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Threesome with GF & escort?

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Hi guys,

While a bit drunk my gf and I have considered the idea of a threesome, and she's been surprisingly receptive to the idea of involving a female escort in order to avoid all the pitfalls of someone found through a dating app etc.

Does anyone have any advice/tips? In terms of:

a) How to behave during the session

b) How to select someone

c) Whether this is a good idea at all and I should abort?

d) How do swinger's parties compare in terms of impact on relationship and quality of the experience?

 

By way of background, I would visit escorts from time to time before I met her but haven't done anything since we started going out. She doesn't know about this aspect of my past.

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...let her do the organising, no point visiting escorts if she can arrange a swingers meet up for free. don't get involved at all then its not your fault when it goes tits-up.

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Aren't you optimistic, JKay? :P

I've seen quite a few couples with fantastic results. I would say that arranging it together to be best if you go the escort route; the escort will want to know that you are both keen and on board. You can let the girlfriend take point, but staying involved is a good idea. 

But yea, playing with an escort instead of looking for a 'unicorn' is a great idea as it keeps everything very above board. Since it's a transaction, I think it reduces fear of something more happening, and therefore less potential jealousy. If you see an escort who is experienced with couples, she will likely lead a bit of negotiating to make sure everything goes smoothly. :)

It can be a lot of fun. Good luck! <3

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go with her flow, and find others wanting to explore

if no one is paying you all put more into it

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Think carefully if it is an idea hatched by a tipple. Be sure you both know what you expect, is she looking to indulge with the 3rd party as well,

or seeing it as 2 girls on 1 guy, then I guess you are both ready/not ready to go.

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Thank you for the replies... This idea came up again today so here I am.

 

The plus seems to be you can in theory just enjoy the atmosphere and not participate unless it feels right, but there are more issues with jealousy and boundaries. Escort meanwhile is potentially less pressure but also potentially less enjoyment for one participant.

Also, does anyone have advice about how to too about picking an escort for a couple? Obviously my first instinct is to go for someone I find attractive and that she does too but is there anything else I might not have thought of?

 

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9 hours ago, explorer said:

Thank you for the replies... This idea came up again today so here I am.

 

The plus seems to be you can in theory just enjoy the atmosphere and not participate unless it feels right, but there are more issues with jealousy and boundaries. Escort meanwhile is potentially less pressure but also potentially less enjoyment for one participant.

Also, does anyone have advice about how to too about picking an escort for a couple? Obviously my first instinct is to go for someone I find attractive and that she does too but is there anything else I might not have thought of?

 

Someone you both find attractive is definitely important! I would also recommend going with someone who openly advertises as being friendly towards couples, and enjoying playing with women as well as men. An escort who is familiar with playing with couples will be able to lead things a bit and make things easier on you both. 

Don't be afraid to have a bit of discussion between the three of you over email! Openness and clear communication is important with this sort of thing. It will lead to the most fun. :)

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My advice is

1) Sort out with your g/f exactly what you both want. E.g. is it a long-held fantasy of hers to be simultaneously licked by her and fucked by you?

2) Put up a RB request on AW, and be totally honest about the situation. "My g/f and I want a girl like this [fill in the details] to do this [fill in the details]." 

3) Await response. Certainly in London you'll get some great replies.

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22 hours ago, exerter said:

My advice is

1) Sort out with your g/f exactly what you both want. E.g. is it a long-held fantasy of hers to be simultaneously licked by her and fucked by you?

2) Put up a RB request on AW, and be totally honest about the situation. "My g/f and I want a girl like this [fill in the details] to do this [fill in the details]." 

3) Await response. Certainly in London you'll get some great replies.

Excellent advice and make sure the escort enjoys meeting couples and even see if there are some reviews from couples also. Any escort who genuinely wants to give the best experience possible to her couple will likely wish to speak to you both on the phone first to iron out any no go areas or limits and also questions etc.

Find the right lady and you will seriously have a fantastic time as long as all parties are on the same page! xx

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I got to be the lucky girl who did this for a couple last night. such fun! so nice to see clients go from being super nervous to super relaxed and smiley :)

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On 01/08/2016 at 5:12 PM, 30GGRedhead said:

I got to be the lucky girl who did this for a couple last night. such fun! so nice to see clients go from being super nervous to super relaxed and smiley :)

That's encouraging to hear, you're not in London by any chance haha?

How do you approach things to have a good time in terms of who takes the lead and who is the focus?

Also, it seems no one has experience of swingers parties to compare as an experience?

Many thanks for all the advice though, its been very helpful.

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Double facial with snowballing? Yes please!

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7 hours ago, explorer said:

That's encouraging to hear, you're not in London by any chance haha?

How do you approach things to have a good time in terms of who takes the lead and who is the focus?

Also, it seems no one has experience of swingers parties to compare as an experience?

Many thanks for all the advice though, its been very helpful.

Parties can be a bit random, there is a risk of more pressure imo and so less relaxed.  I wouldn't recommend them for a first time experience other than if you just went to watch and gauge how they work.

My experience through MMFs is that I've met quite a few swinging couples.  Their accounts of swinging vary, but there is a fairly consistent theme which is that joining sites and communicating with other members can get very time-consuming and complicated with a fair quota of timewasters.  I suspect that you would be better off with a professional ;)  at least in the first instance.  Less complicated in many ways.

In terms of who takes the lead etc. always spend a bit of time having a chat before starting,  of course you can arrange a certain amount before meeting, but it is quicker to do face to face and avoids the risk of exchanging an excessive number of emails which will put some providers off.  Don't have a fixed idea of what will happen, better imo to have a list of things that would be good if they happened and then things can then go their merry way :) and don't expect to tick off everything on your list in just one meeting.

 

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19 hours ago, explorer said:

That's encouraging to hear, you're not in London by any chance haha?

How do you approach things to have a good time in terms of who takes the lead and who is the focus?

Also, it seems no one has experience of swingers parties to compare as an experience?

Many thanks for all the advice though, its been very helpful.

i am! 

i ask the couple what they'd like to do, who should take the lead etc.

do swingers parties also have social meet ups? on the kink scene it's common to have social only meet ups as well as play parties so you can get to meet people in a more relaxed environment first.

 

like others i would recommend a professional for your first experience. 

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