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Girls --- as professionals do you welcome consructive criticism from clients or propective clients [ independent of any FRs ] ?

Provided it was well meanning --- would you welcome comments, either publicly or privately, about say your website, appearance, range of services etc or do you feel it would be too difficult and too close to the bone and you would really prefer not to hear those views and just have the guy decide whether or not to see you again or for the first time ?

If yes, what constructive comments / views about yourself would you welcome ?

Guys -- have you ever wanted to make what you consider to be helpful suggestions to a Wg that you have either met in person or have some knowledge of through a forum such as this but have felt inhibited in doing so because you feel your comments will be taken as unhelpul criticism and would merely cause bad feeling ?

If yes, what sort of things would you like to have said to the girl ?

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Most recent one I can think of is "sorry but those false eyelashes look like dead caterpillars". And I can't count the number of times I've winced at a WG's written profile and thought "I could give you so miuch help with this dear".

I've occasionally thought of the odd bit of helpful advice, but I've never plucked up the courage to offer it yet! :D

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I've once tried offering what I hoped was constructive criticism and it didn't go down well. It was never published, and we patched things up, but I lost my taste for writing such things.

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Constructive critisism is always welcome in private.

Unfortunately so many people do not understand the term constructive and just end up being insulting instead.

I.e the post below, "sorry but those false eyelashes look like dead caterpillars" would be insulting and would put the girl on the defensive but "You have really nice eyes why hide them with false eyelashes" would not only be flattering, it may make her think twice about applying them again.

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I've once tried offering what I hoped was constructive criticism and it didn't go down well.

Speaking of "not going down well", I've given several girls advice on how to improve their oral technique! :D

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Girls --- as professionals do you welcome consructive criticism from clients or propective clients [ independent of any FRs ] ?

Provided it was well meanning --- would you welcome comments, either publicly or privately, about say your website, appearance, range of services etc or do you feel it would be too difficult and too close to the bone and you would really prefer not to hear those views and just have the guy decide whether or not to see you again or for the first time ?

If yes, what constructive comments / views about yourself would you welcome ?

Guys -- have you ever wanted to make what you consider to be helpful suggestions to a Wg that you have either met in person or have some knowledge of through a forum such as this but have felt inhibited in doing so because you feel your comments will be taken as unhelpul criticism and would merely cause bad feeling ?

If yes, what sort of things would you like to have said to the girl ?

Unless you know someone VERY well constructive criticism about someone's work can only be seen as patronising.

That would apply to any profession too.

I think it the height of pomposity - a common punter trait I hazard - to even think along those lines unless you really know the person well............and even then a careful path should be taken.

Criticism can only come after you've got some knowledge as to why a particular course of action has been taken. And you only do that when you get to know someone.

For example; you go see a solicitor who you don't know very well and immediately suggest that his range of services is limited and maybe he should broaden them. Totally silly eh! Well, the same applies to any job.

I'd be insulted if someone I barely knew criticised me professionally without knowing me very well and knowing why I did things a certain way.

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Girls --- as professionals do you welcome consructive criticism from clients or propective clients [ independent of any FRs ] ?

Provided it was well meanning --- would you welcome comments, either publicly or privately, about say your website, appearance, range of services etc or do you feel it would be too difficult and too close to the bone and you would really prefer not to hear those views and just have the guy decide whether or not to see you again or for the first time ?

If yes, what constructive comments / views about yourself would you welcome ?

Guys -- have you ever wanted to make what you consider to be helpful suggestions to a Wg that you have either met in person or have some knowledge of through a forum such as this but have felt inhibited in doing so because you feel your comments will be taken as unhelpul criticism and would merely cause bad feeling ?

If yes, what sort of things would you like to have said to the girl ?

I advised a lady to ensure her enjoys list on Adultw0rk was correct, at the time i punted with her it said she offered Anal, she said she didnt offer it and i noted she did change it shortly afterwards.

I have mentioned things like this numerous times over the years, its how you say it to the lady thats important in my view. Dont be blunt, but be diplomatic about it. Its never caused bad feeling that i am aware of, but if it has and a lady is such a good actress that i am not aware of it, then it doesnt matter simply because i am not aware i have upset her. So for me its about being diplomatic but still getting my point across clearly.:D

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Girls --- as professionals do you welcome consructive criticism from clients or propective clients [ independent of any FRs ] ?

Provided it was well meanning --- would you welcome comments, either publicly or privately, about say your website, appearance, range of services etc or do you feel it would be too difficult and too close to the bone and you would really prefer not to hear those views and just have the guy decide whether or not to see you again or for the first time ?

If yes, what constructive comments / views about yourself would you welcome ?

I'm a great believer in free speech and anyone is welcome to make suggestions - who and why the suggestion is made are what makes the difference as to what reaction they'll receive.

I had one guy email mentioning my spelling of 'modus operandi' on my website was in fact incorrect and gave me a lengthy lecture on his vast knowledge of Latin, and if I corrected it he would possibly book me if I visited his own town. (Ended up sending reply that it was there purposely to weed out boring pedants who had nowt better to do and therefore not really my cup of tea).

On another occasion a client mentioned he was unsure about booking me because my pics hadn't been updated for a while. I took this one on board.

Sometimes criticism/suggestions works, sometimes it doesn't. :D

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I had one guy email mentioning my spelling of 'modus operandi' on my website was in fact incorrect and gave me a lengthy lecture on his vast knowledge of Latin, and if I corrected it he would possibly book me if I visited his own town. (Ended up sending reply that it was there purposely to weed out boring pedants who had nowt better to do and therefore not really my cup of tea).

Ouch! That hurt!

(One learns to smile as a stilletto heel is ground into one's foot!)

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Unless you know someone VERY well constructive criticism about someone's work can only be seen as patronising.That would apply to any profession too.

I think it the height of pomposity - a common punter trait I hazard - to even think along those lines unless you really know the person well............and even then a careful path should be taken.

Criticism can only come after you've got some knowledge as to why a particular course of action has been taken. And you only do that when you get to know someone.

For example; you go see a solicitor who you don't know very well and immediately suggest that his range of services is limited and maybe he should broaden them. Totally silly eh! Well, the same applies to any job.

I'd be insulted if someone I barely knew criticised me professionally without knowing me very well and knowing why I did things a certain way.

Not sure about that XL. Take for example if you like a particular WG [ but have never met her ] and you notice that her new photos hide her face with a brilliant flash, a technique which you think doesnt do her justice, what could be considered pompous or insulting about suggesting that for her next photos she might consider using alternative methods, notwithstanding you dont know why she chose the flash in the first place ?

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Where women are concerned, there is, in my experience, no such thing as constructive criticism. All criticism is destructive, and it's your destruction that's involved if you voice it. :D

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Ouch! That hurt!

(One learns to smile as a stilletto heel is ground into one's foot!)

Please say it wasn't you ? :D

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Provided it's delivered diplomatically and constructively (and not on a public forum) then I don't mind. When I make an email booking I actually add a bit on the end to say that feedback, good or bad, is welcome via email or text afterwards so I know if improvements could be made. I'm a stickler for grammar and punctuation so, in a masochistic sort of way, I like it if any errors are pointed out if I've made any. If my website doesn't load properly or isn't user-friendly I really like to know about it too.

Range of services is something that I don't feel warrants feedback; if a client thinks a lady doesn't offer enough that's unfortunate, but she will only offer what she wants to and he only needs to find someone who offers exactly what he's after. If however there are discrepancies or ambiguity about what she says she offers compared to what she delivers then that's different.

Most recent one I can think of is "sorry but those false eyelashes look like dead caterpillars".

Did you really say that to a lady? I hope not because that's not very diplomatic at all and really quite insulting (but I know what you mean).

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Did you really say that to a lady? I hope not because that's not very diplomatic at all and really quite insulting (but I know what you mean).

No Lara, I didn't say it, only thought it, even though she turned out to be not a very nice lady. I agree entirely with you and Danielle that it would be entirely inappropriate, and I would never say such a thing to a lady who's sharing her company with me.

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I think you have to remember that most of all the escorts are self employed, and take their business very seriously...and have put a lot of thought into the services they give, and what is said on their web-page, so if your going to say anything about what is on their web-page, or or how you would improve their self promotion, I think you are going to be taking a big risk of being told what you dont want to heas.

Constructive criticism is hard to take, as we all have little faults, and what might be a little fault to you, might be the reason why someone makes a booking, to read a web-page that is focused and succient maybe what turns you on, whilst others like to read a bit more and laugh at the silly things they spot on the web-page, it could be that what clinches the booking.

Im sure you dont want the escort to tell you how to run your business, or what to buy your wife for her birthday, respect the lady and she will treat you the same way.

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I think you have to remember that most of all the escorts are self employed, and take their business very seriously...and have put a lot of thought into the services they give, and what is said on their web-page, so if your going to say anything about what is on their web-page, or or how you would improve their self promotion, I think you are going to be taking a big risk of being told what you dont want to heas.

Constructive criticism is hard to take, as we all have little faults, and what might be a little fault to you, might be the reason why someone makes a booking, to read a web-page that is focused and succient maybe what turns you on, whilst others like to read a bit more and laugh at the silly things they spot on the web-page, it could be that what clinches the booking.

Im sure you dont want the escort to tell you how to run your business, or what to buy your wife for her birthday, respect the lady and she will treat you the same way.

Wgs are not the only one's self-employed and who take their business seriously. Nobody does everything perfectly and those who do take their business seriously should be open to constructive ideas from people genuinly wishing to help -- they are not trying to run your business.

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I've actually been known to say to guys "I've put a lot of weight on since my last photos", well I've seen too many reports of ladies lying it's probably lost me business.......

Someone did say last year that I wasn't what he expected. I replied "What's that as I respect any feedback". He told me he thought my hair would be blonder as I advertise as "Strawberryblonde". My hair has never been dyed or altered in almost 5 years and is exactly as in the photos he saw.

Well unless he saw one of these other sites I've since discovered with old photos, but looking back he'd booked through my own site.

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only piece of advice i have ever offered (it was advice rather than a criticism) is "dont neglect the balls"

you'd be surprised at the number of ladies who think sucking cock is just that :D

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I've actually been known to say to guys "I've put a lot of weight on since my last photos", well I've seen too many reports of ladies lying it's probably lost me business.......

Someone did say last year that I wasn't what he expected. I replied "What's that as I respect any feedback". He told me he thought my hair would be blonder as I advertise as "Strawberryblonde". My hair has never been dyed or altered in almost 5 years and is exactly as in the photos he saw.

Its not the done thing to book an escort from only her photo's, and to assume the lady will still be like the photo on her web-site, shows a lack of imagination really, if he was only looking at the photo's of you in your lingerie, and you turned up in a dress, would he be right to say thats not what i imagined.

As for StrawberryBlonde, I guess some folk dont look at the photo's for the hair, but the name says it all really, what a sad reflection he had on a booking.

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Wgs are not the only one's self-employed and who take their business seriously. Nobody does everything perfectly and those who do take their business seriously should be open to constructive ideas from people genuinly wishing to help -- they are not trying to run your business.

But why change something because of someone's say so, surely the best person to understand what works best, is the person whom is giving the service, for all the person knows, maybe there is a reason for the way the service provider works that way.

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i have often thought of sending a PM to Sexy May to say i follow her bloging but as she writes so well and is so inteligent it puts me off booking her,as i wouldn't be able to keep up with her in conversation.

i never told her though, she would probably, take it the wrong way, but i did think her writing maybe puts some punters off .

oh god , i've said it now .:D

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But why change something because of someone's say so, surely the best person to understand what works best, is the person whom is giving the service, for all the person knows, maybe there is a reason for the way the service provider works that way.

If you're in the business of supplying goods or services you need to know (or ought to want to) if you are meeting your customers' requirements. Otherwise the business is on a downward slope.

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i have often thought of sending a PM to Sexy May to say i follow her bloging but as she writes so well and is so inteligent it puts me off booking her,as i wouldn't be able to keep up with her in conversation.

At the risk of being done for cheerleading, I have to say that May is much more fun in person - don't be put off.

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Not sure about that XL. Take for example if you like a particular WG [ but have never met her ] and you notice that her new photos hide her face with a brilliant flash, a technique which you think doesnt do her justice, what could be considered pompous or insulting about suggesting that for her next photos she might consider using alternative methods, notwithstanding you dont know why she chose the flash in the first place ?

You've never met the girl and would give advice:confused:

Woah! You're in the realms of unsolicited advice here............a minefield however you look at it.

In the scenario you mention you have no idea why she chose that method to syart with and until you do I don't think you any right to 'advise'

I'll stick to my guns on this one:)

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If you're in the business of supplying goods or services you need to know (or ought to want to) if you are meeting your customers' requirements. Otherwise the business is on a downward slope.

Its a personal service, and has to be seen as such, if the clients keep asking for anal, and its not on the escorts list, it does not mean the escort has to do that service, the escort says what she is comfertable with on her list of services, GFE or PSE is a starting point, but its up to the lady what type of service she gives, and aims her market accordinglly.

I think the show of fr's, and repeat bookings, show if the escort is meeting requirments.

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