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Do you ever feel ashamed or that it is wrong to be punting?

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On the one hand I don't think there is anything wrong or anything to be ashamed of of paying WG's for sex, as long as women are over 18 years old and are not trafficked. Generally there are probably two categories of men who visit massage parlours/escorts. Those who do not want the complications of being in relationships. And those who have trouble forming relationships with women. Most heterosexual men have needs of intimacy and sensual time with women. This is only natural. So particularly those men who have trouble forming relationships with women, WG's provide a valuable service. I won't go into details but allthough I consider myself a decent chap, I've had no luck with forming relationships with women for quite some time now. So for a number of years I started visiting massage parlours to get some intimacy and sensual time with women.

On the other hand though a couple of years ago I did feel ashamed that I had visited massage parlours and paid WG's for sex. It just felt morally wrong. And that I should only be having sex with girls that I had formed relationships with. But as I said I have trouble forming relationships with women, so what am I to do, just go without any sensuality/intimacy with women for years and years and years?

I decided to stop visiting WG's for sex(including oral) some 2 years ago now. I felt that it was time that chapter of my life ended. But it's not out of the question I may return to doing it. Since then I do however still visit parlours every few months or so. But only for massage and HR. For my 1 hour visits I get a shared jacuzzi, a full body massage by a naked masseuse, a bit of erotic body to body, reverse massage, and ending with HR. Just going to parlours for this sort of thing I do not feel as guilty or ashamed as when paying WG's for full sex. And I am grateful for the sensual time I spend with the women during my visits. In fact I actually don't think there's anything to be ashamed of atall for these sorts of sessions. Allthough I'm not ever going to tell anyone I know about it.

But now I am starting to cut down the frequency I visit parlours for massages to try and give up this "hobby" alltogether. I'd usually visit a parlour 4 times in a year. This year I am cutting it down to 3 visits. And next year I plan no more than 2 visits. In the meantime I am trying to form relationships with women again and hopefully have some luck. If I do find a girlfriend however, I certainly wouldn't visit any parlours whilst I am with her even for just sensual massages. I'd much rather be in a loving relationship with a women, than being single and visiting parlours every few months.

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I always think the way to decide whether any course of action is right or wrong is to take it to an extreme .

If paying for sex with WGs became the norm and everyone did it , then 'normal ' loving relationships between the sexes would disappear and society as we know it would break down .

The other 'extreme ' to look at is , if suddenly there were no WGs , what would men do ?.

Would they become better human beings if they had to form proper relationships instead of being able to take the easy cop out ?.

Personally , I do sometimes feel ashamed to be a punter , but carry on , simply because it is available and it is a easy way to calm the beast .

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As long as the WG has choosen to do her job, no problem.

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Do you ever feel ashamed or that it is wrong to be punting?

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Well that's killed the conversation, didn't it? :rolleyes:

(An emphatic, unequivocal 'no' here too.)

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Agreed.

A definate 'no' from myself.

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Same here. I think the OP is reading too much into it, this hobby is one where it is best to just enjoy it without trying to analyse it.

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I am not ashamed, however I have only told two people that I do it. I suspect most posters on here, have a similiar attitude. It also rules out visiting certain parlours, that have too public an entrance.

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On the one hand I don't think there is anything wrong or anything to be ashamed of of paying WG's for sex, as long as women are over 18 years old and are not trafficked. Generally there are probably two categories of men who visit massage parlours/escorts. Those who do not want the complications of being in relationships. And those who have trouble forming relationships with women. Most heterosexual men have needs of intimacy and sensual time with women. This is only natural. So particularly those men who have trouble forming relationships with women, WG's provide a valuable service. I won't go into details but allthough I consider myself a decent chap, I've had no luck with forming relationships with women for quite some time now. So for a number of years I started visiting massage parlours to get some intimacy and sensual time with women.

On the other hand though a couple of years ago I did feel ashamed that I had visited massage parlours and paid WG's for sex. It just felt morally wrong. And that I should only be having sex with girls that I had formed relationships with. But as I said I have trouble forming relationships with women, so what am I to do, just go without any sensuality/intimacy with women for years and years and years?

I decided to stop visiting WG's for sex(including oral) some 2 years ago now. I felt that it was time that chapter of my life ended. But it's not out of the question I may return to doing it. Since then I do however still visit parlours every few months or so. But only for massage and HR. For my 1 hour visits I get a shared jacuzzi, a full body massage by a naked masseuse, a bit of erotic body to body, reverse massage, and ending with HR. Just going to parlours for this sort of thing I do not feel as guilty or ashamed as when paying WG's for full sex. And I am grateful for the sensual time I spend with the women during my visits. In fact I actually don't think there's anything to be ashamed of atall for these sorts of sessions. Allthough I'm not ever going to tell anyone I know about it.

But now I am starting to cut down the frequency I visit parlours for massages to try and give up this "hobby" alltogether. I'd usually visit a parlour 4 times in a year. This year I am cutting it down to 3 visits. And next year I plan no more than 2 visits. In the meantime I am trying to form relationships with women again and hopefully have some luck. If I do find a girlfriend however, I certainly wouldn't visit any parlours whilst I am with her even for just sensual massages. I'd much rather be in a loving relationship with a women, than being single and visiting parlours every few months.

I dont feel ashamed or think its wrong to punt with WGs where its consensual as far as i am aware and they are over 18. What people do sexually within these boundaries is their business IMO and not for me to judge, althoigh i might comment on here.

I look on punting as a fun pursuit, its never stopped me forming relationships but i have always punted through them and will continue to punt guilt free till i cant manage it anymore.

I wish you the best with meeting a lovely lady for the relationship you are looking for.;)

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There is certainly more than just the two categories of men you mention. Some men are just greedy and enjoy having sex with as many beautiful girls as possible and as frequently as possible. Nature built them like that. I also do not see what has punting to do with being in a loving relationship, that is of course untill they find out.

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I used to but I got over it

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If Im being honest, yes I do. I do feel ashamed and wrong that I punt.

I ended up punting cos of desperation and cos Im single and tried the usual options. I started punting as a temporary fix.

Now I must admit I am addicted. Even tried stopping several times. Sometimes its even taken over my life just looking and preparing for next punt, coming on here, getting frustrated waiting for the booking to come round. Saying no to going out with mates cos I know Ive got a punt already booked. Quickly trying to see someone who pops up locally incase they disappear off and never come back.

And I know that the only reason shes with me is because Ive paid her too. That does make me feel ashamed and guilty that I may be taking advantage of her. Probably I do feel that its morally wrong, and what if I catch something, (Never have so far but what about the future?)

I look at the media when there something about punters or escorts and think god is that punter like me?!?

I keep this whole thing secret from my family, friends and work cos if they did find out Id probably die of shame. Dont think theyd look at me in the same way again. And the more I punt the more chance that someone I know is going to find out.

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I occasionally regret the amount of money I have spent.

I don't keep records but I suspect that it's been £40k in the last 10 years

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If you feel ashamed of something, the best thing is maybe to analyse what you are doing, your motivations, why you are making the choices you are making. The result may be that you stop doing it or you stop feeling ashamed. No need to hit yourself over the head with a negative emotion that is just a reaction. Analyse, choose least worst options or best options, move forward. ;)

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I'm puzzled by the plan to go from quarterly visits to every four months and from there down to half yearly. To what purpose? Assuming it's not financial then either stop completely if you don't enjoy it, or stop being so structured about it if you do enjoy it.

I can't see any point in a planned reduction the way the OP wrote it. I don't think level of guilt reduces in proportion to the reduction in frequency of visits!

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I actually wondered how he did it. Maybe the experience of so many posts.

When I type 'No' I'm told I haven't entered enough characters . . .

;)

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I started punting after my divorce but as I became more and more used to the convenience of having sex when I wanted it with the women of my choice I stopped trying to form relationships. I had a few casual relationships which faded into friendships because I found I still wanted to punt even when getting sex within a relationship. I preferred the fun and ease of sex with my regular girl to the sometimes frustrating mating game that is the dating game. I also found myself becoming more and more selfish about trying to please another person when I could do as I pleased without having to put up with sulks and PMT moments.

I feel guilty really that I have become so selfish and I know some will say there is nothing like a loving relationship but I have managed to find more satisfaction with a regular girl than I ever had in relationships.

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I'm puzzled by the plan to go from quarterly visits to every four months and from there down to half yearly. To what purpose? Assuming it's not financial then either stop completely if you don't enjoy it, or stop being so structured about it if you do enjoy it.

I can't see any point in a planned reduction the way the OP wrote it. I don't think level of guilt reduces in proportion to the reduction in frequency of visits!

Maybe his psychology is along the lines of a new year's resolution not to wank . . .

. . . so much

(ps am not calling him a wanker or deprecating him - I thought the analogy to 'giving something up' works tho - a bit like giving up smoking? Some people have an 'addictive gene' and experiment with ways of giving up or reducing. I prefer my approach. But it might not work all the time for all the people!)

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Never felt ashamed or that it was wrong. I'm sure we have all been in the situation, particularly after a bad punt that we could have done something more rewarding with the money. But if by punting I was depriving a family member of some enjoyment by punting, would feel guilty.

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Honestly I thought I might feel guilty or ashamed especially as I had some ill-informed and negative preconceptions about the paid sex industry, but luckily I've never really felt guilty about most the questionable things I've done.

As long as the WG is of legal age and isn't coerced in any way (although still unsure how exactly I'd know) and I'm polite, respectful, clean and so on, I don't see much to feel guilty about.

Even though I'm fully aware that most (if not all) WG's probably view me as nothing more than a walking, talking and ejaculating cash machine at least it is a clear and simple transaction of cash for sexual services/fantasy and not the psychological mindfuck that is dating.

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When I type 'No' I'm told I haven't entered enough characters . . .

;)

I'm not ashamed that I haven't typed enough characters. and I don't think it is wrong that I haven't typed enough characters, so my guess is that the bit of code that deals with things like message length knows this and just doesn't bother putting up a message that it knows I am neither ashamed of or consider to be wrong, and I will ignore. Alternatively it is possible that I know of a character that has the combined properties of being valid (as far as vBulletin is concerned), but that cannot actually be displayed.

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I actually wondered how he did it. Maybe the experience of so many posts.

When I type 'No' I'm told I haven't entered enough characters . . .

;)

Spaces :)

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Go and see Pia an then you will know that there is nothing wrong with it.

Never been sure where 'morals' originate.

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No, I don't. Even with regards to trafficked girls, can the end users really being considered culpable? I find the arguments for the latter are often invariably made by those who have an ethical objection to prostitution full stop and this a new attack method. In the same way, the arguments against abortion have become more sophicated. Now instead of focusing on the choice of the women, they tend to focus on whether or not the foetus feels pain etc. The same approach is used with trafficking, as far as I can see.

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My mum once saw on my younger bro's pc , cherrygirls and 1 of the wgs page i had visited . She called me in and these were her exact words

"What the fuck is this shit , have you been fucking these Whor.. anyhow i find out you have you get the fuck out of my house , i cant have you spreading aids to everyone here "

i was so embarrassed luckily my polish friend had been staying with us for 2 weeks at the time so i had to convince her it was him who was looking on the site when i was either sleeping or out , i think she may have believed me she knows im a quiet person and never talks about females or had a Girlfriend but still it i felt so ashamed , for the younger guys here imagine your mum tells you to come upstairs she wants to speak to you and she's sitting there with www.cherrygirls/random girl on the screen

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