stevencovey

Cumming too quick

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Hi all,

I've seen a few working girls now, and each time I cum within a few minutes of starting. After a little rest, I get hard but I'm not able to cum within the hour, which frustrates me and the girl. So my questions to you all are:

1.) How do I last longer the first time,

and

2.) Is it reasonable to cum twice in a hour

Steven.

PS. I'm 26 and curcumcised

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Maybe see a GP and get checked out for premature ejaculation.

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I don't measure 1 and 2 is fine! Just make sure you aren't booking someone who is concentrating on money.

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I nearly always cum twice with a 1 hour booking.

Why not toss off half an hour before turning up.That should delay things .Just make sure you don't go blind !.

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If you know you are unable to climax twice in an hr you have two options really as whilst most gals will maybe over run a few minutes if it is obviously a problem you are simply going to leave fraustrated

1. book a shorter appt and opt for a single climax

2 book a longer session to give you plenty of time for a 2nd time around

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practice.

it will come eventually!

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practice.

it will come eventually!

and try thinking about something else when nearly cumming. You will go off the boil a bit, then oyu can start again!

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It is certainly possible, but by no means required, to come more than once in one hour. What is required is that you enjoy yourself and don't regret the expense.

So, changing the duration of the booking is one way.

You can also change the routine. See, if I let the girl do her usual routine, she goes down on me pretty soon and gives a BJ - something I find very hard to resist. I tell her to postpone demonstrating her oral skills until the second round instead, enjoy a nice fumble and shag, recover, and then enjoy a BJ.

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practice.

it will come eventually!

and try thinking about something else when nearly cumming. You will go off the boil a bit, then oyu can start again!

I would imagine that thinking about Harriet Harman would have the desired effect:)

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and try thinking about something else when nearly cumming. You will go off the boil a bit, then oyu can start again!

A popular recommendation. I wonder who seriously can mentally discuss Hegel, recite Shakespeare or recall details of the Ikea shelving assembly instructions (or think about H.H.) while in the heat of the moment. If you can, then you really aren't in the heat of the moment - but that's of course where you'd want to be.

I find a little break much more manageable. Withdraw. Maybe she still wears some high heals - take them off, play with her bits, make a humerous remark. Laugh, make her laugh, then resume.

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I got used to lengthy sessions when I was married, and at first that carried over into my punting experiences. However, for quite a time and for a variety of reasons, punts came along less often, and when they did I began reaching boiling point much quicker than had been the case. I suppose frequency is the key for me, so my solution is to have longer appointments with quality wg's, and in that way I can ensure being truly drained, both emotionally and physically. :confused:

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hey Steven

Relax and enjoy yourself. As you get used to it, things will settle down.

If you feel you are not getting value for the time booked just go for shorter bookings but more often:)

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Hi all,

I've seen a few working girls now, and each time I cum within a few minutes of starting. After a little rest, I get hard but I'm not able to cum within the hour, which frustrates me and the girl. So my questions to you all are:

1.) How do I last longer the first time,

and

2.) Is it reasonable to cum twice in a hour

Steven.

PS. I'm 26 and curcumcised

Slow down, it isn't a race. See a lady who will keep you on the edge rather than over it.

As Kinky says, practice will enable you to pace yourself more.

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Hi all,

I've seen a few working girls now, and each time I cum within a few minutes of starting. After a little rest, I get hard but I'm not able to cum within the hour, which frustrates me and the girl. So my questions to you all are:

1.) How do I last longer the first time,

and

2.) Is it reasonable to cum twice in a hour

Steven.

PS. I'm 26 and curcumcised

what you have to learn is breath control. when orgasm approaches the breath naturally speeds up, you have to consciously slow it down. you can practice this on your own. see if you can have 4 or 5 almost peaks before the last huge one.

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You could try using a condom with a delay lube inside it, they are available, for the first time. For the second time try a 90 min booking. No one can say whats reasonable for you, its an individual time, I used to cum 3 times an hour, now its once an hour.

You could also try, cumming just before your booking and if you time it right you will last through the booking until near the end.

You could learn to do the pelvic rock, that will be better for her and stop you cumming. You could pull out when you feel near to cumming and give her oral until the moment passes, she might enjoy that too.

You could do whats not such a turn on for you at first and then save your major turn on for the second round. For me that would be missonary and then cowgirl.

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I've seen a few working girls now, and each time I cum within a few minutes of starting.

Do you mean you cum a few minutes after starting full penetrative sex? In that case lasting a few minutes is perfectly normal, I think the UK average is 3 or 4 minutes. This is how it is for me, which can be frustrating because it's near impossible to bring a woman anywhere close to orgasm in that time, and also obviously if I'm enjoying myself I'd like it all to last much longer!

If you a read a lot of posts on this forum, you'd have the impression that 15-20 minutes is 'normal', or even longer. Don't let that depress you. A lot of posters here are aged over 45 and apparently, the cumming time gets longer as you get older - some forum members even have difficulty cumming within an hour.

A few different things to try, see what works for you:

* a change of position can reset your cumming clock

* mix plenty of RO with penetrative sex, tease the lady, but this also lets you take a break

* have sex only when you're pretty relaxed generally, e.g. Sunday morning, not at the end of a stressful day

* get yourself physically very fit, so your resting heartbeat is lower

* don't drink or take drugs before sex, any stimulant makes you last less time

* desensitise with a wank before the appointment, or a quick BJ right at the start of the appointment (that's why it's in most wg's routines)

* learn about Kegel muscles and do all the exercises

The Kegel muscles thing is the real key, I've discovered very recently from other people's posts on this forum. When you're thrusting (or masturbating), men tend to tighten Kegel muscles to help the thrusty feeling and enhance sensation. But this will make you reach the point of no-return quickly. The trick is to do the exact opposite and relax the Kegel muscles, especially as orgasm approaches. This needs conscious control and plenty of practice, so do the exercises. It can feel a little weird, almost like you're suppressing the ejaculation at orgasm time when it should be coming, but it really does work.

For more info, search a site like AskMen.com for Kegel:

http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=site%3Aaskmen.com+kegel

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One way to delay orgasm is to picture the valve gear on a Stanier Class 5 4-6-0 and try to work out where it should be for reverse.

Well it works for me.

D.

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I cant help but remember the scene in Dennis Potters "Singing Detective" where nurse Joanne Whalley is greasing the groin area of the psoriasis sufferer, Michael Gambon. He tries to think about "other things" to take his mind off what she is doing and amongst those things is "The Blue Peter dog", sometimes works too well in my experience, as I just cant help laughing at the memory!

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I cant help but remember the scene in Dennis Potters "Singing Detective" where nurse Joanne Whalley is greasing the groin area of the psoriasis sufferer, Michael Gambon.
Now you've gone and reminded me of Katie Holmes playing Joanne Whalley's part in the movie remake ... not a helpful image when trying not to cum!

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Thanks for all the replies. I'm going to start off with some longer sessions, and try to enjoy it. You've recommended going for a quality working girl. I'm atttracted to pretty, slim, toned girls.

Can you recommend anyone in London?

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Cumming in the first two or three minutes is well worth the money if it is a mind blowing earth shattering experience. Which is what we want int it?

Why not take a slow massage and other stuff for 55 minutes - get worked up - then the shag of your life in the last couple of minutes.

As for thinking of maggie thatcher etc to delay the climax - why hold back and spoil and perfectly good orgasm? It's like thinking of puke while you eat a cordon blue meal.

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You could try using a condom with a delay lube inside it, they are available, for the first time....

I tried this once. Unfortunately he came before the numbing lube could take effect. :confused::cool:

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Despite the nick of "pestboy" I'm well on the way towards being an old guy and I have the opposite problem. As Beautyseeker said in an earlier post sometimes older punters can have trouble cumming once within an hour, but this doesn't always have to be a totally frustrating experience. Sometimes I cum within an hour and other times I dont come at all but usually still leave having had a great time.

I think the more you worry about it the worse a problem can sometiomes get, but life doesn't always play out like a porn movie. If you have an experienced girl who understands what happens in the real world then life can be good even when the real world sometimes bites you. Relax, have a good time and enjoy what goes on :confused:

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Close your eyes and imagine that the woman you are in is in fact Anne Widdicombe - that should put anyone off their stroke!

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It will improve with age. When In was in my 20's, I could barely last two minutes before coming and leaving very unfulfilled. After about an hour I sometimes went again, but only lasted a little bit longer. Now I am more relaxed and can delay my orgasm. One technique that does help is to masturbate and stop when your orgasm is imminent and then repeat this as long as you can hold out or better still to not come.

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