and1964

Nervous First Timer

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Yes this an accurate description of me.

I'm in my mid-forties, happily married but have had a long held desire to spend some time with an escort and finally have made a booking for a 1 hour incall in a few weeks time.

I have some what may seem stupid questions but would welcome any advice:

I'm not sure how far I want to take things, so will it cause offence if I am fairly passive and don't go "all the way"?

Will the lady be offended if I ask for oral to be covered?

I would also like to hear from any guys who have gone through a similar process, particularly if they are of a similar age & marriage status.

Thanks in advance.

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Yes this an accurate description of me.

I'm in my mid-forties, happily married but have had a long held desire to spend some time with an escort and finally have made a booking for a 1 hour incall in a few weeks time.

I have some what may seem stupid questions but would welcome any advice:

I'm not sure how far I want to take things, so will it cause offence if I am fairly passive and don't go "all the way"?

Will the lady be offended if I ask for oral to be covered?

I would also like to hear from any guys who have gone through a similar process, particularly if they are of a similar age & marriage status.

Thanks in advance.

Hi and, I am obviously not a guy who has been through this process but I can tell you the escorts POV.

Your questions are not stupid, if you haven't done something like this before it is natural to feel nervous and have questions. When I have seen someone who is a first timer, I can usually tell..so I will ask is this your first time?. My experience is that most first timers are fairly passive to begin with so I would take the lead and you can generally feel if the gentlemen is comfortable with what you are doing or not, I would usually ask before making the next move by saying " would you like ..".

The lady shouldn't be offended if you ask for oral to be covered but make this clear at the start, if you don't feel comfortable saying it in person, e-mail her and tell her, you could tell her how your feeling too it may help her on how to guide things.

Lastly your not alone, I have seen quite a few gentlemen in your age range and situation, they too are very nervous to start but soon warm up, so don't worry I am sure you will have a lovely time

L xx

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I was like and1964 my first time. I did want to go all the way, but worried about what the whole scene would be like. i was lucky to have visited a lady who obviously realised my punting inexperience and immediately put me at my ease. As I nervously got undressed she kissed me (this was along time ago, and was unusual in those days) led me to her bed and gave me a really good time. Next time I visited a WG I was a lot more confident. i hope your first experience is as good!

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As you are happily married I assume that you have a normal sex life, so that isn't where the nerves lie? Although I guess condoms may not be the norm. Even working girls have a little pre-meeting nerves with someone new, so don't be too worried if you're feeling shy, it's perfectly natural and if anything you have a head start on some people.

I met someone last week who was in his 40s and apart from one drunken 15 mins punt he had abroad (which he can't actually remember), had never had sex before. He was almost shaking when I met him, but had a big smile on his face when I left and told me he would keep hold of my number. The reason for this is, like most wgs I am mindful of who I am with and how they feel and want them to enjoy the experience. We really haven't done our job properly if you haven't left feeling on cloud 9 or at least a whole lot more chilled and destressed.

With that in mind, go there knowing you are meeting someone, who understands where you are coming from and if she is good at what she does, she will have you completely at ease and acting on animal instinct in a matter of minutes.

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Yes this an accurate description of me.

I'm in my mid-forties, happily married but have had a long held desire to spend some time with an escort and finally have made a booking for a 1 hour incall in a few weeks time.

I have some what may seem stupid questions but would welcome any advice:

I'm not sure how far I want to take things, so will it cause offence if I am fairly passive and don't go "all the way"?

Will the lady be offended if I ask for oral to be covered?

I would also like to hear from any guys who have gone through a similar process, particularly if they are of a similar age & marriage status.

Thanks in advance.

My advice is tell the WG what you want before the punt and certainly what you have mentioned here wont be a problem. I hope you have a fun time.:)

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Oh bless you, please don't worry. Everything you have said is perfectly understandable and I'm sure that any lady that you book in with will be perfectly happy with your requests.

I hope you have a great deal of fun :)

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Thanks to all of you who have replied. I very much welcome your words of advice.

I am also concerned about the age difference. I am seeing a lady in her early 30s so there is a 12/13 year difference. Is this OK? There are also a couple of very attractive escorts on the same site who are 23/24. How do ladies of this age feel about seeing someone in their mid-forties?

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When you are young you want mature women and vice versa

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Thanks to all of you who have replied. I very much welcome your words of advice.

I am also concerned about the age difference. I am seeing a lady in her early 30s so there is a 12/13 year difference. Is this OK? There are also a couple of very attractive escorts on the same site who are 23/24. How do ladies of this age feel about seeing someone in their mid-forties?

Mid-forties is no significant age in this game and1964. I have a couple of years over you and it has never been mentioned as an issue. I couldn't possibly imagine that many WLs in their 30's are going to object (and those very few that do - I can only think of one - make it very clear on their website).

Age gaps of many times the one you mention are quite common in this hobby.

Fill your boots and come back and tell us how it went :confused:.

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Thanks to all of you who have replied. I very much welcome your words of advice.

I am also concerned about the age difference. I am seeing a lady in her early 30s so there is a 12/13 year difference. Is this OK? There are also a couple of very attractive escorts on the same site who are 23/24. How do ladies of this age feel about seeing someone in their mid-forties?

Well I am 28 (Yes really Jimster!) and I can honestly tell you that the age gap is really not a problem.

L xx

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Well I am 28 (Yes really Jimster!) and I can honestly tell you that the age gap is really not a problem.

L xx

A fact that makes us middle-agers (and upwards) very happy :confused:.

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to put it in the words of the Kinkster, "your all the same lying down" so dont worry about the age difference.

your looking at it from a male point of view, women see things bit differently.

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Thanks to all of you who have replied. I very much welcome your words of advice.

I am also concerned about the age difference. I am seeing a lady in her early 30s so there is a 12/13 year difference. Is this OK? There are also a couple of very attractive escorts on the same site who are 23/24. How do ladies of this age feel about seeing someone in their mid-forties?

Don't worry too much about the age gap. I am some 20 odd years older than you and I have NEVER had a problem. However I always inform the Lady when booking that I am a "mature man". Most of the Ladies say that they prefer us "old timers" because we treat them with respect. Bear that in mind and I am quite sure that you will have an enjoyable time. Good luck.

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As others have said, be careful to communicate your wishes before the punt. Make sure you don't over-analyse things, try to relax and have some fun.

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Well I am 28 (Yes really Jimster!) and I can honestly tell you that the age gap is really not a problem.

L xx

I will have to take your word for that because all your photos have the head cut off, I would never see a girl who does that, I expect that will please you. :confused:

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I will have to take your word for that because all your photos have the head cut off, I would never see a girl who does that, I expect that will please you. :confused:

You would not be disappointed Jimmy!

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Don't worry abou things like age gap, I've has age gaps as big as yours and the girls dont think about it. You're just there for an hour and off.

It's not like you have to introduce her to your friends while they judge you or her for the age gap. Just you and her in the room then you are off.

There's no chance of me pulling an 18YO in my life and having a place to go unless I was punting.

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Thanks for all your replies & advice.

I have booked with a lady who has unblurred photos posted on the web, but I see this is often not the case.

What is the etiquette if you book without this, or indeed the photo is misleading and on arrival you simply don't find the lady attractive? Do you pay anyway, apologise & leave?

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I am not being rude, but if you are happily married, then why are you booking an escort? Just wondering:confused:

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Thanks for all your replies & advice.

I have booked with a lady who has unblurred photos posted on the web, but I see this is often not the case.

What is the etiquette if you book without this, or indeed the photo is misleading and on arrival you simply don't find the lady attractive? Do you pay anyway, apologise & leave?

If you don't fancy her because the pictures are inaccurate then don't feel any guilt in turning and walking away. Don't dwell on it and don't start trying to justify it, just leave immediatley and don't waste your money by handing it over out of guilt.

Saying all that, there are so many young women in London, especially WGs, I wouldn't expect this to be an issue :rolleyes:

Basically, if the pictures of her face are blurred then don't book.

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I had a similar situation to you although I was already a reasonably experienced punter pre-marriage by the time I first saw an escort when married, aged late 30s. To be honest, I wasn't sure what I really wanted by the time I arrived but the girl I saw was really lovely (I had done my reasearch and she several good FRs.) She asked me what I wanted and I sort of said "let's go with the flow" thinking I might stop at breast/hand relief for example.

She took it slowly, gradually building up and going further and further. Actually, it was so enjoyable and I went 'all the way'. That reignited my love of punting a few years ago. The only other tip maybe is go for a lady who offers the GFE.

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Thanks for all your replies & advice.

I have booked with a lady who has unblurred photos posted on the web, but I see this is often not the case.

What is the etiquette if you book without this, or indeed the photo is misleading and on arrival you simply don't find the lady attractive? Do you pay anyway, apologise & leave?

If the photographs are not genuine and you don't fancy the girl just walk. There is no need to pay. She has been dishonest with her photographs so it is her hard luck. If you paid her it would, IMHO., encourage her dishonesty & possibly affect other punters.

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Other than saying it's been a long held fantasy, I can't offer an explanation. May be also the excitement of seeing someone different & younger with no strings attached.

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Andy,

I'm no experienced punter. Indeed brand new except for a couple of times when i was at Uni.

I remember thinking those things as well.... I wasn't really planning on doing much since I was in fact just going to a walk-in place with a mate and it was he who was interested... but when in the room the wg was nice and helped me decide to go for it.

I must say as well things seem to have changed.... kissing? OWO? CIM?

Im also married and just filling a little gap in my life. Not gone to see someone as yet but planning to soon.

Live it up. Enjoy. Relax. if you find it isn't for you then move on.

All I know as a married man the other option would be an affair and that would be a nightmare!

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Yes this an accurate description of me.

I'm in my mid-forties, happily married but have had a long held desire to spend some time with an escort and finally have made a booking for a 1 hour incall in a few weeks time.

I have some what may seem stupid questions but would welcome any advice:

I'm not sure how far I want to take things, so will it cause offence if I am fairly passive and don't go "all the way"?

Will the lady be offended if I ask for oral to be covered?

I would also like to hear from any guys who have gone through a similar process, particularly if they are of a similar age & marriage status.

Thanks in advance.

How nervous a person are you and1964?

Reason i ask is that if you are one of those people who get excessively nervous, then please be aware that what you are about to do will probably magnify this 10x. If you are not an excessively nervous person and can deal with the potential fall out and associated risks of being seen entering/leaving the ladies premises or catching an sti and possibly infecting your wife in the process ( i see you want to use condoms for oral, so this has crossed your mind..) and also possible feelings of guilt at breaking your marriage vows, then go ahead and enjoy the encounter.

I'm not saying don't do it, it's just that i don't know how nervous/guilt susceptible a person you are, and i wanted to give a balanced view of how you may feel after the meeting and you have crossed the line into becoming a punter!

Regarding age difference, i doubt at your age you will encounter any problems at all, the WL's that have upper age limitations usually make this clear in their adverts, but there arn't that many that have these restrictions!

So to sum up, if you have prepared yourself mentally for all possible scenarios and the potential catastrophic fall out from your happy marriage if the sh*t hits the fan - and you are happy with those risks, then go for it!

Cheers

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