jackdaw

Time to ring some changes

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As I plodded down to the station today seeking transport to a distant city whereby one of my regulars resides... I anticipated the punt.

A pleasure, of course, but....

The "but" is that I knew more or less exactly what was going to happen. A pleasurable routine, but still a routine.

So... guess... we've all been there. I guess the sensible way forward is to have a think on subject, then discuss with her a few other possibilities afore we meet again.

But anybody tried a different approach to "mix things up"?? Any thoughts, advice, comments... very welcome.

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As I plodded down to the station today seeking transport to a distant city whereby one of my regulars resides... I anticipated the punt.

A pleasure, of course, but....

The "but" is that I knew more or less exactly what was going to happen. A pleasurable routine, but still a routine.

So... guess... we've all been there. I guess the sensible way forward is to have a think on subject, then discuss with her a few other possibilities afore we meet again.

But anybody tried a different approach to "mix things up"?? Any thoughts, advice, comments... very welcome.

You could always try hitchin' a ride or perhaps driving there yourself.:)

But seriously, you probably need to try some different girls then when you go back to your regular it will feel different and new again. I always try to mentally vizualize a plan before I arrive, think of what you've done before and what you haven't. New ideas should come to you.

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Increase the time interval between your regular, regular visits ?

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Try different girls, maybe those who offer something you've never tried before or haven't done for a while?

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Personally, I reckon a change would be as good as a rest.

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As I plodded down to the station today seeking transport to a distant city whereby one of my regulars resides... I anticipated the punt.

A pleasure, of course, but....

The "but" is that I knew more or less exactly what was going to happen. A pleasurable routine, but still a routine.

So... guess... we've all been there. I guess the sensible way forward is to have a think on subject, then discuss with her a few other possibilities afore we meet again.

But anybody tried a different approach to "mix things up"?? Any thoughts, advice, comments... very welcome.

Ask her to try something different. Or what she liked to do.

Uniforms, different outfit, Different positions, roleplay.

Watch some porn or those films late on the Sky channels and get some ideas...

Or bring some food and drink to mix it up a bit.

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Like some of the previous replies, it is probably worth thinking about trying something a bit different, to make the appointment flow less similar to the ones that have gone before.

It may also be worth taking a short break from seeing her maybe a gap of 2-3 times the norm as a way of breaking the routine you have gotten into.

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Thanks for the suggestions. I did wonder about taking about a "mini break", and pretty sure that's one way forward.

But... after posting realized that I didn't mention the aspect of situation that most puzzles me. Normal routine is "vanilla"... kissing, normal sex, oral both ways. (Still one of best ice creams known.) I know she provides a wide range of other services ... some of which I enjoy (e.g. role play, water sport) ... but just have this fixed mental image that says "No... can't imagine doing that with Zera". (Zera... of course being a made up name.)

i.e. Real problem is maybe to find someway of shaking my own mental block. But to be honest once I've got a bias in my head, always hard to shake it.

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i also had a period of surely she wouldnt do that and we talked about it and she sugested trying some diffrent girls including her sister :)

Then we ended up me visiting some girls she liked the look of with me returning and telling her all the details (she got very hot )

Then a couple of ffm :)3 sums just before she retired :D

So as the advert says 'its good to talk'

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As I plodded down to the station today seeking transport to a distant city whereby one of my regulars resides... I anticipated the punt.

A pleasure, of course, but....

The "but" is that I knew more or less exactly what was going to happen. A pleasurable routine, but still a routine.

So... guess... we've all been there. I guess the sensible way forward is to have a think on subject, then discuss with her a few other possibilities afore we meet again.

But anybody tried a different approach to "mix things up"?? Any thoughts, advice, comments... very welcome.

Tie her up and blind-fold her, then.....?

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Thanks for the suggestions. I did wonder about taking about a "mini break", and pretty sure that's one way forward.

But... after posting realized that I didn't mention the aspect of situation that most puzzles me. Normal routine is "vanilla"... kissing, normal sex, oral both ways. (Still one of best ice creams known.) I know she provides a wide range of other services ... some of which I enjoy (e.g. role play, water sport) ... but just have this fixed mental image that says "No... can't imagine doing that with Zera". (Zera... of course being a made up name.)

i.e. Real problem is maybe to find someway of shaking my own mental block. But to be honest once I've got a bias in my head, always hard to shake it.

I've found that the element of surprise can work well - if you really get on well with 'Zera' , I would suggest that you talk to her about wanting to change the 'routine' and perhaps asking her to take control of the next appointment and surprise you on the day with something a bit different and unexpected - one way of getting around the 'mental block'.

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I've found that the element of surprise can work well - if you really get on well with 'Zera' , I would suggest that you talk to her about wanting to change the 'routine' and perhaps asking her to take control of the next appointment and surprise you on the day with something a bit different and unexpected - one way of getting around the 'mental block'.

One of several ideas on thread that made me think "Why didn't I think about that... its obvious common sense?". (Mind you... just how "common" is common sense??")

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Thanks for the suggestions. I did wonder about taking about a "mini break", and pretty sure that's one way forward.

But... after posting realized that I didn't mention the aspect of situation that most puzzles me. Normal routine is "vanilla"... kissing, normal sex, oral both ways. (Still one of best ice creams known.) I know she provides a wide range of other services ... some of which I enjoy (e.g. role play, water sport) ... but just have this fixed mental image that says "No... can't imagine doing that with Zera". (Zera... of course being a made up name.)

i.e. Real problem is maybe to find someway of shaking my own mental block. But to be honest once I've got a bias in my head, always hard to shake it.

When i start thinking like this i at the very least have a long break from punting with the lady and this has on ocassion been extended to never punting with her again.

I like variety so even when punting with a regular i am punting with newbies to me in search of a gem as well. My advice is try other ladies and you might be lucky enough to meet one you click with and who satisfies all your desires. Outline right from the start what you are looking for and what your desires are. If you have picked a lady who advertises what you desire and she actually does offer it/them then it could be punting utopia.

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One of several ideas on thread that made me think "Why didn't I think about that... its obvious common sense?". (Mind you... just how "common" is common sense??")

Not as common as we might wish it was.

Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former.

Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

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Very quickly after leaving University in 1979 I found myself engulfed in what I have to refer to as "the Middle Aged". They lost no time in inducting me in to the "real world" and one of the most shocking of their many shocking assertions was that "Sooner or later, sex with the same person inevitably becomes boring". Some said it was a scientific law, Newton's fifth perhaps, but all believed it to be true :D.

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Very quickly after leaving University in 1979 I found myself engulfed in what I have to refer to as "the Middle Aged". They lost no time in inducting me in to the "real world" and one of the most shocking of their many shocking assertions was that "Sooner or later, sex with the same person inevitably becomes boring". Some said it was a scientific law, Newton's fifth perhaps, but all believed it to be true :D.

Some of my friends called it the "banana law". Based on following conversation:-

A: Why are you pursuing other women... Sally is absolutely gorgeous??

B: You like eating bananas?

A: Yes... so??

B: Try eating them for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and supper. Then wake up next day, and do it again...

I was neither A or B. (A related it to me. At the time he was outraged that anybody would be "Be unfaithful... then compound it by comparing his wife to a banana".)

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As someone who does not have a "regular", your relationship with Zera sounds pretty good. To quote Joni Mitchell, " you don't know what you've got till it's gone". Perhaps Rule No1 in figuring the way forward is 'do nothing that would greatly damage that relationship' ?:D

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