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The last few punts I did were endless. I did not orgasm. I was fine, the women were wonderful but I was just pumping away and no effect. Even blows jobs did not help and one girl, who I do nor blame for it, said "Oh finish yourself off!"

I put it down to the weather. But last night Mrs L put out- a rare event- and even with bare back and lack of guilt I was the same. Just pumping away, no orgasm.

When I jerk off then there is no problem, orgasms abound.

Any ideas? Refrain from self abuse until my balls turn blue? visit more skilled working girls? Just ride it out?

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If you can orgasm through "self abuse" I suppose it means there is nothing physically wrong so presumably it is some mental hang up. May I enquire as to your age? That may have a bearing on it and of course, manual stimulation is more physical than the rubbing you get from penetration. It's a shame you couldn't manage to orgasm with Mrs.L though as this might make her think you don't actually want sex with her.

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The last few punts I did were endless. I did not orgasm. I was fine, the women were wonderful but I was just pumping away and no effect. Even blows jobs did not help and one girl, who I do nor blame for it, said "Oh finish yourself off!"

I put it down to the weather. But last night Mrs L put out- a rare event- and even with bare back and lack of guilt I was the same. Just pumping away, no orgasm.

When I jerk off then there is no problem, orgasms abound.

Any ideas? Refrain from self abuse until my balls turn blue? visit more skilled working girls? Just ride it out?

It's a known fact that the friction from your hand is more intense than from a ladies vagina.

so perhaps refrain from a wank for a few days before you go see the lady of your choice or doing the lady at home.

Also it's common to over think the orgasm and not achieve it.

When you want it so much you are over concentrating on reaching the goal so the stimulus you get is reduced, rather than increased.

So you could try just enjoying the experience, without orgasm.

A watched kettle never boils ( I think that's the old phrase)

Hope this made some sense.

:rolleyes:

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The last few punts I did were endless. I did not orgasm. I was fine, the women were wonderful but I was just pumping away and no effect. Even blows jobs did not help and one girl, who I do nor blame for it, said "Oh finish yourself off!"

I put it down to the weather. But last night Mrs L put out- a rare event- and even with bare back and lack of guilt I was the same. Just pumping away, no orgasm.

When I jerk off then there is no problem, orgasms abound.

Any ideas? Refrain from self abuse until my balls turn blue? visit more skilled working girls? Just ride it out?

It's a danger of masturbating too much in a certain way - you can get conditioned into only orgasming from that specific sort of stimulation.

Try having a break from choking your chicken, when you resume, perhaps vary your onanastic technique a little.

Also... do you watch porn when you "self-service"? If so, give that a rest.

I had a similar problem from watching too much porn, that I found it almost impossible to orgasm without replaying some sort of fantasy in my head. When I stopped watching porn for a while, the problem went away.

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Occasionally this happens to me.

If I realise I'm not going to cum I generally just 'fake it' - this is a recent strategy.

In the past the various futile attempts to force an orgasm can create a difficult atmosphere - if I've had a good time and can't cum so what .....

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The last few punts I did were endless. I did not orgasm. I was fine, the women were wonderful but I was just pumping away and no effect. Even blows jobs did not help and one girl, who I do nor blame for it, said "Oh finish yourself off!"

I put it down to the weather. But last night Mrs L put out- a rare event- and even with bare back and lack of guilt I was the same. Just pumping away, no orgasm.

When I jerk off then there is no problem, orgasms abound.

Any ideas? Refrain from self abuse until my balls turn blue? visit more skilled working girls? Just ride it out?

Well your already trying that and it doesnt seem to be working :eek:

Agree with the others, your most likely masturbating too much. Just abstain for a few days or a week. Or wank but dont go to completion. (Think thats something I heard Ron Jeremy say he does)

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I pretty much agree with most of the advice given so far. Knock the wanking on the head for a couple of weeks (and any associated porn watching). Pick a WG who you know you'll have a nice time with (preferably one you've seen before and feel you click with) and see how you go. As long as it's not a mental block, you should find you'll have an explosively good time.

Let us know how you get on.

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I pretty much agree with most of the advice given so far. Knock the wanking on the head for a couple of weeks (and any associated porn watching). Pick a WG who you know you'll have a nice time with (preferably one you've seen before and feel you click with) and see how you go. As long as it's not a mental block, you should find you'll have an explosively good time.

Let us know how you get on.

That's a good alternative... pick the WG who you get on best with. Tell her at the start you've had some trouble reaching orgasm recently, so you don't want to focus on getting an orgasm, just having an enjoyable time.

Then sit back and relax. You may or may not cum, but it will be a very pleasurable hour with the pressure removed.

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As we know the brain is the main sex organ.

What i used to do when younger and having more sex than now , would be to fix in my mind the point at which i would reach orgasm.

so then when involved in exciting moments , group sex etc, i would cum only when i had got into that pre arranged scene in my mind. i can still do this now , although its not as easy .

so, if you can tell yourself at what point you are going to come, maybe you can follow through ? just my angle on this :eek:

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I would make yourself wait for unloading till you are absolutely bursting and gagging for a lady to touch you and then go see one for a lot of teasing and pleasing.....I';m sure that should help :eek:

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The last few punts I did were endless. I did not orgasm. I was fine, the women were wonderful but I was just pumping away and no effect. Even blows jobs did not help and one girl, who I do nor blame for it, said "Oh finish yourself off!"

I put it down to the weather. But last night Mrs L put out- a rare event- and even with bare back and lack of guilt I was the same. Just pumping away, no orgasm.

When I jerk off then there is no problem, orgasms abound.

Any ideas? Refrain from self abuse until my balls turn blue? visit more skilled working girls? Just ride it out?

Good advice from others, just leave your dick alone and book a lady you have rated in the past in a week or so and see how that pans out.

Coming unless you have a physical condition which your lone wanking rules out IMO, is in the head, a mental thing. Even when physically exhausted certain ladies have raised my seemingly dead dick and coaxed me to pop.:eek:

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I have only experienced this problem in Thailand which I put down to lots of reasons ------

1) Effects of Kamagra

2) Effects of excess alcohol.

3) Too much regular sex.

4) I don't fancy the girl in the first place.:eek::eek:

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About 10 years ago I took prozac for a few months and I couldn't cum at all.

I think all SSRI's (anti-depressants) can have this effect ...

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No porn? no wanking? That leaves only work to fill the long hours of the day. You are a heartless lot (laughing).

But very helpful.

I'll refrain until I'm bursting, book my best escort to date and tell her the problem.

Ta very muchly one and all

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