Carissa

Why do some gents not get the message???

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I just don't understand, guys please explain!!!

If you refuse to answer alll phone calls and emails from a gent, why do they continue bombarding you with them??? Do they not get the message that I don't want a meeting with them, and just move on to the next girl he wants to see?

Had a guy bombarding me with emails and phonecalls since beginning of Dec and he still hasn't got the message :rolleyes:

Usually, I am quite forthright with guys if i dont want to see them. I act on gut instinct, and if something doesn't feel "right" then i won't see them. Its worked so far, and the one time i ignored my intuition i realised very quickly i should have listened to it.

This guy in particular though whose English doesn't seem to be great, hasn't got the message. In one email he even demanded he be my next booking!!!

I haven;t replied to his last 5/6 emails so I would have thought he should have really got the message by now! I just really don't understand some guys! I guess I now understand why it annoys blokes when they cant work out the female mind...

oh the joys!!

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Why don't you just tell him you don't want to see him, ever :rolleyes:

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because unfortunately that doesn't always work successfully, and in fact makes things much worse.

The gent might already be showing stalker characteristics and then you bluntly say "I'm never gonna meet with you, ever". Guy ends up feeling dejected. Then you end up with the guy pestering you even more, using different phone no's, email addys and the like in the hope he can get a booking as someone else....

It's not exactly a common situation, but i reckon about 1 in 250of punters that contact could fall into this category.....

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Some men can't accept that sometimes they can't have what they want. Carry on ignoring him - he'll realize soon :-) If it's only been 5-6 emails since December that's not too stalker-esque I think, enough to worry too much about. He's obviously been very impressed by your site.

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Why don't you just tell him you don't want to see him, ever :rolleyes:

If you say you recognise thier number, email or general spiel and dont want to see them that tips them off to change them next time.

You just never know if they simply are a timewaster or up to no good. The best thing to do is ignore it.

My last one called continuously. I was in the queue at the flipping Post Office the last time and I asked a male aquaintance to answer it. The gentleman hung up and I never heard a peep out of him since.

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because unfortunately that doesn't always work successfully, and in fact makes things much worse.

The gent might already be showing stalker characteristics and then you bluntly say "I'm never gonna meet with you, ever". Guy ends up feeling dejected. Then you end up with the guy pestering you even more, using different phone no's, email addys and the like in the hope he can get a booking as someone else....

It's not exactly a common situation, but i reckon about 1 in 250of punters that contact could fall into this category.....

G'morning Carissa xx

Unfortunately, there are many stalkerish people out there who take it as an enormous insult if you refuse to accept a booking from them. I've been dealing with dealing with one since 2006 :eek:

All you can do is block his email address [and do the same each time he creates a new account]

Rather than using phrases along the line of 'I'm never going to see you again' perhaps rephrase it with 'I feel we are not compatible but I can refer you to these websites [insert links here] where I think you will find exactly what you are searching for'. You have to be firm though.

If that doesn't work, tell him his number/details will go up on all the warning boards on the internet. Be careful though. Some stalkers don't take kindly to threats. :rolleyes:

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If you refuse to answer alll phone calls and emails from a gent, why do they continue bombarding you with them??? Do they not get the message that I don't want a meeting with them, and just move on to the next girl he wants to see?!

A lot of girls are very unreliable and have poor communication skills, perhaps he thinks you are not getting his messages, wby not just tell him you don't want to see him and end the matter. Otherwise you ignoring the communications is as bad as him sending them.

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If they're 'holdin foldin' then they're King or so some of the narrow minded cocks think.

Misconception is that they have money and you should waver your discretion.

One thing we don't miss since going into semi-retirement is having to explain daily the meaning discretion and the ladies right to say 'NO'.

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If they're 'holdin foldin' then they're King or so some of the narrow minded cocks think.

Misconception is that they have money and you should waver your discretion.

One thing we don't miss since going into semi-retirement is having to explain daily the meaning discretion and the ladies right to say 'NO'.

Nice attitude :rolleyes:

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Nice attitude :rolleyes:

Tell me it's not true. The example the thread concerns clearly proves this.

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Its no mystery. Throw millions of people... of either sex (incidentally).... at life, look at their characteristics, and you find some extreme cases.

Some of those extreme cases show attractive traits, some not.

1 in 250? Surprised its not a tad higher, but then I've always been a cynic.

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Its no mystery. Throw millions of people... of either sex (incidentally).... at life, look at their characteristics, and you find some extreme cases.

Some of those extreme cases show attractive traits, some not.

1 in 250? Surprised its not a tad higher, but then I've always been a cynic.

I'd have thought it would be way higher...

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You could say you have stopped working and hope that he doesn't check.

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G'morning Carissa xx

Unfortunately, there are many stalkerish people out there who take it as an enormous insult if you refuse to accept a booking from them. I've been dealing with dealing with one since 2006 :rolleyes:

4 years how do u cope jasmine?????????

Nice attitude :eek:

Finn - STOP being a wind up merchant on MY thread!!!! otherwise I will have no choice but to spank you!!!! :eek:

My last one called continuously. I was in the queue at the flipping Post Office the last time and I asked a male aquaintance to answer it. The gentleman hung up and I never heard a peep out of him since.

Ha - I like that idea.. I will make sure i take some heavies with me next time I go to the post office jus in case he tries to call!!!!!

You could say you have stopped working and hope that he doesn't check.

I haven't been working for 6 months anyhow LOTM, it hasnt worked... but I updated my ** to say i was back for a bit, so now the emails are coming in thick and fast rather than 1 or 2 per month. Had 2 in the last 48 hours!!!

Bloody Awank, sometimes i think it is more trouble than good

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Finn - STOP being a wind up merchant on MY thread!!!! otherwise I will have no choice but to spank you!!!! :eek:

Me.................. wind people up........................... :rolleyes:

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Why don't you just tell him you don't want to see him, ever :rolleyes:

I have been there, I have someone ring several times a week, I don't like his attitude on the phone so I am always busy when he rings, I do get asked when I can I book and from past experience I have found keeping them dangling better than just refusing to see them. When the ex was about I got him to answer some of the nuisance callers, that worked well.

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I just don't understand, guys please explain!!!

Had a guy bombarding me with emails and phonecalls since beginning of Dec and he still hasn't got the message :rolleyes:

oh the joys!!

I would have rather assumed that most ladies, in addition to having their telephones flag up "TW1", "TW2" etc., also used a "kill-file" on their e-mails so that they simply no longer see the offenders' mails?

The answer to the specific question, I assume, is simply that he is a nutter?

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I just don't understand, guys please explain!!!

If you refuse to answer alll phone calls and emails from a gent, why do they continue bombarding you with them??? Do they not get the message that I don't want a meeting with them, and just move on to the next girl he wants to see?

Had a guy bombarding me with emails and phonecalls since beginning of Dec and he still hasn't got the message :rolleyes:

Usually, I am quite forthright with guys if i dont want to see them. I act on gut instinct, and if something doesn't feel "right" then i won't see them. Its worked so far, and the one time i ignored my intuition i realised very quickly i should have listened to it.

This guy in particular though whose English doesn't seem to be great, hasn't got the message. In one email he even demanded he be my next booking!!!

I haven;t replied to his last 5/6 emails so I would have thought he should have really got the message by now! I just really don't understand some guys! I guess I now understand why it annoys blokes when they cant work out the female mind...

oh the joys!!

The guy is a nutter so there is no explaining sadly. The technique Cindy used is worth a try in my experience if you know a guy who can help with this of course. This worked with a WG i know who never knowingly heard from the guy again.:eek:

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4 years how do u cope jasmine?????????

It bothered me at first. After a few years of escorting, you start to take things like that in your stride.

I realise switching the phone off may not be an option for some, but that's what I do. :rolleyes:

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I was in the queue at the flipping Post Office the last time and I asked a male aquaintance to answer it. The gentleman hung up and I never heard a peep out of him since.

I was once walking a particularly fabulous WG home (after an entirely social and educational evening out) at 03.00 hrs when her telephone rang. She handed it to me to answer. I asked what the hell the idiot was doing waking me up at such an hour, and hung up on him. I don't know whether he pestered her again or not.

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Basically Clarissa the more you put them off the more determined punters become, it almosts becomes an obssession. My bet he will book in the future under a different name, email address etc so you will probably end up seeing him anyway.

I dont escort myself anymore since I took over MadamBeckysKittens but I left my website up with phone number for extra marketing for MadamBeckysKittens,now I've taken it down I've had more calls than before from boys wanting to see me and it doesnt matter how many times I tell them I'm no longer working they ring back offering all sorts. It becomes a game in the end.

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I have a policy of informing the guy I don't want to see them, giving the reason why. Most of the time this works and sometimes matters can even be resolved. I don't however see the point in a client badgering a WG for an appointment when she clearly is not interested.

Surely guys don't want to pay for time with someone who is really not going to be able to interact with them, or is on her highest guard?Perhaps it's some sort of fantasy, or they think it will be ok once they hand over their money?

I know occasionally when I haven't been able to answer a client's texts, calls or offer them a booking a couple of times they've asked me if I don't want to see them for some reason - that they won't bother me again. I always say if I don't want to see you I will say so.

Not sure why the guys girls really don't want to see don't get the message. Regards changing number/email I've a very good memory sometimes and often you can tell by their accent or manner of type/speaking but once again don't the guys then think the girl won't turn them away on the doorstep?

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A lot of girls are very unreliable and have poor communication skills, perhaps he thinks you are not getting his messages, wby not just tell him you don't want to see him and end the matter. Otherwise you ignoring the communications is as bad as him sending them.

Not something Clarissa is deficient in methinks. :rolleyes:

I was once walking a particularly fabulous WG home (after an entirely social and educational evening out) at 03.00 hrs when her telephone rang. She handed it to me to answer. I asked what the hell the idiot was doing waking me up at such an hour, and hung up on him. I don't know whether he pestered her again or not.

Been there, got the T shirt. It's fun, fun, fun. Although maybe not so much fun for the tw@t on the other end of the phone. :eek:

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If you refuse to answer alll phone calls and emails from a gent, why do they continue bombarding you with them???

How do you decide who you don't want to see? If there are specific groups of peopleyou won't see then you should just put a note up on your website and they'll steer clear of you.

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How do you decide who you don't want to see? If there are specific groups of peopleyou won't see then you should just put a note up on your website and they'll steer clear of you.

Gut feeling, intuition, fifth sense... call it what you like. Us girlies use it all the time. If something doesn't feel right when i have communication from a client either on email or by phone I won't see them. I also insist to speak to all new gents before i agree a meeting with them, as the fifth sense works better then!

I don't avoid specific groups of ppl, but i like to stay clear of potential nutters!!

Strawberry, I wish I was like you and could do that. As mouthy as I can be in civvie life, I still hate confrontation...

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