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Who is the time waster?

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I was looking forward to a nice time with a WG who I had contacted via the other site. We had exchanged emails, chatted briefly on the 'phone. I got to Hackney Wick station and called her to see where she was situated. It turned out to be Fun Times swingers club. I did not really fancy that sort of venue and so I cancelled. I sent her an email suggesting she make it clear on her page where she operated from with a link to the club. I got a reply thanking me for the idea, but then saying she had spoken to a friend of hers who had also had a cancellation from me and that I was a time-waster and not to contact her again.

Who wasted whose time? I schlepped out to Hackney Wick only to be disappointed; she may well have had someone else who she had turned down to see me. I did not set out to waste her time and I am sure she had no intention of not giving me a good time. Just the nature of punting?

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Perhaps you could enlighten us with the name of the lady, so that others may be able to avoid her, and not go through the same inconvenience which you suffered ?

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I am sure that the lady in question will be lots of other punters' choice and that she will sort out her page. I am more interested in whether people think one or both of us acted unreasonably.

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I am sure that the lady in question will be lots of other punters' choice and that she will sort out her page. I am more interested in whether people think one or both of us acted unreasonably.

Well her really as if you were wanting to see an indie in a private location rather than a parlour or busier type place and it wasn't made clear on her website or profile page :)

I sometimes work from parlour type places but am mainly an indie but when I do work out of a parlour I will say that in emails or calls if you are interested in booking. Thats just me though and I am a bit OCD with my organising and updating my site and profiles.

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I am sure that the lady in question will be lots of other punters' choice and that she will sort out her page. I am more interested in whether people think one or both of us acted unreasonably.

I have been to Funtime Swingers myself which is on an industrial estate with my partner at the time. What we were not told was some people practice BB there including the joint owner who told us she doesnt use condoms due to having a latex allergy. We pointed out there were alternatives but it was lost on her, we left without partaking.

A guy called Ric Porter now does condom only Parties there once a month as discussed a while ago on another thread.

IMO you were misled but i dont understand your reluctance to name and shame this individual, in my view those that mislead or lie deserve to be outed.

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in my view those that mislead or lie deserve to be outed.

I agree, name her.

saying she had spoken to a friend of hers who had also had a cancellation from me and that I was a time-waster and not to contact her again.

More like imaginary friend. She's just trying to scare you and/or make you feel guilty as if you're the one who caused the problem and she did nothing wrong.

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IMO you were misled but i dont understand your reluctance to name and shame this individual, in my view those that mislead or lie deserve to be outed.

I agree with this, i'd not want anyone else to go through the same pointless task of being mislead.

I think the WG is the time waster for not disclosing all the details, if not on her profile she could of at least told you when you had a phone conversation. It almost feels like one of those bait and switch situations without the 'switch' were the WG is hoping once you traveled all that way your bell would do the rest of the brain work and you'd go along with it.

there are similar situations were you arrive at a punt and the home is totally occupied... men, women moving around, very off putting and in a way misleading as plenty of punters would avoid such places. so i always ask if the lady is indie or parlour and if the house/flat is occupied.

peace

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There are some misguided people who think timewasting can only happen one way.

In my experience wg's are just as likely to be timewasters as are punters.

See my thread in the summer on 'Darling Dawn' of ** who allowed me to waste my time trekking over to Limehouse for Sweet Fuck All.

She was by no means the first to waste my time either.

But she may very well be the last. :)

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There are some misguided people who think timewasting can only happen one way.

In my experience wg's are just as likely to be timewasters as are punters.

See my thread in the summer on 'Darling Dawn' of ** who allowed me to waste my time trekking over to Limehouse for Sweet Fuck All.

She was by no means the first to waste my time either.

But she may very well be the last. :)

I agree and am amazed at punters reluctance to name and shame these individuals. Is this not one of the reasons for this boards existence to share information, good and bad.

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I agree and am amazed at punters reluctance to name and shame these individuals. Is this not one of the reasons for this boards existence to share information, good and bad.

Here, here !

Punters can only help each other by freely sharing information, and if that includes naming & shaming then so be it. Most people are all to willing to slag off well-know retailers of electrical goods and DIY establishments when they get poor service, why should the inducement of a financial transaction for sexual favours be any different.

Go on, Logypot, tell us.

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OP left home, not knowing where he was going?? OP has us all wondering?? Fishy this

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OP left home, not knowing where he was going?? OP has us all wondering?? Fishy this

If the OP were coming to visit me, he would also need to 'leave home, not knowing where he was going' as I'd direct him to a local spot but not give him my address until he got there. I'm not unusual in adopting this practice either, as has been recently documented in a thread on the subject.

As to the original question - I'd say that each would feel the other had wasted their time. The outsider however might just see a mix-up or misunderstanding.

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I presume that the lady's intention was to use a private room at the club and not for a public performance ( they have daytime events as well as evening ones ). Even so, looking at the club's website, it does look like a fairly open space where those present might mingle, an area that needs to be passed before reaching the private rooms. A far cry from the privacy of a discreet apartment. I can understand and would share the poster's concern for his privacy and anonymity--I would not go there. He cancelled at the first opportunity, once he was made aware of the location. Perhaps he should have asked earlier where the meet was to take place, but I think that the lady's arrangements were so different from the norm that there was some obligation on her to have brought this to the poster's attention long before he had actually travelled to meet her. I bet it's not the first time someone has cancelled his appointment with her in similar circumstances.

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A year or so back, I had a client who rang and questioned that I was definitely using a private apartment, I assured him I did. When we met I found out why he'd asked, it turned out that he'd previously booked an in-call with another escort in the area who was supposedly working from an apartment, when he got there it turned out to be a well known parlour / brothel, he cancelled that booking. I hate it when people cancel at the last minute, however you should be clear about the type of premises you are working from.

This does however have some connection to the threads about escorts who are worried when a potential client asks if there will be anyone else there. There often can be quite a legitimate reason for the question, they are wanting to see an independent or solo agency girl because they don't want to go a parlour / brothel or swingers club.

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I'm often told my place is not what guys expect at all - but in a nice way. Quite often they expect an A-Typical working 'flat' sometimes I get asked if I'm working from a hotel. Another question is "Is it discrete" - well yes I say I don't have a flashing sign outside that wouldn't be a good idea at all.

I would have thought if you were working from an establishment, club or hotel it was ok to give that information up front once an appointment has been confirmed. I'd feel better since it's less hassle for both parties. On the other hand some guys really don't mind seeing girls in establishments or clubs so it might not occur to her.

Reporting is fine but this is a very fickle, personal industry too where misunderstandings can arise from both sides. Whereas in a typical consumer situation things are often more clear cut.

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If the OP were coming to visit me, he would also need to 'leave home, not knowing where he was going' as I'd direct him to a local spot but not give him my address until he got there.

At least with that policy you are assured that you would never have the misfortune of me visiting you -------- I don't do magical mystery tours. :D

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You would be surprised at how many who do WITH the address because they are male, and can find it without assistance thank-you very much. Then cause havoc with the neighbours, draw attention and think you are wasting their time when listening to simple directions once in the area would get them to you quickly and without fuss. Address and directions are sometimes best once parked or very close by. Just depends upon your situation.

Then again my area is a riddle of little back roads, quaint buildings which will hardly ever fit into a standard address system.

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You would be surprised at how many who do WITH the address because they are male, and can find it without assistance thank-you very much. Then cause havoc with the neighbours, draw attention and think you are wasting their time when listening to simple directions once in the area would get them to you quickly and without fuss. Address and directions are sometimes best once parked or very close by. Just depends upon your situation.

Then again my area is a riddle of little back roads, quaint buildings which will hardly ever fit into a standard address system.

Yes, you have explained numerous times that your address is hard to find, you are the exception to the rule, most addresses show up on a Sat-Nav.

I have stated many times that I don't want to drive for an hour only to get the ladies voicemail because a more lucrative booking has come along. :D

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And how exactly does it prevent that?She could have taken that booking and started it during your drive then turn the doorbell off etc.

I certainly don't take more lucrative bookings over others never have done. Perhaps that then is more fool me and yes some chaps have offered me extra money to 'cancel' a booking in their favor. Not something I do so seems I'm a bit stupid if it's normal practice.

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Its always handy to have a back up plan, and to know a few phone numbers of escorts in the area should the inevitable happen, twice in a few decades I have been let down, on the first occassion, I was so worried about the lady as she phoned to say she was in hospital, I didnt make any other booking, but on the second occassion which happened about 8 years later, I had three other numbers, and was lucky enough to get an escort who was available for the night, which turned out so well, there was another four overnights boked with the lady till she retired.

Time wasting is not the nature of punting though, as was quoted in the opening post, its the nature of people.

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Not something I do so seems I'm a bit stupid if it's normal practice.

Normal practice.

Similarly, I've picked attractive low bids on my reverse bookings in the past, only for the girl to cancel at the last minute ("my mother died!" or "my car crashed!") leaving me alone in a £70 hotel room that I spent an hour to travel to. Yet when I use my other mobile phone to contact her to inquire about a booking with the SAME EXACT TIME, she says she's available! No doubt she had really changed her mind about bidding £80 below her standard rate. TIMEWASTER and MONEYWASTER.

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And how exactly does it prevent that?She could have taken that booking and started it during your drive then turn the doorbell off etc.

There is simply less chance of being messed about if you have the ladies full address ----------- nothing in this business is guaranteed. :D;)

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Perhaps you could enlighten us with the name of the lady, so that others may be able to avoid her, and not go through the same inconvenience which you suffered ?
I am sure that the lady in question will be lots of other punters' choice and that she will sort out her page. I am more interested in whether people think one or both of us acted unreasonably.

I find it both disturbing and sad that your loyalty is with the girl who messed you about and not your brothers on here. :D:(

NAME AND SHAME

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At least with that policy you are assured that you would never have the misfortune of me visiting you -------- I don't do magical mystery tours. :D

I know - it's one of the reasons I do it that way. It's also why I stay fat. :D

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This is so arse-about-face it's beyond belief. The man with the money has to travel across London in the hope that the WG isn't spending a proverbial penny when he arrives. I'll have to remember this when I call-up for an outcall, she can ring me when she gets close.

Is this a London thing?

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