Confronting Girlfriend that she's an escort

Hi All.
Need some advise here and what to do.
So i started dating a girl and it was perfect at first. Sex was amazing etc.
Recently i found she don't like kissing, does not give oral. Sex is rushed.
Now i got suspicious of this. I have seen an escort in the past so knew some signs to pick up on.
What did it for me is once lots of fake noises came, closed eyes whilst kissing. No DFK.

So i decided to search adult work and i found her profile. Found pics that match her body type, Face was partially visible etc.
Our sex life is crap now, i get this is bad for her mental health, but surely she should be fine with me. She will also only spend an hour in the bedroom. For some reason she treats me like a client too.

My Dilemma is how do i confront her. Shes the type of girl who would turn it around on me and argue why im looking at escort sites.
Should i just say it how it is, show her the profile or ditch her.

Has she got any reviews on UKP?

Sounds like you still get way more action from your girlfriend than I do from my wife so not all that bad.
In fairness what you are describing is how most relationships play out over time. Sex starts off great, do all kinds of kinky stuff together then after a while it just slows to a stop.
But if you are absolutely sure she is an escort, then what you do from here is completely up to you and is how you feel being in a relationship with someone who is potentially having selling sex to multiple guys? I’m guessing her escorting is only a part time thing and that she has a daytime job? I don’t imagine many working escort to have boyfriends so perhaps she is trying to get out of the business now she that she has met you. But like many addictions, not to sex but addicted to earning easy money. I suppose she could relapse every now and then.

If she is treating you as a client, perhaps the honeymoon period in your relationship is over. What do you want long term from her?

I see an escort who has a partner and do wonder what so of sex they have?

Some views on here already and that's good. Punternet most of the time is entertaining but I think its serious side is welcome too. For difficult issues it's as good a place as any to come in the hope that you might just get that missing link of decent advice. Unfortunately I have no bright ideas to add. In a relationship with an escort who's still working? That's just too complicated. We know there are guys in that situation who have spoken about it, guys who are partnered with or married to active porn stars too. I doubt if anyone not in that situation can know or say much of value about how they'd react. I can only suggest you track down online the views of others who are in the same position and try and relate to how they handle it. A very, very tricky one that, first of its kind I've seen on here. For what it's worth, which may be nothing at all, I'd hazard a guess that 90 per cent of men would be unable to live with a woman as a partner who was getting banged for money by other men. And if they tried it could screw up their minds and lead to mental problems which is the last burden anyone wants.

Living with an escort also opens the door to how SHE copes with it, never mind you. And fuck knows where that leads. It's normal for guys on here including me to see an escort. And then we leave and leave it behind. But what an escort chooses to do for money is so abnormal that the vast majority of women would find it beyond comprehension. How they deal with it I don't know. And I don't need to know. They choose how they want to make money. All I'd say if I thought about it was I'm very glad they're there.

Now I have formed a opinion, which I thought might happen. And it's pretty basic and straightforward, nothing new or original. Unless you have an incredibly rare temperament, the only way ahead is to get her agreement to stop. And you will provide. If she won't stop, or if you can't provide, and you still hang in there, at best it will be extremely difficult, and at worst you'll decline into a fucked up mental wreck.

Thanks all. No reviews for her on ukp
I was with her b4 she became a escort. I fell in love with her b4 escorting. She is struggling for money. But she had a full time job last year earning bout 1200. I used to pay her rent too.
So no idea lol

You fell in love with her, but did she fall in love with you?
If you have a problem with her escorting, bin her off.

Not really the same situation, but I once had a girlfriend who was an internationally popular stripper. It was a great ego-boost to walk her out of clubs here and abroad; being 6ft 2in but not muscular it was obvious that I was not a mere minder. But then the stripping failed and she went to work in a massage parlour. That did not bother me. The crunch came when AIDS appeared. One of her friends died suddenly and she would not tell me how. I said that I would use condoms from then on. She was upset by the distrust, said that I 'might just as well be a client' and things went downhill fast. I set her up as a beautician, and then never saw her again.

confronted her with my evidence. She got angry, turned it back on me saying why i am i searching those sorts of websites.
Denied it. Big Blowup happened.
What made me confront her is again sex was limited, one round, no licking allowed this time, i guess cause im able to taste her pussy has been used. Also i got a whiff from her pussy, Even offered her 5k to give it up and have a life with me.

The bit that confirmed it to me, is the profile is offline now lol.

Sounds like EAS is going on

Captaincaveman69 Wrote:
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> Sounds like EAS is going on


I was in love with her before i figured out she was an escort. she has become a escort recently or i found out recently.
If she was an escort when i met her, or i knew i would never have allowed myself to fall in love with her.

Jameskink1022 Wrote:
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> Captaincaveman69 Wrote:
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> > Sounds like EAS is going on
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> I was in love with her before i figured out she
> was an escort. she has become a escort recently or
> i found out recently.
> If she was an escort when i met her, or i knew i
> would never have allowed myself to fall in love
> with her.

This is a punting forum, not Dear Deidre

You say her pussy hasbeen used:

Smelling tasting of condom?

or is she BB clients?

Oundlegent Wrote:
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> You say her pussy hasbeen used:
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> Smelling tasting of condom?
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> or is she BB clients?

Tasting of condom. Sweaty fishy etc.
Not fresh. She doesnt get wet with me anymore. Also does fake noises to get turned on

As others have said, this is a punting forum not Dear Deidre. But at least your last comment gives us all a sense she is not one for us to try. Unless you would like one of us to give her a go so you can find out if she is putting more effort in on the job than she is at home?

Yeah, that's some weird girl behavior. I really don't know how to identify whether a girl is an escort or not. I mean, girls can be great actresses, right? I'd probably be okay with an escort. Not too long and not too serious, of course. Somehow, I think the sex should be more spicy then. I mean, escorts don't have a desire for every client. But for a guy she likes, the desire would probably be strong. I would like to find a girl on theluckydate who is 100 % liberated or is an escort.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 29/08/2023 17:17 by taradoridy.