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Can't get my head around this one......

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I went on an outcall last night, everything was fine. I was with another girl, two guys seperate rooms, mine was a total gent until he let slip about his nursery, so out of curiousity I said "oh so you have one on the way" six weeks away he replied. Okay, at this point I felt a bit icky, just before I left he took me in the nursery and showed me!!

I got 20 mins down the road and got the call asking me to come back, the other girl could not make it so I arranged for a friend to come along, but she was half hour away. By the time my friend arrived his mate had fallen asleep. My time was up so it was a mututal decision that he should see her as she had travellled to him, it was only fair.

So he had 3 appointments in one night/morning despite his first child being due in 6 weeks, that and I have to wonder if he showed her the nursery as well. I just found it a little disrespectful/wrong. Yes I went back to the appt, what grounds can I refuse, charming guy, nice, couldn't perform so it was not like I was having wild sex but just felt uneasy where his wife was due so soon.

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So what can't you get yoru head around?

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It does seem a strange story. Where was his heavily pregnant wife, while all this was going on ?

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I can understand why you would struggle to get your head around this guys apparent lack of conscience......You're a women. :D

This is were men and women differ.

Men can keep sex separate from feelings or love, where as women 'on the whole' can't. ;)

Women like to make love, guys just want a shag ! ;)

I know this is going to be controversial on this site, and may get a lot of the Ladies dander up. I don't mean it in a chauvinistic way (if that's possible).

I know W.G's can separate love from sex, to be professional they have to, and it takes a certain kind of women to get her head around becoming a W.G.

I think you've allowed your professional guard down, on this occasion, by allowing yourself to have compassionate thoughts towards your fellow female (his wife)....

Would you struggle to get your head around if a guy visited you while his wife was in hospital sick ?

To a Punter this would be golden opportunity, a free pass out.

The wife, well she'll still be there tomorrow.

p.s. please god my wife never finds out I said this.......:)

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I went on an outcall last night, everything was fine. I was with another girl, two guys seperate rooms, mine was a total gent until he let slip about his nursery, so out of curiousity I said "oh so you have one on the way" six weeks away he replied. Okay, at this point I felt a bit icky, just before I left he took me in the nursery and showed me!!

I got 20 mins down the road and got the call asking me to come back, the other girl could not make it so I arranged for a friend to come along, but she was half hour away. By the time my friend arrived his mate had fallen asleep. My time was up so it was a mututal decision that he should see her as she had travellled to him, it was only fair.

So he had 3 appointments in one night/morning despite his first child being due in 6 weeks, that and I have to wonder if he showed her the nursery as well. I just found it a little disrespectful/wrong. Yes I went back to the appt, what grounds can I refuse, charming guy, nice, couldn't perform so it was not like I was having wild sex but just felt uneasy where his wife was due so soon.

Although i found the exact opposite perhaps his wife doesnt want to have sex at this stage of her pregnancy. I have never had an Outcall to my home and never would so this scenario has never happened. I assume he was proud and exited to show off the fact he was going to be a father imminently and never thought it looked disrespectful or wrong.;)

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I can understand why you would struggle to get your head around this guys apparent lack of conscience......You're a women. :D

This is were men and women differ.

Men can keep sex separate from feelings or love, where as women 'on the whole' can't. ;)

Women like to make love, guys just want a shag ! ;)

I know this is going to be controversial on this site, and may get a lot of the Ladies dander up. I don't mean it in a chauvinistic way (if that's possible).

I know W.G's can separate love from sex, to be professional they have to, and it takes a certain kind of women to get her head around becoming a W.G.

I think you've allowed your professional guard down, on this occasion, by allowing yourself to have compassionate thoughts towards your fellow female (his wife)....

Would you struggle to get your head around if a guy visited you while his wife was in hospital sick ?

To a Punter this would be golden opportunity, a free pass out.

The wife, well she'll still be there tomorrow.

p.s. please god my wife never finds out I said this.......:)

If my partner was in hospital sick the last thing on my mind would be thinking it a free pass to go fuck a WG, i would be supporting my partner and son personally.

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I assume he was proud and exited to show off the fact he was going to be a father imminently and never thought it looked disrespectful or wrong.;)

Would have to second that. If you about to become a parent for the first time you want to tell the world... with only six weeks to go I think its lovely he is so obviously excited.

The fact he is punting, I dont see this to be any different to any other time. At 6 weeks to go I cant imagine any normal woman is going to be in the mood for sex, so why not.

To remain proffesional you would normally remain emotionally impartial but lets face it your not likely to end up facing the wife at any stage. I know on the one occasion I did face the wife I felt awful although I knew very well it was just business and there was nothing emotional about my arrangement with her husband I felt soo guilty it really threw me. As a woman you cant help but feel compasion for your fellow sex. Discussing the wife/girlfriend isnt exactly top punting small talk but if the situation arrises just remember its just business.

I mean this with absolutely no predjudice as I will personally admit to having a boyfriend back when I worked an no he didnt know, but the same principles can apply both ways. Im sure if some girls clients knew they had boyfriends they might be a bit wierded out, but then as men I doubt it would bother them for long ;)

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maybe he was confused

ie no sex which he needed but proud of the forthcoming baby

cnfusing time for men as well as woman

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The bit I can't get my head around is that they guy had his mate staying over as well. I know that they both had WGs booked, but is not unknown for a bit of mutually assured destruction to result when friends fall out.

Regardless of the rights and wrongs of punting from home whilst being an expectant father (no worse than any other time in my book), I don't understand why would anyone risk their relationship by punting so openly, with a mate, whilst in the marital home.

Bizarre ;) !

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Still wondering where the wife was. I dont think its right for a man to ask a wg to his home where the wife or partner lives.

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Still wondering where the wife was. I dont think its right for a man to ask a wg to his home where the wife or partner lives.

So in future you'll clarify this on future outcall booking?

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Think wifey was away for weekend, am his friend was a really good friend. I understand the whole being proud thing, the nursery and clothes were so sweet but surely he must have felt funny about that, he had just paid a girl for sex and was showing her his unborn babies room and clothes!!!

I understand that alot of women in late stages go off sex and we all have needs but it was just a little f***ed up for my liking.

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i'm a widow now and couldnt even have a lady back in the home i shared with my late wife, it would just not seem right, if I move then it would be a different matter then, but not now.

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I dont think you should find it odd that he showed you the nursery, like others have said, he is probably very proud and is showing the nursery off at every chance he gets as he has no baby to show off yet. Mums have the bump to show off, dads dont. I think you should just be happy that he treated you as a normal person, so often we have to protest on here that we are as normal as the next lady.

I had a guy come to see me at the old annabella,s, afterwards i commented that he looked so happy he could burst, was it his birthday by any chance, no he replied, my wife had our baby this morning.:)

I guess that once his wife was home both he and she would be too knackered to even speak for the next couple of months so he was getting in a last shag til his wife was up for it again.x

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Still wondering where the wife was. I dont think its right for a man to ask a wg to his home where the wife or partner lives.

I saw loads of clients in their homes. As long as wifey isn't likely to come walking through the door what business is it of ours?

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I had a guy come to see me at the old annabella,s, afterwards i commented that he looked so happy he could burst, was it his birthday by any chance, no he replied, my wife had our baby this morning.:)

I dread to think how he chose to wet the babies head :)

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Only once have I had a working girl back to the marital home.

She arrived, nice looking went to bathroom to change and then came back in and we are lying there chattting while she does the massage bit.

Asked her if she had been doing this long, no she replies I am a nurse.

Oh right I say which hospital, not hospital dental she says.

Oh said I sweating slightly which dental practice.

She then tells me its the same one my mrs has worked at for the last 5 years....... She then spots the pics on the bedside table and clicks who I am.

Its been 2 years since and secret is safe but I was bricking it for a few months after. I spose a more experienced WG wouldnt have given away the info she gave me but havent seen anyone at home since.

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I went on an outcall last night, everything was fine. I was with another girl, two guys seperate rooms, mine was a total gent until he let slip about his nursery, so out of curiousity I said "oh so you have one on the way" six weeks away he replied. Okay, at this point I felt a bit icky, just before I left he took me in the nursery and showed me!!

I got 20 mins down the road and got the call asking me to come back, the other girl could not make it so I arranged for a friend to come along, but she was half hour away. By the time my friend arrived his mate had fallen asleep. My time was up so it was a mututal decision that he should see her as she had travellled to him, it was only fair.

So he had 3 appointments in one night/morning despite his first child being due in 6 weeks, that and I have to wonder if he showed her the nursery as well. I just found it a little disrespectful/wrong. Yes I went back to the appt, what grounds can I refuse, charming guy, nice, couldn't perform so it was not like I was having wild sex but just felt uneasy where his wife was due so soon.

If you're so concerned about wives, does that mean you'll stop seeing married men? After all,you have to be consistent in your principles.

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Armchair psychology warning!

I'm guessing this is the couple's first child, in which case his emotions are probably all over the place. He's proud of the baby, he's shitting himself because he has no idea what to do with a baby, he wants to be a father but he doesn't feel ready for the responsibility, he feels his carefree youth slipping away from him, he's worried for his wife, he's scared and jealous because he's worried she'll be too wrapped up in the baby to pay him any attention, and he's probably a bit resentful if (like a lot of women in late pregnancy) she's started to withdraw into herself a bit.

None of this excuses what he's doing but it doesn't altogether surprise me. Men in that sort of state can do all sorts of bizarre things!

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If you're so concerned about wives, does that mean you'll stop seeing married men? After all,you have to be consistent in your principles.

I see married men, that is their choice. What I found strange hard weird was showing me the nursery. Have seen guys with pregnant partners in the past but never this close to dropping or this open about it all. Showing off baby clothes etc. I think you misread what I found hard.

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Personally, I cannot understand men that 'punt' when they are married. I mean, they married because they likely love their wife, why on earth would you cheat on her? Because she is not 'giving you any'. I don't know I just don't understand/get my head around why some men do that. Surely, if you married a person you should respect them, and love them, because that's what marriage is. Not go off getting sex from somewhere else. Also, would it not bother you if YOUR wife went punting with a male escort? I just, cannot understand the logic of some people.

I understand if a person's wife has passed away, thats reasonable I guess, but hypothetical if the wife is ill in hospital, I mean how can some do that?

Perhaps its my age, or maybe I'm being naive, I don't know. I'm just at a lost to understand why men can punt when they are married!

No disrespect is intended by the way to w/g's who see married men.

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Cant get my head around why you would go through with it if you had a problem with it. How would you feel if you were the pregnant wife?

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Only once have I had a working girl back to the marital home.

She arrived, nice looking went to bathroom to change and then came back in and we are lying there chattting while she does the massage bit.

Asked her if she had been doing this long, no she replies I am a nurse.

Oh right I say which hospital, not hospital dental she says.

Oh said I sweating slightly which dental practice.

She then tells me its the same one my mrs has worked at for the last 5 years....... She then spots the pics on the bedside table and clicks who I am.

Its been 2 years since and secret is safe but I was bricking it for a few months after. I spose a more experienced WG wouldnt have given away the info she gave me but havent seen anyone at home since.

Classic bad luck. I have never had an Outcall to my home in 26 years and never will but this post should advise those thinking about doing it for the first time to remember to take photos down, i assume experienced punters already do this or arent bothered about it.:(

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you have to remember to that guy your just a 'tart' he is paying for sex

simple as that to him

your the one making it into a big thing

and

OK if his wifey was in the hospital giving birth surely he deserves a bit of fun to relieve the stress and the fact he may not have had good sex for months

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I can understand why you would struggle to get your head around this guys apparent lack of conscience......You're a women. :)

This is were men and women differ.

Men can keep sex separate from feelings or love, where as women 'on the whole' can't. :)

Women like to make love, guys just want a shag ! :cool:

I know this is going to be controversial on this site, and may get a lot of the Ladies dander up. I don't mean it in a chauvinistic way (if that's possible).

I know W.G's can separate love from sex, to be professional they have to, and it takes a certain kind of women to get her head around becoming a W.G.

I think you've allowed your professional guard down, on this occasion, by allowing yourself to have compassionate thoughts towards your fellow female (his wife)....

Would you struggle to get your head around if a guy visited you while his wife was in hospital sick ?

To a Punter this would be golden opportunity, a free pass out.

The wife, well she'll still be there tomorrow.

p.s. please god my wife never finds out I said this.......:)

Any Working Girl who can't, is in serious trouble! It's an absolute prerequisite for the job!

Btw - I'm not sure exactly who it's disrespectful to?

Most certainly not he unborn child.

The mother? What makes it any more disrespectful that she's pregnant? Are the varying levels of disrespect when it comes to cheating? :(

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