Review of Charlotte Deering of Charlotte - My Secret Life, London

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Charlotte's flat in an anonymous block in Bayswater. There are some steps to get through the front door and then a lift is available to her floor. Her flat is exactly as others have described it and therefore I do not need to cover it again her.

Charlotte exactly matches her photographs and all aspects of her profile are accurate. Read the profile and that is whom you meet.

When you are told you have Prostate Cancer and that you have to have treatment, they also tell you that after treatment, achieving an erection without pharmaceutical help may be impossible; if you have to have your prostate removed you will have dry orgasms; anal sex may be difficult and a lot more. This was my position when I first met Charlotte and I am pleased to report that although sex certainly is different, with the right partner, it need not be any less enjoyable – indeed Charlotte has sweetly taught me a lot more than I ever knew before I first met her.

Because I had Prostate Cancer, the gland had been taken out together with most of the nerves that give an “arousal erection”. I had been prescribed Viagra and Penile Suppositories which I knew would give me an erection but my worry was “would the result be any use?”

Charlotte was not at all concerned when prior to our first meeting I explained what my problems might be and what I had to do before I could have penetrative sex. She suggested that I might want to bring a Cock Ring with me because it could help with stiffness. And to my great relief, protected sex is what we had together with a small dry orgasm for me.

Over the next few months, we experimented with OW, protected sex in numerous positions, sex whilst I was wearing a butt plug or a vibrating dildo, and also me on the receiving end of her large Strap-On which I found was absolutely brilliant provided she took it slowly with lots of lube.

Then I was told I had to have radiotherapy because the Prostate Cancer had not completely gone and that as a consequence, sex might become even more of a challenge after treatment.

However a change from Suppositories to Penile Injections overcame any of the side effects that radiotherapy caused and with Charlotte’s continuing guidance, full sex has become even more enjoyable. Giving yourself the injection really does not hurt at all and my erections are almost as hard as they in my youth and certainly last much longer. Our next goal is for me to be able to return the pleasure of Anal Sex, something we expect to happen quite soon.

So this meeting report is not the usual sort you might expect to read here. Its objective, apart from saying thank you to Charlotte, is to encourage anyone who finds themselves in my position not to give up hope, because with someone like Charlotte as your partner, sex just gets better and better. I can thoroughly recommend a visit to this lovely lady.

And finally fellow men, please get your PSA measured just in case you also are a member of the “1 in 8” club who has prostate cancer – visit www.prostatecanceruk.org to find out more.