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I would be interested in hearing views from people on what this oft heard phrase means.

' going with the flow ' suggests that the two people have clicked to such a degree that things just ' happen '. Does this happen regularly on say a 1 hour punt ? Surely, one person decides the agenda and the other goes along --- but that is a very different thing altogether.

What does 'going with the flow ' work for you and how does it work in practice ?

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The phrase I use is "make it up as we go along," but whatever rocks your nads. Some of my clients have a very specially choreographed booking in mind and aren't shy about telling me so. This is fine, but it doesn't apply to close to everybody. I think a lot of my clients arrive, pay me, and then think to themselves "Oh shit, I've hired an escort, now what do I do?" They have a basic idea of what they want but aren't at all sure where to start. I tend to suggest a few things and then we move from there. This can happen on an hour booking, no problem, but is perhaps more likely to happen at longer bookings.

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I would be interested in hearing views from people on what this oft heard phrase means.

' going with the flow ' suggests that the two people have clicked to such a degree that things just ' happen '. Does this happen regularly on say a 1 hour punt ? Surely, one person decides the agenda and the other goes along --- but that is a very different thing altogether.

What does 'going with the flow ' work for you and how does it work in practice ?

I can't really see that happening in an hour. When yes: there's mostly a little tick list of things to work through and little time to "waste". Not my style.

Going with the flow (for me) really only happens when you have time to set the mood, establish a vibe (a bit of wine, flirting and idle chit chat) and just casually "flow" from there... (then ravage each other in the bedroom without set agenda ;-) )

If that means much of nothing, sorry :D

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The phrase I use is "make it up as we go along," but whatever rocks your nads. Some of my clients have a very specially choreographed booking in mind and aren't shy about telling me so. This is fine, but it doesn't apply to close to everybody. I think a lot of my clients arrive, pay me, and then think to themselves "Oh shit, I've hired an escort, now what do I do?" They have a basic idea of what they want but aren't at all sure where to start. I tend to suggest a few things and then we move from there. This can happen on an hour booking, no problem, but is perhaps more likely to happen at longer bookings.

For me, it's not a question of 'I've hired an escort, now what do I do' but I want her to make some of the decisions. I have not mapped out to the nth degree what's going to happen, I want a bit of spontaneity. I had a similar scenario today, but she is a bit new to it I think. After 1 round in missionary, I said to her what's your fav posi, and she said missionary :D . I blurted out 'that's a bit boring' ooooops didn't go down too well :)

Of course I'm sure some punters have calculated it to the nearest second, which is all a bit mechanical and formulaic for my liking but each to their own.

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Things always go with the flow unless the guy has a set idea of how he would like things to proceed or the wg has a set routine she wants to try to stick too.Otherwise its just two people playing around and having fun,going with the flow. Even if its a 4 hour booking with wine,flirting etc,things still come to the logical conclusion of the booking,which is usually sex.Obviously its harder to go with any flow if the guy is only there for 30 minutes,but its still possible,i have seen guys who want a set of services in the set time,but once we started kissing that went right out of the window and we end up snogging for half the time.Things can never 100% go with the flow though in a booked and paid for appointment as the end result is almost always supposed to end in sex so there is automatically an agenda of sorts in place that needs to be adhered to, its just that in longer bookings you have the luxury of taking things a little slower,or flowing several times.lol.x:p

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The phrase I use is "make it up as we go along," but whatever rocks your nads. Some of my clients have a very specially choreographed booking in mind and aren't shy about telling me so. This is fine, but it doesn't apply to close to everybody. I think a lot of my clients arrive, pay me, and then think to themselves "Oh shit, I've hired an escort, now what do I do?" They have a basic idea of what they want but aren't at all sure where to start. I tend to suggest a few things and then we move from there. This can happen on an hour booking, no problem, but is perhaps more likely to happen at longer bookings.

How right you are. I used to be that person. The excitement and anticipation carry you there and all of the sudden you think shit! How am I going to go about this one? Each different girl calls for a different kind of approach and scenario, as does your particular mood on the day.

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Things always go with the flow unless the guy has a set idea of how he would like things to proceed or the wg has a set routine she wants to try to stick too.Otherwise its just two people playing around and having fun,going with the flow. Even if its a 4 hour booking with wine,flirting etc,things still come to the logical conclusion of the booking,which is usually sex.Obviously its harder to go with any flow if the guy is only there for 30 minutes,but its still possible,i have seen guys who want a set of services in the set time,but once we started kissing that went right out of the window and we end up snogging for half the time.Things can never 100% go with the flow though in a booked and paid for appointment as the end result is almost always supposed to end in sex so there is automatically an agenda of sorts in place that needs to be adhered to, its just that in longer bookings you have the luxury of taking things a little slower,or flowing several times.lol.x:p

I think that underpins the significance of the kiss/snog to the punter. I love a good snog.

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I would be interested in hearing views from people on what this oft heard phrase means.

' going with the flow ' suggests that the two people have clicked to such a degree that things just ' happen '. Does this happen regularly on say a 1 hour punt ? Surely, one person decides the agenda and the other goes along --- but that is a very different thing altogether.

What does 'going with the flow ' work for you and how does it work in practice ?

For me, it does happen, but usually only with ladies that I have seen before, and where there is a bit of a rapport between the two of us.

It doesn't fit with your question on one hour punts, but with some of the longer meetings with my regular ladies, there is definately no thinking of a detailed agenda beforehand, we meet, have a chat and things always develop from that. It is probably because we have met a number of times before, that there is no need for an agenda.

Of course, there is always the first time meeting, and so it would be true to say that it is those ladies with whom I have "clicked" (to use your word), on that first one hour meeting, who I have become regular clients with.

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Being another "man of a certain age", I never book less than 90 minutes, but my impression is that most girls want to start with a sprint (and full marks for effort to them) and most or all of the clothes are gone pretty quickly, followed by a fairly mechanical procession of positions/activities. Having '69' seems to be a legal requirement. What ever happened to the word "sensual"? Maybe I need to try ...older women :D

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Going with the flow for me means, relaxing a little!

It sounds simple but so many guy's turn up all het-up and flustered, it's nice to take a step back and flirt a little, I'm not into striping off the second someone walks in the door.

Teasing and playing is half the fun.

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Everyone has their individual sexual personality, when I began punting, i let the girl establish the choreography of the encounter, but I soon discovered that it worked better, if I took charge. Letting the girl set the pace, is only feasible, if she knows what shes doing, a concept experienced punters will understand.

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I think that underpins the significance of the kiss/snog to the punter. I love a good snog.

Mmmmmmmme too.xx

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I would be interested in hearing views from people on what this oft heard phrase means.

' going with the flow ' suggests that the two people have clicked to such a degree that things just ' happen '. Does this happen regularly on say a 1 hour punt ? Surely, one person decides the agenda and the other goes along --- but that is a very different thing altogether.

What does 'going with the flow ' work for you and how does it work in practice ?

I know what i like so inform the lady at the start of my requirements, so for me the punt must include DFK nowadays, but sometimes things develop that couldnt be anticipated, like she is so enthusiastic at the DFK that i dont require anything else.

So i decide the agenda but am more than happy to receive suggestions, if i can give some sexual pleasure or she is a good actress all the better.:D

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Being another "man of a certain age", I never book less than 90 minutes, but my impression is that most girls want to start with a sprint (and full marks for effort to them) and most or all of the clothes are gone pretty quickly, followed by a fairly mechanical procession of positions/activities. Having '69' seems to be a legal requirement. What ever happened to the word "sensual"? Maybe I need to try ...older women :D

Really.....well you booked petra for a shorter time then extended another 30 minutes,by the way,i hear you never did get round to paying her the full amount you owed her due to your little memory freeze!!!:)

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By the time you've explained your plan of action time is up, just go in and do what you feel is good and right......:D

Feel your way......

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Really.....well you booked petra for a shorter time then extended another 30 minutes,by the way,i hear you never did get round to paying her the full amount you owed her due to your little memory freeze!!!:D

Please see the PM I have sent you.

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Please see the PM I have sent you.

I did,i read them and they are pointless.:D Please read my replies and regard this matter as two people who are never going to agree.

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hmmmm -- as I suspected nothing really clear on this subject. Basically seems one of the parties [ usually the guy ] takes the lead and the lady is happy to go along. Certainly,I find this to be the situation in my case. I find that once the business matters are out of the way, the lady wishes me to take the lead and set the agenda which I invariably do.The lady seems happy then to go with my flow.

Sometimes it would be nice to just relax and go with the flow created by the professional. This has happened to me a few times [ but not enough ] where the lady wanted to engage in some self - exhibitionism which was fantastic fun and was a real treat -- made me feel sort of special, ie a valued client. Dont understand why more girls dont employ this approach--- I think its great marketing ploy if nothing else and I guess many guys would agree.:mad:

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This has happened to me a few times [ but not enough ] where the lady wanted to engage in some self - exhibitionism which was fantastic fun and was a real treat -- made me feel sort of special, ie a valued client. Dont understand why more girls dont employ this approach--- I think its great marketing ploy if nothing else and I guess many guys would agree.:P

Er, we maybe would if we had any idea what you meant? :mad:

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hmmmm -- as I suspected nothing really clear on this subject. Basically seems one of the parties [ usually the guy ] takes the lead and the lady is happy to go along. Certainly,I find this to be the situation in my case. I find that once the business matters are out of the way, the lady wishes me to take the lead and set the agenda which I invariably do.The lady seems happy then to go with my flow.

Sometimes it would be nice to just relax and go with the flow created by the professional. This has happened to me a few times [ but not enough ] where the lady wanted to engage in some self - exhibitionism which was fantastic fun and was a real treat -- made me feel sort of special, ie a valued client. Dont understand why more girls dont employ this approach--- I think its great marketing ploy if nothing else and I guess many guys would agree.:mad:

It's not too difficult to find a wg that takes the lead is it? A good look through profile/feedback/reports gives a strong indication.

In my experience there is some correlation between a tendency to taking some decisions and age, ie a wg in her late 20's is more likely to do this than say 18-21, altho of course there would be exceptions to this. Some are very confident, and some are a little wary of doing something wrong and this is likely to be down to experience.

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Really.....well you booked petra for a shorter time then extended another 30 minutes,by the way,i hear you never did get round to paying her the full amount you owed her due to your little memory freeze!!!:mad:

Gosh - sorry to pick up on something off-topic, but it is really unprofessional and indiscreet for an escort publicly to 1) tell everyone who a client booked and 2) say whether the account was settled correctly or not.

Furthermore, when October tried to take it privately, you still you insisted on further public airing of this dispute, adding your own little dig.

I did,i read them and they are pointless.:P Please read my replies and regard this matter as two people who are never going to agree.

Regardless of what happened (unless of course it was a 'dangerous punter' issue), it's up to Petra and October to sort this out between themselves rather than a third party to write it on a forum, especially as it was totally off-topic.

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hmmmm -- as I suspected nothing really clear on this subject. Basically seems one of the parties [ usually the guy ] takes the lead and the lady is happy to go along. Certainly,I find this to be the situation in my case. I find that once the business matters are out of the way, the lady wishes me to take the lead and set the agenda which I invariably do.The lady seems happy then to go with my flow.

Sometimes it would be nice to just relax and go with the flow created by the professional. This has happened to me a few times [ but not enough ] where the lady wanted to engage in some self - exhibitionism which was fantastic fun and was a real treat -- made me feel sort of special, ie a valued client. Dont understand why more girls dont employ this approach--- I think its great marketing ploy if nothing else and I guess many guys would agree.:P

Er, we maybe would if we had any idea what you meant? :mad:

Nothing very dramatic or complicated Amy --merely to follow some direction taken by the lady. She might decide on any number of things. Maybe she might ask to join the guy in the shower and get him to soap her down or vice versa, maybe a lap-dance, maybe a strip tease to some music, maybe a tease by trying on a couple of outfits, maybe requesting some snogging or RO etc etc. The main point is that she shows some initiative whilst always letting the guy know that she is open to suggestions from him too should he wish to alter things.

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It's not too difficult to find a wg that takes the lead is it? A good look through profile/feedback/reports gives a strong indication.

In my experience there is some correlation between a tendency to taking some decisions and age, ie a wg in her late 20's is more likely to do this than say 18-21, altho of course there would be exceptions to this. Some are very confident, and some are a little wary of doing something wrong and this is likely to be down to experience.

Especially if you've seen the lady before, just let her know before the appointment that you wish her to take the lead and my experience is that they will.

Like Thoroughbread says, the more experienced ladies are probably better at this, but there are always exceptions to any rule.

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Gosh - sorry to pick up on something off-topic, but it is really unprofessional and indiscreet for an escort publicly to 1) tell everyone who a client booked and 2) say whether the account was settled correctly or not.

Furthermore, when October tried to take it privately, you still you insisted on further public airing of this dispute, adding your own little dig.

Regardless of what happened (unless of course it was a 'dangerous punter' issue), it's up to Petra and October to sort this out between themselves rather than a third party to write it on a forum, especially as it was totally off-topic.

i have to agree, if this is how its gone down its way out of order imo

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Especially if you've seen the lady before, just let her know before the appointment that you wish her to take the lead and my experience is that they will.

Like Thoroughbread says, the more experienced ladies are probably better at this, but there are always exceptions to any rule.

Yes I know but that sort of defeats the purpose. It should come automatically from the lady some of the time.

I agree it is more likely to happen with the more experienced girls but in any event I dont think they are widespread.

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