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OK this is my debut post so please go easy! My question is this:

WGs, are there times when it's actually less psychologically demanding to just a shag/ service a punter than answer banal questions such as: 'so, how long you been doing this?'...'how do you like London?'...'do your neighbours know what you do?', blah blah.

I ask this as one who inclines towards the fluffy-side and who is naturally inquisitive about anyone I meet, let alone someone who I've just shagged and know nothing about, but who is self-conscious about asking questions a WG must be sick of hearing. On one recent punt, a WG gave me a fanatstic seeing- to, but after when I asked her what she did before this, she looked at me as if I'd crossed a boundary!

Are there occassions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

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very good question.

i like a wee chat before or after too but have learned not to ask personal questions as girl has a private life or doesnt like punter knowing their business which is understandable unless they are forthcoming with information i tend not to ask.

I usually i keep it to sex orientated questions , comment on their appearance or what you'd like them to do. if you see them again then they are more relaxed and theres a bit of trust then you can be a bit more chatty

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OK this is my debut post so please go easy! My question is this:

WGs, are there times when it's actually less psychologically demanding to just a shag/ service a punter than answer banal questions such as: 'so, how long you been doing this?'...'how do you like London?'...'do your neighbours know what you do?', blah blah.

I ask this as one who inclines towards the fluffy-side and who is naturally inquisitive about anyone I meet, let alone someone who I've just shagged and know nothing about, but who is self-conscious about asking questions a WG must be sick of hearing. On one recent punt, a WG gave me a fanatstic seeing- to, but after when I asked her what she did before this, she looked at me as if I'd crossed a boundary!

Are there occassions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

I don't think so.

People who make no effort to either chat or get to know you - even a little if only out of politeness are bloody hard work- as is the "full on" !'m a comedian, life and soul of the party loud brassy type. Anywhere in between is fine and to be honest personality is part of the entertainment package some clients bring, I think.

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I think it's nice to exchange a few pleasentries, rather than just go in there Wham Bam thank you ma'am and leave:(

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Sometimes I prefer the type of client that is plain and simple 'We're here to shag because I've paid you' rather than the type of client who believes something different is going on, eg you must be shagging because you fancy him or he thinks you're his girlfriend.

Chat and banter is great, in fact essential for a nice easy punt, but some questions can be a bit verging on offensive like 'Why do you feel you have to do this?' and 'Oh my god you have a fiance?' sort of thing.

I find it emotionally draining when someone really wants you to orgasm like a million timees and then keeps asking 'Did you fake it?' - advice Don't ever ask if it's fake! If it happens it happens. Don't force it you can't.

But being treated like a lovely beautiful special lady is one of the perks of this job. It is also really nice to see how happy and how good you can make someone feel in this job. So let her know! That isn't 'fluffy' I don't think. It's just nice to be nice. x

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Have you ever come across those who after you start a conversation with they just continue to rabbit on and won't shut up. I mean most girls in their sexy underwear are appealing but some when they open their mouth shatter all your imagination. So be careful what you wish for. My motto is say little and wait for feedback and if you like what you hear say some more.

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A real fluffy is a joy to get along with, and recognises appropriate boundaries. I've never had any problem with a fluffy yet. There are however chaps who either through naiivety, ignorance or simply new to the scene who are not able to realise boundaries. Other guys don't want to, or aren't interested in chit chat, and yet some who think it's ok to go stomping all over with no regard whatsoever.

What does this all mean?It means if you are a nice friendly sort please do not get offended if we hold back, and don't want to tell you our real names within the first 5 minutes. Similarly if you are a shy reserved type, you may have to put up with a small attempt at small talk.

So fluffies get a big thumbs up, as do those who recognise we simply running a business - where it's our business to be nice!

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OK this is my debut post so please go easy! My question is this:

WGs, are there times when it's actually less psychologically demanding to just a shag/ service a punter than answer banal questions such as: 'so, how long you been doing this?'...'how do you like London?'...'do your neighbours know what you do?', blah blah.

I ask this as one who inclines towards the fluffy-side and who is naturally inquisitive about anyone I meet, let alone someone who I've just shagged and know nothing about, but who is self-conscious about asking questions a WG must be sick of hearing. On one recent punt, a WG gave me a fanatstic seeing- to, but after when I asked her what she did before this, she looked at me as if I'd crossed a boundary!

Are there occassions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

There is an immense difference between fluffies and gents who do not know what presonal boundaries are.

Fluffies are fine,wham bham and thank you ma'am is fine, but a new punter asking constant questions about my personal life aren't. Quite a few punters do know a bit about my personal life, but thats cos I have told them, not that they have fired off a round of 20 questions.

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Of course it can be a bit disconcerting when the boot is on the other foot and the WG asks personal questions such as what does one do for a living. Years ago I was enjoying the preliminary small talk with a lady I really fancied getting down and dirty with when she asked me what work I did and, being a poor liar, even when it comes to the "white" variety of lies, I told her the truth that I worked for a large government department that dealt with benefits. She suddenly looked horrified and went on to admit to me that she was still receiving state benefits as she was recovering from depression. She said that she was worried that I might report her, adding that she had only just started her escorting career as a means of getting herself out of debt.

I explained to her that even if I was a vindictive type of person I'd hardly be inclined to report her as she would be equally able to expose me to my employers as a punter. In an attempt to reassure her I told her that I didn't particularly like my job at the time but had to earn a living while seeking something more rewarding. I added that I was seeing her because I'd just come out of a difficult relationship and wanted to distance myself from thoughts of work etc and give myself a treat. Eventually, I managed to alleviate her doubts and we actually ended up striking up a very good rapport, confiding in each other about all sorts of things. We were actually chatting away for two hours before we entered the bedroom. I even reminded her politely that I'd only paid for an hour but she confessed that she was glad of the company and that she had no other bookings that day as I was only her second client. When we eventualy did repair to the boudoir it felt like the beginning of a new relationship and a delightful hour was spent together in what I can only describe as a new girl friend experience, long before the expression was in fashion (this all happened 20 years ago!).

I left with mixed feelings. On the one hand, it was a memorable punt but, on the other hand I didn't want to risk getting emotionally involved again so soon. After a cooling off period of about a month I felt a great compulsion to see the lady again despite obvious misgivings but, as fate would have it, I was unable to get an answer from her phone and after a few unsuccessful attempts to contact her I concluded that it was probably for the best. The advert for her services also disappeared so I concluded that either escorting wasn't for her or that some knight had come along on his white charger and made an honest woman of her!

I guess my story illustrates not only the fluffy side of punting but also how quickly two lost souls can move on from small talk to a deeper level of empathy in a short space of time. I like to think that we both emerged from the episode the better for it.

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I guess you could call me a "fluffy". I do like to get to know the lady, but don't pry into her personal life.(although I did once quite by accident and got told off by Olivia for so doing - I apologised profusely as I was merely trying to make polite conversation but I won't make the same mistake again - it doesn't do to upset Olivia (hope she has now forgiven me!!). I like to think that I am on good terms with most of the w.g.'s (sorry Ladies), that I have met. I make a point of treating them all with respect and ALWAYS make a point of asking them to let me know their likes and dislikes. Not that I deserve a medal or anything like that, but I feel that every punter should ask that of the w.g. he visits, particularly for the first time. Some punters forget that the lady they are seeing is just doing a job (and not an easy one at that). I am quite sure that you will enjoy your time better if you gain her respect. Another thing I like to do if possible is to bring along with me a small gift (bottle of wine or box of chocs). It only cost a fiver or so but I am sure it "sets the tone" for the meeting. I normally see a lady on a frequent basis if I have enjoyed my visits to her and, after a few more visits, bring her a more expensive present. Yes, I suppose I am a "fluffy" but don't see anything wrong with that.

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I have met a few guys over the years who, during the conversation, have warned me off the dangers of escorting and going to strange mens houses. This was probably really well meaning advice by genuine guys but at the time, on the booking, I was planning my escape route and feeling very paronoid! That's the only type of conversation I've found to be unhelpful.

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OK this is my debut post so please go easy! My question is this:

WGs, are there times when it's actually less psychologically demanding to just a shag/ service a punter than answer banal questions such as: 'so, how long you been doing this?'...'how do you like London?'...'do your neighbours know what you do?', blah blah.

I ask this as one who inclines towards the fluffy-side and who is naturally inquisitive about anyone I meet, let alone someone who I've just shagged and know nothing about, but who is self-conscious about asking questions a WG must be sick of hearing. On one recent punt, a WG gave me a fanatstic seeing- to, but after when I asked her what she did before this, she looked at me as if I'd crossed a boundary!

Are there occassions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

Hmm, fluffies and primitives.

If a primitive is someone who comes along, doesn't speak a single word, throws you on the bed, does his business, throws the cash at you as he is leaving, then I've never seen one of those and never would.

I don't mind quick 30 min fucks though.

I love to talk, I do :P. I talk about anything and everything. I don't mind people asking me why I become an escort (although I have only told a selective few the whole story as it involves something I would rather put behind me) or anything that is personal. If I don't want to tell them I wont, but there is not much I am not happy to chat about. Same way I usually ask my clients questions. I know lots and lots about some of my regulars, because they are happy to tell me. I have had the odd punter who become funny when I asked if they were married, so I shut up and changed the subject. It's not that I care if they are married, but I like to get a feel for people. I find the 'getting to know' someone on a personal level a nice part of the job.

I can't stand people who barely say a word though. It makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable. I got a text this week from someone who is in my phone as 'silent doctor'. I knew immediatley who he was, although had not realised I had saved his number. I didn't reply because I hate seeing him. He never says a word unless I ask him something. Plus he looks like a women with a willy, but that is no-where near as off-putting as his silence.

I probably do have some 'fluffy' customers who are under the illusion that I am not there because of the money and they are somehow more special to me than anyone else I see. Sometimes it pisses me off, particularly when they keep randomly emailing or texting me for no reason other than to have a chat.

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Are there occasions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

Well, this is your debut post and you’ve already insulted a whole section of the membership by referring to them as ‘primative’. This is rude, ignorant and downright insensitive. Welcome to the board – you’ll fit in nicely :)

If you are naturally inquisitive then you may find yourself at odds with some girls’ reluctance to discuss personal matters. I routinely enjoy smalltalk with girls, but occasionally even a simple question such as, ‘Are you going on holiday on your own or with your son?’ (whom she referred to in a previous conversation) can result in a shocked expression. It’s probably best for both parties to keep things lighthearted and fairly impersonal, but still friendly. Enjoy punting for what it is: business not friendship (well, mostly. D’oh!)

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OK this is my debut post so please go easy! My question is this:

WGs, are there times when it's actually less psychologically demanding to just a shag/ service a punter than answer banal questions such as: 'so, how long you been doing this?'...'how do you like London?'...'do your neighbours know what you do?', blah blah.

I ask this as one who inclines towards the fluffy-side and who is naturally inquisitive about anyone I meet, let alone someone who I've just shagged and know nothing about, but who is self-conscious about asking questions a WG must be sick of hearing. On one recent punt, a WG gave me a fanatstic seeing- to, but after when I asked her what she did before this, she looked at me as if I'd crossed a boundary!

Are there occassions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

I thought we'd finally grown up enough on the board to get away from alll the judgemental shit terms, but apparently not. I like interacting with the lady as a person and not just a piece of meat, but what makes you think the fluffies of your imagination ask such rude, intrusive questions as "do your neighbours know what you do?" That's not a fluffy question, it's a nosey-crass-git question.

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what makes you think the fluffies of your imagination ask such rude, intrusive questions as "do your neighbours know what you do?"

I once asked a WG that question. She looked at me with that withering look they reserve for special occasions and said, "No they don't!" To which I replied, "So why is some grey-haired old biddy photographing my number plate?"

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I thought we'd finally grown up enough on the board to get away from alll the judgemental shit terms, but apparently not. I like interacting with the lady as a person and not just a piece of meat, but what makes you think the fluffies of your imagination ask such rude, intrusive questions as "do your neighbours know what you do?" That's not a fluffy question, it's a nosey-crass-git question.

I like to have some interaction with the lady and that is through some light non-personal or intrusive conversation. I haven't come along for a big conversation or to get to know her really well, I've come for sex. Its important to come across as well-mannered, polite and not over-demanding if you want a good punt; wells thats my experience.

With regards "Fluffys" as you say, I suspect the above is something they would do also. Damn , does that make me one?

I guess the difference is that some "Fluffys" treat their punt as if they are going on a date and decide to bring gifts/presents. Their attitude may lead to more intrusive questions without them realising it being intrusive but you can't tar all with the same brush.

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Well, this is your debut post and you've already insulted a whole section of the membership by referring to them as 'primative'. This is rude, ignorant and downright insensitive. Welcome to the board - you'll fit in nicely :)

If you are naturally inquisitive then you may find yourself at odds with some girls' reluctance to discuss personal matters. I routinely enjoy smalltalk with girls, but occasionally even a simple question such as, 'Are you going on holiday on your own or with your son?' (whom she referred to in a previous conversation) can result in a shocked expression. It's probably best for both parties to keep things lighthearted and fairly impersonal, but still friendly. Enjoy punting for what it is: business not friendship (well, mostly. D'oh!)

Good post. If i become a regular its often the case that the WG tells me about herself over time, i never push things myself. With newbies to me i do as you mention, keep it lighthearted and fairly impersonal, in my experience thats the best way.:D

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I always comment on how nice a girl looks when she comes into the room. If it is a new girl I'm seeing I will a bring a box of chocs (a regular will get much more), I ask what she likes to do and gets enjoyment from and away we go.

Before I leave there is usually time for a chat, which is always nice, after all we are both grown up and civilised. I never pry into a girls private life though.

Best line of conversation I have had was during a recent punt when the girl asked what I did for a living. I told her and she replied 'I like you, do you have lots of money' I said 'yes' and her immediate reply was 'come and see me again next week then'

Honest and straight to the point.

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Good post. If i become a regular its often the case that the WG tells me about herself over time, i never push things myself. With newbies to me i do as you mention, keep it lighthearted and fairly impersonal, in my experience thats the best way.:)

I have to say that all the girls I have visited (bar one) have been adept at keeping things lighthearted and fairly impersonal. On a typical punt I will be asked 2 of the follwing questions:

Where are you from?

What are you doing for the rest of the day?

Are you married or single?

What do you do for a living?

Personally, I don't mind any of those questions.

I don't have a regular - if I really like a girl, I'll avoid her. If I don't really like a girl, I'll avoid her even more.

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OK this is my debut post so please go easy! My question is this:

WGs, are there times when it's actually less psychologically demanding to just a shag/ service a punter than answer banal questions such as: 'so, how long you been doing this?'...'how do you like London?'...'do your neighbours know what you do?', blah blah.

I ask this as one who inclines towards the fluffy-side and who is naturally inquisitive about anyone I meet, let alone someone who I've just shagged and know nothing about, but who is self-conscious about asking questions a WG must be sick of hearing. On one recent punt, a WG gave me a fanatstic seeing- to, but after when I asked her what she did before this, she looked at me as if I'd crossed a boundary!

Are there occassions when a primitive is just a bit less draining?

I much prefer a bit of light conversation then total silence, grunts groans and 'nothing'...................there's nothing that would want to make me run out of a room faster! an unfriendly person that doesn't respond or cheerful lol :):D

I love fluffies and they never become tiresome lol :):)

besides, you can distinguish someone that is genuinly taking an interest/generally being friendly to someone that is just being nosey and wanting to know the insides/ outsides of a ducks a**** :D

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Best line of conversation I have had was during a recent punt when the girl asked what I did for a living. I told her and she replied 'I like you, do you have lots of money' I said 'yes' and her immediate reply was 'come and see me again next week then'

I never tell them i'm a multi-millionaire in case they think I am lying.

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I try to get to know whoever I may want to one day meet by sending some emails first and making small talk there.

In my own experience, though, 99% of working girls aren't interested in email banter. Most stop replying if you haven't made a booking after 2 or 3 emails :)

They'll only talk if they have your monies first! :D

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I must be a fluffy then :)

Conversation is pretty much as important as the physical stuff to me in an appointment so yes I do like a little chatter

These days I normally only see ladies who I have seen before so I think we can be a little more open about things as there is some trust there.

But I also do realise that there is no way I could ever know if what the lady is telling me is true, just as I'm sure the majority of blokes give false names and things. I remember a lady on this board saying once, when there was a thread about real names and work names: 'I have my work name, I have my real name and I have the real name that I tell to guys when I want them to feel special'

It's the chatting and giggling that's important, if a lady tells me something personal about herself then I'm likely to remember it for future conversations but it wont be any part of our 'fun' time

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The WG is a person too, and may in fact be nervous and vulnerable

I ALWAYS try my best to be polite and sensitive towards them and have never considered THAT to make me a fluffy

Occasionally the WG is truly gorgeous and I feel that its only human to say how one feels about her good looks/personality

Occasionally Ive seen WGs who were downright anxious/nervous about the situation of them being there doing what they were and I always try and make them feel the normality of the situation

Only rarely has a punt not 'worked out' well

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I have to say that all the girls I have visited (bar one) have been adept at keeping things lighthearted and fairly impersonal. On a typical punt I will be asked 2 of the follwing questions:

Where are you from?

What are you doing for the rest of the day?

Are you married or single?

What do you do for a living?

Personally, I don't mind any of those questions.

I don't have a regular - if I really like a girl, I'll avoid her. If I don't really like a girl, I'll avoid her even more.

I get asked the same questions, its natural curiosity, like you i dont mind.:)

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