Advice for new punter(s)

Hello there!

I was just looking around for some advice for a new punter. I don't mean choosing a lady - that's what reviews are for - and I don't mean in the bedroom - that's what's downstairs is for.

I mean, I want to see a working girl. Is it better to go to a independent first or a parlour? I'm leaning towards parlour for the guaranteed environment. But how does the place actually work? Walk in, everyone looks at me and i go ".....uuuummm"?

How does the conversation with the receptionist go? What if none of the girls I want to see are available? I don't wanna refuse someone and cause offense. Probably just me being sensitive.

Hoping to be signposted to a topic or guide that walks you from getting out of your car at the spot to getting to the bedroom, then from the bedroom back to your car. Procedures and etiquette.

Thanks

There is no substitute for experience tbh. There is all kinds of ‘punters’ out there and there all looking for different things, vanilla experiences, fetishes, doms, and surprisingly to me at the start a lot of bookings don’t even involve any sex at all.
That being said, I did read a couple of call girl autobiographies like ‘Hooked’ by Samantha X and Belle de jours autobiography and Book1 of Amanda brooks ‘The internet escort’s handbook’.

The only tip for a beginner if you are booking for an incall that is so worth stressing IMO, is to always take a shower at the start of your encounter - ALWAYS. It’s my number one etiquette to master as a user of escort services.
Second rule, probably make sure you know which services the escort is happy to deliver before money exchanges hands so no disappointed occurs for either party.
Third rule, don’t be pushy! If you are disappointed, just don’t repeat, you will get a lot of these on your first encounters. This is why you will probably repeat the ones you click with and make you satisfied.

Thanks for the reply @Linus

I intend to do all the above. I am a clean individual so would always shower anyway, escort or not. I'm not a "pushy" person, as you said, I'm very relaxed.

My main issue is worrying about what to say to the receptionist. Hello, I'm here to get my dick wet?

Haha

If you say that to an independent chances are you will get blocked!
The law is a bit tricky about selling sex from third party advertising’s hence the euphemism for ‘Escort’ services instead of prostitution services. Strictly speaking you are only paying for the company of women who happens to want to have sex with you as mutual expectation so you would just ask if ‘Julia’ is available for 7pm for example for 2 hours. Once confirmed you might want to confirm if she is happy to do particular services like kissing for example then you get a confirmation and you go meet your date. If you are here I would be surprised if you have never seen an escort before

Use a reputable Agency or Independent. Have a look at the many reviews here. If you are asking sensible questions then that is perfectly ok. Anyone genuine would understand and would be beginner friendly.

Chloe x

It's a reasonable question but IMHO there's very little advice worth reading or worth giving, and certainly no DIY handbook available to follow. This is a business where women are offering sex for money and that's fine with me but there's no denying it can be a mixed up world where you never know how things will turn out, ie whether the experience will be good, satisfactory or crap. You just have to take the plunge. Some if not many guys would like to indulge but are shit scared to go anywhere near it. The one thing I would say is the chance of you being mugged, threatened or any of the other stuff some people associate with it are 99.9 per cent close to zero. It doesn't happen. You might emerge thrilled by the experience or feeling like it was a complete waste of money. The latter is the worst you can expect, and I'm sure you can easily shrug that off. After a few visits, and don't give up after the first one, you'll know better how to handle things, and maybe also how to handle whoever you're going to see.

Thank you for the replies.

On Thursday I just went for it. Parked nearby, around a corner, walked into a parlour. Spoke to the receptionist. Didn't stay, because there was a 45 minute wait and I should have booked apparently. Oops.

She was very nice though. Seemed pretty straightforward. One hurdle done.

Next step is actually seeing someone

Well yes, you spoke to the receptionist before leaving, so I suppose that is indeed one hurdle crossed, though it's not exactly like getting over Beecher's Brook. Your efforts to penetrate an escort are developing into the most interesting post on Punternet at the moment. Would you be kind enough to provide an update when hurdle two is crossed, whatever form that may take. And of course, good luck.

Hanging around a parlor for 45 minutes is not a great way to pass time. When this has happened to me I have usually agreed a time to come back before going away for a coffee or something (never alcohol!). Lesson 1 - always leave extra time for your punts as delays can happen even if you book.

One one occasion I turned up for a booking but the receptionist had muddled things up as a punter, with the same name as me, had just started a 1-hour appointment. It was chucking it down with rain and I did not fancy trudging round to find a cafe. The receptionist was mid 40s and attractive so I asked if she would do the booking. I was half expecting to get chucked out for asking but she agreed as she had messed up. The result was one of the best punts I ever had. I asked about a future booking but she was quite clear that she was not a WG and she only did this on very rare occasions.

Christ this engrossing topic gets even better. So you actually managed to get the receptionist to do the business for you Dave451. Bravo I'd say to that! For what it's worth my first ever punt was in the red light district of Amsterdam when I was 16, but not in the usual girl in the window style. After roaming around the main scene as usual and not being bold enough to go in, I was hanging around about two in the morning for no particular reason in a dark and pretty empty street. A fat old woman, well she seemed old at the time, maybe in her 50s, came out the back of one of the red light parlours to dump some rubbish. She saw me there, beckoned me over, and before I knew it I was shagging her for 50 guilders in the room where they kept the mops and brushes. She was obviously the cleaning woman, but it was a helluva thrill for me. The moral of this tale, Rdumps, if there is one, is maybe to expect the unexpected. You can overdo the careful advance planning.

I'm asking not because I'm an over planner but because I suffer really badly with social anxiety, and I find if I know what questions etc I will be asked I'm not reduced to a stammering, nervous wreck

Firstly, it's okay to be nervous.

Every WG that you'll meet has stories about people being nervous, shy or indeed unable to perform. It's quite normal and they've seen it dozens of times before. You aren't the first and you won't be the last. Treat the encounter like it's a first date. Aim to make a good impression. I know this sounds silly but some independents might not want the pleasure of your company if you haven't showered for instance. The phrase, "At discretion" in a profile is there for a reason.

I've been punting on and off for around 15 years. My first outing was with a mature lady living in the York area. I chose her primarily because she actually showed her face in her profile picture. Be warned though, there are a LOT of fake profiles. You might think you're going to date a fit 20-something hottie, but end up meeting a woman in her 50s. Not that a mature lady is a bad thing, quite the opposite, but it can be disappointing when reality doesn't meet expectation.

Every WG you meet should have an outgoing personality. If they don't then they're in the wrong business. I certainly wouldn't revisit someone I didn't click with. So, when you do get to the bit where you're in a room with that "sure thing" then they should put you at ease. Simply tell them, "this is my first time and I'm nervous."

Communication is everything. Ask them about extras or things they will/won't do. This is mainly for girls working in a parlour as independents will have a list of likes and dislikes. You might want to pay extra for oral without a condom for instance.

I personally am respectful. Okay, you are paying for a service but that doesn't mean you have to treat the lady like she's an object. I always have the cash in an envelope for when I take care of the "paperwork." I then chat about what I like and we go from there.

If you've done your homework, ie checked out profiles or made a booking then things should be golden. Just don't leave the scene skipping, dancing and clicking your heels while singing about shagging prostitutes. That won't go down well.

Above all, have fun!

Practise makes perfect. Reflect on your encounters then decide what you'd like to do the next time you have the urge.

I hope this helps?

I feel for you as I still get nervous before I meet a girl, especially for the first time, but for me this passes quickly once I am alone in the room with her

Do srub up well before the meeting and wear some decent clothes. The girl will appreciate this, but perhaps more importantly. you will feel good about yourself.

Book a longer session, 1 or 2 hours, this will give you time to relax, get over your anxiety and enjoy the girl's company with out time pressure to get on with the action. Take the time to chat to her and pay her comlements - working girls like reassurance as well. I find a small gift helps to break the ice. Do not be tempted to drink alchohol to calm your nerves!

Could you provide an update on how things are going Rdumps. I'm interested in your progress. Having gone to a a parlour, spoken to a receptionist and left, thereby crossing hurdle one, as you put it, have you made any further advance. Have you moved on to hurdle two yet? Any further info would be much appreciated.

Nothing new to share, I've been travelling the last couple of weeks with a small group so haven't made any progress.

Sorry for the shitty update!

My first sex experience was with an escort! She was a bit rough with me although quite pretty as i made the mistake of using the term prostitute. Some of the girls are not really for beginners so it is best to make sure they are well reviewed before booking. I had the monkey off my back and throughout my twenties was able to have a relationship and get the odd “free” experience with non working girls. Personally I recommend it if you are in your twenties and still haven’t had sex as a man. Obviously i went to Brazil where hiring a working girl is socially considered a more natural thing to do than in the prudish U.K.

If your an incel ( as i was in my teens) or the wife doesn’t put out much but you don’t want to break up your marriage it can be a good alternative. Can be costly but not as costly as a bad relationship. If you can maintain self control and not become addicted to feeling like a Roman Emperor with the amount of choice out there and punt to frequently for your means. I’ve punted all over the world and have had a host of largely positive (Some earth shattering) but some quite negative experiences also.

My first, all carefully planned and we agreed to speak at 3pm, she never answered and texted the next day to apologise as she had a family emergency.

Went to my reserve list, the top few carefully planned chosen never answered, then I had a few phone numbers- success. She delayed the meet for ½ hour twice, then she was wearing jog pants rather than stocking and suspenders I had requested. Very little foreplay It was straight to the action, superb body but I wasn’t fully turned on when we started sex. Worried I wouldn’t cum I fucked her very hard to ensure I did, nice text the next day from her.

My tips:
1) be clean that's be well covered
2) if you have a good vibe pay sooner rather than later
3) if you have a bad vibe then walk away. I have done that many times if there's a Bait n Switch for example of there's another problem like I'm getting excessively nagged at. I don't care how far along the road I've come if its not right then cancel and leave immediately. I once made the mistake of going into a Soho bar where they extort you with the pretence of sexual services but I left once the penny dropped and they did try to stop me! Never go into these bars if they still exist?
4) be enthusiastic! I figure that servicing a punter who lays back and says get on with it and is an inert sack of spuds must be demoralising. I like to get into it (the whole point of course) give a running commentary, be complementary these girls know crazy horny guys so be a little crazy. You tell a girl how good she is at sucking dick and you'll get more great dick sucking for sure. Tell her you're going to fire your spunk into her and her heart will quicken and brace against you as you do it staring into her eyes :-)
5) give some wriggle room. I don't think its fair to fuck 10/10ths unless they are utter nymphomaniacs. Holding a little back seems polite
6) after you cum this is a danger point for SW. I'm sure there are punters who are then overcome with guilt, remorse, anger etc and turn nasty. If you're likely or anybody is to do this then stay the fuck away and grow a pair. I'm sure there is a touch of wariness here for SW especially if there are signs before hand. Be happy cheerful and grateful - that's it. I do remember a walk up once where my face did drop after I came and she very sweetly said 'its alright honey' which is one of my abiding memories. I think that had to do with 7
7) don't chase a punt too hard. If you're scratching around desperately chasing a punt it will be shit. Regroup fight another day.

To be perfectly honest. All girls are well used to this. You don't have to say much at all. Smile and try to relax. They know why you are there, and they have enough experience to take the lead. It really is just about getting yourself to their apartment, and that's it. Once that is done, the rest is anxiety free!

Lots of good advice already in this Thread, in addition my contribution is:-
1. Don't be afraid to walk if you are greeted by a sub-standard imposter. Many Punters are inexplicably very reluctant to simply turn around and walk out before any money changes hands. A case of their cock overriding their brain I suppose.
2. If you are going ahead with it, always handover the Fee as soon as you are inside the the door, it scores Brownie Points.
3. If you' like what you see and plan to return, don't try to take advantage by exceeding the length of time you have paid for.

My view is simple.

1. If it’s not the girl, walk, as there’s something wrong. You wouldn’t buy a different cat from the one advertised so don’t do it. Don’t be afraid to walk, rarely does anything happen if you do and I’ve walked at least a couple of dozen times over 15 years of punting.
2. Establish at the start of the punt what you want, it should take minutes to agree. Do your homework on reviews and forums but beware the fake reviews. They are easy to spot so be careful if you go ahead.
3. Accept if it’s a new girl or no reviews that you are taking a buyer beware stance so don’t be upset if it doesn’t meet expectations. They rarely don’t do don’t worry, just enjoy it.
4. Be respectful of her time and make sure the girl is respectful of your paid time. But don’t moan and bitch about things like shower time being included. It’s always included in the time so see it as an upside if you go over the time paid.
5. Chill the fuck out, your getting time with a girl, so enjoy it. Be happy, be polite, be respectful.
6. Clean clean clean, teeth, breath, cock, ass, deodorant. Shower shower shower. It’s not hard, I’ve attended parties where the guys smell like homeless people and then bitch why the girls don’t give them attention.
7. Pay up on time when asked. Establish what your paying for and pay. If you get extras great, if not don’t bitch about it.
8. Have fun, it’s a great time with a girl of your choice so enjoy it.

I give an example. If you went to Ego Massage, the rules are the rules. As these girls don’t work there anymore I will use them as no harm done. Rachael would stick to the rules, no kissing, no fingering but you could touch the pussy. Excellent massage and very good reachunders often a good tit wank to finish. Excellent service and what you pay for. But I saw reviews that complained they didn’t get extras !! Poppy very similar but after a few visits, kissing was allowed, the rest was as per the rules with a slight blurring when it came to blowing and kissing on my cock. Then Valentina, she did DFK tongues the lot, allowed fingering if gentle, would get on the table and allow licking of pussy and would kiss and lick and suck my cock a bit. But only after a good few visits. No FS, no proper BJs to CIM but very very close. And again people would complain if they didn’t get what others said in reviews. So be clear, build a relationship ship of sorts and chill out and enjoy it.