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Mean and possessive punters

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The thing I think I have enjoyed the most since joining this forum is the special insight that the participation has given me into the bold world of prostitution.The main purpose of the site was, I understand, to provide a forum for the sharing of information and experiences primarily for the benefit of punters.

Whilst the guys have trumpeted the virtues and independence of sex with no strings attached ,I have detected a reluctance by many punters to refer on their current favourite WGs to their p[unter bros.. Now this does seem silly in a no strings attached scenario, doesn't it ?.The punter is delighted to visit a WG in her ' luxurious ' incall which is presumably only possible where she has a successful enough business and yet the ' possessive ' punter can be slow to help further contribute to his fav WG's success by referring clients to her . I have seen loads of references to fav past WGs but not so many to current ones!

I say this also because I found myself lately falling into the same trap. I have seen a wonderful girl on a good few occasions and when a mate of mine asked me for her number, I instinctively fumbled the answer as I felt a certain exclusivity with this girl. However after some reflection on the logic of the situation, albeit reluctantly, hand over the number.

Is it right , as opposed to understanable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

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Is it right , as opposed to understanable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

I put it on the same level as trying to avoid paying your round - a flagrant breach of the chaps' code and worthy of a place in a very low circle of hell.

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I don't understand possessiveness. It's not like she'll ever be exclusive to you.

You're just a client to her - nothing more.

She'll never think of you.

She'd never even look at you in ordinary circumstances.

One of the girls on this forum, on another thread, admitted that she had been seeing a regular client for 5 years and all she loved was "his money".

You can't get love or emotional attachment from a prostitute so what's the point of possessiveness ?

If anything she'll be angry with you because, by not passing on her details to other men, you're denying her business and losing her money.

(By "you" I mean generally not you specifically)

;)

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correcting grammar

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I don't understand possessiveness. It's not like she'll ever be exclusive to you.

You're just a client to her - nothing more.

She'll never think of you.

She'd never even look at you in ordinary circumstances.

One of the girls on this forum, on another thread, admitted that she had been seeing a regular client for 5 years and all she loved was "his money".

You can't get love or emotional attachment from a prostitute so what's the point of possessiveness ?

If anything she'll be angry with you because, by not passing on her details to other men, you're denying her business and losing her money.

(By "you" I mean generally not you specifically)

;)

Don't quote me out of context, I said I loved his money and that I LIKED HIM. You don't have to be in love with someone to enjoy their company.

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Fair enough I suppose but it's not necessarily mean and possessive. Just as some WGs don't like/want FRs some may not want to be the subject of a 'referral', perhaps especially not on a public forum.

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I think it is something to do with the fear of her becoming too busy. If she gets loads of referrals and loads of new business there's the chance she might become too busy to see you.

A bit like mushroom picking - Tell everyone where you pick mushrooms and there won't be any there next time you go !

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Don't quote me out of context, I said I loved his money and that I LIKED HIM. You don't have to be in love with someone to enjoy their company.

Fair comment ----------- but would you enjoy his company if he went bankrupt and was unable to pay your fee. ;):confused:

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Fair comment ----------- but would you enjoy his company if he went bankrupt and was unable to pay your fee. ;):confused:

I doubt that will ever happen I am an optimist. :(

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Is it right , as opposed to understanable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

Delusional control freak instantly springs to mind.

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fair enough I suppose but it's not necessarily mean and possessive. Just as some WGs don't like/want FRs some may not want to be the subject of a 'referral', perhaps especially not on a public forum.

It can be a matter of respect (yes, some of us do have it). I do not like to bandy peoples names about on a public forum, without their knowledge. I have occasionally referred people to a certain girl by PM when I have thought it appropriate. Otherwise I leave it to the girl concerned to manage her own advertising to suit her own lifestyle.

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Is it right , as opposed to understanable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

I wonder if there have ever been cases of one of the 'brotherhood' becoming so obsessive they've actually put potential clients off seeing an escort ?

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I have detected a reluctance by many punters to refer on their current favourite WGs to their punter bros.

I have seen a wonderful girl on a good few occasions

Is it right, as opposed to understandable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

Who is she? ;)

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You can't get love or emotional attachment from a prostitute so what's the point of possessiveness ?

If anything she'll be angry with you because, by not passing on her details to other men, you're denying her business and losing her money.;)

You do rather like postulating absolutes, don't you?

Not only did Justinian get love and emotional attachment from a courtesan, but more than one poster on this board has revealed that he / she met his / her significant other "on the game". It is uncommon, but it does happen.

Your other suggestion is, however, not unreasonable! WG do (for the most part) warmly appreciate FRs, and one delightful lady has mentioned to me her irritation at punters who have seen her several times, suggesting that they like what she provides, but still won't / don't write her a FR.

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I think that what must also be taken into consideration, is the fear of WG's becoming "tired", and their services "can" go on the wane, or become perfunctory, once they become very very popular. That is why some punters might withold information about their current favourites.

Personally, I like the variety, and seldom punt with the same person twice.

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The thing I think I have enjoyed the most since joining this forum is the special insight that the participation has given me into the bold world of prostitution.The main purpose of the site was, I understand, to provide a forum for the sharing of information and experiences primarily for the benefit of punters.

Whilst the guys have trumpeted the virtues and independence of sex with no strings attached ,I have detected a reluctance by many punters to refer on their current favourite WGs to their p[unter bros.. Now this does seem silly in a no strings attached scenario, doesn't it ?.The punter is delighted to visit a WG in her ' luxurious ' incall which is presumably only possible where she has a successful enough business and yet the ' possessive ' punter can be slow to help further contribute to his fav WG's success by referring clients to her . I have seen loads of references to fav past WGs but not so many to current ones!

I say this also because I found myself lately falling into the same trap. I have seen a wonderful girl on a good few occasions and when a mate of mine asked me for her number, I instinctively fumbled the answer as I felt a certain exclusivity with this girl. However after some reflection on the logic of the situation, albeit reluctantly, hand over the number.

Is it right , as opposed to understanable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

Maybe there are some punters that don't like to share their toys, but If someone asks my advice on a lady I will give It. I don't have a regular, but as my FR's show I've seen some very good ladies recently.

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We can't mention a girl or it's cheerleading ;)

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Fair enough I suppose but it's not necessarily mean and possessive. Just as some WGs don't like/want FRs some may not want to be the subject of a 'referral', perhaps especially not on a public forum.

not wanting areferral on a public forum maybe but even that would surprise me in the majority of cases. do WGs not generally appreciate referrals ? is this not the best type of business ordinarily ? why would a WG not wish to have a private referral from a punter unless he is a ' bad ' punter ?

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Is it right , as opposed to understanable, that a punter should be mean and possessive about his favourite WGs ?

Categorically not. The moment someone displays possessiveness towards me (or jealously about anyone else I'm seeing), I refuse to see them. End of story and dropped like a hot coal. Through being burnt on many an occasion (my own stupidity thinking it's "all OK") - it's really not. And now when I see it coming, I nip it in the bud. First will come a gentle word of warning. If that falls on deaf ears, it's out the door.

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Categorically not. The moment someone displays possessiveness towards me (or jealously about anyone else I'm seeing), I refuse to see them. End of story and dropped like a hot coal. Through being burnt on many an occasion (my own stupidity thinking it's "all OK") - it's really not. And now when I see it coming, I nip it in the bud. First will come a gentle word of warning. If that falls on deaf ears, it's out the door.

Yes I don't blame you, some guys can become silly If allowed to.

I don't know who Cumandgo Is referring about punters that don't want to give out advice on fav WGs, to be honest I don't really PM guys asking for advice anyway, maybe I should, but I usually read the FR's and make my own mind up. If someone asks me my opinion on a WG I'm happy to give It, she's not my gf. ;)

Maybe It's that they don't want the lady to become to busy, could be harder to see her again, or as has happeaned before with some indys, after a few positive FR's, the ladies rates start going up.

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It totally depends on the person depends on the person..

To relate, there are some men, when i hear theyve been to other wg's i feel a pang of jealousy.... Even though i know its not the "correct" emotion its still there, like a hunger pang. As long as it doesnt drive you to distraction its okay!

But there's also a few men where i feel theyd benefit from seeing other girls and i relish hearing about it.

Its natural to feel possessive or protective about someone youre fucking and/or care about...its human nature.

Not wanting referrals is a good point. Im not into them only because different people bring out different sides of me. Some you trust instinctively and try all sorts with, others im more reticent with or some are sensual, some rampant; so service can vary from one client to another.

I see a few men that wont review me because "why would i want to make you more popular and struggle to get an appointment?" I understand it and generally it doesn't bother me.

And although i agree with your earlier statement bout this site being set up primarily for punters to share info, i think it also provides a "safe" environment for people (both punters and wgs) to express their true feelings about sex and the like. The things you'd never say to friends or family. However distasteful (within reason)

When i joined this site a few months ago i liked that there was a mixture of light hearted and serious discussions you could get involved in depending on your mood.

I digress from original post, is its right that someone is mean and possessive about a wg (or any girl) then no. But then its kind of uncontrollable how someone makes you feel

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or as has happeaned before with some indys, after a few positive FR's, the ladies rates start going up.

An interesting dilemma. So Thelma of Thurrock (who is plodding along quite happily @ £120 ph, making the sort of money she wants to make, in the number of hours she wishes to work, on a regular basis) decides, after reading that a lack of FRs puts her into the "Hmmmmmmmm, no FRs, got to be dodgy" category, that she will get herself taken off the "No Reports" list (assuming that such a thing can be done), and after a few positive FRs she decides to put her rates up to £150 ph, she now finds that she is making more money than she did before working the same amount of hours, on a regular basis, and is quite happy with that, she then reads that anything above £120 ph is outrageous, and that unless she drops her prices her phone will stop ringing. PMSL.

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You Can Pin And Mount Me; Like A Butterfly

So erotic!

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It totally depends on the person depends on the person..

To relate, there are some men, when i hear theyve been to other wg's i feel a pang of jealousy.... Even though i know its not the "correct" emotion its still there, like a hunger pang. As long as it doesnt drive you to distraction its okay!

But there's also a few men where i feel theyd benefit from seeing other girls and i relish hearing about it.

Its natural to feel possessive or protective about someone youre fucking and/or care about...its human nature.

Not wanting referrals is a good point. Im not into them only because different people bring out different sides of me. Some you trust instinctively and try all sorts with, others im more reticent with or some are sensual, some rampant; so service can vary from one client to another.

I see a few men that wont review me because "why would i want to make you more popular and struggle to get an appointment?" I understand it and generally it doesn't bother me.

And although i agree with your earlier statement bout this site being set up primarily for punters to share info, i think it also provides a "safe" environment for people (both punters and wgs) to express their true feelings about sex and the like. The things you'd never say to friends or family. However distasteful (within reason)

When i joined this site a few months ago i liked that there was a mixture of light hearted and serious discussions you could get involved in depending on your mood.

I digress from original post, is its right that someone is mean and possessive about a wg (or any girl) then no. But then its kind of uncontrollable how someone makes you feel

What a refreshingly open and honest statement. I've often suspected and experienced that with some of the girls I've met, that they are jealous and to a degree possessive of punters that they like, but feel that due to the 'job' they shouldn't express such emotions. But as Miss X says, on occasions, given the intimacy, it's human nature. IMHO the best W.G.'s are those who do not discard their emotions, but are capable of living with them and enjoying all aspects of the 'job' when the opportunity arises.

Returning to the 'thread', could it be that those punters that are mean and possessive with W.G's, are those that are of exactly the same nature outside of punting?

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I wonder if there have ever been cases of one of the 'brotherhood' becoming so obsessive they've actually put potential clients off seeing an escort ?

What an interesting question. That could never happen, surely...

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