tommy123

Not sure if punting is for me?

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Hi guys.

This is my first post, so I apologise for my naivety. Here is my little story:

My first experience of punting was as a result of my leaving do from work. Me and a few guys went to a few strip clubs and ending up at a massage parlour. Both guys were experienced punters and jumped straight in. I did try, but couldn't get it up...didn't really enjoy it at all.

BUT, it has intrigued me ever since. So recently, I went to see another girl. An independant girl. She was lovely. Polish. So sweet. But once again, couldn't get it up. When I was semi... did have a bit of sex, but I hated it. What I did love was our little chat after. She was so lovely. In fact, I booked a 30 min app, and we ending up chatting until about 55mins. We just got on so well; I kept thinking she was going to ask for my phone number. I walked out thinking, "well, clearly this is not for me".

I love sex alot! I do have quite a bit of sex normally, but it is so easy just to pay for it and enjoy it. However, I don't seem to be enjoying it. Which is weird. But, despite this, I am constantly looking at escort sites and wanting to try it again, despite the fact I feel like I may be wasting my money again. I want it to work. And for me to be happy with it. My job has very long hours and so if I could just pay and enjoy the interaction that would be perfect.

Did i mention I was 22 years old?

Any advice, opinions or experiences would be welcome.

Tom

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Punting, quite simply, isn't for everybody. Doing it just to satisfy your curiosity proabably doesn't help. I'm no shrink but most guys punt to get their end away in some form or other. If you think you're looking for a relationship then you would certainly do yourself a big favour to look elsewhere. I'm not afraid to say it, the temptation to fall in love with a working girl can be overwhelming. Having said that, I don't think I'd change the decisions that have shaped my punting and personal life.

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If you are having quite a bit of sex with civilians, stick to that for the time being, its healthier in the long run. Review the situation in ten years time, or sooner if things take a turn for the worse. good luck with your life, you've got a lot of it ahead of you.

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Hi guys.

This is my first post, so I apologise for my naivety. Here is my little story:

My first experience of punting was as a result of my leaving do from work. Me and a few guys went to a few strip clubs and ending up at a massage parlour. Both guys were experienced punters and jumped straight in. I did try, but couldn't get it up...didn't really enjoy it at all.

BUT, it has intrigued me ever since. So recently, I went to see another girl. An independant girl. She was lovely. Polish. So sweet. But once again, couldn't get it up. When I was semi... did have a bit of sex, but I hated it. What I did love was our little chat after. She was so lovely. In fact, I booked a 30 min app, and we ending up chatting until about 55mins. We just got on so well; I kept thinking she was going to ask for my phone number. I walked out thinking, "well, clearly this is not for me".

I love sex alot! I do have quite a bit of sex normally, but it is so easy just to pay for it and enjoy it. However, I don't seem to be enjoying it. Which is weird. But, despite this, I am constantly looking at escort sites and wanting to try it again, despite the fact I feel like I may be wasting my money again. I want it to work. And for me to be happy with it. My job has very long hours and so if I could just pay and enjoy the interaction that would be perfect.

Did i mention I was 22 years old?

Any advice, opinions or experiences would be welcome.

Tom

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Hi Tom and welcome to the board. My advice is to do what makes you happy, punting should be enjoyable and fun. I punt for the sex but have relationships for love and the emotions that involves. If you are looking for love i would stick to non WGs, IMO you are more likely to find it with them.

If its just sex you want, at least for now and you have no problem paying for it, and can afford it, go for it. It can help build your confidence, but it can be addictive so bear that in mind.

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From what you are saying, punting is not for you. So just don't do it. It's not compulsory.

Get a real girlfriend in the 'real world'.

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However, I don't seem to be enjoying it. Which is weird. But, despite this, I am constantly looking at escort sites and wanting to try it again, despite the fact I feel like I may be wasting my money again. I want it to work. And for me to be happy with it. My job has very long hours and so if I could just pay and enjoy the interaction that would be perfect.

Did i mention I was 22 years old?

Hi Tom,

I started punting at 23 and my first few punts weren't very good. I changed tack slightly and began having massage and hand relief. I would book an hour session and have a massage followed by a handjob. This was very relaxing and wholly satisfying. Even if the girl wasn't top-notch in the looks department I always managed a happy ending.

I wonder if this approach would suit you until you become familiar and comfortable with the world of punting.

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IT sounds like your looking for a little more than sex, you prob wont get that from a WG

its very addictive punting its like window shopping and theres always something/someone new out there

maybe try a net dating site, its very similar but no sex usually until after 2 - 3 dates and your gonna have to earn it aswell eg be entertaining, good listener, confident etc

but it will save you a bundle in the long run :D

you never know you may find someone special :D

p.s your only young aswell I was still a virgin at your age !!! get out there and start dating and leave the WG's tot he rest of us :confused:

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Obviously if you aren't happy, stop. However, you do seem to enjoy some aspects of your encounters, man problems aside. Escorts are paid for time for a reason and sessions can vary considerably in their content. I have had a few regulars who either never want sex, or who don't manage it to completion, but who continue to book for the sake of entertainment. Even just talking to an escort is a sexual encounter of sorts, and carries similar sexual thrills for some people.

Before everyone berates my fluffiness, of course there is nothing "wrong" with booking an escort for sex, and that's what the overwhelming majority of my clients are after, and I've got no problems with that!

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There is no need to become a "serial" punter, routinely seeing girls on a regular basis. I've drifted in and out of punting as it suited me.

That said, for me, the best sex I ever had (by far) was with women I was intensely in love with. Sadly, it does not often last. Many years ago someone said to me that "sex with the same person inevitably becomes boring"; I suspect that is very true. Also, they divorce you and try take all your cash.

At 22, I would try get it for free; save the money for later, when you are older and have to pay for it (at least for the good stuff) :confused:.

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Before everyone berates my fluffiness, of course there is nothing "wrong" with booking an escort for sex

Phew thank goodness for that :confused::D:D!

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I was somewhat over middle age before I discovered the rather spendid paid sex scene on my doorstep. I'd had one affair during work. And I had had, until my retirement, a spendid sexual understanding with a lady at work.

The first time you pay for sex is very much a Rubicon to cross if you choose. Once you have done that it is inevitable that you will (probably rightly) feel that you have opened a Pandora's Box. But, If you are like me, you will begin to understand your own sexuality much better. You will be surprised at the joy you feel at the hugely greater number of attractive women you would like to have sex with. It will liberate you.

As many on this Board will say, for hecks sake choose your first encounter with care and read the Field Reports!

I wish you great joy

Uncle Pokey

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it really comes down to money, almost any sexual or social encounter is educational, but to get anything out of the hobby, costs about 210£ weekly. I am hoping my addiction will go , been a punter for six years, but only cos I would rather spend the money on other things.

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I would probably advise you think long and hard whether you can afford it, before you make this a habit, as it may get out of hand. I am only 1 year older than you, and I have seen about 4 escorts in the space of 3 weeks, so it is gradually becoming more and more regular. So obviously, this is costing me quite a lot of money.

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I would probably advise you think long and hard whether you can afford it, before you make this a habit, as it may get out of hand. I am only 1 year older than you, and I have seen about 4 escorts in the space of 3 weeks, so it is gradually becoming more and more regular. So obviously, this is costing me quite a lot of money.

dude get on a dating website and get dating you will have so much fun, learn loads more about sex and it will cost you ALOT less money

try match.com

its a plunge but you wont regret it

if you want advice pm

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Ive read this thread with interest

I never knew you could get it for free

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dude get on a dating website and get dating you will have so much fun, learn loads more about sex and it will cost you ALOT less money

try match.com

its a plunge but you wont regret it

if you want advice pm

DONT try match.com. More fake profiles than the other site and you have to pay for the privilidge!

Ive done match.com.

I ended up with a girl who was already dating 4 guys from the site, a girl who was married with kids and a girl who actually turned into quite a disturbing stalker. (I've never blocked someone from MSN but I did after getting onto match.com) Trust me! Even at work she suddenly turned up! And I never actually MET her!!! Will never do it again! I actually felt scared using it! I feel safer using A W !

To get back to your post:

You actually need a good reason for punting.

Cant get sex through the "usual" methods,

Want it to build your confidence,

Want companionship,

But going for sex when you already can get it for free (I wish that was true for me) is probably not a good enough reason. So why are you punting if you can get it so easy for free?

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Hi guys.

This is my first post, so I apologise for my naivety. Here is my little story:

My first experience of punting was as a result of my leaving do from work. Me and a few guys went to a few strip clubs and ending up at a massage parlour. Both guys were experienced punters and jumped straight in. I did try, but couldn't get it up...didn't really enjoy it at all.

BUT, it has intrigued me ever since. So recently, I went to see another girl. An independant girl. She was lovely. Polish. So sweet. But once again, couldn't get it up. When I was semi... did have a bit of sex, but I hated it. What I did love was our little chat after. She was so lovely. In fact, I booked a 30 min app, and we ending up chatting until about 55mins. We just got on so well; I kept thinking she was going to ask for my phone number. I walked out thinking, "well, clearly this is not for me".

I love sex alot! I do have quite a bit of sex normally, but it is so easy just to pay for it and enjoy it. However, I don't seem to be enjoying it. Which is weird. But, despite this, I am constantly looking at escort sites and wanting to try it again, despite the fact I feel like I may be wasting my money again. I want it to work. And for me to be happy with it. My job has very long hours and so if I could just pay and enjoy the interaction that would be perfect.

Did i mention I was 22 years old?

Any advice, opinions or experiences would be welcome.

Tom

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So let's look at the facts :-

1) You've punted twice, "didn't enjoy" the first, "hated" the sex in the second and the only bit you "loved" was "the little chat afterwards".

2) You are 22 and have "quite a bit of sex normally".

In answer to the question in the thread title, I have to say "I'm pretty sure it's not - at least not yet!". Why not keep on with your "quite a bit of sex" from your civvie relationships and give punting another go a few years down the line when you might need and/or enjoy it a bit more?

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Ive read this thread with interest

I never knew you could get it for free

Now that you mention it, it may be a delusion. A friend of mine who is cynical about punting, is (currently) with his third wife. Not sure he ever got it free :eek:

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DONT try match.com. More fake profiles than the other site and you have to pay for the privilidge!

Ive done match.com.

I ended up with a girl who was already dating 4 guys from the site, a girl who was married with kids and a girl who actually turned into quite a disturbing stalker. (I've never blocked someone from MSN but I did after getting onto match.com) Trust me! Even at work she suddenly turned up! And I never actually MET her!!! Will never do it again! I actually felt scared using it! I feel safer using A W !

To get back to your post:

You actually need a good reason for punting.

Cant get sex through the "usual" methods,

Want it to build your confidence,

Want companionship,

But going for sex when you already can get it for free (I wish that was true for me) is probably not a good enough reason. So why are you punting if you can get it so easy for free?

mate that sounds bad, im sorry but i dont believe you had that many bad experinces I had bad dates and its just part of the dating game nothing to do with the website

I was seeing several women on there but thats what its like in normal life, unless you feel you are with the ojne you tend to keep your eyes open.

match doesnt really have fake profiles, waht makes you say that ???

its not like they are short of members,

anyway to Original poster try match.com, datingdirect, lovestruck london (although thats a little harder to get dates on and is more of a play ground for city types)

anyway start olff on the net and then start hitting dating events, or simply start hitting dating events

and good luc

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Now that you mention it, it may be a delusion. A friend of mine who is cynical about punting, is (currently) with his third wife. Not sure he ever got it free :eek:

you can get it for free its called a feck buddy :-)

I have one who is raunchy we have some great sex, altough anything long term probably wouldnt work but its literally a phone call can i come over

only thing is different is no exchange of money

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you can get it for free its called a feck buddy :-)

I have one who is raunchy we have some great sex, altough anything long term probably wouldnt work but its literally a phone call can i come over

only thing is different is no exchange of money

I keep seeing personal ads referring to "NSA", but I don't know why the National Security Agency needs to know?

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mate that sounds bad, im sorry but i dont believe you had that many bad experinces I had bad dates and its just part of the dating game nothing to do with the website

I was seeing several women on there but thats what its like in normal life, unless you feel you are with the ojne you tend to keep your eyes open.

match doesnt really have fake profiles, waht makes you say that ???

its not like they are short of members,

anyway to Original poster try match.com, datingdirect, lovestruck london (although thats a little harder to get dates on and is more of a play ground for city types)

anyway start olff on the net and then start hitting dating events, or simply start hitting dating events

and good luc

You obviosuly live in a good area or the fact the im an ugly sod obviously stops the replys getting to me.....

Theres tons more guys on match than girls so any girl will take her pick of the most attractive. So being an ugly sod got no chance. Ive actually got abusive responses to an introducty "wink"

Serveral profiles sent me spam about "her personal site", yes her porno site, so fake.

Several profiles I recognised as girls from the Other site! Hmm looking for love? Or clients? One girl I chatted on line with for a while, and then suddenly popped up on Annabellas website!

All the rest are last logged in over 3 weeks ago. Means she created a profile and never logged in again?

I only had 1 date from it and was a paying member for 6 months. And no they did not give me a refund for the 6 months and didnt find someone.

Sorry but your obviously lucky or attractive.

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About 7 or 8 years ago I joined match, messaged a few girls, met one, shagged her, then got my one month subscription refunded. It might have changed, or maybe i got lucky, but i got the feeling it was full of crazy nymphos then.

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match is just a meeting place for single people, no differnt to a singles event or going to a bar

you seem to be missing the point and slateing match as if it only signs up nutters

and as i said befre ive had bad datesfrom there but ive had bad dates fro girls i have met in pubs or chatted up a t bus stops etc

the advatnage it has is that you dont have to work out who is single

and

if your not confident rejection is alot easier both ways on the net

im not the best looking guy in the world im average

the only reason i get anywhere with women is because im confident and remotely funny/entertaining

lets give this guy some encouragement and some options

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