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Last night I went to see a new client, have to say Mr Harwich it was not your sexy self in case you are reading, but then I did get a bit freaked as every now and then you shot me a look which made me think you looked like my brother, eeeek.

Anyway, went to see a new client and he totally freaked me out, it was not just one thing, and I can't pinpoint what was so bad but I literally ran down the street with my shoes in my hands in tears. He was a little too personal with things he said but no more than what I have heard before. Told me he wanted to date me, employ me, yarda yarda yarda. Was no more rough than others, did have to politely tell him off a few times. There were so many little things. He was not a bad guy just freaked the living daylights out of me. Reminded me of those people who said they were not suprised by Steve Griffiths murder spree. I would not be surpised if there were bodies under this guys patio or I opened the paper one day to discover he was a kiddie killer, or a prostitute killer. I generally have really good gut reactions on people and this guy just totally got under my skin and freaked the hell out of me.

Just had to share this feeling.

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You made the right call. He may have been harmless. But sometimes these guys need to assess their interaction and how what they say and how they say it, even gestures, can look to someone with a heightened awareness of safety.

And there's no substitute for that gut reaction.

xxx

Pru

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You made the right call. He may have been harmless. But sometimes these guys need to assess their interaction and how what they say and how they say it, even gestures, can look to someone with a heightened awareness of safety.

And there's no substitute for that gut reaction.

xxx

Pru

Absolutely agree.

If my spidey sense starts to tingle, exit stage left.

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Last night I went to see a new client, have to say Mr Harwich it was not your sexy self in case you are reading, but then I did get a bit freaked as every now and then you shot me a look which made me think you looked like my brother, eeeek.

Anyway, went to see a new client and he totally freaked me out, it was not just one thing, and I can't pinpoint what was so bad but I literally ran down the street with my shoes in my hands in tears. He was a little too personal with things he said but no more than what I have heard before. Told me he wanted to date me, employ me, yarda yarda yarda. Was no more rough than others, did have to politely tell him off a few times. There were so many little things. He was not a bad guy just freaked the living daylights out of me. Reminded me of those people who said they were not suprised by Steve Griffiths murder spree. I would not be surpised if there were bodies under this guys patio or I opened the paper one day to discover he was a kiddie killer, or a prostitute killer. I generally have really good gut reactions on people and this guy just totally got under my skin and freaked the hell out of me.

Just had to share this feeling.

A WG i punted with had similar recently, he made her skin crawl so she told me. I always go with my gut instinct nowadays and i hope your ok.:)

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When I first became indie I took an appointment from a man who was a

little odd. Just his mannerisms and something a bit strange.

The session went perfectly fine and he booked again a couple of

times over the next month. I didn't feel threatened at all but I just

knew there was something he was not telling me.

But the next appointment he told me he was on daily medication as he

was a paranoid schizophrenic.

He said he had mostly good days but once in a while strange things happened

inside his head.

I didn't take any more bookings with him, just didn't answer if he called.

He eventually stopped calling.

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dont no wot 2 say 2 u really! just that u got out ok with only hurt feelings :) just to say again as the others have go with your gut as its normally right in my opinion.

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Always best to go with gut instincts......:)

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So sorry you had a weird one. I find after I've reacted like this I end up questioning myself afterwards - maybe I was too sensitive? Was I just being fussy? Then I try and think back to what it was like in the situation - and then I'm grateful!!

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The lovely Pru is right as usual. We only have our gut instincts to keep us safe so have to go with it all the time.

((( Have a virtual hug and hope it doesn't upset you for long )))

Hannah.

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The lovely Pru is right as usual. We only have our gut instincts to keep us safe so have to go with it all the time.

((( Have a virtual hug and hope it doesn't upset you for long )))

Hannah.

I will always remember my gut instinct screaming at me to get out of one particular situation. But I hadn't seen anything untoward, nothing concrete. Just the unease. Literally screaming in my head. It took me ignoring it, at almost great cost, to appreciate that no matter how stupid we may think we are going to look by walking away from a situation that looks "safe", we could be sorry that we didn't. If only we had a Sliding Doors preview on the next half hour of our lives. What different decisions we would make!

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Pru

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As a Punter could I reinforce the advice to trust your instincts. We all read much more of what's going on beneath the surface than we allow ourselves to recognise - we call it instinct, intuition or (if we're men) a hunch. My thankfully limited experience of people with sociopathic tendencies is that they have an almost preternatural capacity to pick up the triggers which really unsettle us and make us feel uneasy - and they keep on pulling the trigger. So if that's what you're feeling, you're probably right and should withdraw as gracefully as possible.

As a Punter, I also trust my hunches about what doesn't feel right, and particularly (given the new legislation) whether there is any sense of compulsion.

But having said that, 20 years ago I was at the other end of one of these situations. In those days, I took more chances about outcall escorts than I would today. Arranged to see what (in retrospect) I suspect was a fairly new independent from 20 miles away, late morning which was relatively low risk as she could easily have been an insurance saleswoman, etc - much less suspicious or risky actually than 11 pm at night. She arrived, but completely freaked out at the number of people about in the street, including lots of Afro-Cariibean and Asians. She made an excuse about getting something from the car, and never came back. She did have the good grace to phone a little later and say that she just didn't feel comfortable.

In one sense I do understand what happened, even though I feel it was an over reaction and probably did not reduce the amount of time and risk of being on the street at all. (I did wonder whether a more middle class 'white' neighbourhood would have caused the same reaction.) I suspect some of the wonderful WGs I've spent time with over the years would have carried it off without blinking - altho' possible concluding I was a bit of a chancer! So I wrote it off to experience - and never tried to repeat it in terms of outcalls at that time of day.

But I could also imagine it being written up here in the terms used by the OP - and to be frank I would have been devastated to have been seen as 'bizarre' or 'horrible'. (I was much slimmer in those days!)

So trust your guts, but perhaps also take time afterwards to reflect on what in the situation triggered the reaction. That way WGs get better at spotting the eally dangerous punts - and we Punters get better at not triggering the reaction unintentionally.

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In my line of work I have to attend keeping safe courses to avoid the dangers of the Great Unwashed. Many of the dear little lambs that give these courses tell us to avoid "gut feelings" as they can be discrimination, It's great fun to look at the audience to see how many people are rolling their eyes and muttering "yeah right!"

Nine cases out of ten you may be over reacting. But that one case is the life saver. You have to go with what you know

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Last night I went to see a new client, have to say Mr Harwich it was not your sexy self in case you are reading, but then I did get a bit freaked as every now and then you shot me a look which made me think you looked like my brother, eeeek.

Anyway, went to see a new client and he totally freaked me out, it was not just one thing, and I can't pinpoint what was so bad but I literally ran down the street with my shoes in my hands in tears. He was a little too personal with things he said but no more than what I have heard before. Told me he wanted to date me, employ me, yarda yarda yarda. Was no more rough than others, did have to politely tell him off a few times. There were so many little things. He was not a bad guy just freaked the living daylights out of me. Reminded me of those people who said they were not suprised by Steve Griffiths murder spree. I would not be surpised if there were bodies under this guys patio or I opened the paper one day to discover he was a kiddie killer, or a prostitute killer. I generally have really good gut reactions on people and this guy just totally got under my skin and freaked the hell out of me.

Just had to share this feeling.

That must have been horrible Kimberley.

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