The urge has gone, killed off

I never thought I would lose the urge to visit escorts but I pretty much have now. Been doing it for 40 plus years in the UK and elsewhere and have no regrets about that. It added colour, excitement and thrills to life. But it's fading fast.

It's not an age thing, I still look at every passing attractive female. (Is that common or universal I wonder or do some guys just not notice). And sex thoughts are still right up there. And it's not a money thing. Rather annoyingly, the business is now more affordable for me than it's ever been.

But I've had about 15 visits in the past few months and they've nearly all been overpriced crap. I've said before that the escort scene quality here and I suspect many other places now has collapsed because of brexit and the virus so I'm repeating myself I know.

You just get fed up arranging another meeting, being met by some bird who looks nothing like her ad photo, being led into a dingy room and being expected to fork out 150 quid for an hour or less with someone who's not really interested in giving decent service. Each time it happens it just chips away at your enthusiasm until there's not much left. If there are no reputable agencies around you're relying on Viva Street and AW and they're now so bad that if you're relying on them you're fucked, or rather not fucked, as the case may be.

I don't find it any big problem. I just ask myself two or three times a week, are you interested in going to an escort today or tomorrow, and I just shrug and say, no, not really. As I say, I never thought that was liable to happen. But the way things are these days, it really is an urge killer, no doubt about it.

Is it partly an age thing? In my teens/20 I could fuck all night, then marriage and the honeymoon period, I didn’t see escorts then after the children I started again, at that stage a quickie was all I wanted (with condom) as was still having vanilla sex with the wife.

No I am in my 60 I still get the urge, I want quality and that includes BB, I have perhaps tried all the things on my bucket list and want a nice time so the ambience and quality of the accommodation matter, the thrill of a new partner is perhaps lost a bit as at one stage I was seeing escorts weekly and lots were for a first time.

Good points Oundle, yes I think you're right. There is an age element to it, though not in the way that is most widely assumed, not by you but by many people, that your sex drive falls away. For me it hasn't, not one bit (thinking of a previous. 'Will we ever calm down' post from another contributor I wish for me it bloody would!). But in your 60s I reckon it's just a fact of life that everything becomes that bit more of a hassle. Not just chasing escorts, but pretty much everything.

So the phone calls, the texts, the vague address, trying to find the right door in a big block of flats, it doesn't sound much but it's not the breeze it once was. That's all still quite exciting in a way, but then you see the woman you've expended a fair bit of mental energy on, she is a disappointment, and you do wonder, "was that really worth the hassle, never mind the money".

Like you, a pleasant time in a pleasant setting is all I'm looking for, nothing earth shattering. But that's hard to find and there's no doubt around here that in the past two years so many of the attractive independent young Eastern Europeans have gone home, and probably can't even get back into the UK again. Staff shortages in workplaces everywhere, escort shortages everywhere or nearly everywhere as well, it's just a fact of life. Compared with now, 2010 and onwards seem like the Golden Years.

Age is important. I find that my urge goes away, sometimes for a few weeks at a time, but it does come back. I have got fed up with watching porn and found it does not help much. However, I do enjoy reading erotic fiction (https://www.sexstories.com/) and this helps me get going after a 'quiet' patch.

I don't need to tell you that exercise, in moderation, a good diet, cutting down on the booze and quitting the fags will help. You could also get some 'blue pills' but suggest you see your GP to make aure there is no underlying cause. I did this and he gave me a very thorough checkup before signing the prescription.

I hope the urge returns soon.

No you misunderstood the post Dave, the sexual urge is still there, as potent as it's ever been. No need for blue pills, that's for sure. It's the dearth of decent escorts that's the problem. The urge to visit who's available, because of a succession of pretty dismal outings, has gone very limp indeed.

Try something else, I got to the same kind of thinking for a couple of years when I got into my 60's.
Still got all my bits working, all the urges etc.
Just like you say escorts etc. with no interest and not what they claim to be.
Anyway I went to an Indian guy for a massage. As far as I wa concerned it was going to be a straight forward massage. This was how it was for about 20 minutes, then he started paying a lot of attention to my backside and crack. Strangley it was quite pleasant so I let him get on with it.
Anyway he got me to turn over and I had an enormous hard on. He started to play with my balls and wank me off. Now I am really enjoying it. Then he gave me the best blow job I have ever had I shot loads into his mouth.
Afterwards I felt very odd and can't say I would want a guy every week but have had another 4 goes with other guys over the last couple of years if I get the urge.
I never thought I would have anything to do with men where any sexual contact would come in.

I punted over 30 years ago i just got bored and jaded with it. I do about 4 or 5 punts a year in Amsterdam old habits die hard! Nowadays i have more enjoyable interests and hobbies. Unless you live in a big city with plenty of choice punting is hopeless too many EE rip off merchants, deposit scroungers, old wrinkly SPs, fatties. In short loads of WGs that don't do anything for me half the time it's like trying to find a gem in a ton of horse shit! Very hard to find a fit as fuck young babe that ticks all the boxes. I did have 3 or 4 regular SPs they've all quit.

Yes, a good assessment. Outside the big cities, that pretty much sums it up these days. Prior to covid attractive Eastern Europeans spread out to smaller places across the country, including where I am. Looking back these were golden days. Then during covid most went home and because of Brexit couldn't get back in, or didn't want to. Three years ago there were up to 100 women advertising here, I saw plenty, and there were few fakes.

As of now, there are 20 to 30 max, prices have risen by 50 quid and ridiculously false fake pics are the norm. And things aren't getting any better. That's the new reality in my place. Not giving up, I'll make a foray to a city soon, the Edinburgh saunas are very much on my mind, I've been there before and back then they were good. Showers, bathrobes, tea, coffee, a soft drink, no rush, just sit around and see what's going on. A nice atmosphere.

That was about 10 years ago. There's been no need to go since women came here in large numbers. But that's over. So Edinburgh it is. Strangely, I can find no up to date online reports on any of them. I'll provide one. Phoned up a couple and got a pleasant reception. Very friendly. Say there's usually six or so girls on at any one time. Total cost including admission around £100. I hope for the best. But around here unless you're very lucky, as I've been maybe in 2 out of 12 or more visits, it's a waste of time.

Same here for me, been using services on and off for 20+ years although I must admit it's probably more of an age thing, the urge used to be weekly now it's months or even years! I used to get a massive thrill of trawling the local Freeads and arranging a meet, then my life changed and I gave up for a long time. Then the urge returned and I discovered AW, I was like a kid in a sweetshop but have never been able to replicate the same feeling and meets I had 'back in the day', as I said, it's probably more an age thing.
I used to like the older woman, a slim English milf was my type and I got the impression that a lot of the time they felt 'flattered?' that a decent enough looking younger guy was visiting them and the experiences really felt like we were both enjoying it. These days, I'm older than the 'older women' lol and am a slightly overweight middle aged bloke, the conversation doesn't seem to flow and the excitement just isn't the same. I rarely see anyone these days, my first one for over a year was a few weeks back. She was lovely to talk to but talked a bit to much if that makes sense, when we were getting down to it, she started talking about her wallpaper and that she was having her kitchen done, I'm like ffs you're supposed to be feeling horny (I didn't say it but thought it), it sort of killed it from then on and I went through the motions but by that point I realised it was another waste of time for me.
I used to enjoy long, maybe 2 hour, sessions (I'm not some stud but I like to relax, chat, flirt etc beforehand) but I think I'm starting to see the appeal in a quick 15 min slot these days next time an urge comes along...!

The end of last year i was struggling to shag out women for a few hours i could only manage a hour ( A couple of pops) i put it down to getting older then i found out i was diabetic a few changes had to be made now i am feeling a lot better, fitter and healthier. Back to normal. The punting urge has all but gone because the local escort scene is utter shite too many women that don't do a damn thing for me i would not pork 'em if they paid me. I am not bothering with those cheap mediocre EE SPs All the stuff about criminilising punters, WGs, advertising flatforms, nordic model whatever will not really do anything to me i've never known this hobby so dire, it's most likely ok in London and MK which is no good to me. Even the cheap gang party venues aint worth bothering with.

There are other options pick up loose crumpet (i am not past it just yet) i've had some luck you never know what falls into your lap and travel abroad most flights are only a couple of hours ( At this moment in time best to give it a miss till they sort the shortage of staff problems out).

Nesslad Wrote:
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> Yes, a good assessment. Outside the big cities,
> that pretty much sums it up these days. Prior to
> covid attractive Eastern Europeans spread out to
> smaller places across the country, including where
> I am. Looking back these were golden days. Then
> during covid most went home and because of Brexit
> couldn't get back in, or didn't want to. Three
> years ago there were up to 100 women advertising
> here, I saw plenty, and there were few fakes.
>
> As of now, there are 20 to 30 max, prices have
> risen by 50 quid and ridiculously false fake pics
> are the norm. And things aren't getting any
> better. That's the new reality in my place. Not
> giving up, I'll make a foray to a city soon, the
> Edinburgh saunas are very much on my mind, I've
> been there before and back then they were good.
> Showers, bathrobes, tea, coffee, a soft drink, no
> rush, just sit around and see what's going on. A
> nice atmosphere.
>
> That was about 10 years ago. There's been no need
> to go since women came here in large numbers. But
> that's over. So Edinburgh it is. Strangely, I can
> find no up to date online reports on any of them.
> I'll provide one. Phoned up a couple and got a
> pleasant reception. Very friendly. Say there's
> usually six or so girls on at any one time. Total
> cost including admission around £100. I hope for
> the best. But around here unless you're very
> lucky, as I've been maybe in 2 out of 12 or more
> visits, it's a waste of time.


Strange you should say this about Edinburgh a asshole told me it was great half the time shit came out his mouth. I did have a feeling Scotland was pretty much the same as many places a bit crap for punting. The profiles look shit on AW and the standard of hot women dropped off in many parlours. I never seen any decent size agencies in Scotland none by me either just 10 or 15 women on them if that, and rubbish. I am not spending premium rate in England if the market isn't there.

Taff Wrote:
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> The end of last year i was struggling to shag out
> women for a few hours i could only manage a hour (
> A couple of pops) i put it down to getting older
> then i found out i was diabetic a few changes had
> to be made now i am feeling a lot better, fitter
> and healthier. Back to normal. The punting urge
> has all but gone because the local escort scene is
> utter shite too many women that don't do a damn
> thing for me i would not pork 'em if they paid me.
> I am not bothering with those cheap mediocre EE
> SPs All the stuff about criminilising punters,
> WGs, advertising platforms, nordic model whatever
> will not really do anything to me i've never known
> this hobby so dire, it's most likely ok in London
> and MK which is no good to me. Even the cheap gang
> party venues aint worth bothering with.
>
> There are other options pick up loose crumpet (i
> am not past it just yet) i've had some luck you
> never know what falls into your lap and travel
> abroad most flights are only a couple of hours (
> At this moment in time best to give it a miss till
> they sort the shortage of staff problems out).