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Questions for the single guys re punting.

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As a married punter (31 years married and recently started punting) and reading the various comments and thoughts on this site regarding married punters cheating etc, how do you single guys view punting and what impact does and will punting have on your life.

Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend? If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend? It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

Do you have a girl friend and punt? If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects. Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

So what are your thoughts?

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As a married punter (31 years married and recently started punting) and reading the various comments and thoughts on this site regarding married punters cheating etc, how do you single guys view punting and what impact does and will punting have on your life.

Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend? ............

Do you have a girl friend and punt? .............

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects. ...........

Answers in question order :-

No, I punt because I do not want a girl friend.

See above.

Yes I do view females as just sex objects, but I do not consider my view to be jaundiced, merely the logical outcome of my first answer.

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Similar, without the sex object thing. I have a lifestyle that does not lend itself to long term relationships. I love my lifestyle and am not willing to "settle down" and give up living that life for the sake of someone else, and there are very few people who would be willing to just follow me around and put up with that (and those that would, generally would be too wishy-washy for me to put up with them. I like strong women, not pushovers.) Having said that, I have found the occasional partner with a compatible lifestyle, and when I have been in a relationship, I have been faithful. I would only punt when I am single, never if I was seeing someone.

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Divorced, for quite sometime.

No girl friend. Could I get one?? Probably not. All sorts of reasons... for example, pretty settled routine don't meet any unattached ladies, and pretty low on motivation.

And going back to the motivation... I suspect that punting is why I'm not looking for a girl friend.... effectively reducing my chances of finding one to zero.

Yes, I know you get a lot more than sex from a girl friend.... but I feel that I get "things" like love, companionship, fun and heartbreak from family and close friends. I have to say that last 5 years of my life have been the happiest so far... really don't want to risk it all.

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Divorced. Went through some pretty dark times, due to my past life, and wouldn't wish those on anyone else.

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As a married punter (31 years married and recently started punting) and reading the various comments and thoughts on this site regarding married punters cheating etc, how do you single guys view punting and what impact does and will punting have on your life.

Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend? If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend? It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

Do you have a girl friend and punt? If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects. Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

So what are your thoughts?

I have punted when single and when in relationships where i had a very fulfilling sex life and dearly loved my partner. Sometimes my partner knew i punted and she did her own thing which was fine with me and we had group sex together on ocassion, other times i have punted behind other partners backs.

I like having sex with as many ladies as possible and am happy to pay because the no strings aspect of it suits me. For me there is a big difference between love and sex.

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Those are really interesting comments you guys have made.......!!;)

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As a married punter (31 years married and recently started punting) and reading the various comments and thoughts on this site regarding married punters cheating etc, how do you single guys view punting and what impact does and will punting have on your life.

Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend?

No.

If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend?

Neither

It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

No. I think the operative word here is "friend".

Do you have a girl friend and punt?

No.

If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects. Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

So what are your thoughts?

To put this in some form of perspective, whether I would punt or not having a girl friend would largely depend on the girl friend. Perhaps I've been fortunate but girl friends of the past have been just as eager as I and up for most things.

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Similar, without the sex object thing. I have a lifestyle that does not lend itself to long term relationships. I love my lifestyle and am not willing to "settle down" and give up living that life for the sake of someone else, and there are very few people who would be willing to just follow me around and put up with that (and those that would, generally would be too wishy-washy for me to put up with them. I like strong women, not pushovers.) Having said that, I have found the occasional partner with a compatible lifestyle, and when I have been in a relationship, I have been faithful. I would only punt when I am single, never if I was seeing someone.

They are all very good points and although in reverse but for me a few of the reasons I very rarely get into a relationship.

I enjoy sex so am in a win, win situation as far as I see it. I get plenty of sex without the hassle of a relationship AND I get paid too ;)

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Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend?

Yes

If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend?

I thought it would help. Now Im not so sure.

It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

No.

Do you have a girl friend and punt? If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

N/A

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects.

No. If I started to feel that it did then I'll stop.

Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

The more I think about it. Yes. Im starting to face the fact that I'll probably be single for ever so might as well keep punting or just sit at home / go to work... Social life none existant to the point that punting actually gets me out of the house.

So what are your thoughts?

See above... ;)

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I'm single / divorced and find that punting allows me to have several girlfriends (I don't mean bed-partners). I can go to the cinema / theater / meal etc with any one of them without the end game being trying to bed them. They seem to like it as they know they aren't being taken out with the expectation of something in return and see me as quite respectable ( lol )

I'm sure their opinion of me would change dramatically if they knew I punted but I'm not likely to divulge that information.

I enjoy being single.

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I'm single / divorced and find that punting allows me to have several girlfriends (I don't mean bed-partners). I can go to the cinema / theater / meal etc with any one of them without the end game being trying to bed them. They seem to like it as they know they aren't being taken out with the expectation of something in return and see me as quite respectable ( lol )

I'm sure their opinion of me would change dramatically if they knew I punted but I'm not likely to divulge that information.

I enjoy being single.

No end game ? Are these purely platonic dates ? If not, surely as a single guy , a single girl after a few dates will be offended if you show no interest in her sexually ?

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No end game ? Are these purely platonic dates ? If not, surely as a single guy , a single girl after a few dates will be offended if you show no interest in her sexually ?

Yes platonic dates only. I get good sex from punting whenever I want. I know it's probably wrong to compartmentalise the two things but I've found it works for me. I don't think any of the ladies have been offended - we enjoy each other's company and they are always treated with respect.

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Yes platonic dates only. I get good sex from punting whenever I want. I know it's probably wrong to compartmentalise the two things but I've found it works for me. I don't think any of the ladies have been offended - we enjoy each other's company and they are always treated with respect.

Well done --- a guy like you must be in high demand !. I know many women who would like to have charming male platonic friends but these sort of guys are thin on the ground.

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it has given me experince when im with ladies some of them being friends of mine

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Yes

I thought it would help. Now Im not so sure.

No.

N/A

No. If I started to feel that it did then I'll stop.

The more I think about it. Yes. Im starting to face the fact that I'll probably be single for ever so might as well keep punting or just sit at home / go to work... Social life none existant to the point that punting actually gets me out of the house.

See above... ;)

great post ! There are very few fora where guys can give such honest views . You dont sound like a guy who would find it difficult to socialise or meet women.

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Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend?

Yep, I've always been hopeless with girls.

If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend? It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

Intially I thought it would help boost my confidence in general and regarding sex although since I'm new to punting I guess time will tell.

Do you have a girl friend and punt? If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

N/A

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects.

Nope, I'm used to viewing girls as platonic friends more than anything else.

Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

Personally I would love to have a girlfriend, however, lacking the necessary skills to obtain one at least for now the only way I can imagine spending time with someone of the opposite sex is with the incentive of a fist full of cash.

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I pay for it as am not capable of getting girlfriend, being well ugly and a bit shaky in the personality department. It does not give me jaundiced view of women, the reverse if anything. I tend to spend almost as much time chattering to the girls and enjoy their company as well as the sex. And at least the professionals are willing to let me get my hands on them which is more than can be said for the civilians.

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Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend? If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend? It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

I have put a lot of effort into trying to find a girlfriend/wife/f-buddy, with very little success. After the latest 3-year dry spell, during which time I dated over 20 women and asked many more out (almost all rejected me after one date, one or two I thought weren't suitable myself), I pretty much "gave up" on being able to find someone and "gave in" to the notion of paying for sexual services (so far "limited" to massage-type rather than FS).

Sex is definitely not all I want from a GF, but is an important factor. I would like someone to share experiences with, and, to be honest, to validate me, which is perhaps not the best reason. Oh, and there's the four-letter word too, though I waver in my belief in its existence...

Emotional detachment: well, I see sex as inherently emotional, but I guess what you mean by non-emotional is outside a relationship. I'd rather have sex within a relationship, but haven't had enough of it to know if I'd want it outside as well.

If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

I really hope to be able to stay faithful. Open relationships may be an ideal for some eminently well-adjusted individuals, and one which I used to be fully behind, but which I now don't hold much hope for being able to realise myself.

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects. Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

I feel I need to see females more as sex(ual) objects than I have done. I have always repressed my instincts, which is quite possibly how I have tolerated decades (since adolesence) of near celibacy. On some level I hope that having some sexual activity with real women will hone my animalistic side and eventually increase my chances of finding a GF. Yes, there is a certain obsessive geekiness to this for me, which again I hope might distract me from the "goal" of finding a GF enough to actually help me get one.

Money: I am financially extremely low-maintenance, and would be looking for similar in a GF, so paying for sex is actually costing me more in money terms.

Regarding looks, the WGs I have paid for so far have been less "good looking" in a societal sense than my last two GFs (now a fading memory), though I did feel I "got lucky" with those two. But I do find more attractive women harder to talk to.

As for being easy on the mind, in my case I have now crossed a kind of internal moral barrier that kept me from doing this before, which I can't go back over. I'm not losing any sleep over it right now, but what about the next time some friends joke about prostitution, or if a future girlfriend/wife (truly an abstract concept at the moment) brings it up? I'd like to think I could be open about it, but I can see myself going very quiet on those occasions...

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I'm pretty much with Overworked on this one but I thought I'd post anyway, as it might help to get some things off my chest.

Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend?

Yes, mostly because I enjoy the sex but I also (sometimes) enjoy the company as well.

If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend?

I don't think it has made a difference either way. My initial goal was to build confidence to be able to get a girl friend but now it's more for fun.

To be honest, I never made a serious attempt to get a girl friend before or after I started punting. I guess my biggest issue is a a lack of social skills, and although punting might have helped with these slightly, it hasn't made anywhere near a big enough improvement to make a difference.

It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

I don't think so. I don't have that many friends either, even fewer female friends. The company is definitely a part of what I pay for and is the biggest thing I feel I'm missing out on by not having a girl friend.

Do you have a girl friend and punt? If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

N/A but I'd like to think I would stop if I did have a girl friend... but I can't be sure.

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects.

No, I've always viewed women as equals AND sex objects... but maybe that makes them more than equals;)

Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend?

I do an awful lot of thinking about getting a girl friend but I've never done anything about it, either before or after punting.

Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

You could argue that punting (and also porn and the overly sexualised media) has given us unrealistic expectations of women looks wise. I've not noticed a difference in my attitude or behaviour because of this, but there could be something subconscious going on.

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great post !

Is it? Quoting the questions, and answer: "No,Yes, NA, "see above" Nah! That not a great a post. :D I hate clients also who answer me in the same monosyllabic manner, on my "well thought out questions". ;)

I don't mind "yes/no/na" but some further expansion to the answers should be followed.

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If I had a girlfriend i probably woudnt punt, or If I did i would change my punting style, wouldnt see the same girl, but see different ones. My view of women has changed in the sense that I understand now that woman can bonk at the drop of a hat, when I was in my twenties, women made men almost beg for sex, investing the act with almost mystical properties. I realise that I was taken for a mug, bigtime.

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Is it? Quoting the questions, and answer: "No,Yes, NA, "see above" Nah! That not a great a post. :D I hate clients also who answer me in the same monosyllabic manner, on my "well thought out questions". ;)

I don't mind "yes/no/na" but some further expansion to the answers should be followed.

Xenia. do you realise how hard it might be for some guys [ even anonymously ] to say or admit to certain things or perceived weaknesses ? This poster did so and I encouraged and congratulated him for that.Interestingly, many others decided to follow on his post and thats great too. Yes, it would be nice to have some expansion on his views -- why not ask him ?

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.................

Money: I am financially extremely low-maintenance, and would be looking for similar in a GF, so paying for sex is actually costing me more in money terms....................

don't kid yourself....;)

http://www.costofsex.com/index.shtml

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As a married punter (31 years married and recently started punting) and reading the various comments and thoughts on this site regarding married punters cheating etc, how do you single guys view punting and what impact does and will punting have on your life.

I got into punting after I was divorced. I didn't know about it beforehand. I view it as a way for me to have sex with different beautiful women, something I would find difficult, at the frequency I would like, back in the real world.

The impact punting has had on me is make me less anxious and het-up because I know I can get sex whenever I want with Wgs. I guess the downside is that I like the variety and am not really bothered about getting a girlfriend as the main reason I wanted one before was, amongst other things, was sex. I don't know if that is good or bad.

Do you punt because you can't get a girl friend? If so do you think this will help or inhibit your chances of getting a girl friend? It may make you more confident regarding sex, but with the emotional detachment you get from punting, is sex all you would see and want from a girl friend.

No. I punted and then stopped when I had a girlfriend. The relationship didn't last long as I decided I didn't want to get serious with her or settle down (not because I missed punting). Soon after, I returned to punting to relieve sexual frustration.

It has made me more confident regarding sex and I like the emotional detachment that punting gives me. It allows me to focus on what is important to me in my life (my child, my job, my money, me things) and remove the need for a partner. I have a physical need a partner may fulfill but I don't feel an emotional need for one; this may change, we'll see.

Do you have a girl friend and punt? If so, do you not get the sex you are looking for in your girl friend. If you do punt then I would assume that even when you get married you will still punt.

Not Applicable to me.

Does punting give you single guys a jaundiced view of females and make you view them all as just sex objects. Are you obsessed with punting to the extent of not even thinking about getting a girl friend? Thinking about this, it's probably a lot easier on the pocket, and certainly easier on the mind just having non-emotional sex. Let's face it; most wg's are far better looking than the girls most guys would be able to get.

So what are your thoughts?

Some may say I have a jandiced view of females, I don't think I have. I know what I want and am prepared to pay to get it.

I wouldn't say I'm obsessed but its like punting is my girlfriend/wife now - I feel its part of my life. I am financially responsible and am not like some drug addict when it comes to punting. Punting allows me to make no effort wooing a girl and getting to know her in the hope she'll let me shag her - it cuts straight to the chase and I like that. Most wgs are better looking than what might be otherwise available and whilst this is superficial I like fucking beautiful women based purely on their looks and not having to compromise this like I may have to with a girlfriend.

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