Lindilala

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I visited this site a couple of weeks ago after hearing about it. Since then I am completely hooked! Ive never been so facinated about something. Anyway, it has really got me thinking about my own relationship.

I have been with my partner for almost 17 yrs. Im 39. I could never imagine him visiting a wg but who knows eh? Afetr reading some of the postings on here it seems there are no particular type as it were. What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort? I genuienely would like to know!! It seems many of the men on here who are married still love thier wives. Is it just a case that there is no sex/very little. W e have (fairly!) regular sex.

I can totally understand why the girls do the job that they do and I dont blame them. Id have ago myself if I were youngerr and had the bottle! I still cant understand how mens minds work though and if Someone isnt getting regular sex why dont they discuss it with their partner and tell them they are not standing for it?

I would really hope my partner came to me if there was a problem.

Also im curious to know how blokes have the bottle to go up to a strange girl, sober and reel off a list of sex acts that they want? Again, i could not imagine my partner doing this.

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What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort? .

I'm not entirely convinced you are who you say you are, but that may just be my nasty suspicious nature. However, this sentence leapt at me.

The answer is nothing, If he's going to be tempted, he's going to be tempted and it's not in your power to change that. And please don't think 'lack of sex' is the only reason guys visit us. Some of the guys I see happily admit that their home sex life is extremely healthy - they just want to do this too.

So why do those guys do this?

Because they can.

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Welcome Lindilala

Your comment about not 'standing for it' is interesting. It implies that punters should either be faithful to their partner or threaten to end the relationship if she won't 'put out' often enough. Sounds a bit coercive, albeit honest.

Sometimes it's financially much easier to stay together. Better for the kids too. The relationship/companionship can also be strong, even without the regular sex that he may crave.

Not that simple.

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I'm equally baffled as to how women's minds work. In order to help us see where you are coming from, could you please explain why you need to ensure that your partner never feels tempted by an escort, as opposed to say him having an affair?

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In my case it boils down to boredom with my sex life at home. I get bored with most things and so have had career changes, cars and before marriage girl friends.

Now I have been married lots of years I have become bored with sex with my wife. I broached the subject of spicing things up but even the effort of putting on make up or stockings got her really angry and I was banished to the spare room. End of discussion. I love my wife but wanted something else - its on offer at home but im rarely turned on by her.

So, affair or escort? I plumped for escort as there is not the commitment and in theory less danger of discovery and damage to an otherwise happy marriage.

Is this a familiar scenario to anyone?

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I am who i say i am, sorry you think that. Probably sounds suspicious, an 'ordinary' girl posting on here.i am just genuinely curious.

Perhps I am in the minority for thinking men or women shouldnt 'stand for it'if their partners won't have sex. I would hope my partner would tell me that things were bad and that he was going to go elsewhere so at least id have chance to try and improve things.

I supose if a bloke does it just cos he can then theres not a lot you can do but i hope i would be able to spot that type and not have a relationship with them.

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I pretty much agree with MGBroadster with the difference my wife is not interested in sex anymore and assumes I should not be either.

So choice was affair or escorts. For the same reason as him I chose the latter.

It was pretty scary the first couple of times - and I did not reel off a list of sexual demands to a stranger like you think might happen. I discovered this site and researched who I should see. GFE was what I was after and that is what I got bar a couple of less good punts.

The first couple of ladies I saw were understanding of my nerves and opened a realisation to me that some women actually enjoy sex.

I now see a regular lady where the sex is mind-blowing and experimental (you know who you are) and we also get on socially as people which is great. Oh and she will dress up in sexy gear which my wife thought was 'silly'.

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I visited this site a couple of weeks ago after hearing about it. Since then I am completely hooked! Ive never been so facinated about something. Anyway, it has really got me thinking about my own relationship.

I have been with my partner for almost 17 yrs. Im 39. I could never imagine him visiting a wg but who knows eh? Afetr reading some of the postings on here it seems there are no particular type as it were. What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort? I genuienely would like to know!! It seems many of the men on here who are married still love thier wives. Is it just a case that there is no sex/very little. W e have (fairly!) regular sex.

I can totally understand why the girls do the job that they do and I dont blame them. Id have ago myself if I were youngerr and had the bottle! I still cant understand how mens minds work though and if Someone isnt getting regular sex why dont they discuss it with their partner and tell them they are not standing for it?

I would really hope my partner came to me if there was a problem.

Also im curious to know how blokes have the bottle to go up to a strange girl, sober and reel off a list of sex acts that they want? Again, i could not imagine my partner doing this.

Do you think that if your home sex life wasnt much good and that you told your partner you weren't happy and wont stand for it, that any subsequent sex would be worth having. Considering the sex would be gained under duress, I dont imagine the rest of your home life would be very happy. I for one am willing to let sleeping dogs lie.

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I wouldnt want my partner to 'let sleeping dogs lie'. Surely you should be able to tell a long term partner you are not happy about something. I would want him to be happy with our sex life and if he wasnt then id be happy to change things. Ok it may rock the boat and upset some people but isnt that better than justgoing elsewhere

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I visited this site a couple of weeks ago after hearing about it. Since then I am completely hooked! Ive never been so facinated about something. Anyway, it has really got me thinking about my own relationship.

I have been with my partner for almost 17 yrs. Im 39. I could never imagine him visiting a wg but who knows eh? Afetr reading some of the postings on here it seems there are no particular type as it were. What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort? I genuienely would like to know!! It seems many of the men on here who are married still love thier wives. Is it just a case that there is no sex/very little. W e have (fairly!) regular sex.

I can totally understand why the girls do the job that they do and I dont blame them. Id have ago myself if I were youngerr and had the bottle! I still cant understand how mens minds work though and if Someone isnt getting regular sex why dont they discuss it with their partner and tell them they are not standing for it?

I would really hope my partner came to me if there was a problem.

Also im curious to know how blokes have the bottle to go up to a strange girl, sober and reel off a list of sex acts that they want? Again, i could not imagine my partner doing this.

So you'd rather your partner didn't indulge, but the only things stopping you are your age and your nerve.

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What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort? I genuienely would like to know!!

You can't but it isn't a given that all men will seek out escorts to fill a need. Many men I know wouldn't dream of paying for sex, or being unfaithful.

Hopefully you both have quite equal sex drives and both satisfy each other. A tip is to once in a while try something new in the bedroom, being a little unpredicatable is good for keeping your man's eyes at home. Now and again try to go back to creating that feeling when you were first together. :D

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I'm not entirely convinced you are who you say you are, but that may just be my nasty suspicious nature. However, this sentence leapt at me.

The answer is nothing, If he's going to be tempted, he's going to be tempted and it's not in your power to change that. And please don't think 'lack of sex' is the only reason guys visit us. Some of the guys I see happily admit that their home sex life is extremely healthy - they just want to do this too.

So why do those guys do this?

Because they can.

with respect claire , I do not think this is good advice. Of course you cannot prevent a punt ever happening but that is different to taking steps to lessen the chances of her man wanting to punt regularly or as a hobby ie ' seeing WGs ' and most of the active posters here 'see' WGs many times over the course of a year.

yes, guys see wgs regularly for a whole range of reasons and can do so notwithstanding a healthy sex life with their partner. However, my guess is that the dominant reason why a guy ' sees ' WGs is because of a shortfall in their relationship sex life. In that event, I think there is much that a female partner can do to lessen the appetite of her man to 'see ' WGs. My guess is that if you did a poll of married guys here b/w the ages of 45-60 who punt now , you would find that only a minority of them punted regularly when they were between 30-45, probably because they enjoyed reasonably good sex lives with their partners.

So my advice to the OP would be to make sure that you continue to enjoy a close , exciting, adventurous and varied sex life with your partner [ and this is somehting natural anyway ] and this will lessen the chances of him wishing to ' see ' WGs .

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So you'd rather your partner didn't indulge, but the only things stopping you are your age and your nerve.

Thats not really helping the woman is it? She is probably getting paranoid that her partner might want to punt.

Alot of men don't punt & don't cheat. Alot of men don't punt but cheat or punt but don't cheat.

Why don't you just talk to your partner about his opinion on it you might find he would never pay for sex, but falling in love and having an affair could happen to anyone!

If you have a good relationship, talk and have no issues with the sex life then the chance of your partner punting is probably slimmer. Have you tried an adult game like 'Monogamy' which is aimed at couples?

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In my case it boils down to boredom with my sex life at home. I get bored with most things and so have had career changes, cars and before marriage girl friends.

Now I have been married lots of years I have become bored with sex with my wife. I broached the subject of spicing things up but even the effort of putting on make up or stockings got her really angry and I was banished to the spare room. End of discussion. I love my wife but wanted something else - its on offer at home but im rarely turned on by her.

So, affair or escort? I plumped for escort as there is not the commitment and in theory less danger of discovery and damage to an otherwise happy marriage.

Is this a familiar scenario to anyone?

It's a very familiar scenario ; coupled with the added complication that one may be 50 years old on the outside but still 25 years old in your appreciation of the opposite sex.

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with respect claire , I do not think this is good advice. Of course you cannot prevent a punt ever happening but that is different to taking steps to lessen the chances of her man wanting to punt regularly or as a hobby ie ' seeing WGs ' and most of the active posters here 'see' WGs many times over the course of a year.

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It wasn't advice. It ws an opinion. And I stand by it.

Perhaps you should read what I said more closely.

I did not say 'If he's going to be tempted, he's going to punt.'; and I didn't say 'He WILL be tempted'. I said 'If he's going to be tempted, he's going to be tempted'.

Whether he is a man to be tempted or give in to the temptation, only he knows. In fact he may not be tempted at all.

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Also im curious to know how blokes have the bottle to go up to a strange girl, sober and reel off a list of sex acts that they want? Again, i could not imagine my partner doing this.

I can answer that one, its actually a lot easier to ask a complete stranger for what you want, than it is to ask someone you know, well it is for me, especially when it is of a sexual nature. Wg's are by and large non-judgemental, they are not going to be shocked, or even surprised, you dont need to explainin detail what you are after & they are usually pretty good at it.

What can you do to make sure your husband doesnt stray - nothing, if he's going to, he probably already has. from a practical point of view what you want to do is make sure he always comes back to you, sorry, always wants to come back to you, and i suspect the answer to that one is not just about sex.

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It's a very familiar scenario ; coupled with the added complication that one may be 50 years old on the outside but still 25 years old in your appreciation of the opposite sex.

oh how true!!!!

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I visited this site a couple of weeks ago after hearing about it. Since then I am completely hooked! Ive never been so facinated about something. Anyway, it has really got me thinking about my own relationship.

I have been with my partner for almost 17 yrs. Im 39. I could never imagine him visiting a wg but who knows eh? Afetr reading some of the postings on here it seems there are no particular type as it were. What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort? I genuienely would like to know!! It seems many of the men on here who are married still love thier wives. Is it just a case that there is no sex/very little. W e have (fairly!) regular sex.

I can totally understand why the girls do the job that they do and I dont blame them. Id have ago myself if I were youngerr and had the bottle! I still cant understand how mens minds work though and if Someone isnt getting regular sex why dont they discuss it with their partner and tell them they are not standing for it?

I would really hope my partner came to me if there was a problem.

Also im curious to know how blokes have the bottle to go up to a strange girl, sober and reel off a list of sex acts that they want? Again, i could not imagine my partner doing this.

I punt because i enjoy it mainly and i like to shag different ladies. I happily ring WGs who i dont know and ask for confirmation of services offered.

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I visited this site a couple of weeks ago after hearing about it. Since then I am completely hooked! Ive never been so facinated about something.

Also im curious to know how blokes have the bottle to go up to a strange girl, sober and reel off a list of sex acts that they want? Again, I could not imagine my partner doing this.

Slightly off your main topic Lindi, but I know what you mean about the site being addictive. I managed to wean myself off it over Xmas, but I'm back now, no doubt to the delight (not) of at least two other users I could name.

Regarding asking for a list of services, I can only speak for myself but I doubt many guys approach an encounter like a Chinese takeaway menu: "I'd like a number 4, a number 17 and at least two 23s". Personally I always check quite carefully what's on offer before booking. My big thing is a good massage, so I try and make sure of that, but otherwise I generally let things flow. And re 'having the bottle', I find there's always a pleasant frisson of anticipation in the run-up to meeting a new lady for the first time.

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It wasn't advice. It ws an opinion. And I stand by it.

Perhaps you should read what I said more closely.

I did not say 'If he's going to be tempted, he's going to punt.'; and I didn't say 'He WILL be tempted'. I said 'If he's going to be tempted, he's going to be tempted'.

Whether he is a man to be tempted or give in to the temptation, only he knows. In fact he may not be tempted at all.

Great ! :D -- Will read it more closely and come back to you :D

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What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort?

The answer is nothing,

If he's going to be tempted, he's going to be tempted and it's not in your power to change that.

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It wasn't advice. It ws an opinion. And I stand by it.

Perhaps you should read what I said more closely.

I did not say 'If he's going to be tempted, he's going to punt.'; and I didn't say 'He WILL be tempted'. I said 'If he's going to be tempted, he's going to be tempted'.

Whether he is a man to be tempted or give in to the temptation, only he knows. In fact he may not be tempted at all.

Sorry about the delay claire-- had to attend to something.

Now to be fair, the main question put by the OP was;

What can i do to ensure that he never feels tempted by an escort?

Your response was --" The answer is nothing" which to be fair is pretty definitive and even stronger IMO than mere opinion or advice.You then go on to explain your answer.

The OP wanted advice on how she could ensure that he never feels tempted to see a WG.Without resorting to dictionaries,I think it is fair to say one suffers temptation when you are on the cusp of doing something or not. it is the power of that draw which is so difficult. 99 times out of 100, a guy will have to seek out the temptation of a WG.I think it is clear that the OP wanted advice on what steps she can take to prevent her man turning his attention towards seeing WGs and being tempting in that way.

Whilst obviously not possible to ensure,I do believe it is very much in the power of many women to lessen the chances of their man being tempted by prostitution. I think if women were to continue to have adventurous and satisying sexual relations with their man, many [certainly not all of course ] would not take that first step and make no mistake, it is a big step for many men.The problem is, once the forbidden fruit is tasted, it then becomes very difficult not to give in to the temptation.:D

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Do you think that if your home sex life wasnt much good and that you told your partner you weren't happy and wont stand for it, that any subsequent sex would be worth having. Considering the sex would be gained under duress, I dont imagine the rest of your home life would be very happy. I for one am willing to let sleeping dogs lie.

i agree with Jonnybgood, and actually wonder if you may be a journalist trying to generate copy, or some other interested party? Otherwise your naivet

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I wouldnt want my partner to 'let sleeping dogs lie'. Surely you should be able to tell a long term partner you are not happy about something. I would want him to be happy with our sex life and if he wasnt then id be happy to change things. Ok it may rock the boat and upset some people but isnt that better than justgoing elsewhere

Sometimes you can tell them repeatedly but they just refuse to acknowledge there is a problem, or if there is then it's so trivial that it's not worth mentioning.

Men play away because they are not getting sex at home, or not enough sex, or not enough of the right kind of sex. Their partner may be more of a friend, or a housekeeper type of relationship. In another instance, mentioned possibly here or elsewhere, the wife announces that she's never liked sex all that much, and now she's finished getting the kids she doesn't ever intend to do it ever again. Or sex and the withholding of it is used as a reward/punishment - ultimately self-defeating tactic as the recipient grows to resent it.

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Well, for my part(!)...

I have a happy home life, kids and wife. We have good sex, but the problem is quite simple and physical - she doesn't like oral, and I also like ebony and indian ladies.

Now I am not going to force her to do something she doesn't want to do (BJs) - I care too much for he and I wouldn't enjoy it if I knew she wasn't into it.

And I can hardly wave a magic wand and change her ethnicity.

So, we're back to the affair/escort scenario. No brainer really.

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Hi Lindi, Asking a strange girl for services is not a problem, it's more a problem getting thro all the things she wants to do in an hour

some of these wg have quite a reputation to live up to.:D

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