money after or short change us or not pay at all and get nasty, it's happened countless times. So no, pay upfront and put it on the side if you really need to. 

Most escorts will ask for money upfront especially if you're a new client, and if you refuse and demand to pay at the end it's pretty guaranteed you won't get a booking at all. 

Of course as an escort you will disagree TYE  , I like your use of the word" demand " , when I used the word " suggest " 

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14 minutes ago, worldpunter said:

Of course as an escort you will disagree TYE  , I like your use of the word" demand " , when I used the word " suggest " 

It's just a word, demand/suggest/ask, most escorts won't oblige. 

We ask for money upfront, and stash it away, some may leave it on the side, if he is paranoid it will happen again, show the girl the money and put it on the side. 

Suggesting to pay after a booking could make it turn sour. As an escort I disagree because I've had a client demand to pay after on my newbie incall days only for him to run out with the money after, it's not uncommon, just read Saafe. 

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Posted (edited)

Where to start...

Who knows what research you did before your first punt - only you. And of course you might not have heard of this and the other punting sites in order to be able to get a feel for how punting works and/or to ask for advice.

But if you are going to continue punting, do try to read threads that you think might be helpful, e.g. about Adultwork.

I would always say start punting at a parlour because you are in a set environment where there is a receptionist and escorts who are known by the parlour and sometimes told pretty bluntly what to do/what not to do if they want to keep their job.

I am not saying you need to stick to parlours but this will get you aware of the basics of a punt.

If going to see indies after or instead of taking this advice, there is still a lot to learn about how to choose an indie and looking at feedback/reviews (and making sure they have some) and checking forums for other people's questions or comments about them, which is simple to do with regionalised forums.

If not sure, ask about her on a forum.

Don't pay in advance (that should be only for foreign travel etc), do pay at the start of the meet.

I am not one to complain much as I think it's a tough job, things go wrong, they can have an off day as much as I can, I like women, I have seen so many ladies I can take the rough with the smooth and move on but I can tell you there are forums where if you posted your story you wouldn't hear the last of it until you named the escort so others can avoid the same or similar issues.

MSL says they won't name and shame on AW but I have seen plenty of damning feedback comments on there and some will have been justified. There it's a case of weighing up the good and bad comments and the comments made by escorts on those making the comments. The resources are there.

 

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For what is it worth, research is good, however, to much can be a bad thing ( see thread I previously put up). When you do research, not only are you doing the

research on the lady.....how about the person doing the research??  I know it was a daft thing to do by paying a deposit upfront, however somewhere in life most

of us have been caught by a scam, and it rankles, not the money involved, just being turned over.

As said before, the law will not be involved. With regards payment, no lady should ever work without being paid on arrival. It just goes to show the perils for the punter

and the lady, such a shame, it is the perfect market, supply and demand is available.

ps To show how wordly I am, any idea of a site that helps with abbreviations, some I can work out, some I cannot..........op/sp and so on.

 

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