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I'm an American widower in his early 60's.  My wife died a few years ago, after 30 years of marriage, and I'm just starting dating again but I don't have a regular partner.  I'm lonely for  the intimate touch of a woman.   I'm fit and well-mannered and I'll be in the UK, mostly London and some Liverpool, at the end of August and I want to try this out.  

...But I don't know how to begin.   How do women in this line of work advertise?  How do I avoid being victimised?   I'm looking for someone attractive, polite, gentle, and well-spoken, and not too young - I think late 30's or early 40's would be good for me.  Also, I don't want to rush - I'm not seeking a "quickie".   I have no idea what these services cost but I'll probably prefer to be in the higher end of the price range.   How do I start?

Thanks in advance.

 

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Start your research here, then continue on AW.  When emailing/calling the girl make sure you express all your requests: if in doubt move to the next girl - there are so many out there

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Welcome Oldpete, women advertise on various places on the internet. You could start with a Google search of 'Escort + the area you are visiting', also several directories such as Adultwork, Punternet, My Local Escort etc. 

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Like others have said, Google is your friend on this. Feel free to get more specific in your searches, like adding Mature, or a hair colour. You'll be surprised at some of the loveliness that comes up.

The age might not be right, but Uschi might be right up your street!

While it won't help with searching, I recently wrote a blog post about contacting an escort for the first time that you might find helpful: http://sweetsummers.co.uk/touched-first-time/

 

Good luck!

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As well as the great advice already given, perhaps give one of the more established agencies a call and see if they have a match and/or recommendation for you...

 

i know touting can be frown upon here but there are some delightful ladies in that age group on this very forum and I sincerely hope you have the best of times once you arrive...good luck!!!

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24 minutes ago, SweetSummers said:

While it won't help with searching, I recently wrote a blog post about contacting an escort for the first time that you might find helpful: http://sweetsummers.co.uk/touched-first-time/

Great blog post! :)

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This site, Punternet, has a long-established review collection that you can reach by clicking on Main Site Links near the top of this page and hen Reviews and you can then search by area, e.g. London.

Adultwork mainly gives you info that the escort has written about herself. The brief feedback on AW is viewed with suspicion by most punters as being escort-written or pimp-written but good reviews by punters who themselves have a good solid record of being reviewed are probably more reliable.

There are other punting sites too.

I hope things go well for you but it sounds like your best way forward would be to settle on a well-reviewed escort of the type that appeals to you, who has a well-written profile or her own website and who provides some clear pictures.

Everyone will tell you that price does not always match the standard of service but it is up to you depending on what you are looking for in terms of services.

If you get to the position of having  2 or so possibles, I am sure punters and escorts on here who have replied to your opening post would be happy to give an opinion on them according to their experience of reading/writing profiles and websites.

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You are not particularly old Old Pete so I would abandon all thought of being tugging at awkward strings. There are simply hundreds of lovely women you could find to your taste I feel sure. Vivluvsme has the possibility of great advice details. Others will have too. You should refine your searches a bit as others have suggested and then return with specific questions about particular possibilities. Good Luck

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OldPete, welcome.

First, remember that in the UK paying for sex is entirely legal; neither you nor the escort is committing a crime.

This makes the environment totally different from that in the US. In particular, victimization of the kind that I believe

you to mean is just not a factor here.

Second, as others have already suggested, Adultwork is an excellent site for finding escorts' advertisements,

and it's easy to use in to search according to many different criteria. In your situation I would use that first.

Finally I'm in my sixties too and that has only been a factor once, as follows.

Juat after a beautiful 20-something had enjoyed my tongue very much indeed and as I was about

to enter her, a look of concern suddenly crossed her face. "How old are you?" I told her, 61. The concern changed to

shock. "That's so old!" Then the shock changed to a smile. "Now fuck me, old man."

Well, you had to be there I suppose.

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8 hours ago, Uncle Pokey said:

You are not particularly old Old Pete so I would abandon all thought of being tugging at awkward strings. There are simply hundreds of lovely women you could find to your taste I feel sure. Vivluvsme has the possibility of great advice details. Others will have too. You should refine your searches a bit as others have suggested and then return with specific questions about particular possibilities. Good Luck

Uncle Pokey

In your 60s? Nice to see younger folk joining in.  I agree with Uncle P's view, and there are many lovely encounters to be had with escorts in their middle years. If you are using AdultWork, it might be worth looking at profiles with lots of positive feedback, and in all cases looking at field reports. I started by finding ladies with their own web sites, and/or with a 'presence' on punting boards, but there are fewer of those (as a percentage of those available) now than in days of yore.

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18 hours ago, OldPete said:

I'm an American widower in his early 60's.  My wife died a few years ago, after 30 years of marriage, and I'm just starting dating again but I don't have a regular partner.  I'm lonely for  the intimate touch of a woman.   I'm fit and well-mannered and I'll be in the UK, mostly London and some Liverpool, at the end of August and I want to try this out.  

First things first, I'm sorry for your loss. Secondly as the late Aaliyah once said, "Age ain't nothing but a number"

So you're in the UK at the end of August, so that gives you a couple of months to do some research and have a good think about what you want.

18 hours ago, OldPete said:

  ...But I don't know how to begin.   How do women in this line of work advertise?  How do I avoid being victimised?   I'm looking for someone attractive, polite, gentle, and well-spoken, and not too young - I think late 30's or early 40's would be good for me.  Also, I don't want to rush - I'm not seeking a "quickie".   I have no idea what these services cost but I'll probably prefer to be in the higher end of the price range.   How do I start?

Thanks in advance.

 

As others have said, most of the advertising is done on the Internet (namely dedicated websites such as this one and "The Purple / white on one with the initials AW").

So you've already said your desirable age range and you don't want a rushed service... besides the age, what type of women do you like? Do you like them slim, big, tall or short? Also are things like nationality and skin colour important to you? Do you want to try new experiences or the same things with you're used to? What appeals more to you, the Girlfriend or pornstar experience? Would you rather visit the girl or her come to you? Do you want just raw sex, or the winning and dining before the main act? I think if you answer the above questions (it's important you're honest with yourself) you'll quickly filter down it to a few WG's who are right for you.

As for avoiding being victimised, a lot of it is common sense (i.e. think with your head and not your dick). Well reviewed WG's are normally a safe bet (it's always somewhat riskier to choose a non-reviewed escort; even if it's a substandard service). Don't just look on the reviews, read them and then go with your gut instinct. Chances are there will be some correspondence between you before you meet, so see what sort of vibe you get from them.

Rates are typically between 120-200/ hour (with discounts often offered for longer durations)... however, please bear in mind the higher priced escorts do not necessarily guarantee a better / classier service.

Good luck & enjoy yourself ;)

 

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Thank you, everyone, for all your advice and encouragement!

Many people mentioned AW.  Do the women there use the same names on punternet, i.e., I like the quality of the reviews here, so is it possible or likely that if I see someone on AW who looks interesting, that I might find a review of here here?

I'm definitely more interested in the 'girlfriend experience' than the 'pornstar experience'.  In terms of physical attributes, just being fit, not fat or skinny, clean, smells nice, feels nice.  I don't care about hair color, race, breast size, etc,   I'd like a native English speaker - but I don't care if it's Canadian, Irish, Scottish, Midlands, South of England, East-Ender, or even American, etc, - 'English'.

Do you want just raw sex, or the winning and dining before the main act?

Definitely the wining/dining/conversation.  The 'raw sex' is almost secondary -  I'm pining for the touch, feel, smell, taste of a woman's body.  I seem to end up in the "friend zone" with women I date, and here in the 'States sex-work is illegal.    I expect to be in the UK to attend some shows and galleries in London, and the Liverpool Biennale -  probably 10-14 days total.

Thank you, again for all the help!

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6 hours ago, pabulum said:

In your 60s? Nice to see younger folk joining in.  I agree with Uncle P's view, and there are many lovely encounters to be had with escorts in their middle years. If you are using AdultWork, it might be worth looking at profiles with lots of positive feedback, and in all cases looking at field reports. I started by finding ladies with their own web sites, and/or with a 'presence' on punting boards, but there are fewer of those (as a percentage of those available) now than in days of yore.

Or you can be a dirty old man and see a young un. 

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8 hours ago, DirtyGit said:

So you're in the UK at the end of August, so that gives you a couple of months to do some research and have a good think about what you want.

As others have said, most of the advertising is done on the Internet (namely dedicated websites such as this one and "The Purple / white on one with the initials AW").

 

Confusing or what!!

How does arriving at the end of August give him a couple of months to research??

Adultwork has been OK to mention in full for a year or two so why complicate matters with 'Purple / white on' - it won't help a visitor and 'white' even confuses me.

Apart from that, several good points btw.

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9 hours ago, OldPete said:

Thank you, everyone, for all your advice and encouragement!

Many people mentioned AW.  Do the women there use the same names on punternet, i.e., I like the quality of the reviews here, so is it possible or likely that if I see someone on AW who looks interesting, that I might find a review of here here?

I'm definitely more interested in the 'girlfriend experience' than the 'pornstar experience'.  In terms of physical attributes, just being fit, not fat or skinny, clean, smells nice, feels nice.  I don't care about hair color, race, breast size, etc,   I'd like a native English speaker - but I don't care if it's Canadian, Irish, Scottish, Midlands, South of England, East-Ender, or even American, etc, - 'English'.

Do you want just raw sex, or the winning and dining before the main act?

Definitely the wining/dining/conversation.  The 'raw sex' is almost secondary -  I'm pining for the touch, feel, smell, taste of a woman's body.  I seem to end up in the "friend zone" with women I date, and here in the 'States sex-work is illegal.    I expect to be in the UK to attend some shows and galleries in London, and the Liverpool Biennale -  probably 10-14 days total.

Thank you, again for all the help!

Sometimes ladies do use the same name or similar. Googling her number may provide a link, or her name and 'adultwork' may also provide a clue.

I'm Strawberry here, in some places I'm Strawberryblonde, my website URL contains the phrase 'sweetstrawberry', and I go by the name Ruth. My location is the south lakes area of Cumbria, if you have some of that information and/or my phone number you'd find various places in which I advertise.

With a bit of simple detective work you can start researching most ladies found either on Pnet, or Adultwork.

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13 hours ago, vivluvsme said:

Confusing or what!!

How does arriving at the end of August give him a couple of months to research??

Adultwork has been OK to mention in full for a year or two so why complicate matters with 'Purple / white on' - it won't help a visitor and 'white' even confuses me.

Apart from that, several good points btw.

Apologies, the month was a typo, I meant to say a couple of weeks to review profiles and decide who is shortlisted.

I blame Friday night... that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it :P

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On ‎06‎/‎08‎/‎2016 at 7:17 AM, Coventrypunter said:

Or you can be a dirty old man and see a young un. 

Thanks, I've now got an image of Albert Steptoe doing his creepy trademark leer and dribbling.:( 

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On 06/08/2016 at 3:51 AM, OldPete said:

Do you want just raw sex, or the winning and dining before the main act?

 

Definitely the wining/dining/conversation.  The 'raw sex' is almost secondary -  I'm pining for the touch, feel, smell, taste of a woman's body.  I seem to end up in the "friend zone" with women I date, and here in the 'States sex-work is illegal.    I expect to be in the UK to attend some shows and galleries in London, and the Liverpool Biennale -  probably 10-14 days total.

Thank you, again for all the help!

If you fancy wining/dining/conversation, and are here to see shows and galleries - perhaps you should just mention that when contacting a lass and see if she's into that sort of thing too?  She might be happy to meet up for a show before the meetup "officially starts" if it's something she fancies seeing herself - if you're paying for the tickets, of course.  Nothing's written in stone in this oldest industry of all time, so I say just give it a go and see what happens.

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Well - I had surgery in the 'States which went slightly awry and pushed everything back some weeks, so I'll be arriving in London on October 7, where I'll spend 4 days, then on to Liverpool.     A few more practical questions for this beginner . . .

I notice in the reviews that some ladies seem to be with agencies and some have their own websites.    What are the pros and cons of those differences?

Also, Incall vs Outcall - again, what are the pros and cons?   FWIW I'm staying in London at a rather top-tier hotel.   Does that make a difference one way or the other?

Thanks in advance!

 

 

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The hotel should be no problem. The lady should know how to be discreet. Whether you go incall or outcall depends partly on whether your prefer being a guest or a host. And whether you would prefer to relax after your shag rather than go out into the cold.

Advantage of an indy with her own site is that you can make direct contact with her - perhaps by phone - and get more of an idea of what she'll be like. But really being with an agency or not is a pro or a con for the lady, not for you.

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I haven't read the whole thread, but if you are staying in a rather top tier hotel, I'd be tempted to get her to come to you ( an outcall, in other words ). That way, it takes a lot of the hassle out of the situation, you trying to negotiate London transport, and hanging around some random address that you have been directed to, and instead you can relax in the comfort of your own surroundings and just wait for the knock on the door. My guess is that if it is rather a top tier hotel, that your visitor might rather enjoy the ambience as well. That's what I'd do anyway ! 

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I did a search of the reviews in London for likely prospects, and limiting my search to the last 120 days, found lots of reviews, and have started the process of contacting them.   After London my travels take me to Liverpool but when I did a search with "location contains" "Liverpool" I got no hits at all.   Setting the search time back  600 days produced exactly 2 hits.      Any thoughts or suggestions about sampling the local talent in Liverpool?

Thank you in advance.

 

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On ‎02‎/‎10‎/‎2016 at 4:42 AM, OldPete said:

I did a search of the reviews in London for likely prospects, and limiting my search to the last 120 days, found lots of reviews, and have started the process of contacting them.   After London my travels take me to Liverpool but when I did a search with "location contains" "Liverpool" I got no hits at all.   Setting the search time back  600 days produced exactly 2 hits.      Any thoughts or suggestions about sampling the local talent in Liverpool?

Thank you in advance.

 

You could try widening your search to include surrounding areas (e.g. Merseyside, St Helens etc. I'm sure most of them would be willing to travel to Liverpool for an outcall). Worst case scenario, you may need to have a trip to Manchester... where there is definitely an active scene.

Have you tried using the AW site? I've just done a search on there (30 miles from postcode L1) and it returned 935 results. Some of them MUST be in Liverpool itself

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1 hour ago, DirtyGit said:

You could try widening your search to include surrounding areas (e.g. Merseyside, St Helens etc. I'm sure most of them would be willing to travel to Liverpool for an outcall). Worst case scenario, you may need to have a trip to Manchester... where there is definitely an active scene.

Have you tried using the AW site? I've just done a search on there (30 miles from postcode L1) and it returned 935 results. Some of them MUST be in Liverpool itself

Even 1 mile from L1 brings you 106 results.

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When I was younger I saw lots of older blokes. Now I'm (a little) older, I see lots of younger blokes, Therefore you're never too old... simple.

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