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Discussing your hobby with friends

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Excuse me if this has been discussed before... it's a difficult one to search.

Many times I read 'recommended by a friend', or 'my mate told me about this parlour' pr even more recently 'my mate has a black penis, olive skin and he says WGs dont bat an eyelid' etc.

I wouldn't dream of discussing my hobby with any of my friends. I doubt I am alone, but I'm interested just how many people discuss punting with friends (rather than like minded members of this forum), and how that came abouit.

So, do you discuss punting with your mates?

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i find when blokes have had a few beers will start talking the best way to find the best parlours if you like drinking in rough pubs

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The only one of my friends who knows about my hobby is female, and she's intrigued by it - she really loves hearing all the details. A while ago one thing led to another and we started talking about fantasies, past experiences, etc etc and after a few weeks I told her about my punting - mostly because she'd told me that she's often thought about becoming an escort. She's the most open-minded person I know (male or female), and so that helps a lot! It always feels good when it comes up in conversation, knowing that she's not going to judge.

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So, do you discuss punting with your mates?

Most certainly not. I am married and anything I might share with even the most casual (or close) friend might get back to my wife. It just isn't worth the risk. Also, (although my friends probably thing the same of me), everyone I know seems to be very straightlaced and know nothing about prostitution. My perception is that they wouldn't understand the world we occasionally occupy at all.

I've said it before here. Two people can keep a secret, as long as one of them is dead :D.

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Generally, I don't. But as I've touched upon in another thread, I got into punting through an old girlfriend who is also into punting, thought it was lots of fun ( amongst other reasons ) and said that I should give it a go.

So, as we both know we're doing it, we have lots of conversations in the pub about it ( although, we tend to avoid going too specific! ). It's quite nice to know someone who you can have a face to face chat with who's on the same wavelength.

Don't get any recommends from her, though ... although, she did help me find the first girl I punted with, so I suppose that kind of counts.

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NO I don't discuss it !

I did discuss it once with a friend who I thought was very open minded but was met with great disapproval that all WG girls were avid drug abusers and if I hadn't caught anything already I would before long.

So be warned - people you think may find it acceptable may possibly not but by that time the cat is out of the bag. Think carefully !!

A while after telling him (wishing that I hadn't in the first place) he asked if I still went to visit the particular parlor. As a get-out I told him that I'd only ever had been twice and the last time I was ripped off by the guy on the door taking my money and then telling me then to f-off. He felt very smug about that.... lol

As a regular punter I get good sex whenever I want whereas my friend spends inordinate amounts of money and time in bars on the off chance will meet someone for sex. (in his case probably too drunk to know or care what's happening) I've had great sex twice this month already. My friend told me last week he had a snog with a drunk bird in the pub the previous Saturday. As for sex - well he hasn't had sex for the last 19 months.

Guess who feels smug !

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Not really but if anyone asked id tell them because im pretty open and honest (bit too much at times) plus im not married and im not embarassed or ashamed of it, but theres a stigma attached to it by a lot of people so its probably more hassle than its worth to go shouting it from the rooftops. Have tested the waters with a few friends with questions such as "ever thought about using an escort" or "i know ths guy who uses escorts" to gauge reactions.. so far no luck

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Depends on your definition of friend.

I have many many friends but different 'levels' of friendship. Therefore different friends know more about me than others. It is not a deliberate assignment of level, just something that happens naturally.

At the top, there are a couple of friends who know about every aspect of my life financial, emotional etc so obviously this as well. After all, if something were to happen to me, I need someone I can trust to draw the strings of my life together.

Like any aspect of your life, you choose what you show to whom.

LF

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I've said it before here. Two people can keep a secret, as long as one of them is dead :D.

A secret is something you tell to just one person at a time!!!

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There are three or four working ladies who I consider to be friends, but we only discuss punting and not my other life.

I know this is putting the question from a different direction, but it is sort of related.

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Well I go punting with my Boss and lets see, 3 male friends know I punt, my GF knows I punt and 4 female friends know I punt.

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If you now and then visit brothels together with someone, shouldn't he be called a fuck buddy? :D

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Having been one of those who has spent a working life travelling in a marine construction environment, I have often wondered at the way that the crew would happilly discus the merits of the various bars and houses and the girls in overseas ports, whilst strenuously denying any knowledge of paid sex in UK.

the only times I have found a similar exchange on home territory has been at conferences, big project kick-off meetings and the like when phone nos may be exchanged

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So this "My mate gave me your number, can you give me some details?" is not true?

:D

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So, do you discuss punting with your mates?

My close friends are non-punters but they love to hear my punting stories, they never make stupid statements like "I would never pay for sex".

We ALL pay for sex, one way or another. :D;)

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My brother knows...

A few VERY good mates know...

they are mostly jealous espeically when they see some pics ;-)

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Years and years ago, I remember, I did tell a girl I knew (and also screwed) that I had had experience of prostitutes. She was completely unfazed. Not quite sure now why I made her the unique depository of this fact about myself.

Of late, I have noticed, while not opening up directly to friends, I have become less and less cautious about expressing attitudes and interest related to the paid sex trade which do rather suggest that I might have some direct experience there. I think it's part of reaching a certain age and not giving a bugger any longer. None of these friends - male and female - would be so stupid as to say anything to Mrs. Bloom. If I were challenged directly by one of them, I really don't know what I would say - I'd probably admit it.

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Years and years ago, I remember, I did tell a girl I knew (and also screwed) that I had had experience of prostitutes. She was completely unfazed. Not quite sure now why I made her the unique depository of this fact about myself.

Of late, I have noticed, while not opening up directly to friends, I have become less and less cautious about expressing attitudes and interest related to the paid sex trade which do rather suggest that I might have some direct experience there. I think it's part of reaching a certain age and not giving a bugger any longer. None of these friends - male and female - would be so stupid as to say anything to Mrs. Bloom. If I were challenged directly by one of them, I really don't know what I would say - I'd probably admit it.

I would be very very careful here -- you just never know when something can come back and bite you. Biggest danger is someone's big mouth . How many times has a friend told you something ' in lodge '--- problem is he has probably said the same thing to many others too. When you do something exciting, bold and out of your official character it is tempting to share it Be careful.

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I have a couple of mates who know, and sometimes we exchange info, phone numbers etc.

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I have a Bunbury!

I always tell Mrs L I've got Ming in the house or Ming is climbing out of the back window as Mrs L comes through the door. But telling about real women to other people? nope.

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I discuss it with no-one, other than those I meet in a parlour, where I've occasionally had a conversation with a first timer at a place (things like how much and what are no-nos).

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I have a friend I met at a party which didn't happen and we keep in contact and occasionally meet for a mmf.

I am able to say anything to anybody here without fear of bad attitude, I just don't do it in English!

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I talk to my friends about it...

I talk to my friends about work and punting.

I have nothing to hide and anyone who doesn't accept me for who I am is no friend at all.

Though I wouldn't blab to 'mates' down te pub, I have some decorum.

I define friends and 'mates' as two separate things...

I have friends whom I do everything with and can tell them anything.

Then I have mates who I catch up with down the pub if I am on a night out.

It's all relative to my little bubble in the world, also...

I suppose it depends on a few factors...

Married or not

Relationship or not

Comfortable with who you are

And have faith that your friends love you for who you are.

I stop rambling now.

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I would be very very careful here -- you just never know when something can come back and bite you. Biggest danger is someone's big mouth . How many times has a friend told you something ' in lodge '--- problem is he has probably said the same thing to many others too. When you do something exciting, bold and out of your official character it is tempting to share it Be careful.

Wise words.:rolleyes: In the 80s i nearly told a good friend, we fell out big time so this re-enforced keeping it to myself was the best thing to do then.

Nowadays my friends know i punt and some also punt, its no big deal but my advice to those with something to lose if its discovered you pay for sex, be it your relationship etc is to keep it to yourself.

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