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STD Etiquette

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So it seems that I have the dubious record of having managed to catch an STD only 5 punts into my career. I'll have to wait 10 days for the results, but I'm being treated on that assumption given the symptoms.

Let's say that I know with 99.999% certainty who I got it from. Am I supposed to call her and let her know? And what about another woman I saw after the infection but before the symptoms appeared?

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Call both. It's the right thing to do, just don't accuse or speculate. Just inform that you regret to have the diagnosis, and suggest they seek treatment.

I can't believe you'd even contemplate not doing so.

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I agree with no angel its a must that you inform both girls. Thats how STD's spread when people dont inform the others who might be involved.

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Oh dear. Yes, you should tell both. However can you say exectly what you are supposed to have caught and what drug you've been given as treatment?

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Am I supposed to call her and let her know?

OK with an indie, in which case you would have the number, but I wonder how reliable the message transmission would be through an agency?

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So it seems that I have the dubious record of having managed to catch an STD only 5 punts into my career. I'll have to wait 10 days for the results, but I'm being treated on that assumption given the symptoms.

Let's say that I know with 99.999% certainty who I got it from. Am I supposed to call her and let her know? And what about another woman I saw after the infection but before the symptoms appeared?

As others have said i would call both. Good luck with sorting the STD out.

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I can't believe you'd even contemplate not doing so.

The OP was only questioning the etiquette. In the circs, I would too as it would be a very new situation for me. Clearly, informing people is the right thing to do but there are different ways of doing everything.

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OK with an indie, in which case you would have the number, but I wonder how reliable the message transmission would be through an agency?

In the case of parlours they may tell you that they will pass on your number to the lady concerned.Any parlour would be silly not too as its not just the girl involved that could be affected but the other girls you have subsequently visited and the parlours reputation.I wouldnt phone up accusingly though,just an informative polite conversation will do.I should inform the couple of ladies you visited prior to the lady who you feel responsible as it may be that you have in fact infected her not the other way round.Ladies in your personal life are just as likely to have caused you infection,please bear that in mind.

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Just call and say what happened.... if they're not interested it's their problem.

Out of interest, what did you catch and how did you catch it?

Were you doing something stupid like bareback?! :)

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You must contact anyone you have had sex with since your last "all clear" with details.

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Just call and say what happened.... if they're not interested it's their problem.

Out of interest, what did you catch and how did you catch it?

Were you doing something stupid like bareback?! :)

I think the OP should feel under no obligation to divulge this information. We can learn what we need to know without having every detail, he has after all been pretty brave to make the post in the first place.

Your second point appears to indicate a certain level of ignorance. It is quite possible to catch an STI without indulging in bareback. Indulging in bareback simply increases the risk.

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I'm not ignorant at all.

Your post displays some amount of arrogance assuming that I am ignorant!

Generally STDs are not contracted during safer sex :)

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So it seems that I have the dubious record of having managed to catch an STD only 5 punts into my career. I'll have to wait 10 days for the results, but I'm being treated on that assumption given the symptoms.

Let's say that I know with 99.999% certainty who I got it from. Am I supposed to call her and let her know? And what about another woman I saw after the infection but before the symptoms appeared?

Symptoms can take some time to appear, so don't assume who you got it from. Call (or email/text annonymously) everyone you've been with since your last check up.

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I'm not ignorant at all.

Your post displays some amount of arrogance assuming that I am ignorant!

Generally STDs are not contracted during safer sex :)

Safe sex includes everything covered though:)

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Just call and say what happened.... if they're not interested it's their problem.

Out of interest, what did you catch and how did you catch it?

Were you doing something stupid like bareback?! :)

I think the OP should feel under no obligation to divulge this information. We can learn what we need to know without having every detail, he has after all been pretty brave to make the post in the first place.

Your second point appears to indicate a certain level of ignorance. It is quite possible to catch an STI without indulging in bareback. Indulging in bareback simply increases the risk.

Ok, leaving the BB issue to one side, I too would be interested how the OP thinks he caught it, should he wish to tell us that is. If not, no probs.

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I agree with no angel its a must that you inform both girls. Thats how STD's spread when people dont inform the others who might be involved.

And medication and time off work must be taken also x:o

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The OP also says he has to wait for the results and that the doctors gave something based on the symptoms. I thought alot of symptoms were similar is men?

So if the OP calls the girls now he is not going to be certain about what he has, but a call saying you have symptoms and you will call them at a later date when you get the full results would probably be the best thing to do.

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I think the OP should feel under no obligation to divulge this information. We can learn what we need to know without having every detail, he has after all been pretty brave to make the post in the first place.

Your second point appears to indicate a certain level of ignorance. It is quite possible to catch an STI without indulging in bareback. Indulging in bareback simply increases the risk.

I fully second (all of) this.

Speculation aside, it's absolutely possible that a girl can transmit something by touching herself intimately and then giving him a hand job. There's no point in speculating or any reason he should need to divulge anything further. The question and answers are simple.

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I can't help wondering what the OP will say to the second girl if he has indeed given her an unfortunate infection. Causing her to stop working for a while might have some serious financial implications.

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I can't help wondering what the OP will say to the second girl if he has indeed given her an unfortunate infection. Causing her to stop working for a while might have some serious financial implications.

Thats part of the risks involved in the trade esp if the wg is willing to partake in any form of uncovered sex/oral etc. The OP unknowingly caught it too which might have even more serious (partner related) implications.

transmission of the infection is probably more along the lines of owo. but what do i know

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OP, you've had symptoms, you've been checked out and the doctors are treating it as an STI - that's enough to be able to tell the ladies in question there is a very high chance of one of them having a problem and the other could have an STI, dependent upon which services were provided. If it were me I'd certainly want to know immediately and not wait until the 10days had passed until you were definite.

You can always get back to the ladies concerned once you get the final results and let them know the outcome. :)

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Thats part of the risks involved in the trade esp if the wg is willing to partake in any form of uncovered sex/oral etc.

Not too sure that I agree with that. We drive our cars with safety in mind, but can't be expected to take the blame if someone shunts you from behind.

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Definately contact both. I don't know, but can you not tell us who you have seen. I wouldn't want to unknowingly visit the same escort? Keep us all safe. Of course it wouldn't be fair if the escort in question didn't have it so hmm...

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Not too sure that I agree with that. We drive our cars with safety in mind, but can't be expected to take the blame if someone shunts you from behind.

Thats what car insurance is for and the equiv in this topic would be a condom...

so are you saying that the op should compensate the lady he infected for loss of earnings? then claim it back from the wg who passed it to him? not going to happen...

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I think the OP should feel under no obligation to divulge this information. We can learn what we need to know without having every detail, he has after all been pretty brave to make the post in the first place.

With great respect, Your Reverence, can I explain why it maybe is important?

I'll guess the symptoms were a discharge, not ulcerative and that there's a history of OWO but not BB. If not, please discount all below but, if so:

Maybe it is gonorrhoea. In that case, it's unfortunate but simple, the clinic should find the bug in at least one girl's throat. If it is Chlamydia there is a possibility that they will find it in a girl but it is unlikely- it doesn't establish well in the throat. If it is 'non-specific urethritis' (i.e. neither gonorrhoea nor Chlamydia) then the clinic probably won't find anything at all. Some such infections apparently just involve a combination of bad luck and normal oral bacteria.

None of this alters the fact that he should tell the girls who, according to UK guidelines, should be treated whatever is or isn't found, but it may alter how he puts it to them..... saying accusingly 'You gave me an STI' and then having the girl going to the clinic which can't find anything in her throat is likely to spoil a beautiful friendship....

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