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Help Im Addicted

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Can someone wiser and older offer me some advice ? I am addicted to paying for sex !! Even with a partner, I feel the need to go out and pay for sex. Ive been going it for so many years that is just feels normal.

On top of that I spend quite a lot of time chatting up waitresses, cleaners, retail staff (all foreign) to see if I can sleep with them for a bit of cash.

This rather successful strategy means I am spending at least a day a week if not more in either the pursuit of potential talent or actually meeting up with them to have sex. I tend to meet up in the day as excuses at home can be tricky

(ps Im not the best looking chap in the world!)

The point is here that I think I have a problem. I did stop for a while but picked it back up again.

Its a massive problem as I spend time at work texting the various ladies to see how far I can progress, or looking up the next escort that I can have sex with.

Does anyone else have a similar problem. Can someone help with such a sad problem that I have ?

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You could try hypnotherapy, that might help, clear your mind and think of your grandmother on the toilet having a big ****.... should be enough to put you off sex for life :cool:

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I think you will find a lot of the males on these forums have this problem, that is why we are here.

There are the few who are just interested voyeurs, but the majority of us are, I believe, regular users of W.G's.

I fear that even programs like Countdown are regular targets for oggling talent, and even at checkout till in Halfords, one is often tempted to ask how much they are earning for their days work there, and if they want to earn double that tax free can we pop into the store room to do a stock check for an hour.

If we were not supposed to be bonking so much, why does it feel so good when we are? To use an anology, if we hurt ourselves, the body generates pain to stop us doing what generates the pain. Conversely, if the body feels good when bonking, then we are obviously supposed to be bonking. Well M'lud, that is my statement for my defence.

Guilty as charged.

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Can someone wiser and older offer me some advice ? I am addicted to paying for sex !! ......

Does anyone else have a similar problem. Can someone help with such a sad problem that I have ?

Try http://www.sauk.org/

Good luck.

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Try http://www.sauk.org/

Good luck.

very good pabulum, but where is the link to a site where addicts can get together to satisfy their cravings please? :cool:

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very good pabulum, but where is the link to a site where addicts can get together to satisfy their cravings please? :cool:

Here you go.

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You could try hypnotherapy, that might help, clear your mind and think of your grandmother on the toilet having a big ****.... should be enough to put you off sex for life :cool:

PMSL. That comment has made my evening. Thanks SashaB

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:cool: Try http://www.punternet.com/ *and organise a social. Or, of course, you could track down some establishments, starting by searching locked threads....

*Sorry SaS....your hidden link was much better!

I understand that this site has many ladies, some of whom display certified pics changed each month of the year http://www.thewi.org.uk/

And abc12345, here are a few more addiction recovery sites

http://www.sca-recovery.org/

http://www.saa-recovery.org/

http://slaafws.org/

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SaS's post.

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You could try hypnotherapy, that might help, clear your mind and think of your grandmother on the toilet having a big ****.... should be enough to put you off sex for life :cool:

That brings back memories! In my distant youth, if I found myself with an unwanted hard-on, say while dancing, I could deflate it quickly by bringing a picture of last night's washing up reclining in the sink, with a film of congealed mutton fat floating, into my "mind"!

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I am addicted to paying for sex !!

I'm not addicted to paying for sex.

I'm completely addicted to the lovely girls I see.

Paying is the key that allows me to enter into my fantasy world.

And long may it continue :cool:

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Oh I don't think it's a problem as such see it as a fantastic hobby where you meet lots of lovely ladies and you can share your finding on a great forum :D

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Can someone wiser and older offer me some advice ? I am addicted to paying for sex !!

You have my sympathy, you can rest assured that you are not alone, many guys on here are in the same position, very few will admit it. :D;)

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Jimmy ... how about you ? ... come on the truth ..

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On top of that I spend quite a lot of time chatting up waitresses, cleaners, retail staff (all foreign) to see if I can sleep with them for a bit of cash.

You need to be careful as you could get into trouble doing that sort of thing.

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Can someone wiser and older offer me some advice ? I am addicted to paying for sex !! Even with a partner, I feel the need to go out and pay for sex. Ive been going it for so many years that is just feels normal.

On top of that I spend quite a lot of time chatting up waitresses, cleaners, retail staff (all foreign) to see if I can sleep with them for a bit of cash.

This rather successful strategy means I am spending at least a day a week if not more in either the pursuit of potential talent or actually meeting up with them to have sex. I tend to meet up in the day as excuses at home can be tricky

(ps Im not the best looking chap in the world!)

The point is here that I think I have a problem. I did stop for a while but picked it back up again.

Its a massive problem as I spend time at work texting the various ladies to see how far I can progress, or looking up the next escort that I can have sex with.

Does anyone else have a similar problem. Can someone help with such a sad problem that I have ?

I hear you ABC, i often think i'm also addicted.

Punting dictates all my holidays and weekends, it figures when I choose a new contract job and I punt every day or every other day if its available. But more disturbing for me, is i tend to turn down relationship oppurtunities because i'm content with working hard and punting as a reward.

Dont see myself changing anytime soon, but will try and tone it down.

Good luck

w

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ive been at it since 1974 so im addicted

it could be worst I could be a smoker/drinker whatever

I too use my holidays to go around UK and see hot babes and I really enjoy it

whats wrong with it, I know a lot of folk who spend money on stupid sports or hobbies etc etc

just relax and make sure you enjoy it

Ive met some fantastic women so I never regret what I do

IF i won that think each week with numbers etc and had say 2 million Id punt every day

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What JRC said.

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PMSL. That comment has made my evening. Thanks SashaB

I think I'll stick with my addiction thanks.:D

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ive been at it since 1974 so im addicted

it could be worst I could be a smoker/drinker whatever

I too use my holidays to go around UK and see hot babes and I really enjoy it

whats wrong with it, I know a lot of folk who spend money on stupid sports or hobbies etc etc

just relax and make sure you enjoy it

Ive met some fantastic women so I never regret what I do

IF i won that think each week with numbers etc and had say 2 million Id punt every day

Hmm I smoke, And I drink. (Ive had 2 can of Budweiser and a bottle of red wine already tonight)

And I punt. At the moment it twice a week. (sometime three ) for a minimum of an hour.

But Im single and the only reason I punt is becuase if I didnt I wouldnt even see a girl let alone end up making whoppee in bedroom...

But would I punt if I wasnt single. (Id like to think I wouldnt but sometimes a brief look at punters FR or some local parlours schedules make me think I might sneak out, sorry if my regular read this, I know you do :D )

To the OP, I guess you have to decide whether you want to stop or not. And find the reason why you punt. Then fill that craving with something else. Wank alot (so much that you get bored of sex) , spend more time with the GF even if you hate what she does.....

For me, I realised a few months ago I am helplessly addicted and with no sign of getting out (well unless my regular retires and I end up marrying her and having 11 kids but thats just wishful thinking). But in the end, although I dont want to punt, I enjoy it, theres nothing else in my life to fulfil the craving and since I make sure I never upset anyone and try to make sure she enjoys her time with me then the only one who hurts is me. I can deal with that. :(

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I love punting and its bloody great fun most of the time so i wont ever be stopping voluntarily and look forward hopefully to another 20-30 years of shagging as many seemingly willing WGs as possible.

Luckily i can afford to punt when and with whom i wish nowadays, i dont view it as an addiction, just a marvellous pursuit. If it wasnt fun i wouldnt bother doing it myself.

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Summertime in London is tough to give up the habit. All those gorgeous women of all shapes and hues wearing sexy summer dresses and little else. I wish at times I lived in Saudi or Iran where it may be easier to avoid the usual triggers. I have tried to give up punting since I took it up last year, lasted as long as 12 weeks. I even cut up the credit card to prevent myself from spur of the moment dives into making a booking. I find that boredom at work, to much porn, wanting to forget bad stuff that sometimes goes on on in my life are all triggers. London is not a good place to have such addictions where everything is on offer - I should move to the Outer Hebrides where temptations are not available. Then again perhaps I should just accept my addiction and myself, enjoy it practise damage limitation and compartament it off from my normal life?

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Thanks everyone for some great feedback. Its nice to know that I am not alone in this world, there are about 15 other people with the same addiction !

I suppose where I am coming from as this great pastime, addiction or whatever you want to call it does not help form the basis of normal relationships.

It just becomes impossible to enjoy sex with the same person for more than a few weeks.

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Thanks everyone for some great feedback. Its nice to know that I am not alone in this world, there are about 15 other people with the same addiction !

I suppose where I am coming from as this great pastime, addiction or whatever you want to call it does not help form the basis of normal relationships.

It just becomes impossible to enjoy sex with the same person for more than a few weeks.

I dont want to have sex with only one lady and never have throughout relationships as i have no interest in monogamy, why only bite into one apple that falls off the tree when there are so many others to choose from.:D

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I sometimes have conversations with clients on this very subject. Some men

say they only get the urge to punt once in a while and there is no particular

pattern to it or special reason why they feel the need to make that call.

Some men have told me they do it weekly/monthly etc and it keeps them

from getting too frustrated.

In my time though, I have also met men who were quite obviously totally

addicted to booking ladies. When they say they have already visited one a

few hours before seeing me, or that they have another one planned for later

that day or evening after seeing me, that is a pretty good sign that there is

an obsession there ( so many ladies, tick them off one by one :D )

I had one client who I saw fairly regularly and I know he saw many others too.

He was quite hyperactive and said he thought about sex and women

from his waking moment until he went to sleep, despite having a job with long

hours. God knows how he afforded the punting but that wasn't my concern.

One day he told me he was taking a much needed week off work and that

he intended to book as many girls as he could in 7 days.

I was his first on the Monday :( and he said he would come back the following week and let me know his score.

He did just that and reeled off the past week's accomplishments, which

included more than one visit per day for 7 days. I had no reason to disbelieve

him. It fitted what I had grown to know about him.

Normally I would not appreciate this with a client but he was such good fun

that we had a good giggle over it. Yes I had no doubts he was addicted.

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