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Are you ready to marry a man who knows you are an escort ...

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... and is happy for you to continue working?

Most of the wgs I have got to know well enough to discuss this with have told me that they wouldn't be.

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I think you'll get different answers from single girls, who may well be of the "I wouldn't respect any man who'd let me work" variety; and WGs who are already partnered, and who are more aware of the reality rather than the concept, iyswim.

I have no intentions of marrying again. :).

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Would that be a "normal" man in the "real world"? Or a punter?

Just kidding. :)

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... and is happy for you to continue working?

Most of the wgs I have got to know well enough to discuss this with have told me that they wouldn't be.

(Never say never) but I'll never marry. Even if I did (which I wont), there is no way on this earth I'd continue to earn money as an escort at the same time. The latter I can say with absolute & dead certainty.

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And if you were happily and securely married, with a child or two, and you and your husband were both made suddenly redundant, and you had a huge mortgage to pay, and bills to meet and.... you wouldn't think about it? (All totally hypothetical, but you started it! :))

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And if you were happily and securely married, with a child or two, and you and your husband were both made suddenly redundant, and you had a huge mortgage to pay, and bills to meet and.... you wouldn't think about it? (All totally hypothetical, but you started it! :))

And Johnny Depp said £250.000 for an overnight booking?.

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Now you're getting silly, Johnny wouldn't be so cheap. :)

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And if you were happily and securely married, with a child or two, and you and your husband were both made suddenly redundant, and you had a huge mortgage to pay, and bills to meet and.... you wouldn't think about it? (All totally hypothetical, but you started it! :))

I'll never have kids (through choice) and as I'll never marry (through choice) and well if I get made redundant, it won't be for long and I'll have unemployment insurance to cover the non-employment period. Reduncy will pay out well anyway and will cover until I find another job. If not, I'll flip burgers or something in the interim. Seriously, there's always another way out. (never say never) but I'll never do something through sheer desperation and laziness.

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No not that Johnny Depp!, the guy on Union street, 54 I think his number is.

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... and is happy for you to continue working?

Most of the wgs I have got to know well enough to discuss this with have told me that they wouldn't be.

I'm always a bit suspicous of men who claim to be able to 'cope' with your job.

I have dated quite a few men, since being a WG, and in my experience they seem to fall into 3 categories.

There are the guys who really do seem to care about you. They don't like what you do, but they like you enough that they decide to give the relationship a go, in the hope they will be able to cope with your job. Ultimately they discover they can't, and the relationship breaks down.

The one's who don't seem bothered at all fall into two groups. Those who appear so desperate for a relationship that they would put up with anything and those who are only interested in you for the sex. They don't really care about you as an individual and have no intention of taking the relationship any further than just a casual fling.

I do not find desperate men or men who treat me like a hooker, but who don't expect to pay for it, that appealing. So unless I was to meet someone who does not fall into any of those groups, I'd rather stay single.

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I'm always a bit suspicous of men who claim to be able to 'cope' with your job.

I have dated quite a few men, since being a WG, and in my experience they seem to fall into 3 categories.

There are the guys who really do seem to care about you. They don't like what you do, but they like you enough that they decide to give the relationship a go, in the hope they will be able to cope with your job. Ultimately they discover they can't, and the relationship breaks down.

The one's who don't seem bothered at all fall into two groups. Those who appear so desperate for a relationship that they would put up with anything and those who are only interested in you for the sex. They don't really care about you as an individual and have no intention of taking the relationship any further than just a casual fling.

I do not find desperate men or men who treat me like a hooker, but who don't expect to pay for it, that appealing. So unless I was to meet someone who does not fall into any of those groups, I'd rather stay single.

It's kind of ironic how guys want a whore in the bedroom but when the circumstances arise that they get to have one as a partner she turns into the kind of loving wife he used to cheat on - with whores.

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When I first started escorting I was married and obviously he knew and wanted me to go into escorting, needless to say am now divorced. I would never want to marry anyone who allowed me to escort.

So will be single for a long time.

Shelly :)

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Spot on Caitlin.

I am an Escort because I'm single and I'm single because I'm an Escort.

I would want to be exclusive to my partner/husband and would wish for him to be the same to me. If I met someone I wanted to settle down with, I'd turn my back on escorting with the snap of my fingers.

So, in conclusion, NO, I would never marry a gentleman who was willing to share me with others. Yes, very narrow minded of me :)

Good post OGOTB

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I've been virtually there with someone who did care a lot for me, he realised my 'business' was something I was good at and important, just as his businesses were for him.

Only things that lead to it breaking down before commiting fully were external influences unrelated to my profession.

With you for the sex?Eh?

I'd be happy to marry someone who did care about me deeply, whatever my occupation.

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Now there sounds words of knowledge Strawberry....

Isnt it about time that we gave the hypocrisy a break ? What is so wrong and degrading about escorting? Nothing not a thing - tis all the associated undercurrents that make it bad - the exploitation drug use and general mistreatment of girls that make is such a terrible thing. Breaking away from that to someone who is so to speak within the normal confines of life - well adjusted and normal then what is the problem - so they do get intimate for money, thats okay, if its what they want and they are doing it as a business then I see it as no different to other business. You get the bad sides in any job but it dont make the job terrible if you get me.

Someone is doing something to make a living - the emotions are off and its a job then I dont see how or why it should affect a relationship. being positive about life and the choices then thats not such a bad thing - being open and living a life that you are comfortable and happy with.

I wonder how this is going to pan out this discussion. But I can say if I loved a girl and wanted to move to the next step of committment and she was an escort then well it really wouldnt bother me - why should it?

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Would that be a "normal" man in the "real world"? Or a punter?

Just kidding. :)

Actually, you raise an interesting point.

When I first started escorting I was married and obviously he knew and wanted me to go into escorting, needless to say am now divorced. I would never want to marry anyone who allowed me to escort.

So will be single for a long time.

Shelly :)

Respect to that.

Spot on Caitlin.

I am an Escort because I'm single and I'm single because I'm an Escort.

I would want to be exclusive to my partner/husband and would wish for him to be the same to me. If I met someone I wanted to settle down with, I'd turn my back on escorting with the snap of my fingers.

So, in conclusion, NO, I would never marry a gentleman who was willing to share me with others. Yes, very narrow minded of me :D

Good post OGOTB

And respect to that too.

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... and is happy for you to continue working?

Most of the wgs I have got to know well enough to discuss this with have told me that they wouldn't be.

Yes I would.

I've been with my partner for many years and although at the start of our relationship it must have been very hard for him to get his head around my work, he doesn't want to know the in's & out's of my day to day and doesn't "get off" on my job. He's very successful in his own right so doesn't need my help financially, I'm lucky that he's happy if I'm happy.

In his previous relationship he was stiffled his ex wouldn't let him go anywhere without checking up on him every 2 mins, now he's in a total oppostite relationship where he can go on boys weekends away and I don't bat an eyelid. Having the freedom to do as I please has always been important to me, you only have one life after all and I'm just so lucky to have met someone who will just let me be me.

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... and is happy for you to continue working?

Most of the wgs I have got to know well enough to discuss this with have told me that they wouldn't be.

My view is if this scenario happened and i loved her i probably wouldnt be happy for her to continue working but its not up to me, its up to her, and i would hopefully support her in whatever decision she makes.

As i said on another thread its the personal safety aspect that would worry me the most, not sure i could cope with this and would only know for sure if in this position.:D

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I am more than happy to continue working as I do, which is a dozen appointments a month of the longer variety, and as long as I'm happy my partner is happy. :D

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... and is happy for you to continue working?

Most of the wgs I have got to know well enough to discuss this with have told me that they wouldn't be.

Did this girls developed conversation further...

For example:

1 I would marry guy who are loaded enough, so of course I not after be a WG and can do any civvy job I truly enjoy, or just can be a lady of leisure.

2 I would marry a guy who are not loaded, and would happily work 40 hours and earning same money for a week, which I can earn in matter of 2 hours as a hooker. However I will be constantly knackered to keep house in order, to check kids school work, (providing she got a kids), hardly have any time to myself, need to give a magnificent performance to hubby in bed when she just want to cuddle with a book and fell asleep.

Of course not many would like when husband "allow" to do this job. And I never would marry anybody who would feel content with it. However sometimes reality is different from hypothetical situation, and I do feel sorry for those husbands (mine is one of them). They damned if they do, and they damned if they not.

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I do feel sorry for those husbands

Don't feel sorry for mine he's with one of the best Essex Escorts!

<Tongue firmly in "someones" cheek">

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Did this girls developed conversation further...

For example:

1 I would marry guy who are loaded enough, so of course I not after be a WG and can do any civvy job I truly enjoy, or just can be a lady of leisure.

2 I would marry a guy who are not loaded, and would happily work 40 hours and earning same money for a week, which I can earn in matter of 2 hours as a hooker. However I will be constantly knackered to keep house in order, to check kids school work, (providing she got a kids), hardly have any time to myself, need to give a magnificent performance to hubby in bed when she just want to cuddle with a book and fell asleep.

Of course not many would like when husband "allow" to do this job. And I never would marry anybody who would feel content with it. However sometimes reality is different from hypothetical situation, and I do feel sorry for those husbands (mine is one of them). They damned if they do, and they damned if they not.

Very different, actually. Usually because you've, conveniently or inadvertently, omitted certain key elements in your supposition.

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I'm always a bit suspicous of men who claim to be able to 'cope' with your job.

I have dated quite a few men, since being a WG, and in my experience they seem to fall into 3 categories.

There are the guys who really do seem to care about you. They don't like what you do, but they like you enough that they decide to give the relationship a go, in the hope they will be able to cope with your job. Ultimately they discover they can't, and the relationship breaks down.

The one's who don't seem bothered at all fall into two groups. Those who appear so desperate for a relationship that they would put up with anything and those who are only interested in you for the sex. They don't really care about you as an individual and have no intention of taking the relationship any further than just a casual fling.

I do not find desperate men or men who treat me like a hooker, but who don't expect to pay for it, that appealing. So unless I was to meet someone who does not fall into any of those groups, I'd rather stay single.

Did this girls developed conversation further...

For example:

1 I would marry guy who are loaded enough, so of course I not after be a WG and can do any civvy job I truly enjoy, or just can be a lady of leisure.

2 I would marry a guy who are not loaded, and would happily work 40 hours and earning same money for a week, which I can earn in matter of 2 hours as a hooker. However I will be constantly knackered to keep house in order, to check kids school work, (providing she got a kids), hardly have any time to myself, need to give a magnificent performance to hubby in bed when she just want to cuddle with a book and fell asleep.

Of course not many would like when husband "allow" to do this job. And I never would marry anybody who would feel content with it. However sometimes reality is different from hypothetical situation, and I do feel sorry for those husbands (mine is one of them). They damned if they do, and they damned if they not.

Don't feel sorry for mine he's with one of the best Essex Escorts!

<Tongue firmly in "someones" cheek">

:mad:

Spot on OGOTB. Have tried 3 times to have serious relations. One it chewed him up me working but I continued for some time. Another was never bothered, I think I was just the cash cow and trophy GF. The last well I can't comment.

Xenia you are right about hypothetical, you never know what life is going to throw at you. When I quit I meant for it to be forever but then life threw many curve balls at me, one after the other and this path opened back up again.

Charlotte I would love to grill your other half. I know there are many girls out there that can have a successful relationship/marriage and still work and I would love to know the secret.

I have read what it did to my other half and it was awful. He used to say when he gets to the point that he accepts it, that would be the point where he would not care about me anymore.

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Don't feel sorry for mine he's with one of the best Essex Escorts!

<Tongue firmly in "someones" cheek">

:mad:

Ha haa charlotte i love it, made me laugh................... personally i couldn't marry somebody who was ok with me continuing to work but I wouldn't marry somebody without telling them that I had previously done this job. I have had the unpleasant experience of having to tell a partner and watch their world fall apart (which i hope i never see again) but one day i'll be settled with somebody and that'll be because they accepted my past and that had it not been for my past I wouldn't be the person that I am.

Power to the people that have good strong relationships and do this job, i wish i could do that but i would just never get it straight in my head. I guess it all comes down to that good old saying of 'it wouldn't do if we were all the same' AGAIN!!!!!!!

Hugs Casey xx

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Yes I would.

I've been with my partner for many years and although at the start of our relationship it must have been very hard for him to get his head around my work, he doesn't want to know the in's & out's of my day to day and doesn't "get off" on my job. He's very successful in his own right so doesn't need my help financially, I'm lucky that he's happy if I'm happy.

In his previous relationship he was stiffled his ex wouldn't let him go anywhere without checking up on him every 2 mins, now he's in a total oppostite relationship where he can go on boys weekends away and I don't bat an eyelid. Having the freedom to do as I please has always been important to me, you only have one life after all and I'm just so lucky to have met someone who will just let me be me.

I think you are quite unique Charlotte. You obviously love this guy and because he has been your partner for some considerable time and seems to cope with your career, you can quite easily make the jump to marrying him. Do you think if he asked you to marry him that he would be prepared to ' allow ' you to continue to work, so to speak ?

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