What to do if you develop feelings for an escort

So ive been seeing an escort a few times and ive started to develop feelings for her

Im assuming the best thing to do is just stop seeing her but wanted to know if anyone else has experienced this and if so what advice can you give ?

Thanks

That's an intriguing question and a very tricky one to answer Mavro. And in my case an answer is just options/speculation because it's never happened to me and I'm very glad it hasn't but I'll put in my tuppenceworth anyway.

Some guys might just say the obvious about infatuation, trickery, risk, best avoid, no more contact, losing the shirt off your back, nip it in the bud etc. And they may be right. But that could be easier said than done.

I've never heard or read of an escort giving up her work and forming a normal, satisfactory long term relationship with a client. Doesn't mean it hasn't happened. But I just reckon she might go for that only if you had loads of money and were able to offer her a lifestye way beyond the average punter can provide. But we've all read about very well off guys getting too closely involved and ending up spending/losing vast amounts, and it ending up in disaster for them, financially and otherwise.

The only also pretty obvious advice I can offer is to ask, and I suppose asking is the only way of finding out, if you could take her out for a drink or a meal with no escort fee involved. If she agreed, well who knows where that might lead, in a positive way. But if you got a flat refusal, that would put things more in perspective. And if you got a, "Are you fucking kidding me" response well that would reveal a side of her character that puts you off the whole idea and would probably cause you to stop seeing her anyway. And I'd say the flat refusal would be by far the most likely response.

I've been with many escorts for the past 40 years since I was a young guy who were very pleasant and in a few cases delightful but never once left without feeling/knowing I'd be forgotten once I was out the door. I don't agree with those who say they almost always have near contempt for their clients, I reckon they can grow to quite like regular clients. But I use the word "client" all the time because until you have ironclad proof to the contrary that's what you are. A client. No more and no less. And unfortunately it comes down to a stark question which has to be faced. This woman will be seeing lots of men. Why should she have developed any special feelings for you?

Hope this gives you a start in resolving your difficulty. Good luck.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/01/2022 05:05 by Nesslad.

My advice would be either enjoy it within boundaries, or stop seeing her.

Has this happened before?

They do remember their clients, at least the ones that left a lasting impression they want to remember. But I would lean more towards the "move past it" response. In my vast experience, they are not generally interested in a relationship with anyone, regardless of the financial incentives or otherwise. At least not until they have made the decision to leave the business.

Babylon Wrote:
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> They do remember their clients, at least the ones
> that left a lasting impression they want to
> remember. But I would lean more towards the "move
> past it" response. In my vast experience, they are
> not generally interested in a relationship with
> anyone, regardless of the financial incentives or
> otherwise. At least not until they have made the
> decision to leave the business.


I remember one appointment punters for a variety of unpredetermined reasons, could be a feature, something they say, something I like or something annoying. Could be something about that particular day.

Quite a few make contact 5-10 years later, different phone/email/AW/forum name account 'It's me I once saw you a few years ago, you know the guy who made you laugh' or 'I'm John with the nice smile, from such a town'.

Let me put my spin on this:

Firstly I personally think it would be strange if you did not have a level of affection for a woman you are repeatedly interacting with in the most intimate way that two human beings can.

That is fine. But it is highly unlikely to go any further.

So you can choose to continue to see a woman that you have a fantastic time with and have great affection for.

Or you can choose to let those feelings take control - which is never a good thing - in which case knowing that it cannot go anywhere you must extract yourself from the situation and not see her again.

Thank you for the wise words and help everyone it means a great deal

To put some context into the situation I can tell that she enjoys seeing me and its not an act she even left the flat with me once to walk to the shop and we had a nice chat and so on I know that dosent sound like much but no other escort has left with me before its all strictly professional.

Thats not to say I think shes into me but through our interactions I know she enjoys my company at least and I enjoy hers

But as most of you have said its very unlikely to go any further but theres no harm in asking to go out as friends no fee and see what response I get

I will let you know how it goes when I ask her im not sure when that will be got to wait for the right oppertunity I suppose but your help and advice is greatly appreciated

So how did you get on? The key point being, if she goes out without expecting you to pay then thats a good sign. If you still pay for sex, then its part of the process but of she's willing to spend time with you for no fee then thats a plus.

I developed feelings For Valentina at HoD and it was clear that sex would be paid for but we cold go out for a drink or meet with no charge. I wish I had put more effort into her and with more vigour at that time as it could have developed into something good. But it wasn't meant to be. Sex was outrageously good though but I did enjoy her company too and she enjoyed mine.

Suggestion- don't always see the same escort. Visit different ones.

It's natural I think after sex the cuddle is very intimate, I am sated she is probably relieved.

Lets face it most of us for feeling for ladies we have been to bed with, even ex wives after the trauma of divorce is over.

I can almost 100% guarantee that this will never work out the way you want it to.

I met a Hungarian escort once who married a Finnish punter and lived well in Helsinki but carried on escorting behind his back acouple of weeks here and there while supposedly shopping or modelling in London. No idea why she did it. Maybe just for thrills.

There is a difference between having affection for a escort to deep feelings, falling for her. If a punter starts falling all lovey dovey move on. In my experience these women that charge for it are actresses they will play guys, many are very good at it.. Crap you're their favourite guy . I heard many sob stories on punts short of cash, don't get many bookings, loads of bullshit porkies. The ones i've seen have expensive designer gear, at least 2 iphones. I met many lying escorts. Best to shag 'em out leave it at that. Looking at the comments on the Valentina thread she played those guys well. I bet that Brazilian never gives those guys a second thought she once shagged.

Think about all the other cocks she sucks during the day

Cape crusader Wrote:
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> Think about all the other cocks she sucks during
> the day

Exactly. I was on a forum 5 years ago it no longer exists one guy was obsessed with a pro at a brothel. It was all he was posting! We told him to watch punters shag her out on one of her daily shifts. It would sort him out. This don't sound great WGs tell punters what they want us to hear. I took 'em with a pinch of salt.

I know the traps all too well. They build you up and tell you shit you wanna hear, you fall for it as its all ego. Then you realise your just a pay packet, they say the same shit to everyone. I realised when Valentina once told me she had the same script for everyone and just altered it depending on if it was rugby football etc. Everyone wanted dates and freebies so they got told yeah, I would date you, even saw people in hotels and flats to make em feel speshwell. I realsied when she once said to me high gorgeous..the line she used with everyone. Lightbulb. Just a pro after the doh.Take what you’ve paid for and move on.