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Wish Lists.

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I've had 5 e-mails in a week asking me why I don't have one of these and could I please send,(via return mail) them some idea of what I like, so they can buy me a gift and could I please rectify this on my website.

Now I like all girls have a mental list of things I like, Things I would like to get myself, small things like outfits, shoes, etc, that I haven't got round to yet.

And I don't ever expect a gift (other than my payment) And I am pleasantly surprised by gents who bring me gifts, as it is nice to feel appreciated.

Here is the crux of my problem...

I don't particularly want to have to defend myself if I add one to my website.

I have read some of the threads here arguing against, and for this, but the bugbear is that I don't really want to argue that I haven't 'risen above my station' to the gents who feel that ladies get paid enough, without gifts added.

So guys who feel like this, would it bother you if you saw someone (like me a poster and someone who has been about for a while) add a wish list to their site, without thinking, she has suddenly got delusions of grandeur?

Thanks in advance.

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I would say that adding it now may be a bit strange but then as long as you are not wishing for the last star at night or 2week stay indubai 5* hotel all paid for and it was just little things like perfume music jewellery etc then I am sure it wouldn't matter so much :(

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I've had 5 e-mails in a week asking me why I don't have one of these and could I please send,(via return mail) them some idea of what I like, so they can buy me a gift and could I please rectify this on my website.

Now I like all girls have a mental list of things I like, Things I would like to get myself, small things like outfits, shoes, etc, that I haven't got round to yet.

And I don't ever expect a gift (other than my payment) And I am pleasantly surprised by gents who bring me gifts, as it is nice to feel appreciated.

Here is the crux of my problem...

I don't particularly want to have to defend myself if I add one to my website.

I have read some of the threads here arguing against, and for this, but the bugbear is that I don't really want to argue that I haven't 'risen above my station' to the gents who feel that ladies get paid enough, without gifts added.

So guys who feel like this, would it bother you if you saw someone (like me a poster and someone who has been about for a while) add a wish list to their site, without thinking, she has suddenly got delusions of grandeur?

Thanks in advance.

I certainly wouldn't regard it as "delusions of grandeur" or "rising above your station" but I don't like to see wishlists on a girl's website or profile. I can see their advantage, for those guys who might automatically want to bring a present and need some guidance, but for me it just sounds a bit too much like an expectation on the girl's part, even if she qualifies it.

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Don't do it , get the fluffies to think for themselves !:(

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Put some things that are small but useful and maybe your fav wine or chocs.

I have lighters on mine as I'm always losing them :(

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I dont like to see Wishlists, but have been known to take flowers occasionly, and buy the odd birthdaypresent, without being prompted. Its down to the individual,if you feel it, do it...

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When I first joined a site that had a wish list on it to fill in, I did it mostly out of curiousity and because it was there. It hadn't occurred to me to do one until it was presented to me. As I was creating it I found that actually it was a fun way of showing a bit of my personality and things that I like and never expected for a moment that anyone would ever buy anything from it.

I do not lead people to my wishlist, or ever refer to it when talking to a potential. It just exists. I even forget about it most of the time.

However, it has been used on one occassion much to my surprise and as it was something I actually liked I was really excited by getting the package and having something that someone else felt they wanted to give me. As it is I have never met the person in question, but do have a little soft spot for them and yes they are a bit fluffy, but in a very endearing way.

No one is forcing anyone to read it, acknowledge it or use it, it's just there if it is of interest to anyone and stops the worry of getting the wrong thing, should anyone want to treat a lady. Why is that such a bad thing?

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I certainly wouldn't regard it as "delusions of grandeur" or "rising above your station" but I don't like to see wishlists on a girl's website or profile. I can see their advantage, for those guys who might automatically want to bring a present and need some guidance, but for me it just sounds a bit too much like an expectation on the girl's part, even if she qualifies it.

I was thinking about putting an addunum on that page, along the lines of...

This is in no way expected or needed, however if you wished to buy me a small gift, then I would appreciate xyz...

or something to that effect, but more professional.

God I sound like a goon. Ha! :(

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Wishlists are wonderful things. If it wasn't for mine, I wouldn't have my Stylophone :(

I've put on mine that I like books and I've received some great books that I may otherwise never have read.

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I was thinking about putting an addunum on that page, along the lines of...

This is in no way expected or needed, however if you wished to buy me a small gift, then I would appreciate xyz...

or something to that effect, but more professional.

God I sound like a goon. Ha! :(

Just never rings true with me. Sorry. I don't mean you personally, just generally.

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I have posted this before, on a previous thread:

My list mentions books. Recently a client brought me a book entitled 'Jeff In Venice'. It looked quite interesting but was plainly 'pre-loved', so, assuming he had brought me one of his own books I asked him 'Is it a good read? Did you enjoy it?'

He replied, 'I've never read it, but my name's Jeff and I've been to Venice...' !!

I can't honestly say it was a useless gift because I haven't read it yet and it might be great - but it was certainly an interesting gift!

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I've had 5 e-mails in a week asking me why I don't have one of these and could I please send,(via return mail) them some idea of what I like, so they can buy me a gift and could I please rectify this on my website.

Now I like all girls have a mental list of things I like, Things I would like to get myself, small things like outfits, shoes, etc, that I haven't got round to yet.

And I don't ever expect a gift (other than my payment) And I am pleasantly surprised by gents who bring me gifts, as it is nice to feel appreciated.

Here is the crux of my problem...

I don't particularly want to have to defend myself if I add one to my website.

I have read some of the threads here arguing against, and for this, but the bugbear is that I don't really want to argue that I haven't 'risen above my station' to the gents who feel that ladies get paid enough, without gifts added.

So guys who feel like this, would it bother you if you saw someone (like me a poster and someone who has been about for a while) add a wish list to their site, without thinking, she has suddenly got delusions of grandeur?

Thanks in advance.

Overall Tammy I think its a bad idea.It certainly wont benefit your business

but it just might put some potential clients off.If clients ask you for ideas, great, then email them a list !!:(

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Just never rings true with me. Sorry. I don't mean you personally, just generally.

Well that's why I asked...

As posters on this board know me from my post, my fr's and in chat...

So would it ring true to them if they saw it on a site of a girl like me that you knew from prior to it goining on there?

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Here is the crux of my problem...

I don't particularly want to have to defend myself if I add one to my website.

I have read some of the threads here arguing against, and for this, but the bugbear is that I don't really want to argue that I haven't 'risen above my station' to the gents who feel that ladies get paid enough, without gifts added.

So guys who feel like this, would it bother you if you saw someone (like me a poster and someone who has been about for a while) add a wish list to their site, without thinking, she has suddenly got delusions of grandeur?

Thanks in advance.

Just say bollocks to the lot of them (The ayes & he nays) and do whatever you want to do.

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Overall Tammy I think its a bad idea.It certainly wont benefit your business

but it just might put some potential clients off.If clients ask you for ideas, great, then email them a list !!:(

Oddly enough it's the potential clients asking.

My regulars who bring me little things have asked over time...

Nothing special...well except a few.

Had a client have a dozen wite roses delived to my work, I got them when I came out of a job and was gobsmacked.

They were stunning and I imagine he paid a pretty penny for them, I kept the little white butterfly ornamental that came with them to remind me, after they died.

but usually chocs some parfume, and little things.

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Oddly enough it's the potential clients asking.

My regulars who bring me little things have asked over time...

Nothing special...well except a few.

Had a client have a dozen wite roses delived to my work, I got them when I came out of a job and was gobsmacked.

They were stunning and I imagine he paid a pretty penny for them, I kept the little white butterfly ornamental that came with them to remind me, after they died.

but usually chocs some parfume, and little things.[/QUOTE]

Yes but of course you would never know about the ones that have been put off, thats the problem. If the guys ask, then great.! If you do put up a list, I think as you say, the little things are the way to go.:(

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I've had 5 e-mails in a week asking me why I don't have one of these and could I please send,(via return mail) them some idea of what I like, so they can buy me a gift and could I please rectify this on my website.

Now I like all girls have a mental list of things I like, Things I would like to get myself, small things like outfits, shoes, etc, that I haven't got round to yet.

And I don't ever expect a gift (other than my payment) And I am pleasantly surprised by gents who bring me gifts, as it is nice to feel appreciated.

Here is the crux of my problem...

I don't particularly want to have to defend myself if I add one to my website.

I have read some of the threads here arguing against, and for this, but the bugbear is that I don't really want to argue that I haven't 'risen above my station' to the gents who feel that ladies get paid enough, without gifts added.

So guys who feel like this, would it bother you if you saw someone (like me a poster and someone who has been about for a while) add a wish list to their site, without thinking, she has suddenly got delusions of grandeur?

Thanks in advance.

5 emails in a week?

Maybe it's the same person, using different email addresses. In 10 years I have never had anyone demand I put a wish list on my website.

In fact my customers are as stingy as fuck. I have asked a few loyal regulars, on numerous occasions, to buy me a car or a horse, but they refuse. I can't understand it. Think of the pleasure they would get giving such a lovely gift to someone as deserving as myself.

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As has been said in a couple of replies, I think it is on the whole a good thing, but I think it does all depend on how you go about it. Posting a list of specific items, complete with weblinks, could well come across to some in a negative way

Perhaps, what people might be looking for when they ask if you have a wish list is acually some general guidance on the types of item that you might like to recieve, so more like Amanda's comment that she likes books, but not going into specifics about titles and authors, would help people get a sense for the sort of gift to buy, without coming acorss as having "delusions of grandeur".

It could also be written in a narritive prose, putting across your thoughts, rather that as a simple list, giving that sense of your likes without the feeling of a shopping list.

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Well that's why I asked...

As posters on this board know me from my post, my fr's and in chat...

So would it ring true to them if they saw it on a site of a girl like me that you knew from prior to it goining on there?

My heart always sinks a bit when I see "Wish List" on a girl's website. It gives you the chance to show a bit of your personality, but it is easy to get it wrong.

English Rose gets it completely wrong by listing about 100 items:

http://www.englishroseescort.co.uk/my-wishlist/

Liz Hilton's list is supposed to be fun but the humour falls flat as you read down the list: Bugatti Veyron, Patek Phillipe, Le Billionaire Champagne etc :

http://www.liz-vip-elite-london-escort.com/wishlist.php

Claire gets it spot on:

http://www.bbwclaire.moonfruit.com/#/oh-no-wishlist/4542203117

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5 emails in a week?

Maybe it's the same person, using different email addresses. In 10 years I have never had anyone demand I put a wish list on my website.

In fact my customers are as stingy as fuck. I have asked a few loyal regulars, on numerous occasions, to buy me a car or a horse, but they refuse. I can't understand it. Think of the pleasure they would get giving such a lovely gift to someone as deserving as myself.

May have something to do with publicly stating on here that people could mail me suggestions if they thought I missed anything on a constructive critisism thread.

:(:o

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Obviously the guy Is a moron, why do you need to demand a escort to have a wish list? :( If he wants to see a lady, then book her and pay her In reddies, FFS some blokes. I don't like wish lists, I wished I'd win the Lotto but It hasn't happened yet. Maybe If I really really wish! :o

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I've had 5 e-mails in a week asking me why I don't have one of these and could I please send,(via return mail) them some idea of what I like, so they can buy me a gift and could I please rectify this on my website.

Tammy, you had five emails a week, asking why don't have a wishlist? What is your secret to acquire them, and where do you advertise?

I've advertised with my website for an over a decade now, and never a received a single email during this time (never mind 5 in a week) to ask me about "wishlist and gifts". What I am doing wrong? :(. Some tips needed, as my wish list will be rather long, lol

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I would not add one to my site personally.

If someone emailed me and said they wanted to bring me a little gift and asked for suggestions then i would be happy to supply them with a small list of things that would make me happy, this would probably depend on what i was feeling at the time (i liked claires stripey socks). I may just say surprise me but no chocolate please .

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Personally Tammy I think it a good idea provided that it is properly worded in such a way that a client doesn't feel obligated to bring a present. I think you should keep it simple i.e. the sort of wine, perfume, flowers etc. that you like. If I can I nearly always like to bring a present with me particularly if I am seeing a lady for the second time and was pleased with the service she provided on the previous occasion. It ensures that the lady doesn't get a lot of stuff that she doesn't want i.e. red wine when she prefers white wine. I am quite sure that the majority of your returning clients would like to bring something with them (as well as the money:D)

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Tammy, you had five emails a week, asking why don't have a wishlist? What is your secret to acquire them, and where do you advertise?

I've advertised with my website for an over a decade now, and never a received a single email during this time (never mind 5 in a week) to ask me about "wishlist and gifts". What I am doing wrong? :o. Some tips needed, as my wish list will be rather long, lol

I dunno, usual sites.

Nothing out of the ordinary, in fact I am sure I'm on less sites than most LOL

Personally Tammy I think it a good idea provided that it is properly worded in such a way that a client doesn't feel obligated to bring a present. I think you should keep it simple i.e. the sort of wine, perfume, flowers etc. that you like. If I can I nearly always like to bring a present with me particularly if I am seeing a lady for the second time and was pleased with the service she provided on the previous occasion. It ensures that the lady doesn't get a lot of stuff that she doesn't want i.e. red wine when she prefers white wine. I am quite sure that the majority of your returning clients would like to bring something with them (as well as the money:D)

Aww thanks Jack. :( so sweet.

After all the advice, I think I will probably an intrests and dislikes page...

That way I can add stuff that I like... like wines etc, or I might do it on my blog that way the guys can see for those who want to without having to have a wishlist page.

More thought me thinks...

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