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Sharing a Punt with a friend, can it work?

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Just got in from a night out with a good friend who knows all about my punting life. He's in a LTR and semi lives with her ( has his own place) . He's "desperate" to sample the delights of punting, but apprehensive about doing it himself for the first time. So, tonight he suggested that I pick a girl, book her for say 3 hours outcall at a hotel, I see her first for an hour, give her 30/60mins to freshen up and then he sees her. I think he wants to see the same girl as me so we can "compare notes" as to how it went.

Well, it got me thinking, maybe it wasn't such a silly idea after all, as clearly he is not about to jump into the deep end alone, and if only to satisfy his curiousity there would be no harm done.

So, I just wondered...........lets say I booked an outcall for 3 hours, would it really be necessary to tell her or the agency that she would be with me for one hour, freshen up, and with my friend for the second hour? After all we're only paying for the time so the fact that I will leave after an hour and my friend will arrive for the last hour shouldn't be an issue should it?

What do you think?

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Just got in from a night out with a good friend who knows all about my punting life. He's in a LTR and semi lives with her ( has his own place) . He's "desperate" to sample the delights of punting, but apprehensive about doing it himself for the first time. So, tonight he suggested that I pick a girl, book her for say 3 hours outcall at a hotel, I see her first for an hour, give her 30/60mins to freshen up and then he sees her. I think he wants to see the same girl as me so we can "compare notes" as to how it went.

Well, it got me thinking, maybe it wasn't such a silly idea after all, as clearly he is not about to jump into the deep end alone, and if only to satisfy his curiousity there would be no harm done.

So, I just wondered...........lets say I booked an outcall for 3 hours, would it really be necessary to tell her or the agency that she would be with me for one hour, freshen up, and with my friend for the second hour? After all we're only paying for the time so the fact that I will leave after an hour and my friend will arrive for the last hour shouldn't be an issue should it?

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I think you know that the lady members of this forum are going to come on here and tell you exactly what you do not want to hear.

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I guess this is a "bait & switch" kind of event.

OP and friend should consider dusting off a couple of gimp masks to play this game properly :D

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If your friend is "desperate" to punt, but very apprehensive about doing so, I really dont think you both going hand-in-hand to the same lady is going to help TBH. If he is worried about gettting a bad experience, then I would suggest him booking with a lady you have visited in the past and recommend. That way he can also do his "compare notes" bit if he feels he has to.

As for this 1 hour each tag-team bit. I really think it would be rude not to ask or mention it to the lady before hand. One of the most common complaints in this hobby is that of "shifting the goalposts" and switching a 3 hour call into 2 seperate hour visits is a pretty drastic shift. If the situation was reversed, I would be pretty pissed to have someone else swap in half way through, but if asked before hand, at least I would have the opportunity to decide for myself. At least give the lady/agency that choice.

I was about as nervous as could be, and was shaking like a leaf before my first few visits, and if I can manage it then I am sure anyone can, but really think he should be old enough to be able to do it by himself without hand-holding. Sure, help him and give advice, but ultimately, he should go alone IMO.

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If anyone tried to do that to me I would be really angry and tempted to keep the whole money and tell the 2nd guy to bugger off. You should have 2 seperate bookings or at least explain the situation and give her the choice of whether she is happy to do it or not. Taking away that choice is underhand and just plain wrong!

Can it go wrong? Yes it can. I had 2 men that were mates and both punted. When the second one came to me I told him that I didn't want to talk about his friend while we were together and I would not tell him about the time I spent with his friend, as I wanted them to both enjoy their time with me and not start some sort of challenge between each other.

Regardless of this they both talked about me together and would text me asking leading questions to find out more about the other one. Eventually it all came to head and now they are no longer friends. Not due to jealousy, I don't give myself that much credit, but because the one suffers with depression and it sparked up his lack of confidence as they sparred with each other and he closed down the shutters.

I ask myself, is it really worth it?

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If anyone tried to do that to me I would be really angry and tempted to keep the whole money and tell the 2nd guy to bugger off. You should have 2 seperate bookings or at least explain the situation and give her the choice of whether she is happy to do it or not. Taking away that choice is underhand and just plain wrong!

Can it go wrong? Yes it can. I had 2 men that were mates and both punted. When the second one came to me I told him that I didn't want to talk about his friend while we were together and I would not tell him about the time I spent with his friend, as I wanted them to both enjoy their time with me and not start some sort of challenge between each other.

Regardless of this they both talked about me together and would text me asking leading questions to find out more about the other one. Eventually it all came to head and now they are no longer friends. Not due to jealousy, I don't give myself that much credit, but because the one suffers with depression and it sparked up his lack of confidence as they sparred with each other and he closed down the shutters.

I ask myself, is it really worth it?

Kate, remember what you were told about Howard in the chatroom the other night? Meet Tarquin. :D

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If your mate really is nervous about it why not have a chat with one of your 'regular' WG's that he might like and say to her, 'Look, so-and-so is going to call and make a booking. He's very nervous, it's his first time, but he's a decent bloke and I've told him how this works, can you make sure he has a nice time?'

I am sure any decent professional lady will understand and part of the punting experience is for him to make the call and discuss the booking - how else is he going to learn?

We all had to start somewhere.

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If anyone tried to do that to me I would be really angry and tempted to keep the whole money and tell the 2nd guy to bugger off. You should have 2 seperate bookings or at least explain the situation and give her the choice of whether she is happy to do it or not. Taking away that choice is underhand and just plain wrong!

Can it go wrong? Yes it can. I had 2 men that were mates and both punted. When the second one came to me I told him that I didn't want to talk about his friend while we were together and I would not tell him about the time I spent with his friend, as I wanted them to both enjoy their time with me and not start some sort of challenge between each other.

Regardless of this they both talked about me together and would text me asking leading questions to find out more about the other one. Eventually it all came to head and now they are no longer friends. Not due to jealousy, I don't give myself that much credit, but because the one suffers with depression and it sparked up his lack of confidence as they sparred with each other and he closed down the shutters.

I ask myself, is it really worth it?

As I was saying.....

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Just got in from a night out with a good friend who knows all about my punting life. He's in a LTR and semi lives with her ( has his own place) . He's "desperate" to sample the delights of punting, but apprehensive about doing it himself for the first time. So, tonight he suggested that I pick a girl, book her for say 3 hours outcall at a hotel, I see her first for an hour, give her 30/60mins to freshen up and then he sees her. I think he wants to see the same girl as me so we can "compare notes" as to how it went.

Well, it got me thinking, maybe it wasn't such a silly idea after all, as clearly he is not about to jump into the deep end alone, and if only to satisfy his curiousity there would be no harm done.

So, I just wondered...........lets say I booked an outcall for 3 hours, would it really be necessary to tell her or the agency that she would be with me for one hour, freshen up, and with my friend for the second hour? After all we're only paying for the time so the fact that I will leave after an hour and my friend will arrive for the last hour shouldn't be an issue should it?

What do you think?

Tarquin

On another level all together, do you really think you should be encouraging this guy to punt?

Punting usually begins as a result of a personal awakening - not egging on by your mates. Do you really think you should be encouraging this guy to break his implied promises to his LT GF?

I don't think do.

Looking forward to that drink in September btw.

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Just got in from a night out with a good friend who knows all about my punting life. He's in a LTR and semi lives with her ( has his own place) . He's "desperate" to sample the delights of punting, but apprehensive about doing it himself for the first time. So, tonight he suggested that I pick a girl, book her for say 3 hours outcall at a hotel, I see her first for an hour, give her 30/60mins to freshen up and then he sees her. I think he wants to see the same girl as me so we can "compare notes" as to how it went.

Well, it got me thinking, maybe it wasn't such a silly idea after all, as clearly he is not about to jump into the deep end alone, and if only to satisfy his curiousity there would be no harm done.

So, I just wondered...........lets say I booked an outcall for 3 hours, would it really be necessary to tell her or the agency that she would be with me for one hour, freshen up, and with my friend for the second hour? After all we're only paying for the time so the fact that I will leave after an hour and my friend will arrive for the last hour shouldn't be an issue should it?

What do you think?

Bloody stupid question.

The girl has the right to know that you are expecting to her perform twice, with two guys, and presumably neither wants a 'second-class' experience.

I CHOOSE whether I want to take a booking based on the approach of a client, I don't expect to be tag-teamed. :D

If any guy sprung this on me at a booking I'd tear his sodding bollocks off.

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Bloody stupid question.

The girl has the right to know that you are expecting to her perform twice, with two guys, and presumably neither wants a 'second-class' experience.

I CHOOSE whether I want to take a booking based on the approach of a client, I don't expect to be tag-teamed. :)

If any guy sprung this on me at a booking I'd tear his sodding bollocks off.

If anyone else had said that, Claire, I'd think they were exaggerating for effect. :D:D

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If anyone else had said that, Claire, I'd think they were exaggerating for effect. :D:)

You should see my display cabinet.... :D

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It's an insane idea!!!

Given that the girls are always dealing with unknown and sometimes unpleasant characters and have to use a lot of trust and gut-instinct, i think the thought of springing it on her would immediately blow any trust whatsoever and she then would have no way of being relaxed and comfortable with the punt!!!

I can't see that ANY girl would be happy with this...and would rightfully avoid the situation like the plague!!!

Find a girl that is comfortable with it knowing beforehand would be the only way.

I could quite easily see any girl who experienced this would raise it publicly that you were an untrustworthy and potentially dangerous client!!

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Many girls will take a booking at, say, 2pm and another at 4pm. Why don't these guys do just that, book the same girl separately. The advantage from their point of view is that they are not paying for the middle hour when the girl, in both scenarios, is freshening up and getting ready for the second appointment. I don't see the logic otherwise, except if it's an outcall and guy number 2 can't accommodate and wants to punt from guy number1's premises. Even so, there must be an easier answer than the one proposed.

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hang on, i dont really see the problem

the guy clearly asks whether he should tell the agency about the intended plan

the answer is clearly yes as that keeps the agency informed and allows the lady in question to decide whether she is happy to do that or not

totally negates the idea of it being "sprung" on the lady

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hang on, i dont really see the problem

the guy clearly asks whether he should tell the agency about the intended plan

the answer is clearly yes as that keeps the agency informed and allows the lady in question to decide whether she is happy to do that or not

totally negates the idea of it being "sprung" on the lady

He is actually debating if he needs to or not in a manner that suggests it wouldn't be a problem.

So, I just wondered...........lets say I booked an outcall for 3 hours, would it really be necessary to tell her or the agency that she would be with me for one hour, freshen up, and with my friend for the second hour? After all we're only paying for the time so the fact that I will leave after an hour and my friend will arrive for the last hour shouldn't be an issue should it?

What do you think?

The fact that he is even thinking it would be ok is wrong. He really is treating the ladies that he sees regularly (as these are the ones he is contemplating doing this with) as pieces of meat and it's not nice. You would think if he has regular contact with these ladies he would assume to mention the idea to one of them and see if they were up for it, not just spring it on them or even imagine it would be fair to do so.

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Tarquin

On another level all together, do you really think you should be encouraging this guy to punt?

No, certainly not. It is he that has eagerly awaited the latest "story" of my last punt and consistently says he's going to do it, only to abort at the eleveth hour. I suppose it's a guilt thing as he his fairly happily "married" (co habiting) and doesn't want to upset the apple cart.

hang on, i dont really see the problem

the guy clearly asks whether he should tell the agency about the intended plan

the answer is clearly yes as that keeps the agency informed and allows the lady in question to decide whether she is happy to do that or not

totally negates the idea of it being "sprung" on the lady

You are right, It is only a question, not some devious plan I've come up with.

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however much he debates it, he asks a question

"would it really be necessary"

answer: yes, it would

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should the girl be told. YES

You should neither encourage discourage your friend. these things can go bad very quickly.

i remember after my first punt that i had a low period and i think most newbies do.

just tell him the facts and allow him to choose for himself if the hobby is for him

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yes the girl should be told:p

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There is one simple to the point answer for this scenario.

If you spring this on her she will immediately think her safety is being compromised, will stop the appointment and leave.

I'm sure any other WG on here would do the same thing too.

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No, certainly not. It is he that has eagerly awaited the latest "story" of my last punt and consistently says he's going to do it, only to abort at the eleveth hour. I suppose it's a guilt thing as he his fairly happily "married" (co habiting) and doesn't want to upset the apple cart.

So let's suppose you do this, the guy loves it, and then goes on a punting binge booking hookers at every opporunity. Then (as he's already prone to guilt), his conscience catches up with him, he starts to slip up and gets caught.

His perfectly happy LTR falls apart, and his missus tells everyone she knows what a rat he is.

Who's he going to blame for encouraging him?

He's clearly looking for your "permission" to do something he knows is wrong. That means if it goes tits up, you'll be there to blame.

I agree with oneputt - it's a personal decision, and one that needs to be made without outside encouragement.

Sounds like a great way to lose a friend to me.

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Sounds like a great way to lose a friend to me.

Well , weve been friends since school days so there's very little chance of that.

Seems to me, reading between the lines from the Wg's is maybe that they don't quite fancy a "fresh" guy "tagging", when on a 2-3 Hour they probably expect to participate less in the hour 2 and 3 when its just a 121 Punt.

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That's it, Tarquin. Ignore all the posts mentioning manners, right to decide, and safety issues, and assume we're all just lazy cows.

Arsehole.

(that's a direct attack, by the way).

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That's it, Tarquin. Ignore all the posts mentioning manners, right to decide, and safety issues, and assume we're all just lazy cows.

Arsehole.

(that's a direct attack, by the way).

Second that Claire!

And find it odd that any reasonably intelligent guy who supposedly booked an escort before even needs to ask such an idiotic question! Shows a very socially inept person not to realise it is incredibly bad manners to spring this on an escort and shows complete and utter lack of respect for safety measures. And since it is a long standing former school friend it is highly likely he will be as unpleasant a character as you. I pity anyone getting 'tagged' by the pair of you!

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