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Loyal To One WG ?

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Do most guys have a favourite escort they see on a reguar basis? I have one escort, who I have seen at least 15 times in the past 2 months and she happens to amongst one of the most popular in London, which is a shame in one respect because in a selfish point of view you would want to keep her for yourself, but understand that this is the profession she is in and in all probability I may have never met her any other way. I would guess she must see at least 10 guys a day incall or outcall since the poor girl works almost round the clock.

I've seen this girl a few times away from work too. For instance on her day off, went out for dinner which she paid for, which was a nice gesture and no matter how hard I try to say to myself "Whatever you do don't have feelings for her, it will hurt in the long run", I cant help it. She is unlike any other escort I've seen in that she is a genuinely sweet honest girl and I know her reasons to why she does this gig and its a gut wrenching story.

Another escort, who I have also seen a fair few times told me that all escorts have their very own special one punter who they have a crush on despite the so called myth that working girls will find it impossible to ever be in a relationship while she is working as an escort. Last week was the first week since I began seeing her that I have not seen her. The last time I saw her I sensed the usual spark was missing. She normally kisses extremely passionately but she was very reluctant this time and the sex was almost mechanic with her closing her eyes for some reason despite the fact that she constantly says that I am the best looking customer she has seen and likes the fact that I am young and full of energy (early twenties) compared to some of the old prats she may get every now and again. I get the feeling someone may have already swooped her away and I walked away from her apartment with a strange feeling. Usually I feel great having got to spend some great time with my favourite girl, but this time I felt kind of betrayed.

It's the nature of the business, out of all the guys she see's, someone may have taken my place on top of the throne and to be honest it's hard to take. Do I see her again and see if that last time was a blip or is her mind permeanantly distracted and do I try to see what else is out there ? The thing is though, we've build this beautiful unique relationship which has been built from a number of encounters and sharing a number of life stories and to go to a new girl would mean starting from scratch

Life ain't fair. Why can't normal girls be this fucking amazing. That's the thing about escorts. You cannot build a relationship with them no matter how many times you see them because you quite frankly don't know if its a game to them or if it's real and with the number of clients they see their is bound to be someone who they fall for over you in a long enought timeline.

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It may just well be that she sensed you were starting to have feelings that were not appropriate for a customer and decided to hold back a bit.

It would make sense as you stated "we've build this beautiful unique relationship". You hadnt. She was working.

"with the number of clients they see their is bound to be someone who they fall for over you in a long enought timeline." Again she very probably hadnt fallen for you then met someone else. She was doing her job but you overstepped the mark with your feelings and she backed off

Anything you thought you had built was just in your own mind. It means she does her job well. She made you feel that you were special which is what you pay her for.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are only kidding yourself. It is our JOB to make a client feel they are the most important person alive. Nothing more.

This is one of the downfalls of escorting. We hone our acting skills so well some men forget it is an act and believe that we really do think they are the most amazing man on the planet. We then have to back away or refuse to see them again.

If I was you I would move onto another girl as she obviously doesnt feel comfortable giving you a proper service now.

Next time though try seeing it for what it is not what you imagine it to be and you should continue getting a great service.

Hmm just realised I am not doing myself any favours by being so honest on this forum. Ah well, what the heck:D:D

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Why can't normal girls be this fucking amazing

Well, young man, they can be. You are just very mixed up. Real relationships are often "amazing". I'm probably one of the old prats you refer to , being just past 50:) but we've seen a bit of life. It is quite easy to fall for an escort - they are often very pretty, skilled as danielle says, good at sex and, importantly, you aren't lumbered with all the baggage that accompanies a real , girlfriend/wife/partner relationship. That's what makes it so good and exciting but it can also mess with your head. You mention that this girl is very popular - go figure as they say.

There is a thread a week on falling in love with an escort - you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

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If you have seen her 15 times in 2 months you are bound to be very special to her - even an old prat like me would be special to her .

You are seriously kidding yourself and my advise would be to start dating civilian girls and form some honest relationships .

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Us women are amazing just unfortunately you have to go through crap to appreciate what you have.

I have been down a very crappy road and so has Mr Bunny but I beleive that if we hadn't had these experiences, however much nasty and horrible they where, we would not appreciate our lives or each other now.....:D

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"Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are only kidding yourself. It is our JOB to make a client feel they are the most important person alive. Nothing more."

I never deluded into believing that I would ever get anything more then a short term experience, and in fact before I started this game I was in a very solid relationship with a gorgeous girl so I know the whole relationship dynmaic and I was sick of it, sick of the baggage and sick of having to drag a relationship beyond its expiry date, hence signing onto this game which offered something different and I've had so much fun.

Before that last time, we always talked very openly. I at no point forced the issue and in fact if it was anyone forcing the issue it was her constantly texting me and asking me to sleep with her. We did almost everything sexually so maybe seeing her the number of times I did in such a short space of time took its toll on her, and she looked really tired that last time which may have factored into it. I don't know what came over her last time but with all the creeps that must see her, maybe before me she had a terrible experience with a punter which took her some time to recover.

I think what I'll do is see her this one time this week and see what unfolds and maybe get some answers. I don't want anything more from her then what I had already. A wonderful sexual relationship.

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It may just well be that she sensed you were starting to have feelings that were not appropriate for a customer and decided to hold back a bit.

It would make sense as you stated "we've build this beautiful unique relationship". You hadnt. She was working.

"with the number of clients they see their is bound to be someone who they fall for over you in a long enought timeline." Again she very probably hadnt fallen for you then met someone else. She was doing her job but you overstepped the mark with your feelings and she backed off

Anything you thought you had built was just in your own mind. It means she does her job well. She made you feel that you were special which is what you pay her for.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are only kidding yourself. It is our JOB to make a client feel they are the most important person alive. Nothing more.

This is one of the downfalls of escorting. We hone our acting skills so well some men forget it is an act and believe that we really do think they are the most amazing man on the planet. We then have to back away or refuse to see them again.

If I was you I would move onto another girl as she obviously doesnt feel comfortable giving you a proper service now.

Next time though try seeing it for what it is not what you imagine it to be and you should continue getting a great service.

Hmm just realised I am not doing myself any favours by being so honest on this forum. Ah well, what the heck:D:D

OP - reread this and take note. Then move on.

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It may just well be that she sensed you were starting to have feelings that were not appropriate for a customer and decided to hold back a bit.

It would make sense as you stated "we've build this beautiful unique relationship". You hadnt. She was working.

"with the number of clients they see their is bound to be someone who they fall for over you in a long enought timeline." Again she very probably hadnt fallen for you then met someone else. She was doing her job but you overstepped the mark with your feelings and she backed off

Anything you thought you had built was just in your own mind. It means she does her job well. She made you feel that you were special which is what you pay her for.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are only kidding yourself. It is our JOB to make a client feel they are the most important person alive. Nothing more.

This is one of the downfalls of escorting. We hone our acting skills so well some men forget it is an act and believe that we really do think they are the most amazing man on the planet. We then have to back away or refuse to see them again.

If I was you I would move onto another girl as she obviously doesnt feel comfortable giving you a proper service now.

Next time though try seeing it for what it is not what you imagine it to be and you should continue getting a great service.

Hmm just realised I am not doing myself any favours by being so honest on this forum. Ah well, what the heck:D:D

Hallelujah & Amen! No more to be said to this really. Nail on the head and all that.

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Do most guys have a favourite escort they see on a reguar basis? I have one escort, who I have seen at least 15 times in the past 2 months and she happens to amongst one of the most popular in London, which is a shame in one respect because in a selfish point of view you would want to keep her for yourself, but understand that this is the profession she is in and in all probability I may have never met her any other way. I would guess she must see at least 10 guys a day incall or outcall since the poor girl works almost round the clock.

I've seen this girl a few times away from work too. For instance on her day off, went out for dinner which she paid for, which was a nice gesture and no matter how hard I try to say to myself "Whatever you do don't have feelings for her, it will hurt in the long run", I cant help it. She is unlike any other escort I've seen in that she is a genuinely sweet honest girl and I know her reasons to why she does this gig and its a gut wrenching story.

Another escort, who I have also seen a fair few times told me that all escorts have their very own special one punter who they have a crush on despite the so called myth that working girls will find it impossible to ever be in a relationship while she is working as an escort. Last week was the first week since I began seeing her that I have not seen her. The last time I saw her I sensed the usual spark was missing. She normally kisses extremely passionately but she was very reluctant this time and the sex was almost mechanic with her closing her eyes for some reason despite the fact that she constantly says that I am the best looking customer she has seen and likes the fact that I am young and full of energy (early twenties) compared to some of the old prats she may get every now and again. I get the feeling someone may have already swooped her away and I walked away from her apartment with a strange feeling. Usually I feel great having got to spend some great time with my favourite girl, but this time I felt kind of betrayed.

It's the nature of the business, out of all the guys she see's, someone may have taken my place on top of the throne and to be honest it's hard to take. Do I see her again and see if that last time was a blip or is her mind permeanantly distracted and do I try to see what else is out there ? The thing is though, we've build this beautiful unique relationship which has been built from a number of encounters and sharing a number of life stories and to go to a new girl would mean starting from scratch

Life ain't fair. Why can't normal girls be this fucking amazing. That's the thing about escorts. You cannot build a relationship with them no matter how many times you see them because you quite frankly don't know if its a game to them or if it's real and with the number of clients they see their is bound to be someone who they fall for over you in a long enought timeline.

Welcome to the forum.:D My advice is to not get so involved and just punt with whoever takes your fancy without thinking or worrying about who else she is seeing. Being a WG is a job and although it could and does happen the odds are what you might want to develop into something more wont.

Non Wgs can be and are this amazing and are better if its love you really want. You say you are good looking only early twenties, so you have an advantage over me, i was always ugly but it didnt stop me finding love, thing is you have to get out there in a confident manner to find it, confidence is the key in my experience.

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I think you really need to take a step back and re-assess whether you should be seeing WG's at all. It sounds to me like your looking for far more then just sex and I'm afraid it was never anything more. Sure, most WG's are nice and friendly, but above all you are a CLIENT. She is offering a service and you are paying for that service. There is nothing else there.

I've had to learn this very same lesson the hard way. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with, but I am much happier person now. I think it may be a good idea to read my own "Time to say goodbye" thread to see how getting involved in this business can really mess with your head, particularly if your young.

Hope you sort yourself out.

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It may just well be that she sensed you were starting to have feelings that were not appropriate for a customer and decided to hold back a bit.

It would make sense as you stated "we've build this beautiful unique relationship". You hadnt. She was working.

"with the number of clients they see their is bound to be someone who they fall for over you in a long enought timeline." Again she very probably hadnt fallen for you then met someone else. She was doing her job but you overstepped the mark with your feelings and she backed off

Anything you thought you had built was just in your own mind. It means she does her job well. She made you feel that you were special which is what you pay her for.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are only kidding yourself. It is our JOB to make a client feel they are the most important person alive. Nothing more.

This is one of the downfalls of escorting. We hone our acting skills so well some men forget it is an act and believe that we really do think they are the most amazing man on the planet. We then have to back away or refuse to see them again.

If I was you I would move onto another girl as she obviously doesnt feel comfortable giving you a proper service now.

Next time though try seeing it for what it is not what you imagine it to be and you should continue getting a great service.

Hmm just realised I am not doing myself any favours by being so honest on this forum. Ah well, what the heck:D:D

A hallelujah from me too.

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You have my sympathy envy123. As one of the old prats to whom you refer (no offence taken :D ) my advice to you is based on bitter experience, not wisdom. Do everything in your power, and do it as quickly as possible, to forget her and move on. Or you'll hurt all the more.

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"I think you really need to take a step back and re-assess whether you should be seeing WG's at all. It sounds to me like your looking for far more then just sex and I'm afraid it was never anything more."

No I am not. I've had all the relationship malarky. I'm sick of that as pointed out in a previous post:

"I never deluded into believing that I would ever get anything more then a short term experience, and in fact before I started this game I was in a very solid relationship with a gorgeous girl so I know the whole relationship dynmaic and I was sick of it, sick of the baggage and sick of having to drag a relationship beyond its expiry date, hence signing onto this game which offered something different and I've had so much fun.

Before that last time, we always talked very openly. I at no point forced the issue and in fact if it was anyone forcing the issue it was her constantly texting me and asking me to sleep with her. We did almost everything sexually so maybe seeing her the number of times I did in such a short space of time took its toll on her, and she looked really tired that last time which may have factored into it. I don't know what came over her last time but with all the creeps that must see her, maybe before me she had a terrible experience with a punter which took her some time to recover.

I think what I'll do is see her this one time this week and see what unfolds and maybe get some answers. I don't want anything more from her then what I had already. A wonderful sexual relationship."

Like I said, I just want to be back to the way it used to be. I see her, she's happy to see me and we get it on. I'll find out what was up with her this week. It may have been a personal matter, maybe I was overeacting, idk. It was her who said "If I wasn't doing this job, I'd dream to have you as a boyfriend". We are practically same age and we are both earning a decent amount of money so expense for me never comes into it, its about experience and moments. Thats why I do this.

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ask her if you can go a session with NO payment

that should settle it................

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Step well back

been there got the tea shirt .

like the girls you see but dont fall in love.

Though i am a friend of two retired ones :D

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I have only scanned the previous posts: but think that after two very recent punts I am going to have to never see the lady concerned again.

I never thought that would happen to me. :D:(

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I've had all the relationship malarky. I'm sick of that as pointed out in a previous post:

"I never deluded into believing that I would ever get anything more then a short term experience, and in fact before I started this game I was in a very solid relationship with a gorgeous girl so I know the whole relationship dynmaic and I was sick of it"

and

"Before that last time, we always talked very openly. I at no point forced the issue and in fact if it was anyone forcing the issue it was her constantly texting me and asking me to sleep with her"

I mean how many guys get to actually spend the night with a WG at no expense? I did not expect that to happen and she really craved to see me a lot of the time and vice verca. Ok maybe it went a little too far but she never tried to hold back until recently for whatever reason.

Like I said, I just want to be back to the way it used to be. I see her, she's happy to see me and we get it on. I'll find out what was up with her this week. It may have been a personal matter, maybe I was overeacting, idk. It was her who said "If I wasn't doing this job, I'd dream to have you as a boyfriend". We are practically same age and we are both earning a decent amount of money so expense for me never comes into it, its about experience and moments. Thats why I do this.

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"Sorry if that sounds harsh but you are only kidding yourself. It is our JOB to make a client feel they are the most important person alive. Nothing more."

I never deluded into believing that I would ever get anything more then a short term experience, and in fact before I started this game I was in a very solid relationship with a gorgeous girl so I know the whole relationship dynmaic and I was sick of it, sick of the baggage and sick of having to drag a relationship beyond its expiry date, hence signing onto this game which offered something different and I've had so much fun.

Before that last time, we always talked very openly. I at no point forced the issue and in fact if it was anyone forcing the issue it was her constantly texting me and asking me to sleep with her. We did almost everything sexually so maybe seeing her the number of times I did in such a short space of time took its toll on her, and she looked really tired that last time which may have factored into it. I don't know what came over her last time but with all the creeps that must see her, maybe before me she had a terrible experience with a punter which took her some time to recover.

I think what I'll do is see her this one time this week and see what unfolds and maybe get some answers. I don't want anything more from her then what I had already. A wonderful sexual relationship.

Sorry to say you are one of those Creeps!

Don't delude yourself into thinking that all those texts for sex are her wanting you or a relationship with you, this is not pretty woman and she ain't Julia Roberts.

You are just a cash card to her, and the texts for sex are just that an inticement to garner more cash from you.

There are three types of working girl.

1. The girl who can't stand the job, but needs the money. ( so all clients to this girl are filthy stinking creeps)

2. The girl who can cope with the job. ( most likely can see past most of the shit to apreciate that the payment affords her a better life.)

3. The girls who love the job and have no issue with it, who make it thier livelyhood ( even if sometimes men can be a bit unhygenic at times)

So please bear in mind that while you sit here and spout about all the 'creeps' she see's and all the 'old prats' while you may not be old in years, ( and that much shows in your immature comments) you are in the same position of every male who see's this WG.

YOU PAY FOR IT!! so stop insulting your fellow punters who by and large will probably be better men than you ever will.

Found your post to be totally bloody rude.

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So please bear in mind that while you sit here and spout about all the 'creeps' she see's and all the 'old prats' while you may not be old in years, ( and that much shows in your immature comments) you are in the same position of every male who see's this WG.

Ah, but there is old and there is "old".

With apologies to Lewis Carroll :-

"You are old punter SaSfan", the young girl said,

"And your hair has become very white;

Most of your thinking is with your little head --

Are you sure you will last overnight?".

"In my youth", punter SaSfan replied to the whore,

"With ladies by the score I have lain;

Although my performance is not that of yore,

I can do it again and again".

"You are old," said the girl, "and I'd like to enquire,

If you have no major objection;

As you stand there all naked, flushed with desire --

Do you really call that an erection?".

"In my youth", said SaSfan, "I was really fantastic,

And my dick was rarely deflated,

But unlike your tits that are made out of plastic,

My size has not been misstated".

"You are old", said the girl, "your arse is all flabby

Your bollocks hang down to your knees;

With your legs that thin, and your trousers so shabby --

How can you transport Cantonese?".

"In my youth", said SaSfan, "my legs were like oaks,

And I had some wonderful knackers;

But now I am old, I just suffer the jokes,

And sit on their fucking Prawn Crackers".

"You are old", said the girl, "with your varicose veins

And teeth that you keep in a glass;

With hands like claws, one question remains --

Just how do you wipe your old arse?".

"I have answered three questions, I'm done with this tosh",

Said SaSfan "you are taking the piss!

Now I've got the horn, and you've got the dosh,

So get your laughing gear around this".

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Ah, but there is old and there is "old".

With apologies to Lewis Carroll :-

"You are old punter SaSfan", the young girl said,

"And your hair has become very white;

Most of your thinking is with your little head --

Are you sure you will last overnight?".

"In my youth", punter SaSfan replied to the whore,

"With ladies by the score I have lain;

Although my performance is not that of yore,

I can do it again and again".

"You are old," said the girl, "and I'd like to enquire,

If you have no major objection;

As you stand there all naked, flushed with desire --

Do you really call that an erection?".

"In my youth", said SaSfan, "I was really fantastic,

And my dick was rarely deflated,

But unlike your tits that are made out of plastic,

My size has not been misstated".

"You are old", said the girl, "your arse is all flabby

Your bollocks hang down to your knees;

With your legs that thin, and your trousers so shabby --

How can you transport Cantonese?".

"In my youth", said SaSfan, "my legs were like oaks,

And I had some wonderful knackers;

But now I am old, I just suffer the jokes,

And sit on their fucking Prawn Crackers".

"You are old", said the girl, "with your varicose veins

And teeth that you keep in a glass;

With hands like claws, one question remains --

Just how do you wipe your old arse?".

"I have answered three questions, I'm done with this tosh",

Said SaSfan "you are taking the piss!

Now I've got the horn, and you've got the dosh,

So get your laughing gear around this".

*giggle* If you wern't already married ( to half the forum) ...

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1. This one's real. There was a chap who spent his life in the northern wastes, living with grizzly bears. He filmed himself with them, gave them all names, and occasionally toured to explain how bears were misunderstood and they were lovely animals. His archive footage was reassembled by the great Werner Herzog into a movie called Grizzly Man. It pieced together the original films the guy made - right up to the time where he had a special meeting with his favourite bear. Who promptly mauled him to death and took a bite. Cos that's what bears do.

2. There's a brilliant song called "I am a Bunny" by the Dave Howard Singers. It tells the story of a family man bunny who is cooking his dinner one evening when a man comes up and says, I want to sell you some religion. The bunny rabbit didn't like religion all that much so he said no. The reason why the bunny was so upset was he was cooking his dinner in a wok. You know what a wok is - it's fast fry, and if you leave the food in it too long, forget it, it just sucks. So what would you do if you were a bunny? I mean he tries every way to explain nicely to the Jehovah's Witness guy, who won't give up, that his food is ruining, and he's a bunny, and what would you do?? So he goes into his bedroom and pulls out a shotgun . . . It's real too - in the sense that it's a real story, a really good one.

There's no moral right and wrong. A grizzly bear is a grizzly bear. A bunny is a bunny. A working girl is a working girl. What are they supposed to do? Believe what you like. Enjoy play-acting for a day. Just have a safety valve so you don't believe the BullShit your own brain feeds you. :D

Enjoy. :rolleyes:

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Of course she talks openly to you. It doesnt mean anything she said is true though. Its an act. I talk ver openly with my clients as noone wants to pay a girl who doesnt respond when spoken to. Yet none of them know anything about my real life. They know all about Danielle. I am not Danielle she is a persona. She is made up as is your relationship with this girl

As for calling her other clients creeps, how can you? Have you met them all. Are they the ones deluded into thinking they have something special with this girl.

You are the worst type of creep. The type that thinks he is so amazing that a WG who sleeps with 100's of men ( some probably alot younger and a damn sight better looking than you) would actually be starting some type of relationship with him.

From your post I still stand by what I said. You have crossed boundaries and she has pulled back. No decent Wg would let a bad punt affect the way she treats her next client. We dust ourselves down and get on with it.

Of course she would have text you asking for sex if she knows you are foolish enough to keep parting with your money. Again Its our job. A good cash cow is hard to find nowadays as alot of guys are reighning in the spending so when you find one you treat him really well until he crosses the line,

All of us girls have been there and unfortunately it goes with the job. Its one of the reasons alot of us dont see men under a certain age.

The best thing to remember when seeing a WG is...To her all you are is the rent/mortgage or a new handbag or that pair of designer shoes she has had her eye on. Nothing more. You mean as much to her as you do to the owner of your local corner shop.

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Loyal to one working girl? Well that's simply a path that you have chosen, and not one chosen by the working girl in question.

Now if you're fine with that, then cool. I did that for over 2 years because it suited me and I enjoyed it. However, and here is the big deal. I never forgot that at the end of the day it was a business transaction, yes you could say we got to know each other better over time, but I always kept reminding myself, you are having fun because you are paying and not because she has invited you in for coffee.

My advice is that if you can keep things in perspective then there is a lot to be said for only seeing one girl. However, if you cant maintain that perspective, then for your own sake, see a different girl each time.

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Of course she talks openly to you. It doesnt mean anything she said is true though. Its an act. I talk ver openly with my clients as noone wants to pay a girl who doesnt respond when spoken to. Yet none of them know anything about my real life. They know all about Danielle. I am not Danielle she is a persona. She is made up as is your relationship with this girl

As for calling her other clients creeps, how can you? Have you met them all. Are they the ones deluded into thinking they have something special with this girl.

You are the worst type of creep. The type that thinks he is so amazing that a WG who sleeps with 100's of men ( some probably alot younger and a damn sight better looking than you) would actually be starting some type of relationship with him.

From your post I still stand by what I said. You have crossed boundaries and she has pulled back. No decent Wg would let a bad punt affect the way she treats her next client. We dust ourselves down and get on with it.

Of course she would have text you asking for sex if she knows you are foolish enough to keep parting with your money. Again Its our job. A good cash cow is hard to find nowadays as alot of guys are reighning in the spending so when you find one you treat him really well until he crosses the line,

All of us girls have been there and unfortunately it goes with the job. Its one of the reasons alot of us dont see men under a certain age.

The best thing to remember when seeing a WG is...To her all you are is the rent/mortgage or a new handbag or that pair of designer shoes she has had her eye on. Nothing more. You mean as much to her as you do to the owner of your local corner shop.

Well that will knock the fluffies for six.! It's a hard, hard business --- another feather in the cap for the PD&L brigade.

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Lots of sensible thoughts and advice on this thread. Hopefully the OP can join in and know that it is all meant supportively and he's not being got at. It's a lot easier for us on here to be wise with hindsight, after all!

My main way of remembering I'm not in love - both so that I know and so that the WG knows I know - is to openly see lots of different WGs, even if I have one or two that I come back to. After a bit one can get to recognise, I think, when you are tempted to get in over your head. I'll give you an example in another post. But the thing the OP has to sort out - and it can be difficult with limited relationship experience perhaps, and I'll give him credit for opening up about it, because that means he wants to sort his head and his life out, which is the first step in doing just that . . . the first thing to sort out is what needs are genuinely being met where.

Without getting all textbooky - concepts such as those used by Maslow are a just a convenient theories after all - I'm going to have a shot at putting some broad divisions here. They're not rocket-science or cast in stone but I hope they will give the OP the idea of finding a structure to relate to - and it doesn't have to be this one, this is just a suggestion . . .

I'm assuming the OP is happily single like myself. And either thought of punting between relationships as I do or is feeling a tad disillusioned at least and wants to sort a few things out. WGs would hold no interest if you were in a satisfactory relationship. And in your mid-20s, if I can be so bold, it's a bit early to write off all relationships as the same. It's like writing off all women. But we've recognised that outside of relationships, in punting, women still fulfil certain needs. It's a case of defining which ones.

Needs a relationship can fulfil:

  • Sex
  • Intimacy
  • Affection
  • Companionship
  • Friendship
  • Bonding

(there's others, the list's not exhaustive)

Needs a courtesan can fulfil

  • Sex
  • A simulacrum of the other things. Especially, perhaps, reminding you that you are not alone in the Universe. Part of this is through touch, and a good masseuse can do the same thing. The sex drive reminds us of what we all have in common that's central to our sense of being (apart from death).
  • The human contact - WG or masseuse - works by making you feel the centre of the universe. Which you are. But realising that every other individual is the centre of their universe is something you have to do yourself, and not through people you know primarily in their working capacity (especially WGs). What I mean by a simulacrum, is you might for instance enjoy 'being fond of each other' rather 'caring mutually and deeply about each other.' They're different.

An emotionally needy individual may easily confuse the two.

Used well, a sensible punt can also enable you to observe and improve your emotional muscles and your sexual technique.

Used badly, repeated punts can just make you a 'self-centred fuck.' - A category that includes troglodytes, power-trippers, and also those who invert the negativity and wallow in their own self-pity.

Punting is essentially onanistic.

It's good to remember from time to time that a deep sexual relationship is not a necessity of life. But friendship is. Long term friendships (though they don't have to be for life) provide many of the emotional needs of relationships without the complications of gender power-dynamics. Our friends may change in life as our life plots different paths. We find new ones, with whom we're more suited. But the OP needs to beware of thinking he can jettison relationships and then seek exactly the same needs one might have before thought they would fulfil simply by going with a 'special' WG.

If you find yourself in an emotional conundrum over punting, start by analysing your own emotional needs. Not by trying to analyse the other person. If you must start comparing it to a real relationship, remember the general rule that the person who is feeling most emotionally fucked up is generally exactly that, and the one who has lost the power struggle. If that's you, go somewhere else unless you want to be a slave.

So soft and so tragic

As a slaughterhouse.

You press the knife

Against your heart.

And say that,

"I love you, so much you must kill me now."

Suicide isn't painless: it's maybe just stupid and not even pathetic.

If you haven't got a life, turn around and go and get one. Yes, it is possible. Even when it seems it isn't. Meanwhile there's even Punternet . . . :D

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