Blakeney

Your biggest disappointment ever?

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Can anyone top this?

I was going to add a post to the thread about 'married punters', but have decided to start one of my own.

First off, I'm a happily married man in the sense that I'm married to a woman I adore who also happens to be my best friend etc etc. On the downside, she's never had a very high sex drive and, about four years ago, decided she didn't want sex any more. I'm not asking for sympathy, nor for anyone to understand my situation. Quite frankly, I'm bonkers about my wife. She's very affectionate, and gives me 'relief' from time to time even though it's not really her thing - and we gel in so many other ways.

That said, I, by contrast, have a very high sex drive, so it's not always been easy for me. Whilst I'm no longer in the first flush of youth, I'm not past it, either, and the thought of never having sex again does pain me. As does the thought of being unfaithful. Bit of a no-win situation.

With all that in mind, I recently decided I desperately needed to have sex 'one last time', in the hope that, after four years of not having any, it would give me some form of release/closure.

I thought that if I was going to do something I was uncomfortable about - ie effectively being unfaithful to the woman I love - I might as well go the whole hog, make it as memorable as possible and tick so many boxes that I'd be able to get through the next 'x' years without too many regrets.

With this in mind, I thought I'd go for a two-girl session, throw in a costume (sad, I know, but I thought it might be fun), and an extra 'service' that I quite liked (and, no, not 'A' or anything equally exotic - something quite tame by most people's standards).

I did my research and chose two very attractive young ladies from an agency, both of whom had received glowing recommendations from field reporters. (Though I don't punt, I do log in to Punternet quite frequently - if only to envy those of you who seem to be having such a nice time!)

Cut a long story, I met up with the two young ladies and it was an almost unqualified disaster. True, there was some flesh to fondle - though neither seemed particularly bothered - and one of the ladies did allow me to perform oral on her. Not reverse, though, which was what I was hoping for. (But I'm not complaining, it was still very nice.)

I'd booked for an hour. However they were running late, and I only had 45 minutes. There was no 'costume' as requested, and no 'extra'. Here's the best bit, though - there was no sex, and not even any 'relief'. Nor any offer of either.

I suppose I could have asked, but I rather assumed this was par for the course. And if I had 'insisted', I can imagine how much fun it would have been. But it meant that I left dreadfully frustrated.

Just to make it absolutely clear, whilst not, perhaps, the best looking man in the world, I'm fit, not overweight, don't smell and - I hope - reasonably polite. With all humility, I don't think I was so dreadful that the two young ladies could be forgiven for wanting to see the back of me as quickly as possible.

Perhaps my mistake was asking for two girls. They spent the first half hour chatting to each other while 'pleasuring' me, and the final 15 minutes chatting to each other while all but ignoring me.

Should I have said something? But what - without sounding sad and needy? What might you have said?

I won't be posting a field report that rubbishes them because, the lack of sex apart, I thought they were nice, friendly girls. It was probably my fault for not grabbing them both and showing them I was desperate to jump on them. Sadly, though I was desperate, I wouldn't have found it easy to be that pushy - though by my responses throughout I did everything I could to show them I thought they were lovely and I would have liked to have got to 'know' them better. (If you see what I mean!)

In the circujmstances I've already outlined, it took a lot for me to summon up the 'courage' (if that's the right word) to go for it, and I leave it to you to imagine how I felt afterwards.

So, bearing in mind this may be my one and only punt, have you had a less rewarding one? For your sakes, I hope not!

I have to smile. If I didn't. Well….

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Hiya mate,

Sorry to hear of your poor experiance.

Out of interest what age were these ladies?

They sound young to me, in that they were not interested in fulfilling your needs.

I think a couple of more experianced ladies would have been the way to go.

And even then I would make sure I had seen one of the ladies on her own before the 2 girl, so you know you at least have a connection with one of them.

After all it's usualy quite an out lay for a two girl, so as with everything in this life,

Research Research Research.

I wouldn't give up, there are plenty of gorgeous girls out there who do give a good service.

Good luck.

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Cut a long story, I met up with the two young ladies and it was an almost unqualified disaster. True, there was some flesh to fondle - though neither seemed particularly bothered - and one of the ladies did allow me to perform oral on her. Not reverse, though, which was what I was hoping for. (But I'm not complaining, it was still very nice.)

I'd booked for an hour. However they were running late, and I only had 45 minutes. There was no 'costume' as requested, and no 'extra'. Here's the best bit, though - there was no sex, and not even any 'relief'. Nor any offer of either.

Perhaps my mistake was asking for two girls. They spent the first half hour chatting to each other while 'pleasuring' me, and the final 15 minutes chatting to each other while all but ignoring me.

I won't be posting a field report that rubbishes them because, the lack of sex apart, I thought they were nice, friendly girls.

Welcome to the forum.

Sorry, but I am a little bit confused, these two "ladies" gave you a terrible service but you do not feel it appropriate to give them the scathing report that they so obviously deserve. :cool:

You seem to miss the whole purpose of the forum which is to exchange experiences and information about the paid sex industry.

Why do you choose to protect these girls when they clearly treated you like shit, sorry my friend, I just don't get it. :D

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Doubles or two girl sessions are an art in the themselves and not all girls, however good they are at one-to-ones, excel in this by any means. Some do it simply because it's a gig, without the special understanding of the dynamics of the WG threesome that this kind of booking demands. Often enough, it seems, they go wrong because the WGs have little more idea of what to expect or what should take place during the appointment than the client, especially if they haven't worked together in this way before. The other danger is that they can seem rather over-scripted in the way they play out. I agree with softlad 100% that a 1-2-1 with a well reviewed provider with experience who offers the things you like (perhaps a GFE?) would be the way forward if you want to try again.

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You were taken advantage of my friend, pure and simple.

You sound like a very nice guy, much too nice for the paid sex business.

The point of handing over quite large sums of money ( in my case often very large sums! ) is to have great sex without having to either pursue it or because you wouldn't get that type of girl any other way.

My first ever escort girl told me that if you are going to do this you mustn't ever feel guilt - she had sussed me out very well at that point. I don't therefore, although I'm still married. I sometimes feel regret and , if the current escort is really nice, longing, but not guilt.

I don't think punting is for you - the internet is full of stuff that will remove the proximate cause of your feelings!

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Thanks, Softlad - I've sent you a pm.

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Here's the best bit, though - there was no sex, and not even any 'relief'. Nor any offer of either.

I suppose I could have asked, but I rather assumed this was par for the course.

And why on earth did you 'rather assume' it was 'par for the course' for a prostitute not to provide sex?

Perhaps my mistake was asking for two girls. They spent the first half hour chatting to each other while 'pleasuring' me, and the final 15 minutes chatting to each other while all but ignoring me.

Should I have said something? But what - without sounding sad and needy? What might you have said?

I won't be posting a field report that rubbishes them because, the lack of sex apart, I thought they were nice, friendly girls.

They 'all but ignored you' but you thought they were 'nice, friendly girls'? I can understand you feeling embarrassed about raising the question as it would make you sound 'sad and needy', but that is precisely the kind of fundamental decency in chaps that scammers like this play on. There is absolutely no reason at all why you should not do a report on them, and every reason why you should.

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You seem to miss the whole purpose of the forum which is to exchange experiences and information about the paid sex industry.

Why do you choose to protect these girls when they clearly treated you like shit, sorry my friend, I just don't get it.

They 'all but ignored you' but you thought they were 'nice, friendly girls'? I can understand you feeling embarrassed about raising the question as it would make you sound 'sad and needy', but that is precisely the kind of fundamental decency in chaps that scammers like this play on. There is absolutely no reason at all why you should not do a report on them, and every reason why you should.

Hi,

I can see your point, and I'm sure others will feel the same way. I probably shouldn't have shared this experience, bearing in mind the fact that I don't want to name the ladies in question. It was really because I was so upset that I thought it might help to get it out of my system.

To be fair to them, I'm sure a more experienced punter would have had a better and different time. If it weren't for the fact that I'm aware they've both been around a while - though in their mid-twenties - I'd have thought they'd never done this before. I truly got the impression that they'd have been better with someone who wasn't as nervous and inexperienced.

I'm sure also that if I post a negative FR they'll come back with some reply and then I'll feel even more rotten about the session than I already do. No one has given them or the agency a bad FR so far, so I'd probably be spitting in the wind anyway. Unless, of course, the good reviews are all from 'freinds'.

Oh, dear, it dos get complicated, doesn't it?

But thanks to all of you for your comments/advice.

Maybe if I can come up with some sort of wording that expresses my disappointment without slagging them off, I will post an FR. I'll see how I feel in a few days.

Cheers.

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I am sighing a little because I reckon that the booking could have so easily been steered into a totally different direction. Plus I am confused - either there was no sex or you have a 'Clintonish' definition of it as you mention they spent the first part of the appointment 'pleasuring' you. For a start if you are friendly and firm you tend to get what you pay for. Speak up and vocalise what you want. Not all ladies are mind readers and have this harlot telepathy gene to know what you actually want. I am not unsympathetic at all and feel sad to read about your massive disappointment. But I feel you could have so easily done something about it by actually given these ladies a clue of what you want. If you wanted oral on you (reverse oral is performed on ladies so maybe you confused them with a different definition) then perhaps you should have actually asked for it. If they chatted with each other maybe it was because you contributed little to the encounter by not taking charge?

Personally, you sound like you have some issues with asserting your wishes if you think it is sad or needy to ask for what you paid for. I am wondering if these ladies were working for an agency? Sometimes client requests are not passed on or too late for the booked girl to accommodate. If they were late than you should have asked them to stay for an hour or paid for 45 minutes. They sounded like typical young, cheerful chatty girls who unless someone takes charge will of course opt for the easiest and least taxing appointment. They probably thought in fact that they had shown you a good time and gave you what you wanted because you did not speak up there and then.

I must admit I feel like shaking people like you a bit who let themselves be treated as such door mats and then are all crest fallen full of self pity. Sorry this sounds harsh but meant to actually be of help. I would be mortified to read if any client of mine was so disappointed but then it is easier to focus on a gent in a one to one encounter and I am little older and perhaps more in tune with what the other person is looking for.

As for your domestic situation -I feel a lot of sympathy and sadness. But again it is about honestly reappraising a relationship. People are sexual beings and sex is in my opinion an important part of a relationship even after years together and at any age. Totally taking it out of the equation completely changes the dynamics of a partnership. Sadly most people are scared of change or don't want to rock the boat so accept the decision to no longer have sex. I personally would not in a relationship as it separates that partnership from being merely friends albeit affectionate. But then people don't want start fresh and are prepared to accept the new abstinent relationship to continue their marriage. I ended a long term relationship when sex had totally gone - we had no way of connecting any more and were co -habiting, leading parallel lives. Personally, I feel at times it would be fairer on both to decide to remain close friends but accept their sexual history together is over and thus allow a chance to meet a new sexual partner. Then again all these sexless marriages tend to supplement my income lol. But I find it perfectly legitimate to have sex with an escort and fulfil a basic human need.

Back to the encounter, I reckon the OP set himself up for a massive disaster anyway by expecting too much in a short one hour encounter with an all bells ringing Can Can dancing ensemble. Accept it was probably a mixture of disinterested girls and your own lack of assertiveness. Book another friendlier lady for a slightly longer one to one session and get your needs addressed! You don't need 'closure' you need a damn good shag! :cool:

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There is absolutely no reason at all why you should not do a report on them, and every reason why you should.

Absolutely right, punters need to stick together, girls like this should be named and shamed. :cool::mad:

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Back to the encounter, I reckon the OP set himself up for a massive disaster anyway by expecting too much in a short one hour encounter

Yes, that's right, the punter is to blame, no surprise there. :cool:

I don't know how much this "short one hour encounter" cost but two agency girls must have come to £300, maybe more.

I doubt that his experience would have been improved by booking for two hours, it would have simply given them more time to chat to each other.

Piss takers need to be exposed. :D:mad:

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And why on earth did you 'rather assume' it was 'par for the course' for a prostitute not to provide sex?

He didn't, he assumed it was par for the course for them to provide sex.

As I read it anyway.

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I've developed a 'you can't win 'em all' attitude to punting.

This has been fairly easy because the only times I've had 'bad' punts is when factors have been involved which allow me to 'blame' myself for not getting the best out of the lady - as I've said before, handing over the cash is only half of the deal.

There have been border-line cases where I've been more inclined to blame lack of professionalism on the part of the girl. In such cases I've always considered the possibility that stuff going on in the girl's life or a recent string of punting pratts could be making the girl seem reserved or uninterested.

When I have done FRs in the past I have usually only done reports for particularly enjoyable punts. Once or twice I've entered into an email dialogue with a parlour owner in the hopes of getting feedback to a 'sub-standard' girl 'keeping it in the family' so to speak. Lashing out with a negative FR when I've absolutely no way of knowing if there are any extenuating circumstances seems grossly unfair and could lead to a generally OK WG having her confidence shattered or ejected from a parlour.

I get the impression that most WG's bread and butter comes from regular clients. A string of consistently visiting regulars depends on consistently good performance. If a girl were consistently unenjoyable she would only get occasional clients, no positive FRs and eventually find the job not worth doing - all without a single negative FR. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Check the 500 most recent FRs list and count the number of red noes on any given day. Clearly most UK WGs seem to be doing a good job most of the time. Based on this observation and my own experience I'd have to say that if I do get an abyssmally bad punt then, not to worry, the next dozen or so will probably be OK (even excellent:))

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You have my sympathy - but please don't give up - I'm sure this was just bad luck.

My reasons for starting punting are very similar to your own and I well remember debating back and forth whether to do it and hesitating again and again about making my first appointment. I used Punternet for a recommendation and based on FR1 (posted by Galahad himself - it was a long time ago) I went to see a lovely lady in Soho. I was so nervous I was trembling when I finally turned up - but the young lady was wonderful and understanding and I left some 45 minutes later having had the most fantastic time of my life.

Okay I had a good start, but following recommendations from Punternet I've very rarely had a bad encounter with a lady and so so many delightful ones.

It's perfectly natural to be nervous and unsure what is the norm. I've been punting for over a decade now and still get a bit tongue tied when I visit a lady for the first time, and often even if I've seen her before. So if I were you I'd:

  1. try again - but just one lady to start with and don't aim for a young beautiful and possibly inexperienced wench, but someone a little older - possibly an independent or you could do worse than to visit a palour depending on where you live. If you let people know what area you are in, I'd guess you could get some specific recommendations from here
  2. ideally let the lady know this is your "first time" and do your best to pluck up the courage to say what you want (especially if it is pretty vanilla - like oral and sex) - it's hard (or it was for me), but remember she's used to it. There is a wonderful comment in Belle du Jour's book about how amazing it is that when men are paying for sex they are so reluctant to actually just ask for what they want (and for what the lady is usually more than happy to provide)
  3. don't feel guilty - IMHO you are not being unfaithful - doing this should not affect your feelings for your wife - there is a school of thought that punting actually can closen the bond by removing resentment. Think of going for a punt more like going to a football match, or going down the pub, or some other kind of entertainment that you enjoy but the wife doesn't.

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When I have done FRs in the past I have usually only done reports for particularly enjoyable punts. Once or twice I've entered into an email dialogue with a parlour owner in the hopes of getting feedback to a 'sub-standard' girl 'keeping it in the family' so to speak. Lashing out with a negative FR when I've absolutely no way of knowing if there are any extenuating circumstances seems grossly unfair and could lead to a generally OK WG having her confidence shattered or ejected from a parlour.

Check the 500 most recent FRs list and count the number of red noes on any given day. Clearly most UK WGs seem to be doing a good job most of the time.

You have stated that you prefer not to do negative FR's, would that not explain why there are very few negative reports. ???????

If a girl gives me a terrible service I will give her a scathing FR, if she gets ejected from the parlour then so be it. :cool:

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He didn't, he assumed it was par for the course for them to provide sex.

As I read it anyway.

I beg both your pardons. In the general context of self-abnegation in the OP, I took him to be saying that he assumed two girls normally devoted all their attention to each other. Saturday morning - I haven't even got the excuse of a long evening's drinking either.

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Can anyone top this?

Well I certainly can't. What a dreadful first punt.

There is no excuse for the girls taking the piss like they did. You paid for a service and (although you are coy about what "pleasuring" you means), if there really was no sex, then you should and must complain to the agency. You might get a typical "fuck off and die" response if they are the sort of agency that doesn't give a damn about their rep, but many good agencies will take action for you (at the very least offer you a discount on your next punt - you have to have another, you can't let this be the last "sexual" experience of your life can you?).

As for an FR, why on earth not. You paid, they didn't deliver. If you keep things factual, other punters will then easily be able to make up their minds.

You have my symapathies Blakeny, but you did jump in feet first didn't you. You didn't deserve such rubbish service, but perhaps, as others have suggested, a 1-2-1 with a reputable GFE deliverer might be a better place to start.

Good luck.

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Blakeney' the only thing you did wrong was jumping in at the deep end for your first time punt .

To go for a two girl , with costumes, with your lack of experience was asking for trouble in my eyes.

sorry to read this and hope other guys don't come down on you so hard . give it another go , if you want to pm me i will try to recomend you a suitable punt . W.P.:cool:

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When I saw the title my immediate thought was the 1984 cup final. Bloody Everton!

Punting wise it would probably be with a girl who had lots of good field reports but we just didn't click.

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You have stated that you prefer not to do negative FR's, would that not explain why there are very few negative reports. ???????

If it were safe to assume that most FR writers followed my own personal FR guidelines, then yes, maybe you are right. But in actuality it's only safe to assume that most FR writers follow their own agendas.

If a girl gives me a terrible service I will give her a scathing FR, if she gets ejected from the parlour then so be it.

Punternet is a bastion of free speech in a UK where 'political-correctness' has gone fucking barmy. You write the stuff you want to write and I'll do my own thing with equal flair and panache.:cool:

Happy punting Jimmy:)

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Again, thanks to those who can see where I'm coming from (not that I did - sorry, couldn't resist). I quite accept that not everyone will understand or sympathise with me but then, as I said at the start, that's not what this was about. I could have kept it simple and just stated what didn't happen, without going into any more detail. Maybe I should have, as I've probably made myself sound worse than I was. (I realised it was a danger, so fair enough I understand why not everyone has sympathy. I think I was bending over backwards to make excuses for the girls. And no, I don't know why I'd do that, either. But maybe they did have their reasons.) Oh, yes, and one of the girls actually owns the agency, so her job remains safe whatever I say! :D

Re the 'pleasuring', I'm using the term loosely - I meant (a) some forward oral, (:cool: being able to kiss/fondle breasts at times; © having my balls squeezed (which I told them I didn't like) and a bit of vigorous rubbing of my cock. That was it.

I'm almost sorry I began this thread now. I feel I've opened up a can of worms - but I'm glad my reference to 'par for the course' was explained. Thank you!

I have now written a review but want to sit on it for a few days. I still don't know if I'll post it. Sorry.

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This sounds like something was quite wrong. Either the girls really couldn't be bothered or they hadn't got the right message.

Some chaps can appear not bothered or very shy, and result is can be difficult to gauge what they want or expect from a booking. On the other hand quite a few first-timers can get carried away with their scripting and listing of events, only to change their minds or not be responsive on the day. This can be out of excitement, or simply that fantasies don't always feel as you think they will in real life.

Guys want so many different things from wall-to-wall action to a long chat and a little bit of a snuggle under the covers before parting.

Does seem as if neither girl were into the appointment at all from the way it has been reported here and rather off-putting.

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I have to smile. If I didn't. Well….

Not so much a punt as a non-punt, I booked a lady by Email some time ago and she cancelled a week before the appointment, I booked her by Email again and the same thing, cancelled a week before the appointment, I tried a third time and this time I was refused, the concluding line of her Email was, "You're a fucking psychopath", I can only assume that she lived part of her life in Gwent.

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I've developed a 'you can't win 'em all' attitude to punting.

This has been fairly easy because the only times I've had 'bad' punts is when factors have been involved which allow me to 'blame' myself for not getting the best out of the lady - as I've said before, handing over the cash is only half of the deal.

There have been border-line cases where I've been more inclined to blame lack of professionalism on the part of the girl. In such cases I've always considered the possibility that stuff going on in the girl's life or a recent string of punting pratts could be making the girl seem reserved or uninterested.

When I have done FRs in the past I have usually only done reports for particularly enjoyable punts. Once or twice I've entered into an email dialogue with a parlour owner in the hopes of getting feedback to a 'sub-standard' girl 'keeping it in the family' so to speak. Lashing out with a negative FR when I've absolutely no way of knowing if there are any extenuating circumstances seems grossly unfair and could lead to a generally OK WG having her confidence shattered or ejected from a parlour.

I get the impression that most WG's bread and butter comes from regular clients. A string of consistently visiting regulars depends on consistently good performance. If a girl were consistently unenjoyable she would only get occasional clients, no positive FRs and eventually find the job not worth doing - all without a single negative FR. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Check the 500 most recent FRs list and count the number of red noes on any given day. Clearly most UK WGs seem to be doing a good job most of the time. Based on this observation and my own experience I'd have to say that if I do get an abyssmally bad punt then, not to worry, the next dozen or so will probably be OK (even excellent:))

I despair when I read posts like this. When a punter (I'm assuming you are a punter) takes the line that it ALWAYS has to be the punter's fault and would never post a bad FR under any circumstances, I wonder how bad circumstances would have to be before you might actually pipe up and complain if something went wrong.

Tell me, if you go to buy a television, or have a meal out, spending a good bit of pocket money, and you get the equivalent kind of service that Blakeney got, would you put that down to the shop assistant or waitress having a bad day too, and say nothing to the manager for fear of 'shattering the confidence' of the employee in question?

You seem to miss the point of this site, which is to exchange information - good and bad - for the benefit of fellow punters and good service providers. I know this forum often degenerates into a bit of a fluffy fest, but you and Blakeney are doing neither yourselves nor your fellows any favours by glossing over all the times you've been ripped off.

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I've developed a 'you can't win 'em all' attitude to punting.

Do you think you would have had fewer poor punts if guys had written negative FRs that could have aided your selection of girl?

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