david787

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

Firstly, welcome to the message boards David.

I do not understand why you want to jeopardise what sounds like a pretty good relationship on a whim. A lots of the guys who lurk here would cut their right arm off to have what you have and punt because they cannot get enough sex at home (there are also some who are just greedy f**kers and want the change/variety you allude to).

I would not worry about your wife's insecurity about her body. Lots of people are insecure about their body or certain aspects of it anyway.

Do yourself a favour and put this punting idea out of your head - at least until you have a real reason for giving it a go.:confused:

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

Not trying to turn away business but really consider keeping your relationship going with seeing escorts. Work on making her feeling a bit more secure about her body, after some time doing this revue the situation again.

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Yeh I have to agree with the posts above. You have got a pretty good thing going on.

Wait a while, and see if the escort thing persists in your head.

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

I was 19, scared, exited with adrenalin flowing, i cant recall the WGs face after 26 years but i do recall i managed to get it up and have a good shag. Apart from sexually fancying the lady, having no feeling of love towards them is why i punt with them, as i am one of the greedy fuckers Oneputt mentioned.:confused:

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I was 19, scared, exited with adrenalin flowing, i cant recall the WGs face after 26 years but i do recall i managed to get it up and have a good shag. Apart from sexually fancying the lady, having no feeling of love towards them is why i punt with them, as i am one of the greedy fuckers Oneputt mentioned.:confused:

Of course, I meant it in the nicest possible way.;)

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Of course, I meant it in the nicest possible way.;)

And i took it as such and had a chuckle.:confused:

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

Naturally I was a little bit nervous. But I had met her socially beforehand on a previous occasion. So not as nervous as I might have otherwise been. She was lovely, a real gem and put me at ease from the very first moment. So no problems in the hydraulics department. It was (and is) about having sex and fun so the question of feelings didn't enter into it. The two hours flew by and I never looked back.

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

You are fortunate to have a wife that gives you sex that some vanilla escorts wouldn't do (anal).

Try to make her feel good about her body, treat her to a nice expensive perfume and some quality lingerie, anything to make her feel good.

If you start to see escorts, there is a good chance you will feel less like sex at home, and as you say your wife wants sex more than you, she may well start to look for someone else to play with.

Regarding my first time, I was as nervous as hell, but 90 minutes with Vienna Moore with her large boobs and fishnet stockings sorted me out. I couldn't believe I was fullfilling my fantasies and I couldn't wait for the next time. Now I'm hooked on punting.

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

Imagine how insecure she would feel if she found out or suspected that you had seen a WG.

Since she wants sex more than you maybe it's your insecurity that is the isue?

I agree with a couple of the others here; you need to look closer to home.

Lamorak made a good point; if you go elswhere you may want less at home..............and she already wants more than you I think it is a recipe for disaster.

Leave it as a fantasy.................or why not get her to role-play a working girl.;)

Book a hotel and hand over some money.:confused:

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

Why does your wife feel insecure about her body ? Reading between the lines, I feel you believe you may be partly responsible for her insecurity.

You say you find your wife attractive and she is into sex,perhaps more than you.

My clear advice here is to stay away from punting for the moment, put all your focus on your wife--- make sex with her as exciting for you both as you possibly can.Yes, as others have advised spend your money on her, lingerie,clothes,beauty therapies,sexy weekends away,try new things etc.

The one thing I would like to offer good advice on is the one thing I am sadly unable to do. I guess that you see room for improvement in your wife's figure but she doesn't seem to be addressing this to your satisfaction. Would I be right ? Is this perhaps one of the reasons your mind is turning to the possibility of punting ? Would it make a difference to this if your wife got herself into the best shape she could ? I have no idea how you can really help her here if this in an issue. I would love to hear the advice of some of the ladies here on how to deal with this successfully.

Anyway to sum up, you are in good position already-- put your energy and cash into enhancing the sexual side of your relationship with your wife. Punting is addictive , time consuming and expensive and may further dilute how you feel about your wife --- not in your interests at the moment,IMO.:confused:

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i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

Unfortunately us guys do like variety so I suppose on those grounds you could justify seeing an escort, better than having an affair and may make you realise just how lucky you are with your wife.

I suggest you sort your wife out properly. If you want less sex than she does just don't cum each time make sure she cums as much as she wants instead. That should keep her satisfied and you horny. Only cum every second or third time you have sex. Being insecure about her body may be why she keeps testing to see if you get turned on by it. What is it about her body that she insecure about?

And having feelings for a person has almost nothing to do with wanting to have sex with her. It only takes milliseconds for you to decide you want jump a strangers bones. You can do it at a hundred paces if your eyesight is good enough.

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Absolutely agree with Cumandgo and the OPs on this.

The mistake you seem to be making is thinking that because fantasies of WGs are running through your head you should take these as some guide to what to do next in reality. But this amounts to thinking with your cock instead of your head (and your heart, where your good lady's feelings are concerned - as they are).

It's a normal enough fantasy. Just keep it that way. Count your blessings and cherish the missis properly. Laying on compliments to her beauty and sex appeal with a trowel won't go amiss. Actually, make that a wheelbarrow.

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Absolutely agree with Cumandgo and the OPs on this.

The mistake you seem to be making is thinking that because fantasies of WGs are running through your head you should take these as some guide to what to do next in reality. But this amounts to thinking with your cock instead of your head (and your heart, where your good lady's feelings are concerned - as they are).

It's a normal enough fantasy. Just keep it that way. Count your blessings and cherish the missis properly. Laying on compliments to her beauty and sex appeal with a trowel won't go amiss. Actually, make that a wheelbarrow.

Chris, I do believe that is your best post on this forum.

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She is fit, got a nice body but has become insecure more so after she found out i look at escort websites!!! since then she is very insecure. She puts in alot of effort, gives the best oral and is very horny. if it was up to her she would have sex three times a day!!! but nowadays she nags me too much about that. She keeps saying that she tries her best to please me so why am i looking at those websites!!! it is a very tricky situation, i feel that she is very hurt and she wont forgive me and maybe because i want to escape from this, i am considering doing it in reality so that i get back at her, looking didnt mean i was going to do it and i am hurt that she thought that way about me.

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Honestly, some guys are too blind to see how lucky they are.

You urgently need to stop digging any deeper into that hole you have already dug for yourself, and climb out sharpish.

Don't even consider 'getting back at her'. And for what? Being understandably upset by you undermining her sexual self confidence. She is the one hurting here, and don't forget that.

Your good lady simply doesn't deserve to be messed around like that. What she deserves right now is a grovelling apology. With flowers, chocs, the works.

Imbalance between the sexual appetites in a couple need not be a major problem, if you both approach it with honesty, patience and good humour.

You can leave punting until after she divorces you, which may be her best option if you don't come to your senses.

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She is fit, got a nice body but has become insecure more so after she found out i look at escort websites!!! since then she is very insecure. She puts in alot of effort, gives the best oral and is very horny. if it was up to her she would have sex three times a day!!! but nowadays she nags me too much about that. She keeps saying that she tries her best to please me so why am i looking at those websites!!! it is a very tricky situation, i feel that she is very hurt and she wont forgive me and maybe because i want to escape from this, i am considering doing it in reality so that i get back at her, looking didnt mean i was going to do it and i am hurt that she thought that way about me.

Something wrong here-- this just doesn't add up, sorry.

You say that you have a fit attractive wife who is sexually very active and adventurous with you. You then have no idea why you started thinking about prostitutes and began looking at escort sites. She discovers you doing this and you blame her for having a go at you !! You are either not telling us the truth .ie you were going off your wife anyway or you are pulling our legs. I cant be certain which it is but I fear it is the latter.

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i swear it is the truth. the more i look at those websites, the more tempting i become. i started using these images to get myself off, you know when you are on your own but then i started doing it more frequently and started paying less attention to my wife! i use to love her like crazy but since the nagging started my feelings are dying off. sometimes i think maybe i wasnt meant for marriage in the first place and i should let my wife go so i can have the fun that i want. very confusing!

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i should add she is intelligent and loves me alot but dont know what is wrong with me! are you guys telling me that if you had a wife who would do whatever you wanted you wouldnt punt???

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Something wrong here-- this just doesn't add up, sorry.

You say that you have a fit attractive wife who is sexually very active and adventurous with you. You then have no idea why you started thinking about prostitutes and began looking at escort sites. She discovers you doing this and you blame her for having a go at you !! You are either not telling us the truth .ie you were going off your wife anyway or you are pulling our legs. I cant be certain which it is but I fear it is the latter.

I agree and this wasnt mentioned in the OP but is crucial information not given then, he asked about what was your first punting experience like, not i want to punt to get back at his wife, its a completely different matter now, very odd IMO.:confused:

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Personally I think you are stark raving mad to be even considering punting in the situation you are in.

Work on your relationship, buy her some sexy stuff (Buy it with her if that boosts her self esteem more) go and do some exciting sex in the countryside or in a decent hotel etc but give the relationship a chance.

If after you have put a great deal of effort in to make it work you still feel this way then be honest with her.

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If you are telling us the truth as you say you are then you are a crazy man. Is it perhaps that you would prefer an escort as it is then your choice when to have sex rather than the situation you tell us you are in.

As said already there are many on here who would love to have all the possibilities offered by your wife. You are the one that has let her down and going to see an escort is absolutely the wrong decision. Again as others have said you need to urgently build things back up again and maybe seek professional help also. Think again carefully - Don't do it!

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Something wrong here-- this just doesn't add up, sorry.

You say that you have a fit attractive wife who is sexually very active and adventurous with you. You then have no idea why you started thinking about prostitutes and began looking at escort sites. She discovers you doing this and you blame her for having a go at you !! You are either not telling us the truth .ie you were going off your wife anyway or you are pulling our legs. I cant be certain which it is but I fear it is the latter.

I'd been thinking the same without posting. David787 you've also started another thread about wives/gfs sleeping with male escorts (sorry if this is considered off topic) or started to do so because the male partner were. This sort of enforces what I was feeling. I may of course be way off target. :confused:

Assuming this is really genuine then I concur with most replies and that you forget about starting to punt.

However, is there actually something specific you imagine a WG would provide that Mrs David787 simply doesn't?

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are you guys telling me that if you had a wife who would do whatever you wanted you wouldnt punt???

Obviously I can't speak for the others here, but yes, that's exactly what I am saying. I've been there. My very wonderful wife was hornier than me, but we worked that one out, and it never crossed my mind to go punting. Sadly she passed away in her prime. Which gives me a more credible reason for punting now than you have.

David, please listen to what we are all saying here. You are in serious danger of pissing away a great blessing for no real reason. Get professional help, i.e. counselling.

But first you will have to face up to how bad things have got. What you have succeeded in doing is deeply wound the lady you promised to love and cherish. And in exactly the place you knew it would hurt her most. Don't whine about yourself feeling hurt, as self-pity will distract you from the injury you have done. You will be lucky if you are forgiven for this. Frankly, if she kicked the living shit out of you, that would be only half of what you deserve.

So major grovelling is also required too. Then if you are very lucky your wife may have the patience to go through the counselling you will need. Don't kid yourself that you can evade this one, it's as desperate as it gets.

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although i am still contemplating booking someone but i am quiet nervous. i have never done this before, iam married, my wife is attractive, she wants sex more than me and sometimes i am not up for it. she likes giving oral, does anal if i want and everyhing that you might want,however she is abit insercure about her body. i just dont understand why the idea of seeing an escort is playing in my head, is it variety that i am looking for or maybe i want a change. my question is how did you feel first time? did you manage to do anything, given that you have no feelings for this person!

There is an old saying that the grass is always greener ............ however this is usually just a trick of the light.

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