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In another thread " thinking of becoming an escort" Shroud wrote

"Could a guy do this job.

I tried walking down the high street looking at every woman and imagining if it were them opening the door when I turned up for their "outcall" and having to perform. It was scary and humbling.

I really don't know how the women manage it. Respect.

Going to have to take a good look at myself too. "

This made me think in a way that I hadn't before.

I've just walked down the street and did as Stroud did and it was a real shock, especially when I passed ladies in my own age group. it's not as if they were absolutely hideous or anything, just getting on a bit, and i wondered how I would have felt as a 25-35 year old if they had appeared on my doorstep expecting a service from me.

On my punts I turn up clean and I'm always polite etc but I just wonder how the girls cope with it when they see this slightly overweight ageing man at the door.

I know it's a cash transaction and all that, and the girls are providing a service in return for payment, but I don't think I could have done it for the cash.

It's made me think about my position - not sure I can go on punting (hopefully that thought will go) .

What do others think? And how do the girls cope?

K

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It doesn't bother me (and I would suspect I speak for most other ladies on here). As a woman I've learned that looks, sexyness and bedroom abilities do not go hand in hand.

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In another thread " thinking of becoming an escort" Shroud wrote

"Could a guy do this job.

I tried walking down the high street looking at every woman and imagining if it were them opening the door when I turned up for their "outcall" and having to perform. It was scary and humbling.

I really don't know how the women manage it. Respect.

Going to have to take a good look at myself too. "

This made me think in a way that I hadn't before.

I've just walked down the street and did as Stroud did and it was a real shock, especially when I passed ladies in my own age group. it's not as if they were absolutely hideous or anything, just getting on a bit, and i wondered how I would have felt as a 25-35 year old if they had appeared on my doorstep expecting a service from me.

On my punts I turn up clean and I'm always polite etc but I just wonder how the girls cope with it when they see this slightly overweight ageing man at the door.

I know it's a cash transaction and all that, and the girls are providing a service in return for payment, but I don't think I could have done it for the cash.

It's made me think about my position - not sure I can go on punting (hopefully that thought will go) .

What do others think? And how do the girls cope?

K

The girls dont have to raise an erection so it doesn't matter if the guys turn them on or not.

Wheras if a guy worked he may find it difficult to get hard if lady not his cup of tea.

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I couldn't do it and it just serves to bolster the respect I have for SPs in general.

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The girls dont have to raise an erection so it doesn't matter if the guys turn them on or not.

Wheras if a guy worked he may find it difficult to get hard if lady not his cup of tea.

Exactly. I for one cannot get an erection unless I really fancy the woman in a physical sense. Even with chemical assistance I understand that a man still needs to 'fancy' the woman to achieve 'lift off'.

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And how do the girls cope?

That question made me smile :eek: It sounds like you pity us!

I for one don't just spread my legs and wait for the deed to be done (and I'm quite sure most of the girls here are exactly the same). There's a lot more involved in my meetings.

As I'm more attracted to a person than to looks, I'm always looking forward to meeting someone new. What I've learnt through the guys I've met, have largely enriched my life (and I don't mean financially).

I've been to places, restaurants, theatre, concerts & events I'd never otherwise have been too. I've learned about other occupations I'd never previous have even thought about. I've read books, seen movies and tasted wine I'd never have previously thought about.

I could go on and on....and that's not even talking about the people skills I've been able to fine tune. I can read strangers like a book. I know exactly what to say to people and how to behave so that they like me - an incredibly useful skill in the outside world.

So for me, it's absolutely not just about sex & money - but enhancing my own life in far more valuable & lasting ways.

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I couldn't do it and it just serves to bolster the respect I have for SPs in general.

I wish I had the looks, desirability and stamina to do it!

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That question made me smile :eek: It sounds like you pity us!

I for one don't just spread my legs and wait for the deed to be done (and I'm quite sure most of the girls here are exactly the same). There's a lot more involved in my meetings.

As I'm more attracted to a person than to looks, I'm always looking forward to meeting someone new. What I've learnt through the guys I've met, have largely enriched my life (and I don't mean financially).

I've been to places, restaurants, theatre, concerts & events I'd never otherwise have been too. I've learned about other occupations I'd never previous have even thought about. I've read books, seen movies and tasted wine I'd never have previously thought about.

I could go on and on....and that's not even talking about the people skills I've been able to fine tune. I can read strangers like a book. I know exactly what to say to people and how to behave so that they like me - an incredibly useful skill in the outside world.

So for me, it's absolutely not just about sex & money - but enhancing my own life in far more valuable & lasting ways.

No it's not pity - more like admiration.

I totally agree it's not just about sex and money.

One of my most memorable punts was a 3 hour booking and during the 1st of the recovery period we talked about all sorts of things including the type of music we liked and I ended up illustrating my love of a certain form of music by singing a love song to the girl. At the end of the song she moved towards me and we gently made love - it beat the GFE experience into a cocked hat.

My life was certainly enhanced that night - and I think the girls was too. I was devastated when she retired.

As some other poster have written it's also not just the problem of not getting it up if you didn't fancy a person (chemicals would certainly solve that problem) - it's simply that I would have to cope with anyone ( within reason - I know the girls can turn us away) that turned up on my doorstep or behind a door.

I'll never view punting the same again

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No I don't think a man could- the biological need for an erection and (presumably) to cum stops that. The other thought about just viewing the women you pass by on a normal day is would they be representative of those who'd come to a WB (if that's the male equivalent of a WG)?

Kirky is right that a good punt is not only about the sex, even though that's the reason for going.

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I wish I had the looks, desirability and stamina to do it!

I'm sure you've got at least 2 out of 3 :)

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I couldn't be the Fireman who cut dead children from cars.

I couldn't be the Social worker who has to walk away from suffering children

I couldn't be the Police liason officer who deals with child abuse

I couldn't be the Consultant who tells a mother she wont see her family grow up

I couldn't be the pathologist who examins the corpse of a baby beaten to death.

There are worse jobs. We have the option to say no.

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That question made me smile :) It sounds like you pity us!

I for one don't just spread my legs and wait for the deed to be done (and I'm quite sure most of the girls here are exactly the same). There's a lot more involved in my meetings.

As I'm more attracted to a person than to looks, I'm always looking forward to meeting someone new. What I've learnt through the guys I've met, have largely enriched my life (and I don't mean financially).

I've been to places, restaurants, theatre, concerts & events I'd never otherwise have been too. I've learned about other occupations I'd never previous have even thought about. I've read books, seen movies and tasted wine I'd never have previously thought about.

I could go on and on....and that's not even talking about the people skills I've been able to fine tune. I can read strangers like a book. I know exactly what to say to people and how to behave so that they like me - an incredibly useful skill in the outside world.

So for me, it's absolutely not just about sex & money - but enhancing my own life in far more valuable & lasting ways.[/QUOTE]

Justagirl --- you post quite uniquely. I doubt whether most WGs, certainly most of the WGs here, would voice such clear and positive sentiments . Would you agree and if yes, why do you think that is the case ?

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I'm sure you've got at least 2 out of 3 :)

Thanks Bunnyhunny, I think I could summon up the third too for you! x

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Justagirl --- you post quite uniquely. I doubt whether most WGs, certainly most of the WGs here, would voice such clear and positive sentiments . Would you agree and if yes, why do you think that is the case ?

It's 'cus we is too fick, innit.

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Awww kirky bless you honey i think your over analysing. I dont doubt that mabey it is harder for a man to do this job as guys are generally visually stimulated so if you don't like what you see it might have your gold member slightly confused but on a whole. I don't really care what my gents look like, you learn to look past that in this job as there are far more important things like respect, fun, mutual enjoyment, cleanliness, sometimes regular clients etc etc and you kind of just see your gents for who they are or who they want to be seen as. This really is a great industry for the people that want to be in it and the most women who are independent are happy to be doing what they're doing. I do think some girls end up with a hatred for men but thats because they just weren't built to do this in which case go and do somethhing that makes you happy and stop hating..................

Hugs Casey xx

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I couldn't be the Fireman who cut dead children from cars.

I couldn't be the Social worker who has to walk away from suffering children

I couldn't be the Police liason officer who deals with child abuse

I couldn't be the Consultant who tells a mother she wont see her family grow up

I couldn't be the pathologist who examins the corpse of a baby beaten to death.

There are worse jobs. We have the option to say no.

Yes Helen and that doesnt mean you pity them !!

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Justagirl --- you post quite uniquely. I doubt whether most WGs, certainly most of the WGs here, would voice such clear and positive sentiments . Would you agree and if yes, why do you think that is the case ?

Are you trying to start a war here? :)

Oh I'm aware I don't sing from the same hymn sheet as many of "Club Clique" (the very own PunterNet in-house girl band). As they say though: variety is the spice of life.

I don't know any of them, haven't met any of them and haven't even read a single field report on any of them. So to speculate would be unfair. Perhaps some of them indeed feel the same way as I do? I simply don't know.

I have a single female escort friend and she's the only one I share my (similar) views and sentiments with. I don't hang out with or talk to other WG's and keep myself to myself.

As for the positive sentiments - well what I said is absolutely true. This may sound boring and deep, but I vowed a long time ago to never do anything in life I do not fully enjoy. And would never just put up with something for the sake of it (money).

Time is incredibly precious. And if I don't make it count, it's lost forever.

So the way I choose to work and earn extra money, enhances my life with more than the obvious. Simple as that really :)

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This really is a great industry for the people that want to be in it and the most women who are independent are happy to be doing what they're doing.

A bit of a blanket statement?

For the very vast majority, it's really not so great. Despite "wanting" to be in it. And do it through necessity. Not because it makes them jump with joy each morning.

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I couldnt be a civil servant and know my workplace was never going to change and be vibrant but always be tedious and working with othe civil servants who believe they work hard etc etc yet panic if they think they are to be privatised

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I couldnt be a civil servant and know my workplace was never going to change and be vibrant but always be tedious and working with othe civil servants who believe they work hard etc etc yet panic if they think they are to be privatised

Blimey Dan, when did you visit my office? :)

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I dont jump for joy every morning but im grateful to be able to do my job and make good money from it. It has opened so many other doors and i have a better family life because i work to suit myself. I am not generally friends with many WG's but i know some who hate it and do it as they feel its the only way of funding something else like study etc and they end up resenting everybody involved but i know other women who do actually enjoy their job. I have businesses of my own outwith this yet im still around doing what i do because i do actually enjoy it. I have bad days and so does the rest of the world no matter what job they do. Even if its the job you always wanted to do your bound to have a bad day somwhere down the line. I was merely pointing out those that DO want to be in this are quite happy to do so. Not everybody is the same and each to their own it wouldn't do if we were all the same as like you said earlier 'variety is the spice of life'

Hugs Casey xx

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In another thread " thinking of becoming an escort" Shroud wrote

"Could a guy do this job.

I tried walking down the high street looking at every woman and imagining if it were them opening the door when I turned up for their "outcall" and having to perform. It was scary and humbling.

I really don't know how the women manage it. Respect.

Going to have to take a good look at myself too. "

This made me think in a way that I hadn't before.

I've just walked down the street and did as Stroud did and it was a real shock, especially when I passed ladies in my own age group. it's not as if they were absolutely hideous or anything, just getting on a bit, and i wondered how I would have felt as a 25-35 year old if they had appeared on my doorstep expecting a service from me.

On my punts I turn up clean and I'm always polite etc but I just wonder how the girls cope with it when they see this slightly overweight ageing man at the door.

I know it's a cash transaction and all that, and the girls are providing a service in return for payment, but I don't think I could have done it for the cash.

It's made me think about my position - not sure I can go on punting (hopefully that thought will go) .

What do others think? And how do the girls cope?

K

It comes down to what your comfortable and prepared to do. I couldnt do what a gigolo does, as i have to fancy the ladies i shag, otherwise its a turn off and i couldnt perform. Viagra which i have never taken might ensure i can physically perform but the thought of shagging ugly or old ladies makes me feel sick. Being paid wouldnt make any difference, i simply couldnt do it mentally.

I have the utmost respect for WGs who shag allsorts including punters like me who are fat and ugly.

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A bit of a blanket statement?

For the very vast majority, it's really not so great. Despite "wanting" to be in it. And do it through necessity. Not because it makes them jump with joy each morning.

I dont know about blanket statement,it rung very true to my eyes. I have worked in several parlours over the space of 3 1/2 years and most of the ladies i have worked with do enjoy thier jobs and chose to be in this proffesion. Yes, there are the odd one or two who are doing it simply to raise cash for a specific purpose and dont really want to be doing this any longer than is necissary but on the whole most do. I know some ladies who go from country to country working here for a week,germany for a week,etc and when i chatted to one of them she said her life is incredibly exiting (and it was said with a beaming smile on her face too). I really dont think your the one to judge other ladies statements,as you admitted,you only know one other lady who escorts and she holds similar views to you own. I enjoy my job,i love seeing the side of guys that the rest of the world does not, i have had many very interesting conversations with then,i have learnt from some of them and they (surprisingly to myself) have told me that they have learnt from me. It never ceases to amaze me just how many guys there are who can make me drift off into happy land just by kissing me the way they do and i for one love meeting them. Yes,there are some guys who arent so dreamy,but hey ho,im sure there is not a single person on the planet who has found every single aspect of their job thoroughly enjoyable 100% of the time and if you tell me that you have never had a client that you would prefer not to see again then you would be fibbing.

I do love this job because it earns me decent money, i also love this job as it affords me certain freedoms that others dont, if i wanted to take 6 holidays a year and only give a few weeks notice then i could, i dont have to be rushing off to work at 8am every morning, i get to dress up in sexy clothes every working day (which i dont in my mum life),i can start the ou course that i couldnt do a few years ago because i couldnt afford the childcare for a week away that is manditory in the second year on,therefore enriching my life and the lives of my children (if mum is happy etc ...)

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I really dont think your the one to judge other ladies statements,as you admitted,you only know one other lady who escorts and she holds similar views to you own. I enjoy my job,i love seeing the side of guys that the rest of the world does not, i have had many very interesting conversations with then,i have learnt from some of them and they (surprisingly to myself) have told me that they have learnt from me. It never ceases to amaze me just how many guys there are who can make me drift off into happy land just by kissing me the way they do and i for one love meeting them. Yes,there are some guys who arent so dreamy,but hey ho,im sure there is not a single person on the planet who has found every single aspect of their job thoroughly enjoyable 100% of the time and if you tell me that you have never had a client that you would prefer not to see again then you would be fibbing.

I do love this job because it earns me decent money, i also love this job as it affords me certain freedoms that others dont, if i wanted to take 6 holidays a year and only give a few weeks notice then i could, i dont have to be rushing off to work at 8am every morning, i get to dress up in sexy clothes every working day (which i dont in my mum life),i can start the course that i couldnt do a few years ago because i couldnt afford the childcare for a week away that is manditory in the second year on,therefore enriching my life and the lives of my children (if mum is happy etc ...)

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I dont know about blanket statement,it rung very true to my eyes. I have worked in several parlours over the space of 3 1/2 years and most of the ladies i have worked with do enjoy thier jobs and chose to be in this proffesion. Yes, there are the odd one or two who are doing it simply to raise cash for a specific purpose and dont really want to be doing this any longer than is necissary but on the whole most do. I know some ladies who go from country to country working here for a week,germany for a week,etc and when i chatted to one of them she said her life is incredibly exiting (and it was said with a beaming smile on her face too). I really dont think your the one to judge other ladies statements,as you admitted,you only know one other lady who escorts and she holds similar views to you own. I enjoy my job,i love seeing the side of guys that the rest of the world does not, i have had many very interesting conversations with then,i have learnt from some of them and they (surprisingly to myself) have told me that they have learnt from me. It never ceases to amaze me just how many guys there are who can make me drift off into happy land just by kissing me the way they do and i for one love meeting them. Yes,there are some guys who arent so dreamy,but hey ho,im sure there is not a single person on the planet who has found every single aspect of their job thoroughly enjoyable 100% of the time and if you tell me that you have never had a client that you would prefer not to see again then you would be fibbing.

I do love this job because it earns me decent money, i also love this job as it affords me certain freedoms that others dont, if i wanted to take 6 holidays a year and only give a few weeks notice then i could, i dont have to be rushing off to work at 8am every morning, i get to dress up in sexy clothes every working day (which i dont in my mum life),i can start the ou course that i couldnt do a few years ago because i couldnt afford the childcare for a week away that is manditory in the second year on,therefore enriching my life and the lives of my children (if mum is happy etc ...)

Chloe, you and the type of parlour you work for unfortunately does not represent the larger share of the sex industry. I don't have to know them personally to know those selling sex on street corners do not do so because they enjoy all the benefits of the job. Look at the bigger picture - not just your own little world. And think as far as other parts of the world too. That's still the sex industry and selling sex for money. You can thank your lucky stars that you have all the choices & power and that you are in the UK.

So think again...

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